Counselling Session
Counselling Session
Counselling Session
dela Cruz
Benguet State University Graduate School
GC 207-Counseling Techniques
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Counseling Script
Counselor: Hi Bart! Good morning, how are you today? (Open Ended
Question)
Counselee: Good morning too. I’m so busy today.
Counselor: Oh, that’s great! It seems that you are overwhelmed with lot
of work. (Sharing Observation)
Counselee: You’re right, I have to wake up early in the morning to open
our canteen then helping my wife afterwards until 7:00 pm. Aside from
that, I have to perform my duty at Bukal Life office as part time
counselor and staff every Wednesdaythen doing my task in our church,
like visitation and sometimes counseling to the member at night and
prepare a message every Saturday night for Sunday service and lessons
to all my bible study every week end and midweek service. In addition to
that, I have to finish my studies every Saturday and accomplish very
requirements given.
Counselor: How do you feel doing such a lot of works at the same time?
(Open Ended Question)
Counselee: (a moment of pause) you’re right! I feel tired and exhausted
physically as well as emotionally.
Counselor: Mnnn! If you don’t mind, would you want to tell me more
about your emotional tiredness? (Focusing Question)
Counselee: Well, I can easily endure physical tiredness because when I
take a rest my tiredness is over, while my emotional tiredness is not that
easy to vanish.
Counselor: I’m just wondering how affected you are when one of your
leave your church. Have you experienced to be left by someone whom
you love when you are a child? (Focusing question)
Counselee: as far as I remember there is none yet.
Counselor: How about the children older than you? (Focusing Question)
Counselee: Sometimes, I play with them, but most of the time I prefer to
be with my playmates who are younger than me because I want to be
their leader or boss. I enjoy matching them into a boxing fight, and I am
the referee. Then if I commanded them to do something they will follow
my order.
Counselor: What do you mean by saying “you are not used to it”?
(Clarification)
Counselee: I am not used to encounter opposition since my childhood. I
grew up in a small family where oppositions are very minimal because
we obey the order of our parents faithfully. And also my order follows by
my two sisters.
Counselor: would you want to tell me how would you convince them?
(Open ended Question)
Counselee: By encouraging them to settle the issue. If the issue is
between me and the member, I am the one who gave way and ask sorry
just to settle the conflict issue so that the member will stay in the church.
Counselor: I have noticed that you are doing everything just to control
them not to leave you and maintain a good relationship in your church. Is
that accurate? (Clarification)
Counselee: yeah!
Counselor: You look like a superman to me, a care taker, trying to fix
everything in order to control them. (Feedback)
Counselee: (pause….smile) mmmm, Maybe.
Counselor: did you please them all the time? (Reflecting)
Counselee: No
Counselor: What happen to those who are not pleased and satisfied?
(Reflecting)
Counselee: They left.
Counselor: If God granted your wishes regarding this issue, what will be
happening that is different? (Miracle Question)
Counselee: I would be a happy and effective pastor to my congregation.
Counselor: So, your issue is you are being hurt, disappointed and plan to
quit because of 20% member are unsupportive and easily leave the
church. However, you still have 80% who are supportive to you.
(Summarizing)
Counselee: That is why, I still persistent to continue the ministry.
Counselor: then what are you doing now to solve your issue?
(Presuppositional Question)
Counselee: Maybe, I have to accept the reality that I cannot please
everyone, and control their decision because they have their own
decision. Maybe, I have to be happy because I become part of their life
journey before they parted and walk into other direction that God put
them to walk.
Counselor: Is there anything else that you can do aside from acceptance
of your limitations?
Counselee: Well, I have to identify my limitations and learn how to put
boundaries to protect myself and my rights. Then learn to identify what
hurts me to so that I can prevent the pain.
REALITY THERAPY
Counselor: Ok, the next time we met, I will follow you up regarding that
commitment you made how you improve your issues. (Setting Follow
ups)
Counselee: Sure.