Quiz Yourself - Do You Lead With Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence
Quiz Yourself: Do You Lead

Emotional Intelligence? with
by Annie McKee
June 05, 2015
Here’s how you scored yourself on ve important EI

competencies.
EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESS: YOU SCORED 10 OUT OF 25
OPPORTUNITY FOR
DEVELOPMENT
HOW YOU SCORED HBR.ORG AVERAGE

POSITIVE OUTLOOK: YOU SCORED 13 OUT OF 25
OPPORTUNITY FOR
DEVELOPMENT
EMOTIONAL SELF-CONTROL: YOU SCORED 8 OUT OF 25
OPPORTUNITY FOR
DEVELOPMENT
ADAPTABILITY: YOU SCORED 8 OUT OF 25
OPPORTUNITY FOR
DEVELOPMENT
EMPATHY: YOU SCORED 23 OUT OF 25
OPPORTUNITY FOR
DEVELOPMENT
Of course, everyone has both strengths and areas to improve

when it comes to emotional intelligence. If you’re like most
high achievers, right now you’re zeroing in on the areas where
you scored lowest. But concentrating on our shortcomings can
be exhausting and depressing, so we often give up on
changing ourselves before we even start.
Instead, focus rst on your strengths. Doing so will generate
positive emotions, such as hope and a sense of self-worth,
which give you the strength to deal with problem areas.
Choose one or two competencies that seem well developed
(look at your highest scores) and think about how you can
exercise them even more fully. You can sharpen your skills by
reading the suggested articles and books from HBR’s archive
(see the list at the end of this report).
Now that you’ve reected on your emotional intelligence, it’s
time to check your self-perception against someone else’s
perspective.
Here’s how this exercise works:
. Pick a friend or colleague with whom you can have an
honest and caring conversation about your EI. Choose
someone who is “safe” and has your best interests in mind
—someone who would not use this exercise against you or
otherwise do you harm.
. Explain that you are working on your EI skills and you
would value her opinion and help in checking your
assumptions. Send her this PDF (it’s the same quiz you
took, reframed so that others can score you). Oer to
reciprocate—your colleague can take this quiz and you can
score her.
. Set up a time to discuss her responses and how they align
—or don’t—with yours. It’s important to do this in person,
over the phone, or by video—not by e-mail. There’s too
much room for misunderstanding if your friend simply
sends you scores and writes a few comments.
In the conversation, listen deeply. Remember that candid
feedback is a gift—something to be grateful for. Gratitude, like
other positive emotions, helps you stay centered and open to
new information. Make an eort to see things from your
friend’s perspective. Ask what you can do to leverage your EI
skills. Remember, the focus for improvement should be on
your strengths, not your deciencies. Resist the urge to focus
on your problem areas. That will help you keep defensiveness
at bay. If you have also scored your friend, you might consider
having a joint conversation about EI.
An important note: If you are coaching one another, each of
you should have a turn to share and a turn to listen. Although
you want to be warm and encouraging, this is not the time for
cheerleading or for giving unwanted advice.
By exchanging perceptions like this, both of you can learn to
read how others are responding to you. The more you build
that awareness, the more eective you’ll be in your daily work
and life.
To improve your emotional self-awareness:

Reect on the impact your “emotional style” has on others.
Appreciate the importance of self-awareness as a
foundational component of emotional intelligence.
Meditate and write down your key plans and priorities.
Take a few psychometric tests.
To work on having a more positive outlook:

Train your brain to be positive by developing new habits.
Make an eort to have positive conversations.
Believe you will succeed (but don’t assume the road will be
easy).
To exercise greater emotional self-control:

Take care of your mind and body to increase your capacity for
self-control.
Learn to resist the immediate gratication of technology and
other interruptions.
Invest in your capacity to focus.
Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings, not trapped in them.
Perform better under stress by talking to yourself in the third
person.
To improve your adaptability:

Understand why change is hard—for you and for others.
Get out of your comfort zone.
Strengthen your resilience.
To become more empathic:

Improve your ability to listen—start by making it a priority.
Slow down, take the time to hear and learn from others, and
ask brilliant questions.
Put yourself in your colleagues’ shoes.
Further Reading:
HBR’s 10 Must Reads on Emotional Intelligence (2015)
“Can You Really Improve Your Emotional Intelligence?” (2013)
Primal Leadership (2013)
Annie McKee is a senior fellow at the University

of Pennsylvania Graduate School of Education and
the director of the PennCLO Executive Doctoral
Program. She is the author of How to Be Happy at
Work and a coauthor of Primal Leadership,
Resonant Leadership, and Becoming a Resonant
Leader.

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Emotional Intelligence

Quiz Yourself: Do You Lead

Here’s how you scored yourself on ve important EI

EMOTIONAL SELF-AWARENESS: YOU SCORED 10 OUT OF 25

HOW YOU SCORED HBR.ORG AVERAGE

HOW YOU SCORED HBR.ORG AVERAGE

EMOTIONAL SELF-CONTROL: YOU SCORED 8 OUT OF 25

HOW YOU SCORED HBR.ORG AVERAGE

ADAPTABILITY: YOU SCORED 8 OUT OF 25

HOW YOU SCORED HBR.ORG AVERAGE

EMPATHY: YOU SCORED 23 OUT OF 25

HOW YOU SCORED HBR.ORG AVERAGE

Of course, everyone has both strengths and areas to improve

To improve your emotional self-awareness:

To work on having a more positive outlook:

To exercise greater emotional self-control:

To improve your adaptability:

To become more empathic:

Annie McKee is a senior fellow at the University

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