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HOW TO ANALYZE

PEOPLE
WAYS TO INSTANTLY READ ANYONE
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Introduction
Chapter 1: The First Impression
Chapter 2: The Eyes
Chapter 3: What You Hear
Chapter 4: The Body Language
Chapter 5: The Outward Appearance
Conclusion
INTRODUCTION
It’s in the natural order of things to “size
up” a person within the first few seconds
of the first meeting between two people.
We all do it subconsciously and despite
our best efforts to reserve judgment until
we have all the facts, we cannot fight the
urge to create a profile and then wait or
try to prove or disprove the facts that we
put in that profile after those first few
seconds. It would be useless to try and
deny that we do it. In fact there are some
people that take pride in doing it and
then gossip about their observations
without real evidence to back up their
claims.
Some people have a natural charisma to
read someone right from the start and be
right about it. Some others fall into the
mistake of creating a profile and then
refuse to change it when the facts
contradict the initial judgment. Most of
us can adapt to the facts about a person’s
personality that result after the
observation of that person’s actions and
behavioral patterns.

The whole idea behind the contents of


this book is to incorporate some
knowledge and some proven facts in this
process that can help us make this initial
judgment and sizing up as solid as
possible. The natural process is based
solely on instinct and experience. If a
few rules can be added to broaden the
spectrum of the initial analysis then in
most likelihood we will be able to
analyze a person right from the start and
mostly be correct about it.

They way someone talks, the way the


phrases are articulated, the vocabulary
used, the way he or she is dressed, the
total sum of the way a person is “set up”,
even the way they walk, are indications
of who they are. All the above belong to
concepts like “verbal”, “paraverbal”
and “non-verbal” communication (what
we used to know as body language) that
will be explored in this book.
There is no use in trying to deny that all
the above are facts and that the advice
that is always given to people not to
judge anyone after just a few seconds is
not adhered to in 99,99% of the cases.
Which makes it necessary to make this
process as knowledgeable and as
thorough as possible by learning what to
look for and how to interpret the signals
we receive. Actually this last part is
most important.

These signals are always sent and it


takes years of training to masque them.
Trying to cover them, either for
professional or for personal reasons, is
a sign that we either have something to
hide or that we are dishonest to begin
with. For a seasoned observer the
covering process is always obvious as it
leaves a feeling of improvisation. It also
leaves distinct marks that there has been
training involved. We will also be
discussing a few ways that this kind of
covering can be detected and how it is
possible to cut through the deception and
see what lies behind.

The bottom line of the exercise is to


acquire the ability to make the initial
analysis as precise and as correct as
possible to avoid making mistakes in the
process of a relationship with a person.
The term is not used to describe a
personal relationship. It is used to
describe any sort of interaction between
two people. From a simple acquaintance
to a complex professional cooperation.

Being wrong in an acquaintance may not


be anything more than an annoyance. A
complex relationship on the other hand
may include the possibility of losing a
lot more than just money. According to
the psychologists a great number of
suicides could have been prevented if
the people could have been shown the
way to correctly assess what they were
getting themselves into.
This is how important learning to
correctly size up a person can be. It is
not a professional way and it is not
infallible. But it will save people a lot
of hardship if they can know about a few
things in advance and protect themselves
accordingly.
CHAPTER 1: THE FIRST
IMPRESSION
How many of us have exclaimed “What
a (insert your own characterization
here)!” after having seen a person for the
first time? How many have turned away
from a person poorly dressed, dirty and
with a long beard? How many have
grimaced in disgust at the sight of a
person (especially women) that presents
themselves with what we consider as a
poor taste in style? And how many have
just turned away from any kind of
relationship with such persons? Has any
of you ever wondered that you may have
been wrong in these assumptions?
If anyone would take a first glance at a
person looking like Einstein without the
proper context in his or her analysis,
would simply turn away based on all the
above. The photos of Einstein’s long
hair and poor sense of style for the era
are world famous. Yet, we are talking
about one of the greatest minds that ever
walked on the surface of this planet!

First impressions do count for a lot. In


most cases the first impression will
formulate the entire behavioral pattern
towards the specific person. While the
instinct and experience are important
factors in the first impression analysis,
without a few insights on how to
properly interpret what you see and the
signals you receive, such analysis is
statistically only 50% accurate and
representative of the truth.

