Maximized Manhood

Part 1
Chapters One & Two

I. “Maximum Sentence”

A. There were five reasons the Israelites didn’t get into the Land of Promise. (Circle the five)

Read 1 Corinthians 10:6-10 (KJV). “Now these things were our examples, to the intent we should
not lust after evil things, as they also lusted. Neither be ye idolaters, as were some of them; as it is
written, the people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play. Neither let us commit fornication,
as some of them committed, and fell in one day three and twenty thousand. Neither let us tempt
Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed of serpents. Neither murmur ye, as some
of them also murmured, and were destroyed of the destroyer.”

B. Sex sins - A major problem among men

Look up 2 Peter 3:3 and write out the verse.
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II. “Kept Out of Canaan”

A. God gives commands, not invitations.

Read Deuteronomy 30:15-16 (KJV). “See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death
and evil; ____________________________________________ thee this day to love the LORD thy
God, to walk in His ways, and to keep His commandments and His statutes and His judgments, that
thou mayest live and multiply: and the LORD thy God shall bless thee in the land whither thou goest
to possess it.”

B. Canaan Land
1. What does Canaan Land represent? (pages 16-17)
____________________________________________________________________________

What Israelites were able to enter Canaan? (page 17) ________________________________

In what areas of life can you experience Canaan Land? (page 17)
____________________________________________________________________________

Who is able to enter Canaan Land today? (page 21)

____________________________________________________________________________

2. Read James 1:14-15.

Define lust. (page 18)

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 3. Read Romans 1:21-23.
What is the definition of idolatry? (page 19)

A value system _________________________________ in which we esteem something to be

more worthy of our devotion than _____________________________________.

Give five examples of idolatry you see everyday. (pages 19-20)

a. _________________________________________________
b. _________________________________________________
c. _________________________________________________
d. _________________________________________________
e. _________________________________________________

4. Read 1 Corinthians 6:9-10.

Define fornication in your own words. (page 20)
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________

Name a man in the Bible who committed fornication. (page 20)

________________________________

What were the results of Israel committing fornication? (page 21) ________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________

5. Read Luke 4:9-12.

If a man cheats on his taxes, can he expect God to bless him? (page 21) ______

Which sin is involved? (circle one) (page 21)

a. lust b. tempting Christ c. pride

Read 1 Corinthians 5:11.

Review in your mind or discuss Numbers 12, the story of Miriam and Aaron murmuring against
Moses.

Can a “maximized man” associate with people who murmur? (pages 22-23) _______

Practical:
Try to stop yourself five times this week from a sin that keeps men from being maximized. What is your weak
point (not necessary to write down)?

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, in the Name of Jesus, I repent of lust, idolatry, fornication, tempting Christ and murmuring. I will keep Your
commandments and walk in Your ways to be maximized in my manhood. I desire to live in Canaan and commit
myself to continual repentance, study and application to achieve my maximum potential. Amen.

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Part 1
Self Test

1. What were the five sins that kept Israel out of Canaan?
a. ______________________________
b. ______________________________
c. ______________________________
d. ______________________________
e. ______________________________

2. Where is the passage of Scripture that talks about the five sins?
__________________________________

3. What is the definition of fornication?

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

4. What is the definition of lust?

_________________________________________________________________________________

5. James Smith dedicated his hardware to God. He hired competent men for the front, and hired
inexpensive illegal workers to stock the warehouse. His business was a constant struggle for him.

Aside from anything outside this description that could have happened, what sin do you see he was
guilty of? _______________________________

What results could he expect?

_______________________________________________________________________________

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Part 2
Chapter Three

I. “The Playboy Problem”

A. In this modern era, we can be guilty of “psychologizing” the Gospel.

In the process of psychologizing the Gospel, we eliminate the word __________ from our vocabulary.
(page 27)

B. Read Psalms 32:3-5.

The solution to sins is __________________, __________________ and _____________________.
(page 28)

C. Read 1 Corinthians 5:11.

In your own words, if a brother in Christ maintains a lifestyle or habitual pattern of sin, what does the
Bible have to say about our having fellowship with Him? (page 28) ____________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

D. Read 2 Corinthians 7:9-10.

What is the difference between human sorrow for sin, and godly sorrow? (page 29)
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

We have been seduced into thinking that we have ___________________ instead of sin. (page29)

E. If you surround a sinner with love and understanding, will their sin go away naturally? (pages 30-31)
___ Yes ___ No

F. Read Genesis 3:7-10 and Proverbs 28:13.

What is the major difference between human wisdom and godly wisdom when it comes to sin?
(page 31) ________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

G. Read John 15:14 and choose one answer to fill in the blank.
You are God’s friend if you _________________________.
1. love Him 2. have faith in Him 3. obey Him

H. Has humanity improved because of man’s technical expertise? (page 33)

___ True ___ False

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 I. Look up James 3:17 and write out the attributes of godly wisdom.
1. ________________________
2. ________________________
3. ________________________
4. _____________________________________________
5. _____________________________________________
6. _____________________________________________
7. _____________________________________________

J. Fill in the blanks. (page 33)

Human wisdom will never lead us into our ___________________ Land.

You can never maximize your potential until you have received _____________________________.

Sweethearts living together out of wedlock are really ___________________________________.

Practical:
1. What are some areas of your life that you’ve labeled as “problems” rather than sin?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

2. 1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV) tells us, “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character." What
relationships with others might be bringing wrong influences into your life? (write out here or use a
separate sheet)
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

3. Read out loud Psalms 19:7-14 (KJV). “The law of the Lord is perfect, converting the soul: the
testimony of the Lord is sure, making wise the simple. The statutes of the Lord are right, rejoicing
the heart: the commandment of the Lord is pure, enlightening the eyes. The fear of the Lord is clean,
enduring forever: the judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether. More to be desired are
they than gold, yea, than much fine gold: sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb. Moreover by
them is thy servant warned: and in keeping of them there is great reward. Who can understand his
errors? Cleanse thou me from secret faults. Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let
them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great
transgression. Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy
sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.”

