Republic of the Philippines

DEPARTMENT OF EDUCATION
Region I
Schools Division Office I Pangasinan
Pangasinan National High School
Lingayen, Pangasinan

Personal Development
Personal Relationships
Quarter 2 - Week 1 – Module 1

Prepared by:

Ark Daniel D. Quibuyen, T-II

 Lesson 1: Personal Relationships

What I Need to Know (Learning Objectives)

1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions
2. Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love and commitment

What’s New?
RELATIONSHIPS
The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal relationships refer
to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often
grow from and are strengthened by mutual experiences.
Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from
them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and social support. In our model there are three
kinds of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships, but this varies
greatly from person to person

Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built upon mutual
experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding. Friends are able to turn to each other in
times of need.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between two people that are
built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We usually experience this kind of relationship
with only one person at a time.

WHY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE IMPORTANT

Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and wellbeing. There is compelling
evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Conversely, the health
risks from being alone or isolated in one's life are comparable to the risks associated with cigarette
smoking, blood pressure, and obesity.

Research shows that healthy relationships can help you: · Be healthier

· Live longer. · Feel richer.
· Deal with stress.

On the other hand, low social support is linked to a number of health consequences,
such as:
· Depression.
· Decreased immune function.
· Higher blood pressure.

According to psychiatrists Jacqueline Olds and Richard Schwartz, social alienation is an

inevitable result of contemporary society's preoccupation with materialism and frantic "busy-ness." Their
decades of research support the idea that a lack of relationships can cause multiple problems with
physical, emotional, and spiritual health. The research is clear and devastating: isolation is fatal.
NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Connect with your family

One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life. But Blue
Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the world all have something in
common: they put their families first. Family support can provide comfort, support, and even influence
better health outcomes while you are sick.
Practice gratitude
Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendships and intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that expressing gratitude toward a partner
can strengthen the relationship, and this positive boost is felt by both parties —the one who expresses
gratitude and the one who receives it.
Learn to forgive
It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your choice about how to
handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing process. Choosing to forgive can bring about a
variety of benefits, both physical and emotional. Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset,
but once the other party has listened, be willing to lay down your anger and move on.
Be compassionate
Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a
gentle, nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel compassionate toward another person—whether a
romantic partner, friend, relative, or colleague — you open the gates for better communication and a
stronger bond. This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing their emotions. Rather,
compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose needs aren’t being met
and feeling motivated to help them. We are an imitative species: when compassion is shown to us, we
return it.
Accept others
It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship. Obviously, this does
not apply in situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where you need foremost to protect yourself. But
otherwise, try to understand where the person is coming from rather than judge them. As you do for
yourself, have a realistic acceptance of the other's strengths and weaknesses and remember that change
occurs over time.
Create rituals together
With busy schedules and the presence of online social media that offer the façade of real contact,
it’s very easy to drift from friends. In order to nurture the closeness and support of friendships, you have
to make an effort to connect.
Spend the right amount of time together
Knowing when to give your time to others and when to take some time for yourself can be crucial
in maintaining balanced, healthy relationships as well as emotional well-being.

KEEPING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships that you
make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important
lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships take time and energy to develop. All relationships
should be based on respect and honesty, and this is especially important when you decide to date
someone.

In a healthy relationship, both partners:

 Are treated with kindness and respect

 Are honest with each other
 Like to spend time together
  Take an interest in things that are important to each other
 Respect one another’s emotional, physical and sexual limits
 Can speak honestly about their feelings

Title of the Activity: HOW IS MY RELATIONSHIP?

Directions: Draw a picture that describes your relationships with people (parents,
friends, partners, neighbors etc.). Describe your artwork in not more than 5
sentences.

RUBRIC FOR ART WORK

5 4-3 2-1
The artwork is planned The artwork is planned The artwork is planned
carefully. carefully. adequately.
Understanding of all Understanding of most Understanding of some
Content
the concepts and concepts and concepts and
instructions is clearly instructions is clearly instructions is clearly
demonstrated demonstrated. demonstrated.
Word All words are directly Most words are directly Some words are
Choice/Language relevant to the topic. relevant to the topic. relevant to the topic.
The artwork is The artwork I attractive The artwork is
exceptionally attractive in terms of design, acceptably attractive
Attractiveness
in terms of design, layout and neatness. though it may be
layout and neatness. messy.

BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

 The right to emotional support

 The right to be heard by the other and to respond
 The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner's
 The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
 The right to live free from accusation and blame
 The right to live free from criticism and judgment
 The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
 The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
 The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered

In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop patience, honesty, kindness,
and respect.

Patience: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others will respond to us in
a way that is disappointing. When this occurs, it important to communicate our disappointment, but also
to give the other person space. Be willing to give the person some time to reflect, indicating that you are
ready to talk when they are ready. If the person is never ready to discuss the situation, you may need
professional help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether or not you want to continue the
relationship.

Honesty: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships. To build honesty in a relationship,
you should communicate your feelings openly, and expect the other person to do the same. Over time, this
builds trust.

Kindness: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy relationships. You need to be

considerate of others' feelings and other people need to be considerate of yours. Be kind when you
communicate. Kindness will nurture your relationships. Note that being kind does not necessarily mean
 being nice.

Respect: Respect is a cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you don't have respect for another
person, it will have a negative impact on all of your interactions. Think of a time when you encountered
someone who didn't respect you. How did it feel? What are some ways that you show respect to others?

Title of the Activity: MY RELATIONSHIP SLOGAN

Directions: Create your own slogan which shows one’s basic rights in a
relationship.

RUBRIC FOR SLOGAN

5 4 3 1
All graphics are All graphics are
Graphics related to the topic related to the topic All graphics relate Graphics do not
Relevance and make it easier and most make it to the topic. relate to the topic
to understand. easier to understand.
The poster is The poster is
The poster is The poster is
exceptionally distractingly messy
attractive in terms acceptably attractive
Attractiveness attractive in terms or very poorly
of design, layout though it may be a
of design, layout, designed. It is not
and neatness. bit messy.
and neatness. attractive.
Slogan is
exceptionally Slogan is creative Slogan is creative
The slogan does not
creative. A lot of and a good amount and some thought
Creativity reflect any degree of
thought and effort of thought was put was put into
creativity.
was used to make into decorating it. decorating it.
the banner.
Exceptional use of
Good use of new Average use of new No use of new ideas
new ideas and
Originality ideas and originality ideas and originality and originality to
originality to create
to create slogan. to create slogan. create slogan.
slogan.

Assessment:
Direction: Write your answers on the space provided before each number.
1. It refers to the close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds and
interactions.
a. Personal circumstance Personal relationship
b. Personal health d. Personal preference
2. It is where we firs learn the concept of relationship.
a. family c. c. society
b. b. friends d. d. All of the above
c.
3. The following are considered benefits of having a good relationship except:
a. Live longer Be healthier
b. Die slowly d. Feel richer
c.
4. Which of the following are sings that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner’s behavior
d. All of the above
5. It is a type of violence, and involves any kind of unwanted sexual advance. It can include
everything from unwelcome sexual comments to kissing and intercourse.
a. Sexual abuse b. Verbal abuse
 c. Accidents d. Honest love mistakes
6. Is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a gentle,
non-judgmental attitude.
a. Compassion Ignorance
b. Tolerance d. Adaptability
c.
7. Are considered relationships formed between two people that built upon affection, trust,
intimacy, and romantic love.
a. Business ventures Gang
b. Partnerships d. Classroom
c.
8. Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendship and intimate relationships.
a. True None of the above
b. False d. All of the above
e.
c.
9. Compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose needs
aren’t being met and feeling motivated to help them.
a. True None of the above
b. False d. All of the above
e.
c.
10. Knowing when to give your time to others and when to take time for yourself can be
crucial in maintaining balanced, healthy relationships as well as emotional well-being.
a. True None of the above
b. False d. All of the above
c.

References:
I. Books
1. Department of Education.2016. Personal Development. First Edition. Quezon City