CHECKLIST OF GEMINI TRAITS

Note: This checklist describes the traits of one phase only; if

it doesn't seem to fit you, check other lists to find the phase
you are in right now.

1. Mercurial 13. Unpredictable 25. Dramatic

2. Quick 14. Versatile 26. Multifaceted
3. Scattered 15. Outgoing, 27. Game Player
4. Capricious Adventuresome 28. Neurotic Sex Drive
5. High-strung Nervous 16. Freedom-loving 29. Short Attention
6. Entertaining 17. Inventive Span
7. Stimulating 18. Broad-minded 30. Changeable
8. Talkative, 19. Cerebral 31. Noncommittal
Communicative 20. Of Two Minds 32. Opportunist
9. Clever 21. Inquisitive 33. Devoted
10. Witty 22. Footloose 34. Ambidextrous
11. Charming 23. Impractical 35. Spendthrift
12. Inconsistent 24. Youthful

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planet. Her fantastic imagination, graced with a lively wit and exhilarating charm, permeates her life, her speech,
her attitudes, and her writings. Forever young, she can transmit this feeling to those around her. There is something
highly refreshing about her personality.
She takes pride in her ability to entertain and excite men. She so enjoys the chase that she has somewhat of a
reputation as a tease, for she doesn't expect to have sex with every man she excites. As volatile as air itself, she
catalyzes the environment and the people around her. She is aware and sure of herself. Her antennae are constantly
scanning the room for any change of mood, any subtle nuance, or any stray male who may have entered. She
wastes little time in finding her target, and if her fixed gaze does not capture him, she literally talks him into a
corner.
Gemini is the third sign of the Zodiac and is Mutable Air. The mutable part makes her changeable. Being always
on the verge of changing into something else, the Gemini personality is hard to pin down. She is an ever-changing
kaleidoscope of moods, roles, and even people. You can never really say you know a Gemini Woman; more often,
the real question is which one of her many selves she is at the moment.
Air does not like to be bottled up; it seeks to escape. It is hard to confine; it wishes to be free. The air acts as a
vehicle for sound. It connects people, thoughts, and places as it blows its verbal message back and forth. Thus, the
Gemini Woman is a communicator and deals with messages of the intellect.
Each astrological sign is said to be "ruled" by a planet and its vibrations. Gemini is ruled by Mercury, messenger
to the gods. Fleet-footed Mercury facilitates all com-
munication. Learning, letter writing, reporting, newscasting, traveling, and gossiping all fall under the aegis of
Mercury.
The Gemini-type woman is one who has the sun or other important planets in Gemini, planets in the third house
(the natural house of Gemini), a Gemini ascen-
dant, or a powerfully aspected Mercury. Gemini types are also those who are tem-
porarily going through a Gemini phase. In this case, a woman need have no planets in the sign of Gemini. The
Gemini type is described by the checklist of traits at the beginning of this chapter. The Gemini phase has the
following characteristics:

1. Intense mental activity; inability to turn off the mind.

2. Finding very little pleasure in sex; using it to attract, excite, and release ner-
vous tension.
3. Total immersion in people, projects, and experiences, followed by boredom
and disinterest.
4. A compulsion to communicate everything that is seen, heard, or felt.
5. Feelings of fragmentation; self-scattered emotions; multiple personalities seek-
ing to find a wholeness.
6. Wanting to escape the responsibilities of the world and of relationships.

The Gemini Woman seldom chooses violent ways to express her innermost frustra-
tions. She is more apt to escape into the world of fantasy, where she can release her pent-up nervous energy. Soap
operas, film magazines, true romances, and movies offer her a perfect outlet. She may be entranced with the idea of
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actively pursue physical/sexual unions. She would rather experience sex vicariously on the silver screen, go home
to her tidy house, and forget it.
The Gemini Woman has a twofold aspect, symbolized by Castor and Pollux, the twins. The sign is an enigma,
with each twin aware of the other, each seeking to
please the other, each loving the other, but both trying to escape from their own
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are traits of the Gemini Woman. Most everyone is aware that the surface image of the Gemini Woman is in constant
change; but few understand her innermost feelings.
The Gemini Woman is often tall and slender. She carries herself with assurance. It is obvious that she is going
where the action is. She can often be found sunning herself; she delights in the sun's rays and energy. She has very
good proportions and keeps her shape well into middle age. She projects a youthful air.
She dresses well, for she realizes the importance of a good appearance. She is rather flashy and fond of show.
Alert and alive to the moment, she does not reflect on her past actions—even an hour ago is almost an eternity
away. She lives very much in the present, and usually for the present.
The Gemini Woman, all too aware of the complexities of her dual nature, seeks wholeness. She often seeks her
other half in someone else. She needs to learn that the contrasting energies she carries within must be balanced
before she can find true happiness outside herself.
Her mind can sometimes be her worst enemy. It is so hyperactive and powerful that if she does not have
movement and response around her, she often tries to create it. To relieve boredom she incites those around her to
fight. She then sits back and watches the fireworks. When her manipulations are discovered, she keeps very few
friends.
A key word for her is involvement. The Gemini Woman is curious about everything. There is nothing she will not
try. No dare or challenge goes past her. She would become involved at Land's End, if by nothing more than talking
to the goats. She is not happy unless burning the candle at both ends. If she has a space where nothing is happening,
verbal exchange is absent, or activities cease, she feels that her life is a failure.

Mercurial, Quick, Scattered

Mercury, her ruling planet, is symbolized by quicksilver. She is just as shiny, alive, and agitated. And like the
element mercury, should you drop her, she breaks into a thousand tiny fragments.
Her movements are quick and fluid. So is her mind. It can jump from one topic to another with the speed of
lightning. She is one of the most intelligent of the Zodiacal signs, and there is nothing under the sun that will not
attract her quick and energetic mind. However, she often lacks reason and judgment, not to be confused with
intellect. In her quest for knowing, she often overlooks the obvious and doesn't have the common sense to put her
findings to practical use.
Most people are no match for her quickness and for the range of things she has encountered on her many mental
flights. These qualities, coupled with a ready wit and the ability to put down any .opponent who is not quick
enough on the draw, make her a formidable debater. She seldom loses an argument.
Just as mercury scatters if it is dropped, the Gemini Woman has a tendency to scatter her energies. Too many
interests, too many romances, too many wasted intel-

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lectual pursuits, leave her depleted, separated into little pieces. Her greatest task is to keep from becoming
fragmented. She needs the will power of her Taurus sister and the concentration of Pisces to keep her energies in
one place long enough to accomplish what she desires.
She also needs to learn to slow down and enjoy life a little more. She is always in
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a hurry. She searches tor the quickest way to ao mings. y

ovens, and fast foods appeal to her sense of "let's get it over with so we'll have more time for important things." She
sacrifices much in order to find a shortcut and save time. However, because she squanders time on unfulfilling
pursuits, she seldom enjoys the fruits of her labors.
 Capricious

The Gemini Woman will follow a whim wherever it may lead. Her sudden and unreasonable changes will drive
those about her wild. However, she seems to know what she's doing, and if you follow her, at least your life will
never be dull. So whim-
sical that she could be a character out of Alice in Wonderland, the Gemini Woman follows a voice deep within her
that compels her to act. She always regrets not paying heed to her inner messages and directions. The Gemini
Woman resembles the Cap-
ricorn Woman as she jumps from one project to another, from one career to another, and from one relationship to
another. However, Capricorn knows why she is jumping from mountaintop to mountaintop and has calculated the
exact result of her moves. The Gemini Woman, on the other hand, takes a leap in blind faith that it is the correct
thing to do, no matter what the outcome.
Routine drives the Gemini Woman crazy. Anything that can be predicted or re-
duced to a formula is anathema to her. She would rather work for a circus than a dry-goods store. She goes out of
her way to introduce new challenges into her life. And she appears as erratic as the motion of the planet Mercury.
Don't try to figure out why she is doing something; just accept it and jump on the merry-go-round with her, and
you'll have fun.
The Gemini Woman has a great sense of humor, her wit and charm are legendary, and she is game for anything,
the more on the spur of the moment the better. Her voice has a lilt to it, almost a melody. She enjoys laughing
(although she may laugh at the wrong time) and can keep up her banter for hours.
The Gemini Woman is a quick-change artist. She can switch roles as quickly as a chameleon changes colors.
From party girl to housewife to career woman to serious political analyst, she moves across the spectrum with a
quick flutter of her long lashes. Titania could not be more magical in her ability to project completely different per-
sonalities.
Never expect to be able to predict the moods of a Gemini Woman. They shift from moment to moment, like the
patterns in a kaleidoscope. One harsh word is enough to cause a complete shift in her emotions, which are as
volatile as warmed morning air rising off the floor of the desert.
The Gemini Woman is very hard to pin down. She changes her mind rapidly. She may say yes one day, and no
the very next. You seldom have to wait long for a response; she speaks off the top of her head, often without taking
time to think.

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The Gemini Woman is as high-strung and nervous as a racehorse. Ever poised for the next occurrence, she has
the air of a battle-ready warrior. She never knows when she must flee, but she is constantly ready for flight. By
being constantly poised and

expectant, sne insures tnat very little gets past her. Un the positive side, this tenseness gives her a great deal of optimism
and that feeling of anticipation so important to anyone wishing to try new ventures. When she is in this mood, no
negativity can daunt her.
The Gemini Woman will not make a decision without first polling all those involved. She does not like to be
blamed for anything. She feels shattered when someone yells at her and will dissolve into the floor when harshly
criticized.
Her lungs and nervous system are her weak points. She is prone to accidents in-
volving the hands and arms. Often she trips and falls because she is racing ahead without looking where her feet are
going. She needs to strive for self-control, calm-
ness, and an awareness of her path.
Above all, she needs to channel her excess nervous energy into areas that will bring her happiness, which often
eludes her. If she learns to direct and balance energy, she will be able to control her own experiences rather than so
often becoming a victim of circumstances.

Entertaining, Stimulating

The Gemini Woman loves to entertain. Unlike her Taurus and Cancer sisters, whose affairs feature abundant
food as the center of attraction, she herself is the main course. She is in her element at a party. She can be charming,
she can be witty, she can exercise her word power. She will tease, excite, and be the life of the party. When her
guests leave, she is totally exhilarated and feels no responsibility for the lives of those she has touched.
She has a backlog of interesting things to talk about and is never at a loss for words. She will dredge up some
long-forgotten bit of information about the cholera plague of 1850, the sex life of the fruit fly, or the social
significance of Philip Johnson's glass house in Connecticut and build an interesting evening's conversation around
it. She never tires of telling stories and remembering the funny things that have happened in her nonstop, no-
turning-back life.
She may even treat you to a song or a piano rendition. Her voice is apt to have a poetic quality to it and be filled
with expression. This ability to get the most out of a word and imbue it with emotional content is very much a
Gemini characteristic. Her musical tastes run the gamut, but it is almost a prerequisite that the music be dra-
matic, moving, and full of character.
Whatever the method, the Gemini Woman will stimulate thinking in those around her. She delights in stretching
minds. The expectant air she exudes, the gyrations of her mind as it skips from image to image, subject to subject,
almost demand that you jump on the roller coaster and be taken along for the ride. She makes an excellent
teacher because of this very ability.
Just as she cannot stand to see a mind at ease, a lazy body also causes her to spring into action. She will invent
some project, devise some plan, or simply push the body into an activity. She isn't too concerned about the
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is bound to come from action per se. I have one Gemini friend who is constantly pushing, prodding, and nagging
her Libra husband into action; although much against his will, he is usually delighted once he gets involved.