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, in the Name of Jesus, reveal to my heart the areas that I have tried to cover up, that are offensive to You.
As You reveal them to me, I will be faithful to repent of them, and put them behind me. Forgive me for leaning on
human wisdom and compromising my way, rather than being strong and quick to obey Your will. As the Psalmist
said, keep my soul away from presumptuous sin. I will walk before You with an honest heart. Amen.

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Self Test

1. Human sorrow for sin is based on being ___________________________________________, while godly

sorrow is based on ____________________________________________________________.

2. What is the passage of Scripture that admonishes us to not fellowship, even have lunch with an individual
who wants to hold to their lifestyle of sin?
________________________________________

3. The Watergate scandal in Washington, D.C., years ago, was a classic example of what?

Man’s desire to ________________ his sin.

4. What does God expect us to do about our sin(s)?

________________________________________________________

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Chapter Four

I. “Moses and the Ten Invitations”

A. God commands us to love. (pages 36-37)

Write out John 13:34-35. _____________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________

Love centers in the will. That is why love can be commanded and why God can command love. In what
areas of your life do you personally need to go beyond your “feelings” and love anyway?
__________________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________

B. Look up Romans 5:8 (KJV). “But God commendeth His love toward us, in that, __________________
___________________________, Christ died for us.”

C. God delights in taking “death” and bringing it into “life.” Part of God’s “job description” is that He raises
from the dead. Read John 11:34-44. What areas of your life, business, or marriage need resurrection?
_________________________________________________________________________________

D. Read Acts 17:30-31 (KJV). “And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now ______________
all men everywhere to repent: Because he hath appointed a day, in the which he will judge the world in
righteousness by that man whom he hath ordained; whereof he hath given assurance unto all men, in
that he hath raised him from the dead.”

E. Fill in the blanks. (page 39)

1. When you are given an invitation, you can either _________________ it or _________________ it.
2. When you are given a command, you can only ________________ or _______________.

F. List three ways that obedience to God will maximize a man. (page 40)
1. _______________________
2. _______________________
3. _______________________

G. Obedience brings ______________. Disobedience shatters it. In its place, it will bring confusion, pain
and suffering. (page 40)
H. God commands confession. Confession to get rid of sin; confession to put on righteousness.
Repentance from sin, and faith towards God is the balance. (pages 42-43)

Write out Proverbs 28:13.

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

I. Unconfessed sin is unforgiven sin. Sin can only come out of the life through: (circle one) (page 43)
1. the heart 2. the mouth 3. groaning

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 J. People are looking for truth. People are looking for reality. (page 43)
1. Truth and reality are __________________________.
2. Truth must be spoken in _______________.

Many people are afraid of speaking the truth, afraid of hurting others, or losing their love. They don’t
realize that truth, spoken in love, is the only way to show real love. (page 44)

“Backwards loving” can be called “best affections.” Give an example of hurting someone by means of
“best affections” from something you’ve seen or experienced in your own life.
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

L. Godly sorrow is necessary for repentance. Sorrow is one of life’s greatest teachers. (page 46)
Write out Ecclesiastes 7:3.
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

You’ll never know the joy of graduation until you’ve experienced the sorrow of studying.
You’ll never know the joy of a paycheck until you’ve experienced the sorrow of getting up in the
morning for work.
You’ll never know the joy of winning a race until you’ve experienced the sorrow of practice.

Give two more examples in your own words of sorrow bringing you to joy.

You’ll never know the joy of ______________ until you’ve experienced the sorrow of ______________.
You’ll never know the joy of ______________ until you’ve experienced the sorrow of ______________.

Practical:
1. In your life, name a time you tried to share truth, but without much love.
_________________________________________________________________________________

When have you tried to share truth, speaking in love?

_________________________________________________________________________________

Was there any difference in response? _________________________________________________

2. Think over your own responses to people who have spoken truth to you.
How do you receive advice or correction?
What can you do to accept the truth spoken in love from those who love you and want to help you?

3. Man whitewashes; God washes white. (pages 48-49) Read aloud Matthew 23:27-28 (NIV).
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs,
which look beautiful on the outside, but on the inside are full of dead men's bones and everything
unclean. In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous, but on the inside you
are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.”

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, in Jesus’ Name, help me to have an open mind and heart when others come to me. Forgive me for bad
attitudes. Help me to receive Your love into my heart before I speak words of truth. I make the decision today to
follow the commandment to love, that I may be seen as a disciple of Christ. Amen.

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Self Test

1. Are God’s commandments absolutes or negotiable?

__________________________

2. In your own words, write out the key difference between commandments and invitations.
____________________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________

3. When a man obeys God, it _______________________ his manhood.

4. Lucifer is an example of a _________________ spirit. He was immediately expelled from heaven.

5. Parents often find situations where they want to deliver their children from the consequences of their actions
and disobedience. Doing this can cause the child to feel free to do what they did again.

Parents who fall into this category can be said to be guilty of ____________________________, or a kind
of “backwards loving.”

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Part 4
Chapters Five & Six

I. “There's a Hole in the Door”

A. Forgiveness is always a release. (page 53) Write out Psalms 103:12.

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

Men need to learn forgiveness. Look up Ephesians 4:32 (KJV). “And be ye kind one to another,
tenderhearted, ___________________________________________, even as God for Christ’s sake
hath _____________________ you.”

B. Unforgiveness binds you to one who has wronged you. Unforgiveness towards an abusive parent can
often birth the same sin in yourself. (page 54)

1. Read John 20:23 (KJV). ”Whosesoever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose-
soever sins ye retain, they are retained.”

2. Name people in your life whom you have not forgiven (you may use a separate sheet).
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

3. Review your list carefully. Are you in any way reaping what they sowed?

C. It is part of maximized manhood, and it is ______________________ to give and receive forgiveness.

(page 57)

D. Sins are often passed from generation to generation, because they are: (page 58)
a. inherited b. genetically-based c. not forgiven

II. “Tender and Tough”

A. Balance is the key to life, therefore men must learn to be both ______________ and _____________.
(page 61)

List three ideas of how balance can be kept when dealing with children. (page 61)
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

B. Think of Bible stories you know and list a few examples of Jesus’ tenderness.
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

C. The highest good of every individual is to be like Jesus so manhood and Christ-likeness are
synonymous. (page 63) Look up Romans 8:29 (KJV). “For whom he did foreknow, he also did
predestinate to be conformed to the _________________ of his Son, that he might be the firstborn
among many brethren.”

