Experiences, Perceptions, and Discrimination Among Bisexuals
Experiences, Perceptions, and Discrimination Among Bisexuals
Experiences, Perceptions, and Discrimination Among Bisexuals
ABSTRACT
This study explored the experiences of bisexuals regarding their lives as a bisexual, the concept
of their gender identity on how they see themselves, and discrimination experiences.
Qualitative design was used. Using purposive sampling, ten participants (five male bisexuals
and five female bisexuals) were interviewed using a self-made questionnaire. Experiences were
thematically analyzed and divided into two groups which are the positive side that refers to the
acceptance from their family and friends and the negative side which is the judgments towards
them. These experiences urged them to cope up easily, become open-minded, and understanding
of the judgments from our society. Despite of being different from others in terms of gender,
relationship, characteristics, and such, they still feel normal and act normal similar to the
straight people. For the discrimination experiences, half of the respondents said that they
received insults from their friends and were not accepted because of the belief of their family.
Respondents’ insights imply that these experiences did not make them weak, nor of getting
stressed, instead, they took it as a challenge to be a better person with a positive outlook.
Keywords: Bisexuals, Experiences, Perceptions, Discrimination, Acceptance, Family,
Friends
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heterosexually oriented aspects of self into a cohesive sexual orientation, which can then be
experienced as a congruent, affirmative aspect of one's self-concept.
The main purpose of this study is to explore the experiences, perceptions and
discrimination of the respondents. To attain the said main purpose of this research, the study
would like to answer the following questions (1) what are the experiences of the respondents in
terms of: a.) Coming out, b.) Judgment from their family or friends, c.) Feelings regarding with
sexual preference (2) what is their perception about oneself? and (3) what are their
discrimination experiences?
Bisexuals
Franke & Leary (2004) focused on the individual's self-acceptance of bisexual’s sexual
orientation, in openness than the degree to which they accepted their own sexuality. Previous
research has indicated that social support and social networks are a major factor in determining
whether or not a bisexual individual has accepted their identity. Moreover, according to (Bronn,
2004) bisexual self-identity and behavior images reflect change and variation within the bisexual
orientation. Other research has indicated bisexuals are in a constant state of confusion concerning
their identity. In addition, the way in which bisexual individuals manage and deal with the
stigma they receive from the greater outside community and society as a whole is explored
(Knous, 2006). Coming out is marked as one of the crucial steps in developing a healthy sexual
identity. In these discourses, coming out is positioned as `good' as it enables the healthy
development of sexual identity, while non-disclosure is positioned as `bad’ (Mclean, 2007).
Study about cultural attitudes to bisexuality that have made an impact on their identity
development; self-reliance, openness and enrichment were enhanced for these bisexuals
conducted by (Bradford, 2008). Bisexuals have experiences that make them unique as a group.
Thus, it would seem reasonable to have a model of identity development for this group (Brown,
2008). A study was made about Bisexual women who were perceived less different by
heterosexual women from themselves than to their lesbian friends. Thus, comparison with
lesbian-heterosexual friendships gave them understanding how bisexual friendship is unique
(Galupo, Sailer, & John, 2008). Research by (Stotzer, 2009) has focused on the development of
positive attitudes toward the LGB community amongst heterosexuals despite evidence
demonstrating increasing levels of acceptance for sexual orientation minorities results showed
experiences of empathy based on an LGB peer’s struggles and successes, or resistance to hatred
expressed by those with negative attitudes. Lastly, Bisexuals who were less open with their
sexual orientation experienced less minority stress; bisexuals who were more open with their
sexual orientation experienced more conflict that led to stress (Robin, Valerian, Debra, Suzanna,
& James, 2009).