We used the example of Einstein to


display one side of the equation. There
is also another side. It is almost a
certainty that a person in a well-tailored
suite, clean, cleanly shaven and with a
well-tented appearance will attract a
favorable behavioral pattern. Yet, it is
also a statistical fact that the worst
crimes have been perpetrated by well-
dressed, well-mannered and well-
articulated persons. Persons that have
painstakingly saw to it that absolutely no
warning signals were sent before they
completed their criminal activity.

It is very unusual, not to mention


impossible, to be scammed by a badly
dressed person. You may wrongly feel
pity and help one, but they very rarely
will cheat you out of everything you
have. On the other hand, a well-dressed
and well-versed investment analyst can
leave you completely penniless and at
the mercy of welfare and handouts.
Especially if they used their power of
persuasion to make you sign a power of
attorney in their favor.
Many people wonder how it is possible
to distinguish the true character traits of
a person they see for the first time.
Especially when they have taken the time
to train themselves in the art of
deception. This is what this book is for.
There are many ways to determine these
traits and be right about it. There are
also ways to cut through the deception
and see what really lies underneath.

In the following chapters we will be


talking about the eyes, the body language
and the other signals that are emitted by
all of us at all times. No matter how
well trained a person is, some of these
signals cannot be masqued. And for
those that are masqued it is just a matter
of identifying the error. Because there
will always be an error. It doesn’t have
to be an error in the setup. It may just be
that the feeling radiating from the person
is one of a makeshift behavioral pattern.

This kind of assessment would be


especially beneficial in the case of
politicians. In fact their behavioral
patterns have frequently been explored
in the science of micro-expression
analysis. Since the general public does
not have access to this kind of
technology it would be very useful to
learn a few techniques to identify the
trues from the lies that politicians
always serve. This way we could
reasonably vote for the best of them.

Such analysis is also very useful in


situations where we are about to enter
into a business relationship. Business
relationships are about money and profit.
And they are ruthless so there is very
little room for mistakes in the initial
impression analysis. Such mistakes will
cost a lot of money, even lead us out of
the business altogether.

It would be useless to go into details on


how the first impression and the
infatuation that results can lead us to
huge mistakes in personal relationships.
Just imagine how many marriages and
how many friendships would have taken
a different turn if the people involved
were able to correctly judge who they
were dealing with. And since it is
usually these relationships that usually
draw out the worst parts of our
characters when they go south, think of
how many of them would not have
resulted in killings, beatings, abuses and
suicides.

Under this perspective, it is actually an


imperative to learn how to properly size
up a person. While a society without
feelings may not be the ideal one, a
society that can limit the reactions to
these feelings to just fights, bad words
and crimes of indiscretion is infinitely
better than a society full of guns, ammo
and dead bodies.

It all starts with the eyes. Very little of a


person’s character can be covered if
there is proper interpretation of the
messages and signals the eyes send. And
this is the subject of the next chapter.
CHAPTER 2: THE EYES
We all know that the eyes are the mirror
of the soul. They reflect the feelings of
the moment, the thoughts behind the
words and the clarity or blackness of the
inner makings of a person. The eyes tell
the truth about the visionary, the idealist
and the artist. They also give away the
dishonest, the cheater and the one that
promises to bash your head open having
the stone already inside their pocket.

The story the eyes tell begins with the


eye color. People with eyes darkly
colored tend to be more dominant in any
sort of relationship, have more powerful
personalities, tend to be better at sports
and are generally considered as most
trustworthy. On the other hand people
with lighter colored eyes can handle
more pain, are sort of bitchy and are
considered as sexier.

People with brown eyes are considered


as more responsible, friendlier, mostly
serious but at the same time as people
that can live a little, have some fun and
be practical. Blue eyes are a completely
different story. They can be the most
sincere in a gathering, with a bright and
happy nature, they are highly intellectual
but they can also be as cold and
heartless as a stone.
Green eyes are considered as
mysterious. People with green eyes can
be unpredictable, they love freedom and
independence and they are considered as
performing better under pressure. They
project a great amount of sex appeal and,
as this is a predominant influence, they
can easily be underestimated as far as
the rest of their qualities and character
traits are concerned. Consequently they
can be considered as untrustworthy.
However this is a deduction that will
come after an unfortunate fact.