Talkative, Communicative

The Gemini Woman is the Zodiac's natural communicator. She loves movies, tele-
vision, stereo, computers, libraries—anything that facilitates a constant exchange of information. When news is
happening, she wants to be as close to it as possible. If she took time to check her facts, she could be an excellent
reporter.
The telephone is like an extension of the Gemini Woman's personality. She will have an extension in each room,
with one in the garage and basement for good measure. She is ambidextrous and may be performing several tasks
in the kitchen while talking to a friend. Because of her quick, perceptive mind and her desire to get to the next
point, she often interrupts the person to whom she is speaking.
The Gemini Woman invented free association and blank verse. Her free-flowing conversation drives Taurus,
Libra, and Capricorn wild. She often doesn't even finish one sentence before taking off on another thought. When
she soars into the wild blue yonder, she will not remember where she started or where she has been—but wasn't the
 trip fun? She never looks back, always ahead. Had Lot's wife been a Gemini, she would never have been turned
into a pillar of salt.
She makes an excellent audience, but don't be fooled. She listens carefully only so she can interrupt and get her
four cents' worth into the conversation. She is a com-
pulsive talker and has an opinion on everything; she rubs the Blarney stone daily just in case the truth needs a little
elaboration to make it interesting.
The Gemini Woman is very selective about the information she divulges. Her com-
puterlike mind analyzes and screens all data, releasing just enough to give a story the particular slant she wants. She
makes a good propagandist; part of the truth is all she cares to handle. Her ability to deal in half-truths and truths
that are slightly stretched gives her a reputation for being somewhat tricky. If she is questioned directly and
pointedly, she will tell the truth. Thus, you must be very direct when dealing with Lady Gemini.
Words are her chief medium; she has an outstanding talent for self-expression. She also has an artistic flair and
can express herself in interior decoration, by painting, and with the voice.

Clever, Witty, Charming

A Gemini Woman lives by her wits. Though the situation may look impossible, she will discover a clever,
workable solution. She constantly hones her intellectual abilities and is ready to turn any twist of fate to her
advantage.
Her ready wit has saved many a dull dinner party. Her insights are keen and to the point; she has a way with
words. She can see humor in places where many are too insensitive to notice. The spice of her wit creates its own
welcome. She is just as much at home in a tavern as she is in the banquet hall of Windsor Castle. Pity the prince or
drunkard who tries to match wits with her. She never loses.
As verbally caustic as she can sometimes be, she seldom offends. Her secret is the

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charm with which she delivers a rather unvarnished truth, the clever package she puts it in. I have seen Gemini tell
a man that he is a complete pig and have him laugh and agree that he probably is. She can be so direct, so forceful,
and so sweet that the combination is irresistible.
She can turn this combination of traits into a fantastic bonus in any situation where great diplomacy is required.
She works well in the diplomatic corps if she has learned

to control her natural urge to reveal everything she knows and can temper her hair-
trigger responses. She would do much better if she thought before speaking rather than vice versa.

Inconsistent, Unpredictable
The Gemini Woman is nearly totally unpredictable. She is a jump ahead of every-
one, including herself. The only constant to be expected from her is the unexpected. The fact is that she herself
doesn't know, and doesn't want to know, what she will do next. Life is much more exciting if the future is unknown.
Never expect a Gemini Woman to be on an even keel; she is a living variable.
The Gemini Woman's attention to the things at hand varies too. An "out of sight, out of mind" approach often
signals loss of friends, business troubles, and lack of personal growth. She has driven many bosses wild by
improving and rearranging filing systems that have been in effective use for years. The truth is that she is very unor-
thodox. She delights in finding a different way of doing things. She will gladly exchange traditional ways for her
way, but even that won't remain constant. She just as easily changes her own way as someone else's.
 Versatile

The Gemini Woman can try just about anything and excel. Somewhere deep in her being, there seems to be a
plan for just about any venture under the sun, and she alone has the ability to draw upon that knowledge. Her
versatility allows her to learn things quickly and to obtain the necessary skills in a very short time. As long as
something is new, it is exciting. She will drop an old project that does not interest her and just as quickly take up a
new one. Because she has a very short attention quotient, when something is no longer new, it becomes boring. She
would rather be dead than bored.
The Gemini Woman is so afraid she's going to miss something that she will try to be in two places at the same
time. She can handle two jobs simultaneously. She may give both a lick and a promise, but she does enough to
insure passable results. She usually has her fingers in more pies than Jack Homer and cannot possibly handle all the
work she undertakes. She is never happy unless she has more than one project going at once. Only when demands
are made on her time does she feel important and needed. Blank spaces horrify her.
"Jack of all trades, master of none" sums up the Gemini Woman. Her interest in a variety of things and her
ability to undertake so many of them at once give her great dexterity in learning new skills, though she seldom
masters them either. She needs to learn how to persevere and follow things through to completion. It is not enough
to figure out the principle; she must also be willing to do the work.

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Outgoing, Adventuresome
Ruled by Mercury, Mutable Air, Gemini likes to run around. As a child, she excelled in races, bicycling, and
exploring. As an adult, she is a seasoned traveler, as much at home in a foreign port as she is in her well-appointed
apartment. Often she is much
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the museums and the art galleries—all offer an excitement that the serene country-
side does not afford.
She has an active nature and is eager for adventure. She is often found rushing helter-skelter in search of the new
and the different. Wherever there is something new, exotic, and exciting you can be sure to find her. She is sure
about where she is going, and surprisingly enough, she always knows how to get there.
The Gemini Woman is a good sport and will try anything once. Need a friend to go elephant riding in Jodhpur?
Want to pan for gold in the Yukon? Yearn to hunt antelope on the Serengeti Plain? The Gemini Woman will be right
at your side, spurring the elephant to move a little faster.
She is just as outgoing in her personal relationships. She enjoys meeting all sorts of new people and is eager to
learn as much from them as she can. She has the ability to pick the brain of friend and foe alike and can learn from
one as easily as from the other. She is the first to grasp that all life is a school and that learning comes from
experience as well as from books.

Freedom-loving
The most important possession a Gemini Woman has is her freedom. She is defi-
nitely a no-strings-attached, independent lady. If someone tries to possess her time or her body, she immediately
pulls away. Both commodities are hers to do with as she pleases. She may choose to squander either on useless
pursuits, but the choice must remain hers. Air knows no boundaries, and the Gemini Woman wants very few. She
desires to be as free as the wind, and just as mobile.
She seeks the same quality in her relationships. She does not want to be bound by the restraints of responsibility
and duty. Although she will assume a great deal of both, again the choice must be hers. She does not want to feel
that they have been imposed on her.
 The Gemini Woman often turns to avenues of pure escapism. Alcohol, drugs, nic-
otine, movies, love stories, soap operas, and compulsive work habits offer escape valves that help her let off excess
energy. Whatever the opiate, however, none is effective unless she learns to operate within human boundaries. It is
difficult for her to live with this basic limitation.

Inventive
The Gemini Woman loves gadgets. Walk into her kitchen, and you feel that you have entered the next century.
She will spend a great deal of time figuring out how to create labor-saving methods and devices. She has just the
fertile mind to do it.
She is just as inventive when it comes to making situations workable. New challenges

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are just what she needs. Difficult tasks on the job, impossible complications at home, complex problems that stump
the experts—all spur her on to her most creative levels. She knows that every riddle has an answer and every
puzzle can be solved, and her active mind is the right tool for the job. She is constantly designing procedures,
solutions, and systems that will simplify the complicated.

Broad-minded

Every story has two sides, or so the Gemini Woman believes. Therefore, she will seek to hear both before she
makes up her mind. For all her flighty tendencies, she will be very fair in her judgments. She takes very few
things personally; rather she views most action as taking place on a stage that is removed from her immediate
influence.
Being somewhat unorthodox, she does not cast stones at the far-out ideas and ideals of others. That something
has never been tried before is ample reason for the Gemini Woman to try it. Who knows, it may work and be more
fun than the old way.

Cerebral, of Two Minds, Inquisitive

The Gemini Woman has a mind that races ahead of her body. Thus, she finds it difficult for her pen to keep up
with her thoughts. In fact, it is hard for her to still her mind once it has been set in motion. The wheels keep turning
no matter how she tries to stop them. Insomnia, confusion, error, and nervous exhaustion are often the result of not
being able to control the mind.
Her curious mind asks the question "Why?" She probes, studies, analyzes, until she is satisfied that she knows
the answers. At times she is so full of questions that she feels she doesn't know anything at all.
Her restless mental state often leads to insecurity, for she doubts that anything can be known for certain. There
are so many variables and possibilities that can color what is so. The Gemini Woman constantly seeks self-
improvement. She will sign up for night classes, start working on her real-estate license, or buy a set of self-help
cassettes; in short, she is open to anything she thinks will improve her lot, sharpen her intellect, or bring in more
money (a constant problem). She is an intellectual creature and is fascinated by puzzles, word games, anything
written by Dorothy Parker. If she must sit still mentally, she is likely to explode emotionally.
Her personality is a wonder to behold. Her dual nature allows her to think one way and act another. This causes
her no immediate problem, but it may cause her mate or friends to scratch their heads and wonder if they
understand what she is saying. This duality manifests itself in many little ways. She may start off for her destination
and go in exactly the opposite direction. She may be having lunch with you and repeatedly use someone else's name
when addressing you. Her body some-
times seems to be in the room while her mind is somewhere else.
Being of two minds, she seldom accepts the reality in front of her. She seeks to read between the lines and is
very good at doing so. However, she can easily read in something that is not there, and that's when she makes
some of her most dreadful mistakes. There seems to be very little middle ground for the Gemini Woman; for her, it
is all or nothing. One of her minds is fascinated with things as they are. She

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is almost encyclopedic in noting details that escape others. She has an uncanny ability to understand why things
work. The other mind, however, is fascinated with things unseen. Stories of ghosts, seances, and Tarot readings will
send goose bumps up and down her arms.
She enjoys the good things in life but realizes that few things last forever. Rather than storing up, she uses.
When things are gone she'll buy more. She subscribes to

the philosophy "Eat, drink, and make merry, for tomorrow you die." Even here, however, she is of two minds. One
part of her is concerned with the idea of security, while the other is more cognizant of the ephemeral nature of
existence. The former concern usually wins out with the Gemini Woman, however.
She is rather like the Grand Inquisitor; there is no hiding from her. She will ferret out the facts even if it takes all
her time to do so. Once she sets her mind on some-
thing, she leaves no stone unturned. Having such an inquisitive mind, she makes a good student and researcher. She
instinctively knows where to look for information.