Family
The role of family acceptance as a protective factor for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and
transgender (LGBT) adolescents and young adults has not been established. Findings suggests
that family acceptance predicts greater self-esteem, social support, and general health status; it
also protects against depression, substance abuse, and suicidal ideation and behaviors (Ryan,
2010). A study about the main effect of family support/acceptance of gay identity is related to
the process of disclosure, and that both general family support and family acceptance of same-
gender orientation play a significant role in the psychological adjustment of gay men (Elizur &
Ziv, 2004). The same social psychological variables appear to underlie both males’ and females’
attitudes toward both gay men and lesbians: religiosity, adherence to traditional ideologies of
family and gender, perception of friends’ agreement with one's own attitudes, and past
interactions with lesbians and gay men (Herek, 2011). A study were made about conservatives
were defending heterosexual “family values” and attacking homosexuals as the major threat to
traditional family values; most often reduced to the issue of defending or attacking the
“normality” of homosexuals, and failed to address the diversity of sexual and gender minorities,
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their specific human rights, and their need of protection as vulnerable and discriminated
minorities (Pikić, Aleksandra, Jugović and Bokan, 2006).
Discrimination
Discrimination and victimization standpoints among LGBT pride was approximately
reported almost 60% of the respondents experienced insults or threats. (Jimena, 2010).
Moreover, men reported experiencing anti-gay verbal harassment and discrimination in the
previous 6 months Findings suggest that absent policies preventing anti-gay mistreatment,
empowerment and community-building programs are needed for young gay/bisexual men to both
create safe social settings and help them cope with the psychological effects of these events
(Huebner, 2004). Although the pervasiveness of heterosexism in the lives of gay and bisexual
youth is well established, little is known about the strategies these youth use to cope with stigma
and discrimination based on their sexual minority status. The narratives from the current study
suggest that the emotion regulation paradigm is well suited to understanding the functions of
strategies for coping with heterosexism and similar types of stigma (Mcdavitt, 2008). A study of
(Willoughby, Doty, & Malik, 2010) was about the victimization and family rejection of sexual
orientation that are said to be the two salient stressors facing gay, lesbian, and bisexual (GLB)
young people.
Synthesis
Previous research relating to the experiences of bisexuals stated that Bisexuals have
experiences that make them unique as a group (Brown, 2008). Moreover, according to Mclean
(2007) coming out is positioned good as it enables the healthy development of sexuality. Other
research includes the impact of the attitudes of their family or friends regarding with their self-
acceptance. An author suggests that some of the discriminations experienced by LGBT people
were insults or threats (Jimena, 2010). These kind of situations experienced by LGBT people led
for having a poor mental health compared to the heterosexual individuals. On a positive side,
studies suggest that stronger self-esteem is predicted by having greater sense of social support
and less internal conflict over one’s sexual orientation (Ryan, 2010). Family support plays a
significant role of an LGBT individual for concerning equality and acceptance (Elizur & Ziv,
2004).
The purpose of this study is to determine the experiences of bisexuals regarding their
sexuality, perception about oneself and their experiences in discrimination. Moreover, this study
aims to know the standing of the bisexuals in our community today and their perception of their
situation being associated with the third sex. Also, all the studies that was made focused on a
group, this time the researcher will only be focusing on individuals, which is on the bisexuals
itself.
Furthermore, the research explores these following questions; (1) what are their
experiences being a bisexual? (2) how do bisexual people perceive their situation regarding with
their sexuality and how are they dealing with it? (3) does bisexuals today ever experience
discrimination? And if so, what kind of discrimination and how does it affect them?
Method
Research Design
Qualitative research design was used; a systematic subjective approach used to describe
life experiences and give them meaning; for the researcher to be able to gain insights, explore the
depth and richness for the given topic (Burns & Grove, 2003). It is useful for obtaining insight
into situations and problems concerning which one may have knowledge. This method is
commonly used for providing beliefs and knowledge related to sexuality, or for exploring the
opinions of respondents about particular issues.
Participants and Sampling
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A total of ten college students, 5 females and 5 males from different universities, 18-22
years old, and have experienced relationship on both sex are qualified as bisexuals. The self-
identified bisexuals are selected by purposive sampling in which decisions concerning the
individuals to be included in the sample are taken by the researcher, based upon a variety of
criteria which may include knowledge of the research issue, or capacity and willingness to
participate in the research.
Instruments
The instrument used in this study was a semi-structured interview that consists of 10
items with the opportunity for the researcher to explore particular themes or responses further.
