Saying of Salafs On Marriage

Motivational Sayings of the Salaf on Nikaah (Marriage)
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1. ‘Ikrimah, Sumay’ and Kurayb report that Ibn ‘Abbās – Allah be

pleased with them – said to them: "Marry, for if the servant of Allah
commits fornication Allah snatches the light of īmān from him, and
may or may not return it to him." [Ibn Sa’d in Al-Ṭabaqāt Al-Kubrā
Vol.5 p287]
2. It is reported that ‘Abdullāh b. Masʿūd – Allāh be pleased with him –

said: "If I had ten days left to live, and I knew I would die by the end
of them, and I had enough time to get married, I would get married
for fear of temptation (fitnah)." [Sa’īd b. Mansūr, Al-Sunan article 493]
3. ‘Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab said: “No man can have anything better
after faith (îmaan) than a woman of righteous character, loving and
child-bearing. And no man can have anything worse after unbelief
(kufr) than a sharp-tongued woman of bad character.” [Al-Haafidh
Abul-Qaasim Al-Asbahaanî, Al-Targheeb Wa Al-Tarheeb, article 1528]
4. Fudayl Ibn ‘Iyaad (d. 187) said: “Whoever marries his beloved
daughter to an innovator has cut off the ties of relationship with
her.” [Al-Barbahaaree, An Explanation of the Creed, 137]
5. It is reported that Al-Aḥnaf b. Qays – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

“Restraint is praiseworthy except in three things.” People asked,
“And what are they o Abū Baḥr?” He replied, “Make haste to do the
righteous deed, hurry to conduct the funeral of your deceased, and
marry the girl in your charge to a suitable man [as soon as you find
him.]” [Abū Bakr Al-Daynūrī, Al-Mujālasah wa Jawāhir Al-‘Ilm 6:307]
6. ʿAmr b. Dīnār reports that ʿAbdullāh b. ʿUmar – Allāh be pleased with

them – intended not to marry after the [passing of the] Prophet –
ṣallallāhu ʿalayhi wa salam, so Ḥafṣah (his sister) – Allāh be pleased with
her – advised him: "My brother, marry, for if you have a child and it
dies, it will precede you into Al-Jannah (and be a cause for you to be
admitted), and if it lives, the child will supplicate for good for you."
[ʿAbd Al-Razzāq Al-Ṣanʿānī, Al-Muṣannaf #10388]
7. It is reported that Ṭāwūs – Allāh have mercy on him – said, “The

worship and devoutness of a young person is not complete until he
marries.”
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8. Ibrāhīm b. Maysurah reports that Ṭāwūs said to him, “You better get
married or I will say to you what ʿUmar b. Al-Khattāb said to Abū
Al-Zawā`id: ‘Nothing but incapability or sinfulness is preventing
you from getting married!’”
[7 & 8: Al-Dhahabī, Siyar A’lām Al-Nubalā`, in his biography of Ṭāwūs.

Ṭāwūs b. Kaysān was a great scholar and ascetic. He was the most
renowned scholar of Yemen during his time. He is regarded as one of
the senior companions and students of Ibn ‘Abbās, and reports
narrations from a number of other Companions]
9. Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen ‫ رﺣﻤﻪ اﻟﻠﻪ‬said: “...Know that when you deal
and interact with your wife then it is mandatory that you think of a
[scenario] where a man is the husband of your daughter. How does
he treat her? Would you be pleased for him to treat her with
harshness and sternness? The answer is no! Therefore, do not be
content with treating the daughter of another person in a
fashion/manner that you would not be pleased for your daughter to
be treated. This principle should be known by all people.”
[Ash-Sharh al-Mumti’ Volume 12, Page 381]
10. The Noble scholar, Ibn Sa'di (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"When a husband reflects over his wife’s beautiful manners and
good qualities that he loves about her, and then compares these
qualities to those reasons which causes him anger and irritation,
perhaps there is some negativity he sees whilst living with her, but
it could be that he is focussing on just one or two [negative] things,
yet, in reality, those qualities that he loves in her are much greater.
Therefore, if the husband was just, then he would overlook her bad
points which actually disappear and vanish due to her goodness. In
this way companionship continues. As for turning away from good
qualities, and only observing shortcomings – even if they are very
few – then this is from being unjust, and the husband can hardly be
settled with his wife." [Bahjat Al-Qaloob, (Page: 153-154) | Translated
By Abbas Abu Yahya Miraath al-Anbiyya]
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Shaykh Sulayman Ar-Ruhayli
"I'm advising all spouses those from amongst them who are newly wed
and those from amongst them who are like me that have been married
for a long time , with three beneficial advices.
As for the first advice, [then] is that we build our houses upon the
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religion of Allah , by Allah then Again by Allah! Blessings have never