Footloose, Impractical

The Gemini Woman spends a great deal of time trying to break the shackles others have placed on her. Much of
love and marriage has built-in conditions, strings the Gemini Woman cannot tolerate. She is happy when she is
loving, but don't try to use that love to tie her down to routine, obligation, or permanence. She must be able to exit
a relationship as easily as she entered.
She does not like the permanence of possessions, either, and she will give away or throw away material goods
that are not being used. If she hasn't touched it in three months, she thinks she'll never need it—and out it goes! She
wants to be ready to move at moment's notice, and the fewer things she has, the easier it is. She often lacks
"gathering" energy (she uses it so carelessly), and she doesn't want to bother with a lot of clutter.
The Gemini Woman often appears impractical to her friends. She seeks stability in her life yet will throw it away
if she becomes impatient. She wants to be loved but does not want to accept any responsibility for her beloved. She
wants to learn but often blocks the attempts of those who would teach her.
She dreams very grandiose dreams but often lacks the translation ability to make them reality. She lacks the
patience to follow through on many of her schemes. Her low threshold for boredom generates a lack of
determination and persistence in see-
ing projects through.
Too often, she hitches her wagon to stars rather than to fence posts. Her dreams are built on desires and need to
be grounded. She needs to ask herself if the dreams are possible, considering situational reality. She sees things in
an almost ideal state. She needs to view them in light of hard reality and work towards modifying what is to match
what might be.
Her dreamworld is often the basis of her rather skittish life. Her reality is so tenuous that it is always in danger of
cracking or breaking from the weight of the demands she places on herself. There is a delicate balance between the
two worlds. She must strive to maintain the ideal, melding her own realities with those life pushes towards her.
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Youthful

The Gemini Woman doesn't seem to age and keeps her childlike innocence intact. As part of her character, her
ability to love seems boundless; this in itself helps keep her young. In fact, there are very few times in her life when
she isn't in love.

_me uemini woman also works at staying young. She likes her slim figure and watches what she eats. She has
very good skin and takes care of it. She even dresses younger than her years. Above all, she keeps a youthful
attitude. Her innate joy in discovery, in learning, and her involvement in things around her give her an air of
expectancy. She is nearly childlike as she finds that there is a whole world out there to explore.

Dramatic, Multifaceted

The Gemini Woman seeks the drama in life. There must be action, dialogue, con-
flict. She seems to learn more quickly when life offers difficulties to be overcome, when there is a clear story and a
plot that leads somewhere. She can also be dramatic in her self-expression, especially her writing. Reading one of
her letters makes you feel you are right there with her. Her decorating also shows a flair for the dramatic, perhaps in
the use of a bold color (she likes them all and has no favorites) or in the proper placement of an old Chinese chair
and screen. Whatever the device, she achieves a striking scenario like few others.
You can never say you really know a Gemini Woman. Just when you think you have her down to a science, she
reveals a facet you never expected. She may casually mention that she taught school in Alaska, once went scuba
diving off the coast of Australia, or whatever, and that she hadn't thought you'd be interested. She has kept these
"secrets" carefully concealed for the right moment. She knows how to make an impact.
Whatever the task at hand, one of her many selves will generally rise to the occasion. She may never have given
first aid, but in an accident she is the one who has the presence of mind to apply a tourniquet. She is good in any
emergency. If the books need to be balanced and cleaned up before the auditors come, she is the one you'll find
working late.

Neurotic Sex Drive, Game Player

The Gemini Woman can be just as sexy as any woman of the Zodiac; she merely loses interest quickly. She is
intellectually interested in the idea of sex but often less concerned about the physical reality. In some ways she
would rather watch than par-
ticipate although she knows that sex is an important part of life.
The Gemini Woman often uses sex to validate her ego. As long as she can attract and lure men, she feels young
and romantic. When she gets a man to chase her, she feels she still has what it takes to make it. However, once the
excitement wears off, she becomes distracted and cools rather quickly. An interesting note: she often thinks more
highly of an old flame than of her current conquest. She has a tendency to

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idealize the man and later often recalls her idealized image rather than the reality of the person she experienced.
Sex, for all its lore, is not what attracts the Gemini Woman. She is much more interested in what a man can
 provide for her. Unlike her Taurus sister, she will seek the man with power and position rather than getting carried
away and lusting after
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The end is her own security and position.

Explosive sex is a mainstay of one of the many games she plays. She pictures herself as a light to which all the
moths are drawn. To prove her cleverness, she will turn on and off. She will lead a man down a path of difficult
return and artfully dodge his advances. If you want to please her, chase her but never catch her.
She cannot tolerate boredom. She wreaks havoc on many families by stirring up feuds and resentments. This is
another of her favorite games. If she can get her brothers and sisters fighting with each other, and everyone fighting
with the in-laws, it makes a jolly good time for her. It also keeps in check their demands for consistency and
responsibility from her.
She's big on self-directed games too. She will exaggerate her own accomplishments and then not measure up to
her self-imposed demands. She will convince herself that she is almost invincible and will find to her dismay that
she is not. She will tell a lie often enough to believe it herself and will be unable to face the truth when it comes to
haunt her. This is probably her most dangerous game, and unless she is careful, it will lead to her downfall.

Short Attention Span, Changeable, Noncommittal

If you made a date with a Gemini Woman a week ago, be sure to call her that morning. It may have slipped her
mind. She no doubt has it written on her calendar, but in all probability, she will have forgotten to look at it when
she got up.
All the work she has to do will be piled on her desk. She feels that if she tucks it away, she will forget it. She
drops letters, books, and newspapers right where she stops reading them so she can be sure to find them again when
she is in the mood. I have known some Gemini women who forget what they are saying in mid-sentence. Most,
however, have a slightly longer attention span.
Chances are that she will change careers as often as she changes her favorite sexy sling-back shoes. The
quickness with which she learns often results in career shifts into completely different lines of work. I know one
Gemini woman who progressed from secretary to fashion model to jewelry sales to owning her own rare antiques
business in a matter of four years. (By the way, she makes a great salesperson. She is so glib and persuasive that
she can talk people into buying things they often have little, if any, use for.)
One has to be very shrewd to get a commitment from the Gemini Woman. She is quick to venture into unknown
territory but will not stay long. She's never sure what the future holds and doesn't want to commit herself to
something that could ham-
per her. Thus, she seldom gives a straight answer. If she can hedge or sidestep or say, "Well, maybe," she will. Even
with such basic things as appointments, she will avoid being pinned down to an exact time. She has been known to
simply not show up. Sometimes she forgets, other times she wants to avoid the person or issue at hand.

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Opportunist
The Gemini Woman is a creature of the moment. She is so aware of change and its critical nature that she will
grab an opportunity the instant it appears. She always sees at least two different ways to go and delights in making
the proper choice—that

is, the choice she feels is in her best interest.

 She operates more by circumstance than by fixed principle. She has little regard for consistency or
consequences. She is more interested in how a particular situation affects her and how she can turn it to her own
advantage. Her view of the world is highly relative; she's the center around which it revolves. She does not question
the ethics or morality of an event too closely lest it not be to her benefit.
If need be, she is apt to be dishonest to obtain her ends. For her, little white lies and minor infractions of the law
are necessary adjustments to a rigid and unbending world. She has rationalizations to fit every peccadillo. She can
fool herself and every-
one around her. Her fall often occurs when she is not quite as clever as she thinks she is and meets people who can
see through her games.
On the positive side, she has an uncanny ability to predict public fads and infatu-
ations and can often capitalize on the opportunities she perceives. She has a shrewd eye for what the general
consumer wants and knows how to package it. When op-
portunity knocks, she feels compelled to answer with action.

Devoted

In light of all her quixotic traits, her devotion seems unusual. She can be totally consecrated to a person, an idea,
or a project. This trait brings out the very best in the Gemini Woman.
Once an ideal is etched on her mind, she will carry it to the grave. She may com-
pletely idolize a former love and measure all her other lovers against his memory. She becomes "hopelessly
devoted." Her intellect tells her such a position is unrea-
sonable, but it is a deep emotional response that she has little control over.

Ambidextrous

The Gemini Woman is able to use both hands equally well. There may be little significance in the fact that a
person can write with both her right and her left hand, but it does help to identify Gemini traits. Besides having the
ability to use both hands, the Gemini Woman is very dextrous. She can take things apart and put them back together
easily.

Spendthrift

The Gemini Woman acquires knowledge readily and wants to put it to immediate and profitable use. She makes
money easily and spends it with abandon. Her bank account is usually a mess. Both money and possessions slip
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running water. She will spend her last dollar for the sheer joy of spending. Being penniless seems to stimulate the
Gemini Woman into new activity.
Her motto is often "Easy come, easy go." She feels there will always be ways to make more money, and her
incredible mind will always provide a reservoir on which she can draw. She believes in having what she wants
when she wants it, and she will

spend ner last aouar to get it.

She is a born gambler. She wants windfall profits, not long-term projects of the Taurus variety, not patient
 collecting of rents; she wants her profits yesterday. She wants the fastest results with the least expenditure of
energy. She is attracted to race-
tracks, gambling casinos, and oil speculation. No lottery or raffle escapes her atten-
tion. If she loses, she does not lament; instead, she forges ahead with another scheme plucked from her mental
trove. She thinks that if she tries often enough she is bound to make it big eventually; often she does. And if she
doesn't, she can always try again.
Nothing appeals more to the Gemini Woman than a fresh start. I have a Gemini friend who has sold all her
furniture no fewer than three times because she gets such a thrill from starting all over again. She moved through
modern, country French, and Mediterranean with the ease of changing her dress. A new job, a new lover, a new car,
all give her a healthy glow.
The only thing the Gemini Woman does not know how to spend is her emotions. She often lacks true
compassion. Don't expect chicken soup from her if you've been sick—often not so much as a kind word will come
your way. It is difficult for the Gemini Woman to empathize, even with those close to her. And on a broader scale,
she has little tolerance for the problems of social classes or institutions that don't have a direct bearing on her life.

