Common Causes and Reasons For Divorce
Common Causes and Reasons For Divorce
Common Causes and Reasons For Divorce
The Romans had an interesting view towards marriage – ‘matrimonia debent esse libera’ or
‘marriages ought to be free’. This meant that either spouse could opt out of the marriage if things
weren’t working out for them. Centuries later, Victorian England had a vastly different view.
People got married and stayed together for better or for worse. Society frowned on divorce and
divorced people were likely to find themselves social pariahs.
In the present century, both these views prevail. It depends on which part of the planet you live
in and in what kind of culture. Divorce rates are higher in European or American countries,
where individual freedom is given higher stress, than in, say, Asian or African ones, where
familial and social opinions cause higher stress. With globalization, of course, the ‘backward’
countries are catching up. Women, especially, with access to higher education and higher
salaries, are less willing to put up with traditional roles and expectations. Social and cultural
moralists are having a field day, predicting, like always, dire consequences for the ‘social fabric’.
In my personal opinion, the social fabric can go stitch itself. No, divorce isn’t joy-inducing, but
then neither is a corrosive marriage. In such a case, splitting up is preferable to staying together
‘for the children’ or to keep up social appearances. Anyway, it all really depends upon the kind
of relationship you have. Some relationships are worth working on, some aren’t.
There are many different and complex causes and reasons for divorce, each of them specific to
that particular couple’s marital relationship, their individual experiences and personal problems.
None of them may seem ‘common’ to the people going through a divorce, of course, but many of
the reasons recur enough to warrant the term.
By Sonal Panse
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/common-causes-and-reasons-for-divorce.html