The color is only the first step and you


should not base your analysis on that
alone. Too many people wear contact
lenses that change their eye color. If your
own eyesight is strong enough to detect
the lenses you can proceed to the next
step with full awareness, otherwise you
should do so by keeping such a concept
in your mind.

A definite indication of lying is a


response that it accompanied by darting
or shifting of the eyes. Those are also
indications of thinking about alternative
answers to a question. Alternatives that
can have the least damaging
consequences but that will also not be
true. The same deduction is most usually
the case when the direction of the stare
is downwards. This usually indicates
guilt or shame about a response that the
person giving it knows that it is a lie.

Of even more significance is a stare that


is directed upwards and to the left. This
indicates that the person is making up the
response. Many people misunderstand
the stare as an attempt to remember a
visual experience. This is the case when
the direction of the stare is directed only
to the left and not upwards. Similarly a
stare directed to the right, is an attempt
to remember an auditory experience. A
stare right and upwards indicate a
dishonest reconstruction of events.
An unfocused stare directed upwards,
forwards or downwards indicates that
the person accompanies and supports
their words with images in their minds.
Similarly if the direction of the
unfocused stare is in the direction of the
ears, it means that the person is
supporting their speech with sounds. A
person sticking their stare downwards
supports what they say with feelings.
The difference pertaining to the sincerity
of what is said is the unfocused stare
with eyes that remain open while the
gaze is intense.

The greatest misunderstandings occur


with persons that look directly in the
eyes. This is not a sign of sincerity as
most people believe. It actually means
insecurity as the person gazing at you
this way does so because they want to
gauge your reactions and adopt their
behavior accordingly. Direct eye stare
also means that the person is very
submissive.

A person actively seeking persistent


direct eye contact is also a person trying
to gain dominance and intimidate the
other side of the conversation and win
an argument. This kind of behavior
indicates a person that wants to make the
others feel that they are superior and that
they can do what they want with them. It
puts people on the defensive and some
of them may react exactly as required.
Submit to the will of the person in active
pursuit of persistent eye contact.
However, some may not react this way
and the outcome may be rather
unfortunate.

Here comes the first exception to this


rule. Under no circumstances is anyone
to seek active direct eye contact with a
person coming from Japan. It is
considered disrespectful and a cause for
discourse.

In the ways that separate the truth from


deception as far as the eyes are
concerned, is the ability to monitor the
pupils. People have no control over their
pupils. When they are dilated it means
that they are interested either in a person
or for the topic of the conversation.
Dilated pupils also mean sincerity
especially in emotional outbreaks.

Contracted pupils on the other hand


indicate dishonesty and a lack of interest
either in the person at the other side of
the conversation or in the general
proceedings of the moment. Make sure
that when you make the observation you
account for the presence or not of bright
light. Regardless of the emotion, bright
lights always contract the pupils.
All the above are results of studies
conducted specifically for the purpose of
analyzing a person. As aforementioned
they are not infallible. They can be
correct for the vast majority of the cases
in question but not all of them. Plus there
are some more issues to address when it
comes to the signals sent by the eyes.

The most important issue to consider is


the possibility of an eye condition of the
person in question. People suffering
from a number of medical conditions
will avoid eye contact because their
eyes cannot handle it. Consequently they
can get misunderstood and misanalysed.
A similar situation occurs to people
suffering from sensitivity to light.

Other issues will come up from cultural


and racial imperatives. This is actually
an issue that pertains to all kinds of
analysis for a person. People with
different cultural backgrounds judge a
person differently and act differently.
This is why to the analysis of the eyes,
additional observations are required.
Let’s begin with the discussion about
what you hear in the next chapter.
CHAPTER 3: WHAT YOU
HEAR
While the observation of the eyes does
not require any special technique other
than the presence of mind, to analyze a
person based on their speech and
articulation patterns does require a small
trick. You need to keep the topic of the
conversation within or around a subject
that is of common interest. This will
allow the person you need to observe to
speak more, elaborate more and loosen
up more. All you need to do is sit back
and listen. Carefully.

The presence of mind is still required


because sometimes you need to read
between the lines and make assumptions
based on the context. Not everyone is
able to articulate their thoughts and their
meanings in a way that every listener can
understand. And not everyone can have
the communication skills to articulate
what they say properly.