GEMINI RELATIONSHIPS
0! swear not by the moon, the inconstant moon, That monthly
changes in her circled orb,
Lest that thy love prove likewise variable.
WILLIAM SHAKESPEARE
Romeo and Juliet

Get ready to start jogging when you get involved in a relationship with a Gemini Woman. I don't mean just a
mile a day—we're talking about the Bonne Bell Mara-
thon! She's one of the fastest thinkers in the Zodiac. Her motto is "Here today, gone tomorrow," so you'd better be
able to keep up with her.
She makes friends easily and is seldom without new ones. Her wit, talkativeness, cleverness, and outgoing
nature always guarantee that a crowd will be around her. She's also so outwardly broad-minded that almost anyone
can feel "acceptable" in her presence. She will talk to anyone about anything almost anytime. She's as likely to
make a new friend at the laundromat as she is at the ballet. The more eccentric or creative people are, the more
likely they are to acquire a Gemini Woman as a friend. She appreciates individuality, openness, and glamor.
She seems to have a sixth sense for knowing when there's an emergency in the household or life of a friend. She
arrives first, not so much because of her Good Samaritan nature, but more often because there may be something
new to learn, a way to display her multifaceted knowledge and wisdom or to impress someone with her ability to
think and act fast.

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If you want to insure a lively time at your party, invite a Gemini Woman. She's a guaranteed mixer and fits in
well at an Archie Bunker-type patriotic celebration or a fund raiser for the legal defense fund of the NAACP. A
well-rounded personality is her specialty, and parties offer her a perfect forum for the game playing she so enjoys.
She has many friends and acquaintances whom she can locate in a few minutes'

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with her; she may be spending a weekend with a young college type during the summer hiatus between weeks with
her mother and her steady boyfriend in Aspen. One thing is certain, however: she'll always have her mental address
book with her in case she needs to verify a fact, elaborate upon something that has happened to a mutual friend, or
gloat about a new conquest to a sorority sister.
Her fickleness is legendary. She can have three gentlemen fetching for her at a lawn party and dazzle a fourth
with her charm, wit, and slender body. She can't abide boring situations or boring people, and because of her quick
perceptions, she is apt to see through both and depart quickly, with little more than a backward glance.
She either likes or loathes people at first sight. Her snap judgments are seldom wrong. She is both skeptical and
suspicious of others' motivations; thus, she doesn't have the proverbial wool pulled over her eyes very often. She
sees very clearly and trusts her insights totally.
For the Gemini Woman, the most important thing in a relationship is comfort. She will not waste her time and
energies with someone who makes her feel uncomfortable. Unless she is reasonably self-assured with people, she
cannot dazzle, and her free-
flowing wit seems to merely seep through a blocked audio system.
She has a way of knowing much about the people she is involved with, though she seldom allows herself such
luxuries of vulnerability. The easiest way to gain infor-
mation about her is to listen to her attentively. Her many travels in search of her soulmate, her other half, have taken
her places and given her experiences that few others ever have. She is indeed a fascinating lady and commands the
attention of everyone around her.
Gossip is often her stock-in-trade. She doesn't listen well, and she has a penchant for repeating things in an
embroidered form. The telephone is nearly an appendage for her, and when she forgets to pay the bill and it's
temporarily disconnected, she could just die.
She doesn't have a good understanding of her own emotions, and she tends to be quite private about them. On a
rare day, with a close, trusted friend, she may pour her heart out about her emotional instability. But don't try to
continue the conver-
sation the following morning; she'll have forgotten all about it.
Like the air her sign represents, she wants things to be light and moving. She'll panic if the atmosphere becomes
too calm and restful. If a relationship settles around her and her friends finally get comfortable with her, she is
likely to stay away for awhile so as to gather more knowledge and wit to dazzle and confuse them. Although she
inwardly craves intimacy, the thought of it often stifles and suffocates her. She'll play at it, but don't expect
"heaviness" from her.
She can be absent from her circle of close friends for years and upon her return pick up right where she left off.
She loves renewing old friendships; it provides her the opportunity to dazzle once more. The same holds true for
old flames, and when she comes back, you can be sure she'll have mastered a new technique or rearranged her
sexual priorities—it'll seem like you're experiencing someone new whom you already know.
She goes to her high school class reunion hoping that everyone will be the same, only older. She ages very
slowly, retains a youthful air, and develops the most attractive

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worldliness of any woman you're likely to know. She secretly delights in showing off her good maintenance
program, and she'll flirt with old high school beaux even if they've grown portly and are balding.
She is skilled at conducting several different relationships with several different people at the same time. Often
they don't know each other and are from diverse
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The same is true of the love affairs in her life. She often finds herself facing the dilemma of having to say no to
one so she can say yes to another. This can be the best solution to her never-ending search for the "right one." Her
commitment to this ideal is very real and strong; she seldom feels guilty when she discards yet another man who
doesn't measure up.
She tends to deal in quantity rather than quality when she gets involved in new relationships. Often people are
eager to know her because of her talent for making light of things and adding excitement to otherwise dull lives.
Hers is to learn about many, not to understand a few.

Childhood

Gemini children are usually very bright and quick to learn. They are like magi-
cians—now you see them, now you don't. They are also known explorers. I once had a Gemini woman tell me how
frustrated her mother had been with her as a child. She would throw tantrums and scream at the top of her lungs
until her mother released her from the prison of the playpen. When the child could wander and roam about the
house, she was in her true domain. It was boredom, even at such an early age, that motivated this Gemini woman to
experience life as it came at her.
Gemini girls develop mobility skills earlier than most because without them they cannot explore and search.
When such activities meet with maternal disapproval, battles rage. Mothers often assume that children fear the
unknown, and when Gemini girls are willing to confront anything, their bravery often baffles their mothers.
Gemini girls often have many friends who come and go. For variety, they will have an equal number of male and
female playmates. It isn't necessarily that they have "boyfriends" earlier than other girls; generally they begin
romantic relationships at about the same time. Theirs, however, often have a depth and intensity that others' lack.
Little-girl crushes are a waste of time for the Gemini girl. She learns how to court and beguile little boys early; it
seems she is in training for the "real thing."
The best parents for a Gemini girl are those who trust her and let her freely ex-
plore. Freedom is often the key to her heart, and her behavior will be exemplary if the reward is some new form of
freedom. She will pull away from parents who attempt to get too close, just as she later pulls away from men and
other intimates for the same reason.
Although she often shies away from being "Daddy's little girl," she does develop the idealizing or idolizing
nature that colors her later years. She tends to be closer to her father than to her mother. This is especially so if her
father has a glamorous, exciting career and her mother stays close to the home fires.
She'll be the first in her group of friends to suggest playing doctor or some other "intimate" childhood game.
She'll also probably be the first to exclaim, "Is that all there is?" Her "what I want to be when I grow up" fantasies
will include doctor,

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lawyer, scientist, ballet dancer, socialite with great connections, and even politician if she's exposed to that
possibility early enough. She doesn't mind playing house with her friends as long as her "husband" is in the Foreign
Service and the setting is an island somewhere in the Mediterranean.
Her follow-up failures begin early in childhood too. Ask a Gemini girl to clean up her room, and it's like asking
her to unbuild the Great Wall of China. Procrastination

and a short attention span are qualities she is usually born with. She'll start by going into the room, but her mood
will entirely dictate her progress. If she can find some-
thing to interest her or something to fantasize about amidst the rubble, you can forget the cleaning. On the other
hand, you may find her washing her father's favorite pipe in the dishwasher because she thinks it's exciting to do
something she isn't supposed to be old enough to do.
Gemini girls are graceful, due in large part to their ambidextrous nature. They excel at dancing and gymnastics;
this gives them an opportunity to learn something and master feats that other children often have trouble with.
To successfully raise a Gemini girl, parents must be first aware of her innate charm. Lying is not beyond her, and
she can be frighteningly believable. Her knack for embellishing the events surrounding a social function she attends
and for making herself appear more attractive is something she carries with her most of her life.
She'll have plenty of boyfriends as she grows up and will be going steady with one (if not two or three) each
week. She'll probably go to extremes in sexual experimen-
tation too. She'll either say yes to all of them or withhold her sexual secrets until marriage. If she finds a boy or
young man who offers her a glimpse- of her other half, her elusive soulmate, she'll probably fall for him head over
heels. She'll also discard him just as quickly when she discovers he isn't the "right one."
To make her adult life perhaps a little more stable, parents should take care to instill a sense of situational reality
in the Gemini girl. She must learn at some point in her life that her other half can only emerge from within her. She
must also learn that people aren't nearly as boring as they seem to her; she need only stop and listen to them to find
that they are of much denser fabric than she imagines. You really can't tie her down, pen her up, lock her in; you
can, however, give her a home base from which she can launch her many exciting trips and to which she can return
for rejuvenation. That home base is often her own self-assurance, self-respect, and self-
esteem, when they are all developed to their full potential.

How the Gemini Woman Relates:

Lovers and Other Intimates

Often the Gemini Woman's rather unrealistic approach to relationships isn't de-
signed so much to fool those with whom she comes in contact as to serve as her own defense mechanism. She fears
intimacy and reality and spends much of her energy in flight or fancy.
She is often surrounded by many people, which hides her deep-seated feelings of loneliness not only from others
but from herself. In her frantic quest to gain omnis-
cience about people and circumstances, she often fails to use others as a mirror to truly understand her actions. Hei
"out of sight, out of mind" attitude spills over into her relationships quite naturally. She concentrates on the things at
hand and throws

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herself into the moment with seemingly complete abandon. The dishes can pile up in the sink, the laundry can form
mountains on the floor of the bedroom; if there's something new and exciting at her disposal, little else matters.
She also has a tendency to idealize people, to inflate them completely beyond their normal proportions. When
they fail to live up to her fantasies, she is disappointed. She must _learn to be much more realistic about her
relationships in this respect.