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 D. Read John 15:1-2 (NIV). “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch
in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more
fruitful.”
1. The fruit God expects from our lives as men is: (see Luke 13:6-9) (page 64)
a. angelic character b. manhood c. hard work
2. Jesus effectively said in John 15:2, “If it doesn’t produce, ______________________________!”
(page 65)

E. The Kingdom of God is based on truth, not on human ______________________. (page 66)
F. Read Joshua 24:15.
Women desire their men to make_______________________. (page 69)
G. Maturity doesn’t come with age, but with the acceptance of __________________________. (page 71)
H. No one can be responsible for success unless he is willing to accept the responsibility for: (page 71)
1. his wife 2. money 3. failure

I. The more Word you have in you, the more ____________________________________ you become.
(page 73)
J. What changed the prodigal. (circle all that apply) (page 74)
1. new clothes 4. accepting responsibility for his actions
2. repentance 5. the fatted calf
3. asking for forgiveness 6. pigs

Practical:
1. If we fail to act in truth because of sentiment, the consequences can be tragic.
a. Read 1 Samuel 2:12-36 and 3:13-14 about Eli and his sons.
b. List times when you’ve been guilty of acting on sentiment, rather than truth.
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________
2. Consider the types of wrong decisions mentioned on page 69.
a. Decisions based on personal preferences or selfish gratification, rather than what is best for the
followers.
b. No decision (a decision by default).
c. Indecisiveness (which creates instability).

Reflect back, and name times when you were guilty of each.
Which of these three most affects you (not necessary to write down)?
What can you do about it?
What will you do about it this week?

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, You know my heart and You see what I’m writing on these pages. I ask You to help me accept
responsibility and become truly mature in every area of my manhood. I submit to You my errors of the past, thank
You for Your forgiveness, and ask You to help me go forward with good balance, good decisions, and a better
relationship with You and all those around me. Amen.

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Self Test

1. Leadership in the home requires both _____________________ and ____________________.

2. Unforgiveness ________________ you to the sin of the one who has wronged you.

3. Sins are inherited.

___ True ___ False

4. There are times when God requires you to be “rough” in your leadership at home.
___ True ___ False

5. Our God looks for fruitfulness in our lives. The fruit He expects from us is manhood.
One of the principles of the kingdom is, if it isn’t producing, _______________________________.

6. The major issue in becoming “mature” in our manhood is learning to _______________________

______________________ for our decisions.

7. What are some areas in which I need to be tougher on myself?

______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

8. What are some areas in which I need to be more tender with those I lead?
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

9. What are some areas in which I need to be more decisive?

______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

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Part 5
Chapter Seven

I. “Is There a Priest in the House?”

A. The priest not only ministers to the Lord, but to the ones entrusted to his care. (pages 75-76) In your
own words, what are major areas of your life that you are responsible for as a minister?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

B. As priest of the home, you must pray with and for your wife. (page 77)
1. You become ________________________ with the one to whom you pray, the one for whom you
pray, and the one with whom you pray.

2. Prayer produces _______________________.

C. Sexual relations are one thing; __________________________________ is another. If you really want
to be one with your wife, then pray for her and with her. (page 78)
Read Amos 3:3 (KJV). “Can two walk together, except they ________________________?”

D. Some women try to play God. Read 2 Samuel 6:20-23 - David and Michal.
1. Write out John 6:44.
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

2. Who draws a man to God? (page 80) ___________________________________

3. Women need to ________________ their husband for his sins and love _________. (page 81)

E. Men can change _________________. Only God can change a _________________. (page 81)

Read 2 Corinthians 5:17 (KJV). “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a _____________________:

old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”

F. A man ministers to his wife by giving her assurance.

1. Every woman needs to know she is ________________ to her man. (page 82)

2. Read Proverbs 31:28.

In your own words, describe how you can minister to a wife’s uniqueness.
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

3. You are ____________________ to what you confess. (page 82)

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 G. Everything in life is _______________________. (page 84)

H. You are only a __________________ of your wife’s love, not a possessor of it. (page 85)

I. Look up 1 Timothy 3:5. What is a man’s main priority? (circle one)

1. church
2. earning a living
3. ministering to his family

J. Read 1 Corinthians 4:2 (KJV). “Moreover it is required of stewards, that a man be found
____________________.”

Practical:
1. What are some specific areas where you can strengthen your position as the priest of your home?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

2. Think about your family life, and write some thoughts down on paper. THEN, go to your wife and ask her
to join you in prayer for those matters. Don’t promise to do it regularly. Just DO IT regularly. (Sometimes
she can’t hear your words because your actions are too loud!)
3. Look your wife in the eyes TODAY, and tell her how special she is to you.
4. Plan your next “honeymoon” now, spending at least one night away from home.

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, In Jesus’ Name, forgive me for not being a priest in my home. Help me be faithful to come to You, and
then faithful to go to my wife. Forgive me for prayerlessness in the home. I make the decision today, to be a man
of prayer, and a tender but firm priest in my home. Open my eyes to ways I can minister to my wife and help me
be faithful to minister to her daily. Help me remember this lesson, and make new habits in my marriage and
home. Thank You, Father, for hearing me. Amen.

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Self Test

1. As the priest of the home, I minister not only to the Lord, but also to _______________________________
________________________________.