The level of education is clearly


displayed by a well-spoken person. As
is the level of knowledge about the topic
of the conversation. The more one
knows about a subject, the less they talk.
And when they talk what they say is
short, to the point and leaving no margin
for errors or misunderstandings.
Sometimes these people are annoyed if
they are asked to elaborate more, or
explain their terms as they expect you to
know what they are talking about in
advance.

However, the true personality is not


revealed in a high level conversation. It
is revealed in small talk. High level
conversations very rarely allow for
humor or for innuendo and evasion.
Small talk is what allows for the display
of the humorous side of a person as well
as their response readiness and their
wits.

Surprisingly the higher the level of


education is the less these people are
inclined to engage in small talk. They
find the concept annoying and disruptive
of their train of thought. It is a very
frequent phenomenon that they may
engage in a conversation as long as it
pertains to a topic that holds their
interest. As soon as it drifts to small
talk, they withdraw from the
conversation and remain silent until
another topic arises that is also of
interest.

People of a lower level of education


show fear in engaging to a conversation
even if it is just small talk. They are
afraid that their shortcoming will
become obvious and they do not engage
unless addressed to directly. And then
they respond with very short sentences
that very often contain the meaning “I
have no idea what you are talking
about.” Especially if a person involved
in the conversation is one that commands
their respect.

All of the above are also indicative of


the aggressiveness of a person’s
character. An aggressive character will
participate in any level of conversation
without caring if they are characterized
as ignorant and annoying. Aggressive
characters do not care about knowledge.
They care about making their presence
known and they are looking to assert
their dominance especially when a
conversation involves more than one
person. They do so by diverting the
topics to subjects they know about or by
verbally abusing people, or by
chastising the participants on their
choice of topic by indicating that “it is
not the place or the time to discuss such
things.”

However, those are not the only ones


who may engage in any level of
conversation. People that want to learn
also do so but through a totally different
approach. They ask questions. Carefully
phrased questions that intend to invoke
answers that will satisfy their ignorance.
They are easily recognized by the others,
but they are also respected as they have
the awareness to know that their level of
knowledge is low and they want to
enhance it, contrary to the aggressive
characters who are more or less
despised of.

No matter what the level of conversation


is there are two definite ways to identify
a deception attempt. First of all the
voice of the speaker changes. The pitch
and the intonation become distinctly
different than usual and the rhythm of the
speech slows down. However, since
these are also indications that there may
be a perfectly plausible response to the
situation that is not readily available, the
second part is the crucial one in
identifying the lie.

It is actually a very delicate point and it


requires close attention. The process
begins with an attempt to repeat a
question or a statement. The delicate
point is the tone of the voice and the
choice of words.

A positive or almost angry “what’s that


supposed to mean?” or “come again?” or
“excuse me?” or “run that by me again?”
indicates that there may have been a
misunderstanding of the original
statement and a clarification is required
before a response. They also indicate
that the original statement or question
may have offended the person under
observation and it is their way of giving
a chance to revise the offensive part
before they respond appropriately.

On the other hand if the tone becomes


doubtful and hesitant and the words used
amount to “could you please say that
again” it is a definite signal that “I heard
you the first time and I am trying to buy
time to find a response that will bring
out the least of any negative
consequences.” This response will be
evasive, diverting, even a direct lie. In
any case it will not be a straight forward
and true one.

The eyes and the speech are half the


equation needed in the correct initial
analysis of a person. Both are mostly
true but they are also not infallible. This
is why even more steps are required.
Let’s move on to step number three
which is the total body language. If one
has mastered the art of concealing the
first two steps it is difficult to conceal
this one too.
CHAPTER 4: THE BODY
LANGUAGE
A few years back people did not even
take notice on what someone’s body was
saying. Politicians are those that made it
necessary to start thinking about the body
language and the irrevocable indications
of their lying. As the research went
deeper and deeper into this subject the
body language changed name. It is now
called “non-verbal communication”. The
numbers are staggering.

Only 7% of what we communicate to


another person comes from speech. 38%
comes from what is called paraverbal
communication and has to do with the
inflection and the volume of the voice
and 55% comes from the facial
expressions, the posture, the attitude and
the gestures we make.