Her ego is fed when you tell her how much you enjoy her entertaining ways. She can go on for hours about her
past experiences and travels, peppering it all with humor. She needs this sort of communication and spends a great
deal of time pol-
ishing her personal style.
She'll also be over to help you paint the living room and lay the new carpeting. It helps if it's a small room, since
her threshold for boredom is so low. She may get the ceiling and two walls done and discover she has to run off to
ready herself for a party.
She loves people who can finish her sentences in their minds. Too many words bog her down; she hasn't a lot of
 patience when it comes to explaining the signifi-
cance of some gossip. New experiences, new knowledge, and new gossip don't threaten her. If she stumbles across
a foreign word she can't pronounce or under-
stand, you can be sure she'll gloss it over with her personal interpretation. The next time, however, she'll know the
traditional meanings, pronunciations, and origins.
Her denial of reality carries over into relationships as well. She can be furious with a friend one day, and the
next totally deny that anything was ever amiss between them. She doesn't like to recall unpleasantness and will go
to great lengths to avoid having someone tell her about her often unsavory behavior.
Bigamy is more acceptable to a Gemini Woman than divorce. She needs stimulation from many different
directions at once, and she is often in a love relationship with a one-dimensional man. If he doesn't provide physical
stimulation, she can survive; if he doesn't provide mental stimulation, forget it! She likes to make her men jealous
to reinforce her feelings of being loved and wanted.
She will drive an earth-sign type of man crazy with her flitting, flirting, and change-
able moods. She wants her man to follow her but can be terribly annoyed if he stays too close. She likes her
freedom and at the same time finds it a personal challenge when a man tries to take any of it away from her. She is
a bundle of contradictions, and this can work magic on a man who likes freshness, lightness, and change. It can be a
bad dream for a man who is overly protective of his woman, who is jealous by nature, and who likes plenty of
attention himself. Gemini will know what her lovers like and will spend half her time trying to please them, the
other half tormenting them.
The Gemini Woman generally has the lazy-mother approach to child-rearing. She likes children and wants to
have them around. Unlike many women, she isn't at all dismayed to learn that she is pregnant; after all, it's really
another adventure, another experience that will certainly enrich her life in one way or another. I sense that
succeeding pregnancies won't be as thrilling for her, for giving birth does require a certain amount of staying still
and establishing roots.
She won't be as overprotective of her children as her Taurus and Cancer sisters. She will generally allow them all
the freedom they require, and her constant move-
ment will often stimulate them to explore and grow. She does expect her children to excel at something as soon as
they master mobility.
During her thirties and forties, the Gemini Woman may become more honest with herself and begin to form a
close circle of good and permanent friends. She may also acquire a career that teaches her some discipline and
provides her with a goal towards which to work. Once she sets her mind to it, she has great potential for career
success.

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The Gemini Woman in Love

The words of Victoria Woodhull rather aptly characterize the Gemini Woman in love: "I am a free lover. I have
an inalienable constitution and natural right to love whom I may, to love as long or as short a period as I can, to
change that love every day if I please." Gemini needs a lot of patient understanding. She really needs and

wants love; what turns her off is the responsibility that comes with it.
So long as she is the center of attraction for her man, she will move mountains for him. If he has a day off, she'll
call in sick so she'll be available for his pleasure. She'll prepare special meals for him (since she isn't enamored of
the kitchen, this is quite a feat). She can often second-guess his needs and seem to read his mind when he needs a
special favor; when he wants to go to the fights with the boys on Saturday, she tells him it's fine since she has
already made plans to see her Aunt Pearl from Toledo. He'll never know she doesn't have an Aunt Pearl from
Toledo; he'll think she's priceless for having arranged her schedule to fit so well with his.
If she feels slighted or taken advantage of, she'll either blow her stack and walk out, leaving him scratching his
head, or she'll stay and have difficulty putting her finger on what is boring hell out of her these days. Nothing is
immune from her escapist tactics when she chooses to employ them.
 If her lover showers her with gifts when she needs them, predicts her moods and changes, and gently prods her to
tell him what she needs and wants, he will be successful. He needs the wisdom to recognize her duality; she may
seem very much in love with him today, and tomorrow act as though living with him is a tremendous bother.
When she is in love, she looks as though she is on cloud nine. She moves faster than ever, due partly to her fear
of losing her freedom. She may employ her great talent for writing and pen poems to her lover daily. While she's
singing him a love song in bed, her mind is plotting ways to insure his permanence at her side. She is very
vulnerable when she truly falls in love, and this can be a blessing or a curse, depending on how secure she has
become within herself.

Patterns in the Gemini Woman's Sexual

Relationships

The concept of the primary relationship was tailored for the Gemini Woman. She doesn't make commitments
easily because of her dual nature, her need for ever-
changing scenarios, and her fear of being tied down. She won't directly confront this aspect of her personality;
instead she will bend over backwards to continue in a sexual relationship with one man while adding others to her
stable. She sincerely believes in the Primary Commitment; her involvement with other men is simply for variety!
She's not particularly attracted to married men if they are in residence with their wives. She doesn't like sharing
the spotlight; God knows, the beacon is often not bright enough for her alone, much less for a space crowded with
others. She's not too fond of triangles either—unless, of course, they involve two people devoting all their attention
to her. She fears being left out, which is a natural spin-off of her loneliness.
After she ends a relationship, she often idealizes the man she has left. She will build elaborate fantasies around
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to them. The Gemini Woman is very vulnerable in love situations. Since the excite-
ment of the chase is often a greater reality for her than the happiness that comes later, she may end up teasing a man
and then running away before he can catch her. This ultimately causes a great deal of stress, and her nervous system
can suffer.
She often marries more than once. She can be so unsettled and bored when she first falls in love that sustaining a
relationship with her is difficult. Middle age often

modifies her wandering ways, and she is more apt to accept tne responsunmy of conventional lifestyles. She is still
susceptible to boredom and must work hard to find excitement within the structures she builds.

What Kind of Lover She Wants

Every Gemini Woman has a secret list of qualifications for lovers. She needs a man who:

1. Likes getting two for the price of one.

2. Will stay up all night gossiping with her.
3. Can think of the words to "Shine On, Harvest Moon" more quickly than
she can.
4. Will leave work early to see the dress rehearsal for the community theater
musical she is starring in.
5. Will take her to a double-feature old-time movie show.
6. Will praise her for her sexiness even when she has been up all night doing
 crossword puzzles with him.
7. Will buy her a sumptuous box of chocolates with the lunch money he's al-
located himself for the week (she's his forever!).
8. Looks nice but doesn't spend hours creating an effect.
9. Is as multifaceted as she is, only less so!
10. Can function well in the good old American tradition of sexual "quickies."
11. Loves all her changes and can keep up with her while remaining relatively
stable himself.

What She Needs to Learn

Boredom is the ultimate downfall of many Gemini Women. The following is a list of ten activities she may
undertake to use her boredom constructively:

1. Confess out loud to yourself in a mirror when you're bored. Ask yourself:
a. When did I become bored today? b. Why? c. Where did the boredom originate? d. What is this
boredom? e. Who am I bored with?
2. Talk to the very next person who bores you. Ask why she/he thinks you may
be bored. Ask if she/he ever becomes bored in that particular fashion.
3. The next time a project or chore has you bored to tears, finish it!
4. Talk to your boss about one of the more boring aspects of your job. See if
there's something you can trade it for to maintain a higher level of interest
and ultimately a higher level of productivity.
5. The next time you are bored while having sex or preparing to have sex with

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your mate, share a fantasy with him that he isn't aware of. Ask him to co-star with you.
6. Call attention to the low (read: boring) spots in your relationship with your
lover. See if he's bored at the same places and times. Work them but, and share your boredom with him.
7. Make a list of six things you both find boring in your relationship. Make it

a priority to work these out in order.

8. When you see a boring project looming on the horizon, try to insure that it
is preceded and followed by something really exciting.
9. Ask a friend if she/he has a boring task to complete. Help finish it; it'll only
take half the time and require half the boredom. This will help you achieve
some discipline, share a rather unorthodox intimacy, and learn to ask for
help with your boring chores.
10. Look in the mirror and thank yourself for boredom. Without it, you probably
wouldn't be the energetic, fun-loving, and creative person you are.

A Gemini Woman often feels she just isn't where she'd like to be (wherever that might be). It may help her to
prepare a sort of screenplay that delineates where she is now and where she'd like to be in Act II. When she
compares the two, it'll be easier for her to see what direction she must take to bring reality closer to her desires.
She needs to develop a stronger sense of compassion. She can begin by practicing on herself, and she will
probably find that her skills will flow over into the lives of others in a natural progression. Gemini Women often
have a near overdose of "me," and the following exercises can serve as an antidote.
 1. The next time you feel insensitive or angry with yourself, sit on the floor with
one of your favorite fantasy selves opposite you. Talk to it as if it were you.
Address your positive qualities.
2. When you feel indifferent about a friend, tell her/him why. Then say you
want to learn to reach out; ask your friend to be patient with you, and then
reach out as best you can. Ask if your reaching-out technique is effective. Ask
for help in perfecting it.
3. Confess to a close friend, or even better, to your lover/husband/mate, the
next time you feel really vulnerable. Explain why; ask them if she/he feels this
way sometimes too.
4. Tell your lover/husband/mate what parts of your relationship evoke a feeling
of vulnerability in you. Ask him where he feels vulnerable too. Work on over-
coming these vulnerabilities together.
5. Ask a friend to do something special for you the next time you find yourself
feeling vulnerable in a social situation—a back rub, a hug, a walk in the park,
anything close and personal.
6. Love yourself. Your many positive qualities—helpfulness, cleverness, broad-
mindedness, wittiness, sexiness—make you a very special person, a person who
lights up the lives of many others. You are what you are—it isn't an act or a
facade. Enjoy yourself as others enjoy you.

When the Gemini Woman learns to be accepting of her own nature, tolerant of those not as bright and witty as
she, when she becomes secure in a love relationship with a man who can provide most of what she needs, she can
finally relax. The energy she spends building her house of many gables and wings will not be wasted if at some
point in her life she learns to live in it.

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GEMI\I SLXUALITY
To understand the sexuality of the Gemini Woman, one must first understand the workings of her mind. This is
no small task; it is as labyrinthine as the circuitry of a computer. It is so tied to her complex inner nature that it
seems inseparable from

the total fabric of her life. She is indeed very sexual, uniquely and mysteriously so.
There are various levels of understanding the complexity of the Gemini Woman. There are also infinite
manifestations of the sign. There is probably more variety among Gemini Women than among any of the other
signs.
The Gemini Woman carries with her the search for her other half, the twin part of her. In this search, she flits
from lover to lover, husband to husband, in hopes of finding her elusive "perfect mate," the "someone" who can
satisfy her strong inner needs for identity and wholeness.
For Gemini, sexual fulfillment comes only with mental satisfaction. The Gemini Woman is more interested in IQ
than in genitals. She must be able to respect the intellect, or satisfaction is not possible for her.
She may have many, many affairs and never find her true love. Although her body may be brutalized and her
sensitivities trampled underfoot, she retains a semblance of having never been touched. When, in desperation, she
feels her search is almost hopeless, she looks in the most unlikely places, seeking men who even vaguely match the
mental model. During this phase she may become quite promiscuous.
The Gemini Woman tends to be nervous, restless, and tuned to a very high pitch. The close bond between her
sexuality and her intellect creates an almost neurotic sex drive. Her search for a lover also becomes a search for an
intellectual companion, the lost half of herself. Little wonder that many men find it impossible to understand the
Gemini Woman; she often misunderstands herself.
 In spite of her constant chatter, the many people she draws to her, and her fre-
quent, tragic love affairs, she spends most of her life feeling lonely. She seeks the one perfect mate, an intellectual
and emotional counterpart to rescue her from her lone-
liness. She is trying to achieve the emotional release of her whole being, not just the stimulation of her sexual
anatomy.
Gemini's search gives' her an opportunity to develop numerous close friendships and have many acquaintances.
It can take her on journeys for which she may lack the fortitude, but along the way she picks up much of the vast
knowledge she keeps stored in her head. When and if she decides the search is indeed fruitless, she can relax and
enjoy seeing new places, meeting new people, facing new adventures.
She is prone to withdraw into very private spaces that few other humans can enter. It is here that she
contemplates separation from and loss of her cosmic lover. During such reveries she feels completely alone and
unloved. She spends most of her life looking for what she has lost—a search that is doomed from the start. When
she inevitably gives up the search, she seeks a replacement that can take the form of oblivion. She may attempt to
destroy the sensitivities and longings that fill her soul, to become polished at self-destruction, for she yearns to
return to the cosmos, where her lover waits.
In terms of sexual encounters, the Gemini Woman craves variety. She delights in being taken by surprise when
she least expects it. Steal her away from a wedding reception and take her to the boathouse. She'll love it. She also
likes to be waylaid on the run—on an airplane, in the back seat of a car, in the darkness of the tunnel of love. She
takes pleasure where she finds it.
She is sensory as well as sensual. She likes to see what is going on (a well-placed

