Discourse markers (so, right, okay)

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Discourse markers are words or phrases like anyway, right, okay, as I say, to begin with. We use
them to connect, organise and manage what we say or write or to express attitude:
[friends are talking]
A:
So, I’ve decided I’m going to go to the bank and ask for a car loan.
B:
That sounds like a good idea.
C:
Well, you need a car.
B:
Right.
A:
Anyway, I was wondering if either of you would teach me how to drive.
The discourse markers in this extract have a number of uses:so marks the beginning of a new
part of the conversation.
well marks a change in the focus (from getting a car loan to needing a car).
right marks a response (B is agreeing with C).
anyway marks a shift in topic (from buying a new car to having driving lessons).
We use different discourse markers in speaking and writing. In speaking, the following discourse
markers are very common:

anyway like right you know

fine now so I mean

good oh well as I say

 great okay mind you for a start

In writing, the following discourse markers are common:

firstly in addition moreover on the other hand

secondly in conclusion on the one hand to begin with

thirdly in sum

Discourse markers do not always have meanings that you will find in your dictionary. However,
they do have certain functions, and some discourse markers, such as well, can have a number of
functions.
See also:
• Actual and actually
• Like
• Look
• Mind
• Okay, OK
• Well

Discourse markers that organise what we say

Some discourse markers are used to start and to end conversations. Some are used to start new
topics or to change topics.

Starting a conversation or talk

A:
Right, let’s get started. We need to get the suitcases into the car.
B:
Okay. I’ll do that. Katie, will you help me?
[at the start of a radio interview]
 Now, we have with us in the studio today someone you will all know from television. John Rice,
welcome to the show.
See also:
• Okay, OK

Ending a conversation
[A mother (A) and daughter (B) on the telephone]
A:
So we’ll see you Sunday, Liz.
B:
Right, okay Mum.
A:
Okay, see you then, love.
B:
Bye, Mum. Thanks for calling.
A:
Bye, Liz.
[At the end of a meeting]
A:
Anyway, is that it? Has anyone got any questions?
B:
No. I think we’re done.
A:
Right, fine, thanks everyone for coming. We’ll circulate the documents tomorrow and make some
follow-up calls about the project.
See also:
• So
• Okay, OK

Changing or managing a topic

A:
We went to town to buy wallpaper to match the carpet.
B:
Did you try Keanes? They have a sale.
A:
We looked there, but Jim said he thought it was too expensive and he didn’t like any of their
designs.
B:
What does he like?
A:
He likes geometric shapes. He hates flowers. Anyway, we eventually found some that we both
liked and when we went to pay for it, we realised that neither of us had brought any money.
(Anyway marks a return to the main topic of buying wallpaper.)

Ordering what we say

We also use discourse markers to order or sequence what we say. Some of the common words
and phrases which we use for this are:

and in general second to sum up

and then in the end *secondly what’s more

first (of all) last of all so well

*firstly next lastly a…b

for a start on top of that third(ly)

firstly and secondly are more formal than first and second.
A:
I think Sheila might be having some financial problems at the moment.
B:
 I don’t think so, Caroline. For a start, she has all the money that her aunt gave her. What’s
more, she has a good job and she seems to have a good lifestyle.
Firstly, we are going to look at how to write an essay. Secondly we are going to look at what
makes a good essay and what makes a bad one. Lastly, we’re going to do some writing activities.
We can use the letters of the alphabet (a, b and c), to list reasons or arguments for something:
There are two reasons why I think it’s a bad idea, a because it’ll cost too much money,
and b because it’ll take such a long time.
See also:
• Numbers: first, second, third

Discourse markers that monitor what we say

As we talk, we monitor (or listen to) what we are saying and how our listener is responding to
what they hear. We often rephrase or change what we say depending on how our listener is
responding. We use words and phrases such as well, I mean, in other words, the thing is, you
know, you know what I mean, you see, what I mean is.