As the researchers put it, paraverbal and


non-verbal communication does not lie.
They are supported by the limbic brain
instead of the neocortex and the body
knows what the truth is. So it expresses
it regardless of what we do or think as if
it has no other option. However, it is
important to place every situation in its
proper context otherwise the analysis
will be completely off.
For example, if in a normal conversation
there is a declaration that “I will say this
only once” it is usually followed by a
lie. But, if we are talking about a parent
talking to their child or an officer talking
to a subordinate it means that what
follows is a statement that MUST be
followed (an order in the case of the
military) or there will be consequences.

If an answer to the question is yes and


the person raises their shoulders, their
response is that they do not know.
Similarly if a person moves the head to
one side and then the other, their answer
is NO. However, teachers may go
through the same gestures, only in
pretense that they do not know the
answer, in order to force their students
to come up with the correct answer.

An analysis of a person through body


language without the proper context and
without knowledge of details such as
medical conditions, autism, Asperger’s
syndrome and nervous ticks will actually
end up being completely wrong and the
conclusions derived will be inaccurate.

There are 4 categories of body language


that should be considered:

A) Facial Expressions
Facial expressions are the easier to
analyze as it is easier to observe when
you talk to someone. Mostly they are
observed to indicate lies and
dishonesty. For example:

a) A smile that extends only to the


corner of the mouth is fake. A true
smile creates wrinkles at the corner
of the eyes.
b) A truth that has been told creates
a symmetry in the facial expression.
A lie on the other hand creates an
asymmetry.
c) Watching over glasses is just a
gesture of convenience. It does not
mean criticism or spying.
d) Any intense state involves
wetting of the eyes, a moisty nose
and swallowing of saliva. Any of the
three missing means that the emotion
is not true but simulated.

B) Hands to head
Every gesture of one or both hands to
the head has a significance. This is
one of the things that people who train
themselves to deception take
exceptional care for. If you see a
person that makes absolutely no
gesture with the hands against the
head, it means that they have been
intensely trained to do so. Let’s
discuss why:
a) Covering of the mouth
If a person covers their mouth while
speaking they are speaking lies. If
they do that when the other person is
speaking then they are skeptical to
what they listen to, to say the least. In
some interpretations this gesture
means that the listener does not
believe a word said. Covering of the
mouth when no one is speaking
accompanied with an “hmmm…” and
uncovering it before any sentence is
articulated means that there was
considerable thinking before a
response.
In this case what matters is the
context. It would be natural to fully
consider a response to a technical or
scientific question, or in general a
question that would require careful
deliberation before answering. In
any other case it means that the
response way not be complete,
sincere and to the point.

b) Placing glasses or a pen in the


mouth, if it is not a nervous tick,
means uncertainty.

c) A hand stretching of the earlobe


or a finger inside the collar indicates
uncertainty about what is being said
and that something is held back in the
conversation. A lie of omission is
still a lie.

d) Rubbing of the chin or a thumb


under the cheek indicate that the
listener completely disagrees with
what is being said.

e) An ear pushed forward means


“stop talking. I’m not listening
anymore and I have something to
say.”

f) Hand to the forehead


This one is really tough if there is no
knowledge about an incident that
may have preceded the conversation.
In general it means shame,
embarrassment and an attempt to
hide. However, if there has been a
previous situation were a serious
problem has been divulged, it means
that the person is not paying attention
to the conversation, has the problem
in their minds and is trying to find a
solution to it.

What makes the difference is the


positioning of the elbow. If it is
placed inside the body it denotes its
general meaning. If it is positioned
outside it is an indication of a
problem.
C) Hands to body
Some of the gestures that the hands
make against the body can be trained.
In fact in some situations there is
intense training involved and not for
the purpose of deception.

a) Hands behind the back


Accompanied by the chest leaning
forward and the chin being up
indicate authority. They also indicate
courage. All officers are trained to
assume this posture in front of their
men to inspire confidence in their
ability to lead and submission to
their orders.
This is true as long as one hand is
holding the other by the wrist. If the
hands are held in the forearms it
actually indicates insecurity, fear and
mistrust.

b) Hands in front held by the


forearms
In general this has the same meaning
as the arms in the back held in the
same way. However, they may also
indicate anger especially if
accompanied by a leaning of the
upper part of the body backwards
and tilting of the head to a side. A
very slight difference to observe is
that in the second case, only the
dominant hand is holding the other by
the forearm. The weak hand is
clinched in a fist and is hidden
underneath the forearm of the
dominant hand.