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mirror or two). She likes to hear the sounds of love, but don't be too explicit, for she is somewhat a prude at heart.
She likes to have the lights left on because she doesn't want to miss anything. Her bedroom, often as sumptuous as
that of her Taurus sister, will be erotic. Soft lights, romantic music, rich liqueurs—all help to set the stage for her
tempestuous tumbles.
True to the duality of her nature, she is a mixture of opposites. She is open about

her love life, and a constant amazement to her friends as she reveals the innermost details concerning her body and
mind. She enjoys shocking, but at the same time, she craves respectability. Deep within her soul is an iconoclast
who delights in knock-
ing over idols and killing sacred cows. Often her exploits are verbally exaggerated, far surpassing reality.
She has a freedom-loving spirit, but her sex life is often inhibited. She hesitates to try some forms of sex because
she thinks they are distasteful. The physical side of life often is hidden away, even though she enjoys "dirty" talk.
She has an intellectualized concept of sex. After she has snared her male prey, she will often tire of him or, even
worse, be bored. She is not really enthusiastic about an abundance of sex or childbearing. Her interest in the erotic
is largely verbal.
Fantasy is a very big part of sex for the Gemini Woman. The scenario she constructs in her imagination includes
graphic details of the meeting, the chase, the seduction, and the dirty talk during sex. She is a master at this game,
which is just as important to her as the real physical thing.
The idea of sex often motivates her more than the physical act itself; thus, she may appear to chase every man
she meets. She isn't oversexed; she just feels compelled to sample as much variety as she can in her search for the
perfect mate. In fact, it is a variety of sensations and experiences more often than deep feelings and permanent
attachments that drives her to seek so many contacts.
The Gemini Woman is youth-oriented. She often has her most important love affair while she is still very young.
This early imprint colors her future attitudes toward sex and love. Maturity and immaturity go hand in hand. All her
life, the Gemini Woman retains a youthful quality that can be truly beautiful. She simply refuses to give in to the
tradi-
tional idea of old age. She has an eternal air of the little girl lost. This makes her very appealing—what man doesn't
want to rescue a little girl lost in the forest of life?
 She often uses her vast knowledge to eliminate unwanted competition, bringing it to bear on a rival. She
maintains a healthy "one jump ahead" attitude. Often the competition feels the impact of a hit but has literally no
idea whence it came. The Gemini Woman can have an unintentional and unconscious cruel streak. If her search for
a soulmate is frustrated and other factors contribute to her boredom, she can appear to have little if any affection,
ethics, or morals. Her attitude towards sex can become selfish, cool, calculated.
She demands attention to feed her ego. She is not concerned with things that do not directly affect or touch her.
She often has a need to be the center of everything, and her level of interest in a man is high only if he seems to
revolve around her.
Sex with her can be explosive. However, unless it is attractively and effectively pack-
aged and satisfies her seemingly neurotic needs, it will evaporate into the air like a warm breath on a winter day.
Two key words provide a better understanding of Gemini sexuality. One is excite-
ment. Her ever-roving mind, constantly in motion, demands excitement and stimula-
tion. If it is bored, she is bored. The straight missionary position for sex will bore her to tears; she craves the new
and different.
The other key word is integration. Gemini unites sex with a number of her other strong needs, and if deeper,
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sexually unfulfilled. If she can find inward reassurance that the man she is with will at least satisfy some of her
emotional needs, then sex with him will be good, even terrific.
Many a Gemini Woman simply will not have sex with a man unless she feels that her sexual interest is tied to
another interest, a deeper, more lasting, emotional one. Contrary to what many people assume, she is not into sex
for its own sake. Pure

physical joy, so important to her Taurus sister, is not important to the Gemini Woman. She wants more. When she
puts her hand in his pocket, she wants more than to feel his genitals; she wants attention, security, companionship.
A Gemini acquaintance of mine has one of the most virile, attractive husbands in town. When her friends
comment on his good looks and appealing aura, she is the first to admit that he's attractive; she also is the first to
point out that there is more to him than his beautiful surface. She has even been known to wonder aloud why other
women, and men, only seem to see the perfection of his body and face.

Early Sex Experiences

Curiosity marks Gemini as a child and young adult. She wants to know what is happening behind her parents'
closed bedroom door and is likely to peek at one time or another. She is curious about the anatomy of her
playmates and may explore that realm during childhood games.
A precocious child has sexual experiences early in life. She also tends to fall in love very early on. Her crushes
often blossom into full-fledged love affairs, on her part at least. She ties much of her emotional life into this first
relationship, and the imprint is lifelong.
If she is overly criticized or chastised for her mad crushes, either by a parent or an older brother or sister, this too
can have a lasting detrimental effect on her life. If she suffers disapproval at an early age in her search for a
soulmate, the disapproval can manifest itself over the years and become guilt when, as an adult, she continues and
enlarges her quest.
She tends to be a highly emotional child and will run the emotional gamut more quickly than most. She has
difficulty sticking with a single feeling. Fantasy plays an important part in her early development. She may have
imaginary playmates with whom she engages in some pretty wild and far-out sexual activities. She has an ability to
construct long, complex stories of the perfect love and act them out in the safety and privacy of her own room. Her
fear of putting these fantasies into action often has a bearing on her sexual actualization later on in life.
Usually by her twentieth year, the Gemini Woman has received the imprint for her sexual development and will
 seldom deviate from it. True to the rest of her devel-
opment, however, she can be as varied in her tastes for sex as she is in her personality.
Whatever her sexual orientation, she still pursues the ever-elusive lost part of her-
self. She seeks a mirror image from which to learn. She would be happiest if she could clone herself into an
identical twin so that she could observe her actions more closely and accurately.

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Love and Sex

After a youthful period in which she generally falls completely, head-over-heals in love, the Gemini Woman
refines her ardor and begins to learn how to use love. She can then fall for an ideal or idea, but often not with the
man who shares her bed. It sometimes seems that she reiects love hecalise it is tnn nainf1 1 anti

sensitive nature. She prefers to use it. Sex becomes mechanized and offers little more than a nervous release.
Sex and love are almost synonymous for the Gemini Woman. They both become means to an end. In her cool
and calculating way, the Gemini Woman learns to invest little emotion in the act of loving. She will often give her
body but not her heart.
To separate sex from love, she needs to analyze more carefully her motivations for getting involved with a man.
If she can learn that there is nothing inherently wrong in sharing sex to actualize a fantasy, acknowledging the
experience as such, she can also learn to recognize the difference between fantasy sex and love sex.
The Gemini Woman's mind is her principal erogenous zone. She can be sexually turned on by talk and completely
turned off by silent sex. The zipless fuck in Fear of Flying was invented for a Gemini Woman. Besides erotic talk,
her sexual desire can be heightened by word games in her palm, kisses on her rib cage, tracing the lines of her pelvic
structure, and a gentle kneading of her breasts.
She is not often patient in her sexual advances. She can become the aggressor and let her sexual needs be known.
She is expert at doing two things at once—performing fellatio while giving one of the most complete buttocks
massages he's ever had, for example.
Her restless mind and her endless curiosity are always seeking more satisfaction from sex. She is open to
experimentation and is interested in kinky sex toys and assorted vibrators and stimulators. Her "variety is the spice
of life" attitudes are very apparent in her sexual nature.
Her sexual response pattern in intercourse seems to be the following:

1. Teasing, exciting, and raising the atmosphere to a fever pitch; delaying and
talking or smoking to further the sexual anticipation.
2. When the moment is right for her, quick and complete involvement, no holds
barred.
3. Explosive, verbal orgasm.
4. Quick cooling of passion; little affection, small talk well into the night; gig-
gling, running to the kitchen for something to drink, great need for affection.
For Gemini, once is enough in terms of intercourse.

What Kind of Lover She Needs

The Gemini Woman needs a man who can give her his undivided attention, who will talk until the wee hours
about every subject under the sun, who will express himself gutturally, have a quick sexual encounter, and then
forget about it. Of course, he should also be knowledgeable, informative, intellectual, entertaining, companion-
able, a true friend, and comfortably wealthy.
The Gemini Woman likes variety in sex. If she can't find it in one man, she will probably look for it wherever it
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if he wants exclusivity. He should like mutual oral sex, shouldn't be averse to mutual anal sex (she can be real mean
with a dildo), and should be ready for any other variation the fertile Gemini mind can imagine. If she wants to
nibble on his nipples or massage his pectorals, he should be receptive. She knows how to stimulate a man, and he
may never have experienced such a master. If he's open to experimentation with her, he must also be open to her
experimentation with him.

