Teen Abuse Leaflet

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If you are worried that you or your friends may be in an

abusive relationship, this leaflet can help you.
What is abuse and why is
it important to me?
Every minute in the UK, the
Police receive a call for help
with relationship abuse.
Relationship abuse is when someone
hurts or upsets someone else that
they are in a relationship with. Some
people think it only happens in adult
relationships, but it can happen at
any age. Usually, women and girls are
the victims and men and boys are the
abusers but it can happen to boys as
well. It can also happen in same sex
relationships.
One study found that 25% of girls

and 18% of boys had been physically
abused and 75% of girls and 50% of
boys had suffered emotional abuse.
The study also found that sexual
violence happened to one in three
girls and one in six of boys.
Relationship abuse can
include:
Emotional abuse
• Constant insults and name calling
• Isolation from your friends and family
• Controlling what you wear/where you go
• Checking up on you all the time (checking
emails, texts, social networking sites etc)
• Making you feel responsible for the abuse
Physical abuse
• Hitting, punching, pushing, biting, kicking,
using weapons etc
Sexual abuse
• Forcing you to have sex
• Unwanted kissing or touching
• Being made to watch pornography against
your will
• Pressure not to use contraception
Financial abuse
• Taking/controlling your money
• Forcing you to buy them things
• Forcing you to work or not to work
Warning signs
You may feel or experience some of the
things in the list below, or you might
notice them in your friends:
• Depression and anxiety

• Isolation from family and friends
• Not doing so well at school or college
• Argumentative
• Fearful
• Concerns about making your/their
boyfriend or girlfriend angry
• Physical signs such as bruises
• Use of drugs and alcohol
• Frequent cancelling of plans
• Changes in appearance
• Sexual risk taking
What should i do?
If you are worried about your
relationship:
• Remember it is not your fault and there is

support to help you.
• Talk to friends, family and trusted adults
about what is happening to you.
• Think about safe places you know that you
can go to.
• Keep your mobile charged at all times so you
can ring the police or emergency services if
you need to.
• Have a code word that will let your friends
and family know if you need help.
• Make sure you don’t go anywhere on
your own.
• If you are being harassed by calls on your
mobile, try to change your phone number.
• If you are getting emails or instant messages
that are abusive, you should save them or
print them for evidence to give to the police if
you choose to report it. You can also change
your email address.
If someone tells you they are
in an abusive relationship:
It can be very hard to talk about abuse
and it can also be hard to support
someone. Make sure you look after
yourself as well as them.
Here are some tips for ways to talk
about this:
• If you want to approach them, do it in a

sensitive way, such as ‘I am worried about
you because....’
• Don’t judge them, believe them.
• Let them know they are not alone, that it is
not their fault and that you know how hard it
can be to speak about.
• Help them to recognise that what is
happening is unacceptable and that they
don’t have to put up with it.
• Decide together what to do – this can
involve making a safety plan.
• Think up a code word that your friend can
use on the phone to let you know they need
help and agree what you will do if you get
a call.
• Make a list of all the great things about your
friend to help improve their confidence.
• Be patient. Ending a relationship can be
hard for anyone, but particularly for
someone who is being abused.
Who can I talk to?
Find an adult you trust, it can be
anyone; for example a teacher, a parent,
a relative, a youth worker or a doctor.
See the next page for some telephone

numbers and websites. Professionals know
that violence and abuse in relationships is
wrong and will know how to help and access
support safely. If you are worried about a
friend, even if they ask you not to tell anyone,
it is ok to tell an adult if you are worried
about their safety.
Where can I get help?
In an emergency, call police on
999 for immediate help
ChildLine – 0800 1111 – www.childline.org.uk

You can speak to a counsellor either on the phone or online.
The number is free and will not come up on your phone bill.
The interactive website contains contact details and information if
you’re concerned about issues that matter to you.
NSPCC – 0808 800 5000

A confidential number for children and young people.
This is free on landlines and on most mobile phones.
National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247

This is a free 24 hour number. It is usually for over 18s but they
maybe able to help you if you are over 16.
Get Connected – 0808 808 4994

This is a free number for young people that gives you the support
and information you need to decide what you want to do next.
The Hideout – www.thehideout.org.uk

A website which helps children and young people to understand
domestic abuse, and how to take positive action if it is happening
to you.
Respect Not Fear – www.respectnotfear.co.uk

This website contains information about respect in relationships.
It will help you think about disrespectful or unhealthy behaviour in
relationships and gives you information to help you make decisions
about this.
Respect 4 Us – www.respect4us.org.uk
This website will teach you about respect, responsibility, and vio-
lence. It also gives you the opportunity to find out some important
questions:
“Where can young people who experience sexual violence go for
advice and support?”
“How long do you think a boy will wait to have sex with a girl?”
“What turns a girl on? What turns a girl off?”
Find the answer to these questions and many more on this site.
Rape Crisis – www.rapecrisis.org.uk

This website contains advice about rape and sexual violence
and gives the details of the nearest Rape Crisis Centre if you
need support.
Relationship abuse can happen to anyone.

Remember – it is never your fault and you never
have to deal with it on your own.

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If you are worried that you or your friends may be in an

One study found that 25% of girls

• Depression and anxiety

• Remember it is not your fault and there is

• If you want to approach them, do it in a

See the next page for some telephone

ChildLine – 0800 1111 – www.childline.org.uk

NSPCC – 0808 800 5000

National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247

Get Connected – 0808 808 4994

The Hideout – www.thehideout.org.uk

Respect Not Fear – www.respectnotfear.co.uk

Rape Crisis – www.rapecrisis.org.uk

Relationship abuse can happen to anyone.

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