The interview allows the researcher to identify potential source information in a manner that
will bring out relevant information from its respondent. In addition to that, the researcher
prepared a self-made questionnaire and follow-up questions that may be brought up during the
interview where the participants are free to answer any response. The researcher used a recorder
for the gathering of data.
Procedure
The researcher started the interview on the second week of June 2015. The researcher
contacted and met each of the participants for the interview. The researcher established first its
legitimacy by showing some identification, moreover, the researcher gained the participant’s
cooperation and then proceeded to the importance of the research. The interview consisted of a
self-made questionnaire, having questions formulated based on the objectives of this research.
The interview had gathered data about their experiences as a bisexual, perception about their
sexuality and discrimination experiences. The researcher then used recorder for the gathering of
information. The researcher interviewed the participants individually and thank them afterwards.
The gathered data were kept confidential and organized.
Data Analysis
Thematic analysis was used, as a means to gain insight and knowledge from the gathered
data (Howitt & Cramer, 2007), after all the data was gathered the researchers grouped the results
as a theme. A theme captures something important about the data in relation to the research
question and represents some level of patterned response or meaning within the data set (Braun
& Clarke, 2006).
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gwapo ka ikakahiya ka.” Participant 4 said that he must limit his actions because not everyone is
gonna accept him. “You can’t tell the world about you parang ganun and sometimes yun nga
nadi-discriminate ka you feel different and parang may limit ka lagi sa galaw mo hindi parang
required pero kasi alam mo sa sarili mo na not everyone are gonna accept you.” Participant 7
mentioned that society won’t fully understand their situation. “The bad side of it is, society will
not fully understand what you're going through. That what you are right now is not your
choice.” Lastly Participant 8 said that it is also cannot be avoided to be judge by her choice of
who she wanted to be. “Sa bad naman ano parang nag iba yung tingin sakin ng mga friends ko
hindi naman sa di nila ko accepted pero feeling ko lang nagiba ganon and sa society syempre di
maiwasang ijudge ka, pero all in all masaya naman ako for what I chose to be.” A study suggest
that the emotion regulation paradigm is well suited to understanding the functions of strategies
for coping with heterosexism and similar types of stigma, these youth use strategies to cope with
stigma and discrimination based on their sexual minority status (Mcdavitt, 2008).
Family’s reaction
Family consists of people who accepts and support your decisions no matter what, but
sometimes they cannot be avoided to be hindrance of your some decisions like Participant 2 said
that at first her family thought that they didn’t raised their child right because of her choice, but
eventually they accept her because that’s what she really wanted to be, “Nung unang nalaman
nila parang hindi ano marami pa sila nasasabi sakin na masama na yung pagpapalaki daw ba
nila nagkamali daw ba sila sa pag papaalala sakin tas daw bakit daw ako parang naging
abnormal ganon ganon pero nung pagdating din naman nung mas tumatagal wala na rin
sakanila ayun lang yung ano nun yung minsang iniyak ko non nung una talaga.” While for
Participant 6, “My family is against my relationship with a girl.” Related to the research made by
Ryan, C. (2010) that family acceptance has truly not yet been established among LGBT
community that could be their great protector against depression and such impacts of
discrimination. And a study made about conservatives were defending heterosexual “family
values” and attacking homosexuals as the major threat to traditional family values; most often
reduced to the issue of defending or attacking the “normality” of homosexuals, and failed to
address the diversity of sexual and gender minorities, their specific human rights, and their need
of protection as vulnerable and discriminated minorities (Pikić, Aleksandra, Jugović and Bokan,
2006).
Feeling Different
Having a unique identity could be one of the reasons why some people feel isolated into a
group or society just like some of the participants. They shared that they feel different because of
knowing that they have their own world. They believe that they cannot fit into our society for
being a Bisexual. Participant 3 said, “Feeling ko iba ako dun when dealing with some straight
guys kasi di ko minsan malabas kung ano talaga ko kung ano yung dapat kong ikilos, igalaw
para sakanila feeling ko minsan di ako belong sakanila kasi may mga topic sila na parang
masyado ng parang di na ko maka-relate sa pinag uusapan nila minsan ganon.” In relation to
the study of Brown (2008), bisexuals have experiences that make them unique as a group. Thus,
it would seem reasonable to have a model of identity development for this group.