2. Prayer produces _______________________.

3. Every woman needs to know she is ____________________.

4. Ministry is defined as preaching.

___ True ___ False

5. In your own words, in what areas of life is a man responsible to minister?

____________________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________
____________________________________________________________________________________

6. A man never stops ministering.

___ True ___ False

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Chapter Eight

I. “The One Dollar Tip”

A. Write out 1 Peter 3:7.

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

1. If you do not treat your wife right, your _________________ will not get ready answers. (page 89)

2. In your own words, name some effects in life that can come from God not answering you.
_____________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________

B. Assumption is life’s _________________ level of knowledge. (page 91)

C. Self-justification makes you right in __________________eyes by placing ______________________

on someone else. (pages 91-92)

D. When the man treats his wife like chattel instead of a joint heir, the _____________________ observe it
and reflect the same attitude in their actions. (page 93)

E. When something ______________________, it gains in value. (page 93)

When something ______________________, it loses in value. (page 93)

F. When a woman is appreciated, she gains value in: (page 93) (circle as many as apply)
1. your eyes
2. her eyes
3 her children’s eyes

G. What positive attributes can you say ___________________, even if only partially? (circle all that apply)
1. good spirit 5. loyalty 9. responds to love
2. hospitality 6 good mother 10. attention to detail
3. steady worker 7. desire for goodness 11. retains friendships
4. devotion 8. humor 12. future-minded

How can you bring out her strengths? ____________________________________________________

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Practical:
1. Have you allowed yourself to make jokes about your wife (not necessary to write down)? Are there
areas of her life that you habitually murmur about, even though joking? What can you say in place of
such jokes? Write out appropriate phrases to say to your wife regularly. Commit them to memory.
And commit to the Lord to use them.
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

2. A “one dollar tip” may offend women whose husbands have more than a dollar to share. Others might
not have as much as a dollar to give. What can you give to your wife that would be meaningful to her
now in the same way that the dollar was meaningful to Nancy Cole at that time?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, In Jesus’ Name, I desire for my wife to be completely comfortable around me. I want her to know that she
is safe when I’m around, especially when we’re with others. Please forgive me for knowingly or unknowingly
hurting my wife by my choice of words and jokes. Help me to listen to her and to value what she says, even when
I don’t agree. I determine right now to build my wife up, not only when we’re in public, but also when we’re all
alone. I ask You to help me achieve these goals so that our marriage brings glory to You. Thank You, Father.
Amen.

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Self Test

1. 1 Peter 3:7 (KJV). Fill in the blank from memory.

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as
unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; ____________________
______________________ be not hindered.”

2. One of the lowest levels of knowledge is _________________________.

3. Children will pick up from ____________________ their attitude toward their mother.

4. Murmuring against your wife will keep you from having a maximized marriage.
___ True ___ False

5. When something “appreciates,” it _______________ in value.

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Chapter Nine

I. “Changing Heads”

A. Change always comes from the __________. (page 99)

1. If change doesn’t come from the top, revolution will come from the bottom. (page 99)
___ True ___ False

2. In business, what is always the problem and always the solution? (circle one) (page 100)
a. money b. time c. personnel

3. Read Proverbs 29:2 (KJV) out loud. “When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice: but
when the wicked beareth rule, the people mourn.”

4. Change isn’t change, until it’s _________________. (page 101)

B. Intention to change is not change. (page 101)

1. Who must change in the home? (page 101)
_____________________________________________

2. Most people judge others by their actions and themselves by their intentions. (page 101)

Name three times recently that you have seen this occur, through personal experience, media, or
conveyed to you through conversation.
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

3. Talking about changing, pledging it, making resolutions, considering it—none of these are change.
In your own words, what would show that change has occurred?
______________________________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________________________

C. God says to men: Let go of all your own ways and depend on _______ in the totality of your ________.
(page 103)

D. An ounce of obedience is worth a ton of prayer.

1. Look up 1 Samuel 15:22 (KJV). “... Behold, to ___________ is better than sacrifice, and to
_______________ than the fat of rams.”

2. Read out loud Proverbs 28:9 (KJV). “He that turneth away his ear from hearing the law, even his
prayer shall be abomination.”

3. If you don’t obey after praying, what happens with your prayers? (page 105)
____________________________________________________________

E. Change is not change until it is change. (page 106)

Giving is not giving, until it’s ________________. (page 106)
Faith isn’t faith, until it’s ____________________. (page 106)

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 F. Courage is a requirement of _________________________. (page 107)

1. Read out loud 2 Samuel 10:12 (KJV). “Be of good courage, and let us play the men for our
people, and for the cities of our God: and the LORD do that which seemeth him good.”

What in your own words is meant by the phrase “play the men?”
_________________________________________________________

2. “Be of good ______________________” is a scriptural refrain. (page 107)

G. Write out the definition of courage. (page 108)

Courage is the ___________________________________________________________ that enables
a man to face _____________________________________________________ with a real manliness.

Read out loud Deuteronomy 31:6 (KJV). “Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of
them: for the LORD thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”

H. Some things in life are more important than _________________________. (page 109)

1. Joseph saw the honor of God as the criteria for his life. Read Joseph’s statement from Genesis
39:7-9 (KJV). “... how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?”

2. Name some Biblical heroes who courageously gave their lives for a Godly purpose.
_______________________________________________________________________

I. Courage is necessary in a man’s life to _________________________. (page 109)

Practical:
1. A man is seeking God and prays, “God, please help my wife to have a good attitude toward me, and
please make my boss recognize what a good job I’m doing.” His prayer is admirable, but who is he
praying will change? In your words, what would be a better way to pray?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

2. Courage is sometimes necessary to run away from something, and sometimes needed to run toward
something.
What do you need courage to run from? ________________________________________________
What do you need courage to run toward? ______________________________________________

3. What can you change in your life today? ________________________________________________

How will you go about changing it? ____________________________________________________
How will you follow up to ensure you’ve changed? ________________________________________

Read this prayer out loud:

Father, in Jesus’ Name, I ask You to change me as You have changed so many other men. Help me to accept
responsibility for the changes that need to be made and forgive me for blaming others. I will be courageous to
change in each area You show me. I will be seen as Your man above all else. Thank You, in Jesus’ Name, for
walking with me through every step. Amen.

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1. If change doesn’t come from the top, what will come from the bottom?
_____________________________

2. ________________________ is always the problem; _______________________ is always the solution.