She also needs a man with whom she feels comfortable and can relax. If the man is as high-strung and nervous
as she, chances for meaningful sex are almost nil. Both will have a tendency to fly over the moon before getting
down to the nitty-gritty. Gemini's man must know when to direct the playing into definitive sexual intercourse. She
enjoys continued stimulation in all the same places during intercourse; it helps if he is octopuslike and extremely
agile.
Her man must develop a high tolerance for attempts to make him jealous. She will often form platonic
friendships with other men for the sole purpose of testing her mate/lover. The more jealous he becomes, the more
she thinks he loves her. He needs to wean her from this tactic by providing adequate proof in other ways. To avoid
frustration, he should only allow his jealousy to surface occasionally. However, if he totally ignores her and doesn't
provide feedback, she is apt to leave because she feels bored. She likes some fireworks in her relationships on the
sexual level. Her man can take her aside at a party and say, "Your flirting with other men is getting me so aroused
that I'm having difficulty concentrating on polite conversation." This will often send her sexual anticipation soaring,
and she'll probably begin moving towards the door.
There is really no one stereotype to which Gemini's man must conform. She can tease, coax, and excite the best
sexual performance out of any male, from the macho type to the very effeminate. This is her specialty, and she
seldom fails to arouse even the most impassive of men. In fact, she sometimes enjoys a man she can dominate
physically and emotionally; this seems to feed her sadistic streak.
The only criterion she steadfastly applies is that the man be her intellectual equal. She constantly tests his
intellect, for she believes that no one is really on the same level as she is. She enjoys worthy competition and would
probably be more interested in sex if she thought it a real challenge. She is firm in her knowledge that if she loses
an argument in the living room, she'll win it back in the bedroom. It takes shrewdness and understanding on the part
of her man to even halfway control her antics.
Once the Gemini Woman has turned off her emotions, she shows little sympathy for the weaknesses of others.
She can easily assume the dominatrix role. Her seem-
ingly natural cruelty and feeling of intellectual superiority make it easy for her to assume the role of the S&M
mistress. If a man wants to be dominated and have his emotions walked on, the Gemini Woman can fill the bill.
Gemini's basic fantasy casts her in the role of star performer before a large audi-
ence. She holds everyone spellbound by her speaking ability, acting, and talented performances of life. Just as she
has the audience firmly in the palm of her hand, she picks out those she wants to experience as sexual partners.
Then, as the television cameras record it all for posterity, she undresses her favorites and chooses the very best to
have sex with right then and there. Of course, true to her nature, the perfor-
mance is followed by thunderous and never-ending applause (rather a female Tom Jones, captured on videotape
forever!).
She needs a man who can help her actualize the practical parts of her fantasies, since she often has trouble acting
on the stage she sets in her mind. She really wants some of these fantasies to become realities, and she needs a man
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to help her work through them. He won't have to purchase expensive perfumes, designer clothes, or exotic floral
extravaganzas; she actually prefers simple permanent press and clean-smelling essences of lemon and pine. He
does, however, need to respect the images of her mind as it ceaselessly creates new and different scenes for their
mutual discovery and enjoyment.
Above all, Gemini needs a man who can dispel the abject loneliness she often feels.

tsy the time she is in her mid-twenties, she has experienced more than most people feel in a lifetime, and she can
join Peggy Lee in saying, "Is that all there is?"
Gemini is often left with a tremendous void that all the variations of sex, all the intellectual games, and all the
wanderings of her travel-weary imagination cannot possibly fill. The man who provides this fulfillment must first
be fully aware of himself, confident about his own nature and his life pattern; then he must be willing to spend the
necessary time to help her find the lost part of herself.
The soulmate she seems forever seeking is often standing within her, patiently awaiting her final discovery—that
what one often wants the most, craves the most, and spends the most time looking for is within oneself. Her man
can help her focus her attention inward to see what she has thus far missed. He needs to be her friend and her sex
partner, all rolled into one.

What She Needs to Learn

It is the rare Gemini Woman who finds the perfect mate, and she must be aware of the near impossibility of her
search. Until she understands herself, she will be victimized by her own dreams. She will end up a lonely and bitter
person as she flits from romance to romance (in her searching state of mind, "toad to toad" may be more like it) in
search of her Prince Charming. She must learn to accept the men in her life as they are, not as she would like them
to be.
This is not to say that she should give up her search, but only that she must learn quickly to recognize the man
she really wants. She must gain the patience to look for him and wait for him constructively. She should not allow
societal scorn to daunt her. She has to develop a thick skin in dealing with those people who would force her into a
Cancerian mold—the place most women are put by traditional society.
Being a Gemini Woman requires a lot of strength, for she consumes prodigious energy while pursuing her many
adventures and following her impulses to their nat-
ural conclusions. The stakes are high and the risks great, but the prize is a pot of gold at the end of her personal
rainbow; if it pays off, the reward is well worth the risk.
The Gemini Woman often gives herself too quickly. She needs to slow down and discover whether her current
attraction is really worth the emotional investment. She needs to hold back until she falls in love. Often, since her
judgments are so swift, she would do better to postpone a decision until she has given a man the chance to reveal
his inner nature. She intuitively knows what she is looking for, and the man she is currently pursuing may himself
be looking for the perfect mate while hiding behind the dominant Leo image that seems to be in vogue in America
at this time.
She needs to learn respect for the intelligence of others. Often her acid wit will be remembered long after she has
forgotten how she used it on someone. Minds work differently. Gemini, ruled by Mercury, moves as swiftly as
quicksilver. By contrast, the Taurus mind moves with the force of an earthquake. She needs to see the effective-

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ness of both approaches and understand that the intellect of any developed person is capable of great thought. She
will notice a sharp rise in her own stock as she begins treating others as intellectual equals.
She has a tendency to pick losers in love affairs. She must begin to ask herself objectively a dual question: What
can this man give me, and what can I give him in return? Only if there is mutual need and mutual benefit can any
relationship work.

Too often, the Gemini Woman takes what is available and tries to wring, squeeze, tease, hint, beg, steal, or force
 what she wants from it—and this is especially true of sexual/romantic affairs. At the same time, she rarely gives
much of herself or expects him to, either. This can retard her personal growth and lead to complete disaster both in
business and in love.
Her nervous sexual energy can be channeled into a creative outlet, be it a new interior for her home or a business
where she can utilize her many-faceted person-
ality. Frustration and anger get in her way too often. She needs to learn to release and express these emotions
constructively. Since she can verbalize so well, she should perhaps join groups where she can learn about the
sources of anger and frustration and see how others, perhaps her astrological sisters, cope with their problems.
Above all she must learn self-control. If she allows her natural tendencies free rein, she is courting disaster. She
must put distance between herself and the way she sees herself. This will enable her to perceive what her life is
really like and how she can change it. She must put brakes on her mind, or it will run away, aimless, careening off
various stimuli it encounters along the way, never attaching itself to anything. Once she has tamed that wild
stallion, she will be in a better position to understand her true nature and do something about it. How she deals with
her inner self will determine a great deal about how she deals with sex and relationships.

GEMINI ANGER
On the surface, the Gemini Woman appears to have a very good understanding of her anger. She is often verbally
expressive and direct with it. She is vocal about most of life's irritations, even to the point of being a chronic
complainer. She may even wear her anger with pride. She is capable of deriding her closest friends and con-
demning her strongest supporters if they do not conform to her expectations. She has a streak of cruelty that is
virtually unparalleled in other signs—and she has the words to express it, too. She is often viewed with awe because
of her ability to "put people in their places." She is, however, totally unenlightened about the origin and
appropriateness of her anger, and also about the impact it has on her and others.
The Gemini Woman's greatest difficulty is in compassionately understanding life. She rarely empathizes with
another person's plight. She can be at once the most intellectual, the most creative, and the most unfeeling of
women.
Where does this lead her? She will insist on rational, logical explanations for all her emotional reactions. She
may get so out of touch with her feelings that she becomes a habitual complainer: her husband is completely
inattentive; her office ma-
chines are always broken down; her daughter never does what she tells her to do. She is rarely satisfied with her lot
in life and will tell everyone about her dissatisfaction. If she isn't careful, she can become the stereotypical whiner.
We often equate the verbal expression of anger with an understanding of it. Ver-
balizing, however, can be an intellectual response to a very important emotion. Often people harangue others
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to avoid the root causes of their anger. They are afraid to change, to risk the vulner-
ability of feedback about their own behavior and attitudes. As a result, they become habitual nags or fighters and
always project their rage. This rage is really self-hate. Eventually, the situation becomes chronic, they are no longer
able to feel any emotion. In this case, the constant verbal barrage serves only to deaden their emo-
tional being. It is an unhealthy, unproductive method of coping with life's challenges.

Accepting feedback, even angry feedback, is one of the most important challenges for a Gemini Woman.
Gemini can be intensely jealous. Her friends' successful relationships, their beau-
tiful homes, their money in the bank, can all drive her into an internal frenzy. She will bury her jealousy under
seething frustration and cover it with sweet words that totally deny its existence. She will then manipulate her
interactions with others so she never has to expose this facet of her personality.
Even with her jealousy carefully masked, her anger will build until she can no longer deny it. It is usually then
that she drops her guard and allows others to see her true feelings. Since Gemini tends to forget emotional
exchanges, she totally for-
gets what she says during her tirades. She is incapable of owning up to any of her negative feelings.
She must deal with the issues of control and manipulation most of her life. No matter how good a job she or a co-
worker has done, she will complain about imper-
fections or even invent them if need be. She becomes increasingly difficult to satisfy as she grows older. She will
harbor resentment towards those who stand in her way. She covers her true feelings with light, caustic bantering,
and they can then only emerge in the form of outbursts. She can be set off by an insignificant slight or provoked
into a rampage by a mere look. She usually keeps her cool through the most trying emergencies. Later, after the
crisis has passed, all those involved will be torn apart for their failures. You can never predict what will touch off
her anger.
The Gemini Woman avoids having anger directed at her. She plays all kinds of mind games to avoid
confrontations. She fears that her anger can give someone else power over her, and she needs to feel that she is
always in control. If someone gets angry with her, she will insist that she is right in spite of logic, facts, or
eyewitness reports. She never feels she deserves such harsh treatment.
Her anger takes many forms. Unlike the Aries Woman, who can enjoy a good fight with someone, the Gemini
Woman wants to be the one to do all the fighting. She expects you to sit by and take her verbal haranguing. How
dare you talk back to her! She can recall a time three years ago when you were blatantly wrong, and she'll even use
that as ammunition. Her style may vary from direct to elusive, but the basic ingredients are detached coldness and
cruel, self-righteous monologues. She does not want to hear what others have to say—they're wrong anyhow!
Since she can be so blind to the feelings and motivations of others, she may think she has just put you in your
place when in fact nothing she said has the remotest connection to you or to the issue at hand. At other times, her
perceptions may be so acute that she'll shred your self-esteem. She will then walk away and let someone else repair
the damage. Later, confronted with her insensitivity, she will forget all about the disagreement and deny it ever
happened. You're either mistaken or exaggerating. Consciously or not, Gemini can be amazingly deceitful. She is
aware of what she has done in every instance; she simply refuses to take responsibility for her actions. All is
"forgotten" until the next time you cross her—when she will lay the same trip on you all over again.
One Gemini Woman with whom I am acquainted shares a business with her hus-
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often says, "Go ahead and do it your way—all I know is, the way I want it done has worked before, and if you want
to be a jerk about it, go ahead." Now, logic like that is hard to understand, but it prevails in most of her arguments.
She can be an in-
credibly cold-blooded woman in her moments of anger, calling attention to all her husband's shortfalls in this
particular business; and always, without fail, she brings his forgetfulness into the picture and derides him for it.
Later, it is impossible to tell that