Self-Acceptance
Acceptance is one of the key for being true to yourself and to others such as Participant 7
who said that he just accepted who he is and that we just have to deal with each other. “I just
accepted the fact na ganito na ako. It's not a crime tho. Just coexist with each other.” (Franke &
Leary, 2004) focused on the individual's self-acceptance of bisexual’s sexual orientation, in
openness than the degree to which they accepted their own sexuality.
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Rejection
Rejection is one of the worst feeling you might experience in your life especially when it
comes to the choices you have chosen of who you want to be. Like Participant 4 said that
sometimes he feel that his family won’t accept him because of their bad perceptions towards
Bisexuals that made feel rejected and insulted. “...kunyari may mga napapanood na mga BI
related shows or ganyan ano parang minsan feel ko di nila ko tanggap kasi yung mga comments
na naririnig ko from them na though hindi naman para sakin para dun sa ibang BI yun na
parang feeling ko ano hindi nila tanggap parang ang sama ng image pag ganun ka for them
kaya parang minsan naiinsulto ko.” According to Willoughby, Doty, & Malik (2010),
victimization and family rejection of sexual orientation are two salient stressors facing gay,
lesbian, and bisexual (GLB) young people.
Feeling Indifferent
Some of the participants did not feel different at all because of their friends who also
happen to be specified as third sex and act along as well as socialize in a normal way. Participant
4 shared, “Normal lang normal na kung pano ko makisama sa BI ganun din ako makisama sa
straight people.” and Participant 9, “Ganun pa din naman. Kung pano ako nung straight ako,
ganun padin ako ngayon. No, I don’t feel different at all. I feel normal lang just like before.” In
the perspective of Bradford (2008) cultural attitudes toward bisexuality affects their sexual
identity development; also, their openness affects their self-concept in forming and maintaining
their bisexual identity.
Discreet
Participant 3 & 10 mentioned that they see themselves as discreet and acts in a straight
way to other people. They are not likely to act or show themselves towards other people the way
they wanted to. Participant 3 said, “Kapag kasama ko mga closest friends ko dun lumalabas ako
yung the real me pero pag sa iba I act ng straight the way na lalaki ganon kung alam kong dun
sila makaka-relate ng pagkilos ko pag galaw ko.” and for Participant 10, “discreet and formal
one.” In relation to the study about bisexuals who were less open with their sexual orientation
experienced less minority stress; bisexuals who were more open with their sexual orientation
experienced more conflict that led to stress (Robin, Valerian, Debra, Suzanna, & James, 2009).
What is their perception about oneself?
Perceptions Of Bisexual
Participants had the same sexual preference but have different perceptions in being a
bisexual. Participant 1 answered that in his deepest darkest side he asked God on why he got to
be like that but eventually he accepted himself and had no regrets and by just being happy with
it, “...Minsan I tell God why me bakit ako pa sa dinami namang pwedeng maging bisexual bakit
ako why I’m one of them pero it’s okay wala naman ako I have no regrets with that and I’m
happy with it.” Most of the participants see themselves as a normal person and it’s only the way
they are attracted to male and female that has changed. Participant 2 shared, “Feeling ko naman
walang pinagkaiba sakin nung hindi pa ko BI sa nung BI ako eh normal pa rin lahat sa lahat
pati pananamit siguro dun lang sa na-feel ko nung meron akong nakilala ganun lang,”
Participant 3 answered that being flexible helps him to easily communicate and socialize to both
sex., “Bilang isang bisexual nakaka-adapt ako sa society being flexible the way na makikipag-
communicate ako sa girls, sa mga straight guys pakikipag socialize sakanila.” Participant 5 was
way more comfortable around girls, “When I started realizing that I like girls and I'm comfier
around girls,” while Participant 7 said he sees himself as normal given that he’s not showy,
“Paminta overload (jokes) Basta normal, hindi naman ako showy.” In relevance of the study
made by Galupo, Sailer, & John (2008) states the understanding of how bisexual friendship is
unique and were perceived by heterosexual friends less different from other sexes.
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