3. Men often judge others by their _______________, and themselves by their ______________________.

4. Give a personal definition of what it means to have courage.

___________________________________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________________________________

5. A ton of prayer will always produce more than obedience.

___ True ___ False

6. Name the number one virtue that men need to face reality. ______________________

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I. “The Buck Stops Here”

A. The man is to be the head of the house.

1. Look up Ephesians 5:23 (NIV). “For the husband is the ___________ of the wife as Christ is the
head of the church, his body, of which he is the Saviour.”

2. Christ provides __________________ to the __________________ of the members of the church.

The man prayerfully provides __________________ to the _________________ of his family.
(page 111)

B. Men cannot leave the ministry of ___________________________________________________ to

their wives. It is their responsibility as well. (page 117)

C. One of the marks of a true leader is not to pass the ___________________________. (page 117)
1. “Justification” theologically means ________________________. (page 117)

2. Self-justification is the term for what we call __________________________. (page 117)

D. Read Genesis 3:1-10.

1. What are the three results of sin? (pages 117-118)
________________________________________

2. Guilt is a killer. (page 118) Give a Biblical example of someone who was plagued by guilt.
_____________________

3. Guilt leads to ______________________. (page 118)

4. Fear leads to hiding. Name some ways in which you have tried to hide from or escape guilt and
fear in your life. (page 118) ______________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________

E. The devil made you do it!

___ True ___ False

1. Whom did Adam blame? (page 118) ______________________

2. Whom did Eve blame in the Garden of Eden? (page 118) _________________________

F. Every man must answer for his actions to ____________________. (page 120)
1. Some men would rather cover up their __________ than save their marriage. (page 120)

2. Others would rather cover up their _________________________________________________

than save their business. (page 120)

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 G. There are times when silence is golden; other times it is just plain _______________. (page 120)

H. Some men think they are punishing their child for correction, when they are really punishing for
____________________. (pages 121-122)

The result is that it _________________ a child, not changes him. (page 122)

I. God is not indifferent to your ______________. (page 124)

1. God can do nothing for men who say they have no ______________. (page 124)

2. Read Revelation 3:17 (KJV). “Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and
_____________________________________________; and knowest not that thou art wretched,
and miserable, and poor, and blind and naked.”

J. God loves you personally. He has given you ______________ and ______________. (page 125)
To reach your family, God looks to: (circle one)
1. your wife 2. your church 3. you

Practical:

1. Take a sheet of paper and start listing all the things you are guilty of, or feel guilty about. Spend some
time in prayer for God to remind you of sins, mistakes, and errors. After writing as many as you can
think of, take a red pen or marker and begin to ask for forgiveness for each one. As you mark over the
item, say aloud, “God forgives me and I now forgive myself as well.”

2. Name the last thing you did that you blamed someone else for. Then think of the one before that. Go
back as far as you can. Then, using the red marker again, ask God to forgive you and forgive yourself.
Where appropriate, contact the person you blamed and ask them to forgive you.

What I did Who I blamed

_____________________________________ _____________________________________
_____________________________________ _____________________________________
_____________________________________ _____________________________________

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, in the Name of Jesus, I admit the mistakes and sins that this last lesson has shown me and I ask for Your
forgiveness. Having asked for and received Your forgiveness, I refuse to wallow in self-pity for making them, I
refuse to be put down by Satan or others for doing them, I thank You that they are covered with the blood of
Jesus and behind me forever. I accept responsibility for myself, for my situation, for my family and for the way we
are today, and I commit to becoming the one who solves the problems, not the one who is part of the problem.
For those things I cannot solve, I ask You to cover them with Your grace and mercy and deliver me and my
family. I give You praise in advance for a complete change in my life. Amen.

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1. As the husband, I am responsible to lead the home. Therefore, as Christ takes care of the members of His
church, I must ________________________________ for the problems in my home and family.

2. Buck passing is the common term for ______________________________.

3. The sequentially ordered result of sin is:

a. ______________________
b. ______________________
c. ______________________

4. Name some major ways men try to escape or hide from responsibility.
a. ______________________
b. ______________________
c. ______________________
d. ______________________

5. In your own words, write the definition for self-justification.

_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________

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Chapter Eleven

I. “The Video Daddy”

A. The most powerful thing that can be done in life is to create an _________________; the next most
powerful thing is to destroy an __________________. (page 127)

1. Men have been victimized by forces and images they could have _________________. (page 127)

2. Read Titus 1:15-16 (TLB). “... but a person whose own heart is evil and untrusting finds evil in
everything, for his dirty mind and rebellious heart color all he sees and hears. Such persons claim
they know God, but from seeing the way they act, one knows they don’t.”

Images in our mind influence the way we act, dress, speak … and influence the way we:
(add more in your own words)
____________________ ____________________ ___________________
____________________ ____________________ ___________________

3. Young men and women are motivated greatly by the ___________________ they have in life.
(page 129)

Read Proverbs 23:7 (KJV). “For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he ...”
Read Numbers 13:33 (KJV). (Spies at the border of Canaan) “And there we saw the giants ...
and we were in our own sight as grasshoppers, and so we were in their sight.”

B. The degree of disappointment is found in the difference between the _____________ and the
____________. (page 129)

C. Without Jesus men are unable to be restored in the __________________________. (page 130)
When we become new creations we have new ______________________________. (page 130)

D. Form a ____________________________ in your home. (page 132)

Read Psalms 101:6-7 (TLB). “I will make the godly of the land my heroes, and invite them to my home.
Only those who are truly good shall be my servants. But I will not allow those who deceive and lie to
stay in my house.”

What does this have to do with the “video daddy?” ________________________________________

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

Read Deuteronomy 6:7 (KJV). “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk
of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down,
and when thou risest up.”

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 What does it mean you should do for your children? _______________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

E. Man has three functions in the home and community. (page 132)
1. ____________________ 2. ___________________ 3. _____________________

Look up John 17:12; 2 Corinthians 10:4-5; 1 Timothy 3:4.