c) Handshakes
Asymmetrical handshakes indicate
approachability and friendliness.
Slow handshakes indicate safety,
security and patience. The also
indicate people that know that they
have something important to say and
all the time in the world at their
disposal to say it.
d) Folded hands are the worst kind
of message. The message received is
blocked, the person talking is a
complete stranger, everything is a
matter of skepticism and not to be
taken at face value, there is a lot of
negativity and the person always
assumes a defensive position not
open to any suggestions unless there
is ample and undeniable proof
attached. Even so it may take a
second opinion to loosen up and
abandon the defensive position.

e) Thumbs inside the pockets with


the rest of the hand outside, or
thumbs outside the pockets with the
rest of the hand inside, indicate
strength, domination and sexual
aggressiveness.

f) Attempts to clean nonexistent


lint from clothing indicate that the
person disapproves of what is being
said but is unable to come up with
convincing contradictive arguments.

g) Playing with non-cylindrical


objects indicates awkwardness.
Playing with cylindrical objects,
especially for the ladies, indicates
courtship.

D) Position of the feet


This is usually a part that behavioral
training may forget. Yet, the position
of the feet in a conversation can be
very important.

a) The usual positioning of the legs


one above the other indicates that the
person that stands in the direction
pointed by the knee that is on top is
of more interest. Behavioral training
on this takes extra special care in the
top knee pointing nowhere.

b) Talking to a person with the legs


pointed in a different direction is a
strong indicator that the conversation
is to end so that you can move to the
direction your legs are pointing.

c) If the legs and the hands are


crossed in a sitting position it means
that the person is withdrawn from the
conversation. The same kind of
crossing in a standing position means
that the people discussing are
unknown to each other.

d) Supporting the body on one leg


and having the other one pointed to
the direction of an individual means
that you consider this individual to
be the most important part of the
conversation.
It is obvious that the body language has
too many aspects to observe and it may
take some time and effort from the
observer’s part to practice observing all
of them so that a safe conclusion can be
derived. However, there is one more
point to be discussed that has to do with
the correct initial analysis of a person.
The point of the outward appearance
which is discussed in the next chapter.
CHAPTER 5: THE OUTWARD
APPEARANCE
This is the part that has been the point of
debate for thousands of years. The point
that many wise people in the past have
tried to persuade us that it is wrong to
judge someone just by the way they look.
A certain story of a person called Jean
Valjean comes to mind… Too many
people have been abused in the past just
because they looked like criminals. Too
many people have been executed or left
to rot in a dungeon for the same reason.

It definitely is a mistake to base an


analysis solely on what you see the first
time you meet someone. If you meet them
at all and not turn away to leave
immediately. There have been many
documented cases of such reactions even
nowadays when supposedly people are
more educated and should know better
than to react this way. However, it is
another irrefutable fact that pacifists may
not even want to talk to a person that
belongs to a police or military
organization, Christians may turn away
and leave at the site of a Muslim and
Caucasians may forbid the participation
to a conversation of an African without
even waiting to meet the person in
question who may have something to
contribute.
Yet, it remains an undeniable fact that the
very first impression and the very first
conclusion is immediately drawn upon
the first glance. Even before any proper
introductions. It is in the natural order of
things and it is useless to deny it. The
only thing that can be said on the subject
is to at least have the courtesy to extend
to this person the benefit of the doubt.

The most usual mistake made is by men


judging the first glimpse they get of a
woman. Women have the habit of paying
very close attention to their appearance
when they go out to meet people or even
go to work. A sexy appearance always
induces sexual comments and
conclusions that do not go any deeper.
Yet, it is a very frequent phenomenon
that it will not be long before men
discover that the certain lady is not at all
what they expected to say the least.

Similarly a fat lady or a woman that has


not paid attention to her appearance may
not even attract a second glance from
men. Not to mention what happens if
they try to join a conversation where
they are simply ignored unless they are
called to join by a common friend.

If all the above were to be avoided and


more careful observations made, it
would be possible to learn a lot more
about a person’s character. For example
someone (man or woman) that is first
seen wearing gym clothes but not
carrying a gym bag is a strong indication
that they have a car nearby. By
extension, carrying a gym bag and
wearing dirty running shoes, means that
they have just finished running in a
muddy terrain and they are on their way
home.