Saying something in another way

Sometimes, as we talk, we add phrases to show our listener that we are going to rephrase, repeat
or change what we are saying. These discourse markers help to make what we say clearer for the
listener:
I just had to leave early. What I mean is I hated the show. It just wasn’t funny.
You exercise regularly, you have a good diet and you don’t have too much stress. In other
words, I think you have nothing to worry about. Your health seems very good.
I think I’ve found a house I’d like to buy. Well it’s an apartment actually. It’s ideal for me.
See also:
• Actual and actually
• I mean
• Well

Shared knowledge
When we talk, we think about how much knowledge we share with our listener. We often mark
what we think is old, shared or expected knowledge with you know and we mark new knowledge
that we see as not shared with the listener with phrases like see, you see, the thing is:
 You know, hiring a car was a great idea. (The speaker and the listener know about hiring the
car.)
A:
Why don’t you come and stay with me when you’re in Lisbon?
B:
It’d be difficult. I have to be back in Dublin by Friday. You see, my sister is getting married on
Saturday so I won’t have time to visit. (B assumes that A doesn’t know about her sister’s
wedding. This is new information)
See also:
• See
• You know
• You see

Discourse markers as responses

As we listen to someone speaking, we usually show our response to what we hear either by
gesture (head nod) or by a short response (Mm, yeah, really, that’s a shame). This shows that we
are listening to and interested in what is being said. We call these short responses ‘response
tokens’.
Common response tokens include:

absolutely fine okay wow

(all) right good quite (more formal) yeah

certainly great really yes

definitely I see sure

exactly no wonderful

that’s great/interesting/amazing/awful, etc.

 We use response tokens for a number of functions:

To show interest and to show that we want the speaker to continue

A:
So he opened the door.
B:
Yeah.
A:
And he went in very quietly without waking her.
B:
Right.
A:
He opened her bag and…

To show surprise

A:
We’ve decided to go to Africa for a month next year.
B:
Oh really!

To show sympathy

A:
He can’t play soccer for at least six months. He’s broken his leg.
B:
That’s terrible.
See also:
• Adverbs as discourse markers (anyway, finally)
• Of course

Discourse markers showing attitude

 Some expressions are used to mark attitude or point of view in speaking or writing.
Common expressions of attitude are:

actually frankly I think (I’m) sorry

admittedly hopefully literally surprisingly

amazingly honestly naturally thankfully

basically ideally no doubt to be honest

certainly if you ask me obviously to tell you the truth

clearly I’m afraid of course understandably

confidentially I must admit predictably undoubtedly

definitely I must say really unfortunately

essentially in fact sadly

fortunately indeed seriously

If you ask me, Neil is making a big mistake leaving his job to go travelling with his friends.
We will obviously have to pay for the damage done to the window.
The whole problem has been caused, I think, by having too many cars on the road at busy times.
Sadly, Hilda has decided not to come with us.
See also:
• Actual and actually
• Think
 Discourse markers: sounding less direct
We are careful when we speak not to sound too direct or forceful. We use words and phrases
such as like, maybe, sort of to soften what we say (hedges).
We often use these words and expressions as hedges:

apparently kind of perhaps roughly

arguably like presumably sort of/ kind of*

I think maybe probably surely

just

* sort of is more common in British English; kind of is more common in American English.
Can I just ask you a question?
We can probably add some more water to the sauce.
Is this perhaps one of your first times driving a car?
Compare

There’s a new restaurant in town. We The statement is hedged or softened so as

should probably try it next weekend. not to sound too strong or forceful.

There’s a new restaurant in town. We should The statement is not hedged and it sounds
try it next weekend. more direct and forceful.

See also:
• Hedges (just)
• Think
• Like
• Mind
• Well
 Discourse markers: um and erm
We can use um to introduce a new topic carefully:
Um, could I ask you a personal question?
Um, there’s something else we need to talk about.
We can use erm when we pause before saying something, especially when we are not sure about
what to say:
He’s… erm he’s not very pleased with your work, I’m afraid.
Her last book was called… erm what was it? I can’t remember the name.

Discourse markers: interjections (Oh! Gosh!)

An interjection is a single-word exclamation such as hooray, oops, ouch which shows a positive
or negative emotional response:
A:
The meeting’s been cancelled.
B:
Yippee!
A:
I’ve just dropped the box of eggs.
B:
Oh no!
A:
I don’t think this dessert looks very fresh.
B:
Yuck!
See also:
• Interjections (ouch, hooray)
• Oh