What points can you learn from these verses? ____________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

F. The greatest addiction in today’s society is: (circle one) (page 133)
a. drugs b. food c. alcohol d. television e. gambling

1. Read Romans 12:2 (KJV). “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the
________________ of your ___________, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable,
and perfect, will of God.”

2. The absentee father in front of the television forces the ___________ and ___________________
into unnatural roles and responsibilities. (page 133)

G. Men, families and nations are made great by the ______________ of their virtues, not by virtue of their
________________. (page 134)

Men are God’s ____________________. While men look for better __________________, God looks
for better _____________. (pages 135-136)

Practical:
1. Start a television log book. HONESTLY keep a record of how much time you spend watching television.
Once you’ve controlled your own television habits, work to control the habits of the rest of the family,
making yourself available to fill their time with other activities.
2. Read 1 Corinthians 16:13 (KJV). “Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men [or act like a man],
be strong.”
Break it into four parts and write what you can do to fulfill each one.
Watch ye: ____________________________________________________________________________
Stand fast in the faith: __________________________________________________________________
Act like a man: ________________________________________________________________________
Be strong: ___________________________________________________________________________

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, Your word says to set no wicked thing before my eyes. This day I make the decision to make a covenant
with my eyes, to not look upon images that will grieve Your Spirit, and to not glorify the way of evil and violent
men. I choose instead to make my home a welcome place for Your Spirit to dwell and abide. I choose to guard
well my family whom You have entrusted to my care. In Jesus Name, Amen.

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Self Test

1. What is the most powerful thing that can be done in a life?

_______________________________________

2. What is the second most powerful thing that can be done?

_______________________________________

3. Name some popular “anti-heroes” of today.

a. ________________________________
b. ________________________________
c. ________________________________

4. Throughout life, there is a constant adjustment of the __________ and the ________. The distance
between the __________ and the ___________ is the degree of disappointment in life.

5. Every man has three major functions in the home. What are they?
a. _________________
b. _________________
c. _________________

6. What is the greatest addiction in America today?

_____________________

7. Men are truly great when measured by the wealth of their _____________, not the ______________
of their wealth.

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Chapter Twelve

I. “Our Father, Which Art Inactive”

A. The greatest thing a father can do for his children is ______________ their mother. (page 137)
1. Read Colossians 3:19 (NIV). “Husbands, _____________ your wives and do not be harsh with
them.”

2. Read Philippians 2:3-5 (NIV). “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility
consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests,
but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus.”
What attitudes and attributes from these verses might God expect in a husband?
_____________________________________________________________________________

B. Fathering is a comprehensive task requiring maximized manhood.

1. Fathering takes: (page 140) (fill in more requirements, in your own words)

studying thinking monitoring recommending influencing loving

____________________ ____________________ ____________________
____________________ ____________________ ____________________

2. Read 2 Timothy 2:15 (TLB). “Work hard so God can say to you, ‘Well done.’ Be a good workman,
one who does not need to be ashamed when God examines your work.”

What does this mean to you? _____________________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________

C. Love is doing what is best for the one ____________, not gratifying our own desires at the expense of
_______________. (page 140)

D. What hour is one of the most important in a child’s life? (pages 140-141)
1. show and tell 2. naptime 3. suppertime 4. Sesame Street

E. Television
1. Look up John 10:10 (KJV). “The thief cometh not but for to ______________, and to kill, and to
destroy …”

2. One of the greatest thieves of family time is ___________________. (page 141)

3. Uncontrolled, television time will: (page 141)

a. _________ time b. kill ___________________ c. ______________ relationships

4. Read out loud:

Proverbs 12:11 (TLB). “Hard work means prosperity; only a fool idles away his time. “
Proverbs 10:27 (TLB). “Reverence for God adds hours to each day …”

How can you apply these verses to yourself? ________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________

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 F. The ___________________ father is the curse of our day. (page 142)

Think it over: The average American father gives only thirty-five seconds of undivided attention to his
child every day.

Proverbs 29:15 (KJV). “… a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”

G. ____________ funds can never be a substitute for a ____________ of ____________. (page 143)

H. The true legacy of the father is in the _____________ he gives his children. (page 143)
1. Proverbs 13:22 (KJV). “A good man leaveth an inheritance to his _____________________.”

2. The children of a maximized man will be taught a strong relationship with God. (page 143)
___ True ___ False

Practical:
1. Commit to spend a “private time” weekly or monthly with every member of your family just to LISTEN.
Your family doesn’t need to know your intentions. Just follow your plan, and they’ll eventually figure out
what you’re doing. Ask them leading questions to draw them out. Save your comments until later. If they
are negative in your first few “private times,” remember that you are making an investment, and both
consistent listening and prayer will help re-establish relationship.
“Private time” with my wife. Time/Day: _______________________________
“Private time” with my child. Time/Day: _______________________________
“Private time” with my child. Time/Day: _______________________________

2. A father sees his toddler hit a household table with a toy, marring it. He yells, and grabs the toy from the
child, swatting the child and scolding him, ordering him out of the room.
Is he punishing or correcting the child? __________________________________________________
What is another way he could handle the situation? ________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________

3. The fourteen-year-old son stays in his room listening to music and playing on his computer. The parents
worry, but the father insists they must respect the boy’s privacy.
Is he giving the boy freedom or losing his relationship with him? _______________________________
What might he do differently to reach out to his son? ________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________________

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, In Jesus Name, I want to be a quality listener. I choose today to walk in love, and be patient as I listen to
my wife and children. I will incline my ear to You, and to my family, and search to understand what they’re really
wanting to communicate to me. Forgive me for my impatience towards them. Thank You for Your patience
towards me. I love you Father! Amen.

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1. The greatest thing a man can do for his children is: (circle one)
a. love their mother b. correct them c. give them gifts

2. What is one of the major curses of the day?

__________________________________

3. Name three attributes God expects in a good husband and father.

a. ___________________________
b. ___________________________
c. ___________________________

4. Name three activities God expects in a good husband and father.

a. _____________________
b. _____________________
c. _____________________

5. ___________ desires to benefit others even at the expense of self, because ___________ desires to give.