Big sized men with long beards always


insight feelings of fear and put the others
on the defensive no matter what they
wear. However, a closer look may
indicate that the beard is well tended
and the clothes are clean and ironed and
therefore the person has someone taking
care of him and is sociable. On the other
hand untended beards, wrinkled clothing
and old shoes indicate that this person is
living alone and may have reduced
social skills.

Better assumptions on a personality can


be derived from the way they walk. A
person that walks with wide steps is a
person full of confidence on their own
abilities. It is also a courageous person
that has no problem to lead. A person
that walks heavily does not mean that
they are fat. It means that they are very
persistent and probably stubborn to the
point of inflexibility. Someone that
walks slowly and by dragging the feet
has no energy and is probably on the
verge of depression.

Cat walking is a show off. Unless


someone has been specifically trained to
do so after years of martial arts. The
same stands true for those who walk as
if they were models participating in a
fashion show. In any case any person
walking fast without a specific reason
that indicates they are in a hurry, is a
person that is in a good mood.
Especially if the head looks high at the
same time. Similarly a person walking
slowly (without dragging the feet) and
with the head looking down to the
ground is in a very bad mood and
probably in a lot of personal or
professional trouble. Especially if they
keep the hands in their pockets and
accompany their walking by talking to
themselves.

Very few other than the aforementioned


conclusions can really be derived out of
the outward appearance. It’s not only
that in most cases there is no knowledge
of where a person has been and what
they were doing before we had the first
glance of him. It is also a matter of
cultural imperatives and differences.
Some appearances that may look strange
to Americans may be absolutely normal
for people from Europe. Arabs have
completely different sets of criteria than
Asians.

Outward appearance is the wrong way


to derive final conclusions. Not without
at least allowing for the person to be
introduced and exchange a decent
discussion. A lot more will be derived
from the posture, the body language, the
eyes and the voice than the clothes worn
or the condition of general cleanliness. It
is natural to analyze a person at first
sight. It is natural to derive conclusions
at first sight. But most of the times those
are the wrong conclusions. You need to
combine the total set of observations
before finalizing the analysis. At that
point the observations filtered through
the knowledge, instinct and experience
will draw the right conclusion.
CONCLUSION
We see a person for the first time.
Immediately an opinion is formed. It
doesn’t matter if it is positive or
negative. Every interaction with this
person after that will be based on this
initial opinion which may very well be
wrong. It is this first opinion that has
resulted in countless crimes in the past.
Unjustifiable crimes that drew out the
need to form ways to analyze people that
are correct and based on scientific
findings.

At first people begun analyzing the eyes.


The notion that they are the mirrors of
the soul and that not many things can be
hidden led to a few ways to observe
how the eyes behave and incorporate the
results of the observation to the initial
opinion. However, dishonesty and the
need to cheat for profit led to ways that
people overcame these ways. Not to
mention that not everyone was offered
access to the knowledge of how to
properly read eyes.

The next step was to introduce the


analysis of the verbal communication
skills. How well the sentences are
articulated, the tone of the voice, the
pitch, the intonation and what to observe
to spot the lies. For most people the
research behind this sort of analysis still
remained undisclosed and they relied
heavily on their instinct and experience
into sorting out the truth. Which became
even more useful when it was
discovered that people trained
themselves to get over this analysis and
still be able to cheat.

Finally it was made clear that more than


half of the messages that were emitted by
a person during a conversation where
coming from his body. Initially it was
described as body language and then it
was dubbed as “non-verbal
communication”. Gradually all this
knowledge is coming out in the open so
that more and more people can derive
the correct conclusions and distinguish
the truth from any attempts for cheating.

All the above been said there is an


element that must always be kept in mind
when it is time to draw our final
conclusions. The context of the entire
process. The benefit of the doubt must be
extended even after all the observations
have been gathered and interpreted. It is
not always known if there are
extenuating circumstances behind this
first meeting that can skew the results or
if there any other aspects that should be
taken into account like medical
conditions and disorders.
This context must also be extended to
people from different cultures and
different religious and ideological
backgrounds. It is in our nature to form
the first opinion. It is also in our nature
to base everything on this first opinion.
Knowledge and observation will modify
this first opinion. Until all of the
circumstances are fully known we must
always keep in mind that they are mostly
correct. Not infallible.
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