descended nor has goodness descended except if the houses are
established upon the religion of Allah. That we co-operate in our houses
upon the religion of Allah. Do we not hear nor understand the statement
of our prophet sallallahu Alayhi wa salam , our beloved , our imaam ,
example and comfort of our eyes, Muhammad the son of Abdullah ‫ﺻﻞی‬
‫ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ و ﺳﻠﻢ‬said; "May Allah have mercy upon a man who wakes up
at night and prays, then he wakes his wife (to pray), if she does not
get up , if she does not pray, he then [lightly] sprinkles water on her
face.... And may Allah have mercy upon a woman , she wakes up at
night and prays , then wakes up her husband , if he resists, she
[lightly] sprinkles water on his face" [Ahmad, Abu dawud, and
authenticated by Shaykh Al-albani]. Dua from the prophet sallallahu
Alayhi wa salaam , he said may Allah have mercy upon both. Who from
amongst us does the invocation of the prophet sallallahu Alayhi wa
salam?. how beautiful is it that we co-operate upon the religion of Allah
inside our houses. That the husband takes his wife by her hand on a
path to jannah and the wife takes her husband by hand to jannah.
As for the second advice; it is a great advice which many people are
heedless of ,and that ,is that we attain noble manners in our houses and
we make the best of our manners to our families. "The best of you are
the best of you to your families". The prophet taught us good manners .
however, unfortunately many of the [people] today when they leave the
house and go to the streets, if they meet the people or meet their friends,
then they display good manners ; they laugh, they smile . However,
when he returns to his house and locks the door he becomes a lion; he
roars over there, he hits over there, he curses over there, up until his
family wishes he exit the house. We have not been taught like this nor
this is the manners of a muslim . Do you know that the prophet
sallallahu Alayhi wa salam used to be in his house serving his family.
The prophet Sallallahu Alayhi wa salam used to show Aisha the best of
manners , he used to thin down the meat, meaning he used to take the
bones and eat the meat from the bones and he used to give Aisha, so
Aisha could eat from it, if Aisha were to eat from there, he would place
his noble mouth on the place where Aisha ate from- may Allah be
pleased with her. He used to race with her. Look at their manners , him
being old in age didn't prevent him from racing , nor being the prophet
of Allah prevent him neither did him being the leader of an Army
preventing him from treating his wife with this beautiful characters.
[Characteristics] Which will establish the house upon affection , mercy
and love. The shaytan will never enter this house.
As for the third advice; I advice every spouse in regards to the affairs of
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the dunya to excuse one another , and each of them should relinquish
something of their rights when it comes to the affairs of this dunya;
there is always going to be shortcomings , however the intellectual
husband is gentle with his wife and looks to the best of her so he can
forget what (shortcomings) took place -vice versa. The prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa salam said; "A muslim male should not hate a
female muslim" meaning; a husband should not dislike his believing
wife , if he dislikes a characteristics of her then let him be pleased with
another. And the wife obeys her husband except in the disobedience of
Allah.
If the houses are founded upon these three advices , then by Allah you
will be prosperous in this life and it will be a reason for victory and
safety on the day of resurrection and the shaytan will be defeated in
(trying to sow discord) between us.
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Subhaanaka Allaahumma wa bihamdika, 'ash-hadu 'an laa 'ilaaha
'illaa 'Anta, 'astaghfiruka wa 'atoobu 'ilayka (Glory is to You, O Allah,
and praise is to You. I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship
but You. I seek Your forgiveness and repent to You.) [Reference: Abu
Dawud, Ibn Majah, At-Tirmithi and An-Nasa'i. See also Al-Albani, Sahih
At-Tirmithi 3/ 153]
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Motivational Sayings of the Salaf on Nikaah (Marriage)

1. ‘Ikrimah, Sumay’ and Kurayb report that Ibn ‘Abbās – Allah be

2. It is reported that ‘Abdullāh b. Masʿūd – Allāh be pleased with him –

5. It is reported that Al-Aḥnaf b. Qays – Allāh have mercy on him – said:

6. ʿAmr b. Dīnār reports that ʿAbdullāh b. ʿUmar – Allāh be pleased with

7. It is reported that Ṭāwūs – Allāh have mercy on him – said, “The

[7 & 8: Al-Dhahabī, Siyar A’lām Al-Nubalā`, in his biography of Ṭāwūs.

Conclusion: Three Golden Advices For A Marital Happy Life by

religion of Allah , by Allah then Again by Allah! Blessings have never

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