6. What thief affects families in America today? _______________________

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Chapter Thirteen

I. “Stop, Look, Listen”

A. The one who ____________________ before he __________________ will succeed. (page 145)
B. Read the following:
Proverbs 18:13 (NIV). “He who answers before listening–that is his folly and his shame.”
James 1:19 (KJV). “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak,
slow to wrath.”
Revelation 2:7 (KJV). “He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith ...”

1. God’s attitude is that success is a result of _____________________. (page 145)

2. Listening is __________________. (page 145)

3. What priority does God place on listening? (page 145) _________________________________

4. To succeed in sales or counseling, listen until you hear what the __________ is, then meet it.
(pages 145 and 147)

5. Men must learn to _________________. (page 146)

C. Men and women are different!

1. Men need to learn to listen to their wives and children: (check all that apply) (page 146)
____ to affirm their uniqueness
____ to learn their needs
____ to discover if they are satisfied
____ to keep the relationship solid
____ to make the relationship grow
____ to hear their inner longings

2. Men are ______________________. Women are ______________________ people. (page 147)

3. The fine print is part of ________________________. To minister to a woman, you must give her
some ________________________. (page 148)

D. The sin of ____________________ is the basic sin of humanity. (page 148)

1. The only reason you do _____________ is because you don’t do right. (page 148)

2. Men go to hell not because of what they _____, but because of what they ___________________.
(page 148)

3. To begin doing right, we must fill our minds with godly ________________ and divine __________.
(page 149)

4. Read James 4:17 (KJV). “Therefore to him that knoweth to do __________, and doeth it not, to
him it is ________.”

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Read Luke 4:4 (KJV). “... it is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God.”

How important is God’s Word to us? ____________________________________________________

How important should our word be to others? _____________________________________________

Practical:
1. Set a date on your calendar three weeks from now. Every day for the next three weeks concentrate on
listening to people until they are finished, not worrying about what you’ll say next.

2. Often men don’t even listen to a name that’s given. When you know you’ll be introduced to someone,
plan ahead to listen carefully to the name, and repeat it several times immediately to commit it to
memory.

3. In what areas of your life are you failing because of what you’re NOT doing?
__________________________________________________________________________________

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, once again I ask for Your forgiveness—this time for my sins of omission, as well as my sins of
commission. Please cleanse me from unrighteousness, purify my mind through Your Word, and bring me ever
more into the newness of life Your Son provides for me. I confess the power of Christ within me to overcome old
habits, restore right relationships, and keep me on the straight course I have chosen. Thank You for making the
way for me. I love you, Lord. Amen.

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Self Test

1. Men are head-liners; women are __________________________ people.

2. What is the basic sin of humanity?

____________________________

3. a. _________________________ is the basis of life.

b. When communication stops, _____________________ sets in.

c. The ultimate end of abnormality is _________________________________________.

4. Men must stop and listen to their family’s ____________.

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Chapters Fourteen & Fifteen

I. “Born-Again Marriage”

A. Marriages are ordained by God.

1. Read out loud Ephesians 5:31 (NIV). “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and
be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

2. Marriage can be the closest thing to a ______________ or __________ on this earth. (page 153)

B. Jesus is the Savior of every area of our lives.

1. It is harder to ___________________ than it is to ________________. (page 156)

2. Read Mark 4:16-17 (KJV). “And these are they likewise which are sown on stony ground; who,
when they have heard the word, immediately receive it with gladness; And have no root in
themselves, and so endure but for a time.”

What areas of your life are difficult to maintain? (check any that apply)

_____ love in marriage _____ patience with children _____ positive attitude
_____ weight loss _____ enthusiasm for work _____ prayer life
other ________________________________________________________________________

3. Jesus gives us life principles and ______________ to live according to those principles. (page 156)

4. Jesus is the Savior of your _______________________. (page 156)

5. Jesus has a place in marriage and family in the same way He has with an individual.

Read Ecclesiastes 4:12 (TLB). “And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two
can stand back-to-back and conquer; three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily
broken.”

How does this verse apply to your marriage? _________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________

II. “What’s the Question?”

A. One major reason for so much ___________________________________ today is because of so little

__________________. (page 162)
When people spend time in _______________________, meditating in it, praying over it, confessing it,
it will become their counselor. (page 162)

B. Men have two great questions to answer in life. (page 164) (Luke 9:18-20)
1. __________________________________
2. __________________________________

C. Manhood is like a magic art. (page 165)

___ True ___ False

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1. Today many men spend too much time on the __________________ and not enough on the
____________________. (page 165)

Read Colossians 3:1-2 (NIV). “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on
things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not
on earthly things.”

2. You can pitch _______________________, but you must build ____________________.

(pages 165-166)

Read Proverbs 31:30 (TLB). “Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last ....”

3. When the _____________ wears off, you have nothing but __________________ left. (page 166)

E. Churches, homes, and nations are only as strong as their men.

1. To be strong, man must conquer __________________. (page 166)

Read Proverbs 16:32 (TLB). “It is better to be slow-tempered than famous; it is better to have self-
control than to control an army.”

Read Proverbs 25:28 (TLB). “A man without self-control is as defenseless as a city with broken-
down walls.”

2. Manhood and _________________________ are synonymous. (page 166)

Read Romans 8:29 (TLB). “For from the very beginning God decided that those who came to
him–and all along he knew who would–should become like his Son, so that his Son would be the
firstborn, with many brothers.”

What does this mean to you personally? ____________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________

Practical:
1. Manhood is not magic, but rather a building process. What areas can you begin to “press through” in
your quest for manhood? ___________________________________________________________

2. Read 1 Timothy 4:8 (TLB). “Bodily exercise is all right, but spiritual exercise is much more important
and is a tonic for all you do. So exercise yourself spiritually and practice being a better Christian,
because that will help you not only now in this life, but in the next life, too.”