an argument or a battle has occurred. Her demeanor suddenly becomes sweet, ngnt, and thoughtful, and her pleasant
banter with customers again shines with wit and cleverness.
Paradoxically, the Gemini Woman views emotion as a messy and unnecessary com-
plication in most people's lives. She prides herself on her control. She also forgets within hours any loss of control
that may occur. She rarely has an accurate picture of herself; her self-image is very blurred. One of the greatest
mistakes you can make is to criticize or attempt to control her actions. She feels she has the intelligence to
call all the shots. You may be bright, but you can't hold a candle to her.
She often exaggerates her self-confidence and is not nearly as sure of herself as she seems. She masks her
vulnerability because she equates it with a flaw in character or with weakness. She can cry easily, but the
circumstances must be right; she will only do so when the nervous tension is too great for her to contain herself any
longer.
She will also cry when she knows she has lost something of real value to her—her job, for example. She always
wants to be the one to end things. If you try to usurp her self-ordained prerogative, she will be devastating in her
campaign to correct your obvious error in judgment.
 She can be exceedingly cold and withdrawn. If she does not like or respect you, she can be totally
uncooperative. This is especially harmful if she is in business or is self-employed. The thing that makes her most
angry is incompetence. She has a very low level of tolerance for most things. Failure to carry your share of the load
is another sore point with her. She will often overload subordinates with work to test them, and if they dare slip up
or drop the ball, she will lose faith in their abilities quite quickly.
Gemini uses her anger to control, to cover up, to manipulate. Of all the signs of the Zodiac, she is most aware of
and concerned about her anger. She can easily become hysterical. She and her mate may very well fight daily. She
abhors physical violence but is not averse to using it if she is pressed. She sometimes retreats into "I'm just a lost
little girl" when her husband's rage threatens her. Ten minutes later, she'll attack from yet another angle.
Thus the Gemini Woman needs to consciously stand back and observe her own actions. She must learn to apply
the rule "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" until it becomes habit.
Gemini, you should be aware of the constructive side of anger:

1. It can catalyze stagnant situations.

2. It can motivate others to think.
3. It indicates feeling and depth of feeling.
4. It can be a very up-front, direct approach to letting someone know you are
displeased.
5. It can clear the air among people.
6. It can indicate a need for more sharing and dialogue.

Anger is a real energy and has to be expelled from the solar plexus, from the diaphragm, before rational
discussion of problems can happen. If it stays trapped within the physical body, it creates illness, disease, and even
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term. The Gemini Woman is particularly susceptible to stress and nervous-system problems; thus, she shouldn't
bottle up emotions at all. Her emotional body needs to be synchronized with her physical body. It needs expression
through the physical body in healthy, loving ways. The following are positive ways of displaying anger and
transforming it into a gesture of love:

1. Do not expect another to change with its expression.

2. Do not blame or put the onus of change on another.
3. Share responsibility for the expression of frustration and anger.
4. Do not use anger to hurt or punish others.
5. Admit that anger is self-directed and that its expression creates positive
change.

The key to the loving expression of anger is compassion—compassion for ourselves and all others involved.
The Gemini Woman, more than any other, understands the need for freedom, for making her own decisions.
When she overcomes her need to manipulate and control situations, she will also be a shining example for others to
follow.
Gemini, here are some hints that will help you deal with anger as a true emotion:

1. Be compassionate with yourself and with others.

2. Laugh. Humor provides detachment and release.
 3. Cry when you need to; don't let it get to the point where your tears are like
a raging, rain-swollen river sweeping along a path of self-destruction.
4. Develop a sense of human detachment to better understand your own feel-
ings and motivations.
5. When discussing problems, stick to the specifics. Don't bring things into such
exchanges that don't belong there.
6. Do not let others' expression of anger threaten you.
7. Do not assume responsibility for the actions of others so readily.
8. Find a healthy physical activity to release tension and small amounts of anger.
9. Accept your own anger; share it without blaming anyone for it.
10. Polish your ability to hear your partner nonjudgmentally.
11. Do not assume confrontation.
12. Let your intimates know your habitual reactions. If they are in the dark about
how you react, they won't know how to avoid causing negative responses.
13. Use anger to connect with other people. Don't retreat and wait until it sub-
sides before interacting with those who cause it. Share your good feelings
after expressing anger positively.
14. Be rational, and respect the individuality of others.
15. Make feeling statements, not intellectual statements, about your anger. If you
can express your joy at a beautiful sunset, you can express your anger at an
insensitive boss, mate, child, parent, in-law, friend.

GEMINI LIFESTYLES
The free spirit and dual nature of the Gemini Woman largely determine the varied aspects of her lifestyle. She
can be the stereotypical nagging wife, the corporate vice-

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president, the dutiful wife and mother, or the seasoned jet-setter. Then again, she can be, or try to be, all of the
above at once.
Things are changing in our culture, and the Gemini Woman likes nothing better than change. She is often the
vanguard of liberation on her block, and her powerful verbal support for any movement can often enlarge various
subcultures—for she can make things seem so glamorous that others can't wait to get involved and have fun

too.
She often has a deep-seated loneliness that propels her from place to place, person to person, experience to
experience. Her seemingly unending search for her other half requires that she embrace many different people from
many different walks of life. After all, she can't be sure where she'll find what she's looking for.
Her cleverness and wit draw people to her, and she often becomes a sort of un-
official "cult" leader for her large circle of friends. Her lack of intimacy, however, dictates that many of the
relationships she enters are doomed to a short, if exciting, life.
She often shares interests with many different people. Her extroverted nature and outward self-confidence,
coupled with her vast knowledge and worldliness, often in-
spire people she comes in contact with. They may think that if she can learn about communes, open marriage, and
other alternatives, so can they. By sharing their knowledge, many Gemini Women have spurred enlightened friends
to try new and different techniques with their mates and intimates. For example, she'll probably be the one to
suggest injecting sexual toys into an otherwise fairly dull sex life. Her happy-go-lucky attitude may even cause her
women friends to consider an affair if their marriages are dull and lack growth.
 Her attitude is often somewhat devil-may-care, and if her teenage daughter or son comes to her asking for advice
about their first intimate experiences, she will be more excited than cautionary. She is completely up to date on the
latest safe sex informa-
tion, and may even casually leave a copy of Suzi Landolphi's Hot, Sexy and Safer or Sari Locker's Mindblowing
Sex in the Real World in her teenager's bathroom. She'll usually be very proud of her children who choose to fly in
the face of traditional society to find happiness. She knows that her own search has been long and often difficult,
and she'll be apt to give them advice and "lessons learned" stories to help them avoid the pitfalls she has
encountered.
The Gemini Woman sometimes embraces so many different lifestyles and habits that she perfects none. It would
behoove her to spend a little more time in each different environment she enters; perhaps she could then enhance
the lives of those she encounters there.
We are beginning a new decade with some new values and ideals; we are now moving away from remote
government leadership, from nuclear, close-knit, small fam-
ilies, from the depersonalization that has occurred at an alarming rate for the past twenty years. The turmoil of the
1960s was a terrific inspiration to the Gemini Woman. It almost seems that it was tailored to her windy mind. The
1970s should have been a time to reflect on the changes begun in the previous decade, but she, like so many,
wanted it to be just as exciting.
The beginning of a new decade is like wiping the slate clean, and this fresh start appeals to the Gemini Woman.
She needs to reflect on her "personal past decades," to see patterns and shortcomings. This is a time for her to grow
and settle down in her mind. It provides her a perfect opportunity to realize, and to admit to herself, that the other
half of her isn't likely to be found in someone else. She should re-
evaluate her methodology and look to herself for more appropriate solutions to her aloneness.

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Alternative Lifestyles

SINGLE WOMAN/INTIMATE NETWORKS: Gemini often marries young, choosing as a husband someone she
idealizes. She often marries more than once since it takes superior talent to keep her from boredom. Being single
may outwardly appeal to her

as a lifestyle offering freedom from routine, with nobody to answer to. Inwardly, however, her sense of aloneness is
magnified when she's single. This may propel her into yet another marriage for many of the same wrong reasons
that motivated her previously. She must learn to create excitement in her life, to bring out the playfulness in her
lovers and mates constructively.

OPEN MARRIAGE: This arrangement is possibly the best solution to her need for excitement and change. She
doesn't handle jealousy very well, which can cause prob-
lems with this lifestyle, but her commitment to a primary relationship can actually enhance the philosophy of open
marriage. In an aboveboard, honest marriage, trust is an absolute necessity. If she is realistic in her expectations,
she can be trusting enough to allow her mate the freedom this lifestyle offers. So long as she doesn't think that each
man she encounters in this arrangement is Mr. Right, she'll do fine. It may even be a place for her to learn that
getting to know someone often eliminates the superficial boredom that plagues her.

MENAGE A TROIS: The Gemini Woman commands, and often demands, center stage. She adores being adored.
If she enters into a ménage a trois, it better be with two people who have the same goal in mind: exciting, pleasing,
and satisfying her. She can be very alluring and stimulating and will have no problem dazzling two people at once,
but the nature of this concept dictates three people sharing each other and a common sexual experience. She's long
on having experiences but needs to work on her compassion—both for herself and for others.
COMMUNAL LIVING: The communal experience can be an exciting and fulfilling one for the Gemini Woman.
First of all, however, the commune must encompass many, many people. She has a tendency to go through groups
like a twister cuts across Kansas. She can provide much stimulation, excitement, and pioneering spirit for com-
munes; she can elicit wit and cleverness from almost anyone. She has a definite knack for making people try harder.
Before she can be truly successful in this living arrange-
ment, she must learn to relax and develop consistency in her habits. The Gemini Woman tends to drop the ball
regularly out of boredom or in favor of something a little more exciting and glamorous. Dependability, however, is
a mainstay of group living experiences, and each person must carry her/his load. Gemini must also learn to control
her manipulative powers, since they are often at the root of disharmony among her friends.

GAY/BISEXUAL LIFESTYLE: For a number of reasons, this particular lifestyle ap-

peals to the Gemini Woman. It remains one of the more controversial of all the alternative lifestyles, and this fact
alone is enough to pique her curiosity. Often un-
derground, this lifestyle requires considerable communication between people to gather and spread trends. She
loves talking and communicating with people she doesn't know, and the close-knit nature of gay communities
furnishes an excellent arena for her performances. The difficulty she often has with other women can be a

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problem here, and she will have to develop a much higher level of self-respect and compassion to survive.

SUMMING UP G1MINI

The Gemini Woman is indeed one of the most exciting women in the world. She has many, many positive traits
that are often overshadowed by her insecurity and by the search for her elusive soulmate, her other half. She
contains all the essential elements of a happy and evolved woman. Too often these parts are scattered and strewn
about, much like the windblown seeds of the cottonwood tree.
"Getting it together"; "Self-improvement"; "Working it out"—all are concepts the Gemini Woman naturally
rejects because they sound tedious and boring. She needs to find joy in the mundane, to learn that the repetition of
patterns provides the consistency necessary for growth.
When the Gemini Woman clears her life of illusion and stops living in the darkness of fantasy, she emerges with
the brilliance, speed, and grace of a shooting star.