What will you do to “exercise” yourself spiritually and start the Christ-life in you?
1. _____________________________________________________________________________
2. _____________________________________________________________________________

Repeat this prayer out loud:

Father, in Jesus’ Name, I have made my decision–no more wavering, no more hesitating. I will become the man
You created me to be, the man You’ve always seen I could be. I have Your faith operating in me, and the power
of Your Son making me like Him. I will do the work of being a man, a husband, a father, and I will show myself to
be a worthy son of Yours. Thank You for loving me, strengthening me, and covering me with the blood of Christ.
Amen.

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Self Test

1. What is possibly the closest thing to a heaven or hell that an individual will ever experience on earth?
______________________

2. Which is more difficult, maintaining or obtaining?

______________________

3. Jesus gives us __________________________ to live by, and His _______________ to do it.

4. Abraham pitched his altars, but built his tents.

___ True ___ False

5. Men pitch personality, but _______________________ must be built.

6. ___________________ and _____________________ are synonymous.

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Final Exam

1. What were the five sins that kept Israel out of Canaan?
a. ________________
b. _________________________
c. _________________________
d. _________________________
e. ________________________________________

2. What verses in the New Testament list them? __________________________________

3. What does Canaan Land represent for men today? ____________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________________________________________

4. If a man cheats on his taxes and asks God to bless it, what sin is involved? (circle one)
a. selfishness b. tempting Christ c. pride

5. Can a “maximized man” associate with people who murmur? ___ Yes ___ No

6. In the process of psychologizing the Gospel, we eliminate the word _________.

7. Human sorrow for sin is based on being _____________________________________, while godly sorrow
is based on __________________________________________________________________________.

8. If you surround a sinner with love and understanding, will their sin go away naturally?
___ Yes ___ No

9. Contrast human wisdom to godly wisdom. ___________________________________________________

_____________________________________________________________________________________

10. Love centers in the:

a. will b. heart c. mind d. emotions

11. What is the difference between an invitation and a command?

__________________________________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________

12. Unconfessed sin is unforgiven sin. ___ True ___ False

13. Truth and reality are __________________________.

14. Give an example of “backwards loving” or “best affections.”

_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________

15. You’ll never know the ________ of graduation until you’ve experienced the __________________ of
studying.

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16. Unforgiveness ____________ you to the sin of the one who has wronged you.

17. What commonly causes sins to pass from generation to generation? __________________________

18. “Maximized men” balance the tender and the tough. ___ True ___ False

19. Manhood and _________________________ are synonymous.

20. What God expects from men is ____________________.

21. Maturity doesn’t come with _______ but with acceptance of ____________________________.

22. No one can be responsible for success until he is willing to accept the responsibility for _______________.

23. God expects fruitfulness in our lives. One of the principles of the kingdom is, if it isn’t producing:
a. get counseling b. call your pastor c. lop it off

24. Prayer produces ____________________.

25. Every woman needs to know she is _______________ to her man.

26. In relation to a wife, what does “appreciation” mean, and what does it produce?
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________

27. You are ______________________ to what you confess.

28. If you do not treat your wife right, your _________________ will not get ready answers.

29. One of the lowest levels of knowledge is:

a. assumption b. kindergarten c. street smarts

30. Self-justification makes you right in ___________________ eyes by placing ______________________ on

someone else.

31. When something ____________________, it gains in value.

When something ____________________, it loses in value.

32. When a woman is appreciated, she gains value in: (circle as many as apply)
a. your eyes b. her eyes c. her children’s eyes

33. If change doesn’t come from the top, what will come from the bottom?
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34. _____________________ is always the problem; ______________________ is always the solution.

35. Change isn’t change until it is ________________.

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36. Men often judge others by their ______________, and themselves by their ________________________.

37. An ounce of obedience is worth more than a ton of prayer. ___ True ___ False

38. Some things in life are more important than __________________________.

39. The man is the ___________ of the family.

40. Guilt leads to ___________ which leads to __________________.

41. Whom did Eve blame in the Garden of Eden? ______________________

Whom did Adam blame? __________

42. There are times when silence is ________________, other times it is just plain _______________.

43. To reach your family, God looks to:

a. your wife b. your church c. you

44. The most powerful thing that can be done in life is to create an ______________.

45. The degree of disappointment is found in the difference between the ____________ and the __________.

46. Men’s three-fold responsibility is to _______________, _______________ and _____________________.

47. Above all else, the greatest thing a father can do for his children is:
a. provide them gifts b. love their mother c. save for their future

48. Love is the desire to benefit _______________ even at the expense of ___________ because love desires
to give.

49. Men are head-liners; women are __________________________ people.

50. What hour is one of the most important of a child’s life?

a. dinner hour b. study hour c. video hour

51. One of the greatest thieves of family time is _________________________.

52. The ___________________ father is the curse of our day.

53. _____________ funds can never be a substitute for a ____________ of ________________.

54. Listening is ministry. ___ True ___ False

55. The fine print is part of ________________________. To minister to a woman, you must give her some
________________________.

56. The sin of _____________________ is the basic sin of humanity.

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57. The only reason you do _______________ is because you don’t do right.

58. Communication is the ______________ of life.

59. When communication stops, _______________________ sets in.

60. The ultimate end of abnormality is _____________________________________________.

61. Marriage can be the closest thing on earth to a heaven or hell that men will ever experience.
___ True ___ False

62. It’s harder to ____________________ than it is to _________________.

63. One major reason for so much counseling today is because of:
a. such a stressful society c. so little prayer
b. so much divorce d. the high cost of living

64. Abraham pitched his _________, but built his _____________.

65. When the ___________ wears off, you have nothing but _______________________ left.

66. Short essay: The Bible says, “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good and doeth it not, to him it is sin.”
The sin of omission, not commission, creates the most problems for men. Explain how this can be, using
personal illustrations and examples from the book.
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Telephone a.m. ______________________________ p.m. _________________________________________

Send this Final Exam to Christian Men’s Network to receive your acknowledgment. You will receive your
Certificate of Completion after you finish the entire Primary Course. Forge ahead! You’re a third of the way there!

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