Republic of the Philippines

Department of Education
MIMAROPA REGION
SCHOOLS DIVISION OF ORIENTAL MINDORO
SAN MARIANO NATIONAL HIGH SCHOOL
SAN MARIANO, ROXAS, ORIENTAL MINDORO
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Quarter 2 - Module 8 (Week 1/10)
Personal Relationship

What I Need to Know

At the end of this module, you should be able to:
1. Discuss an understanding of teen-age relationships, including the
acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions. (ESP-
PD11/12PR-Iii-9.1);
2. Express his/her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.
(ESP-PD11/12PR-Iii-9.2);
3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship. (ESP-
PD11/12PR-Iii-9.3)

What I Know

Multiple Choice. Select the letter of the best answer among the given
choices.
1. This refers to the close connections between people, formed by
emotional bonds and interactions.
A. Personal Development B. Intimacy
C. Personal Relationship D. Commitment
2. Which of the following is appropriate to do in expressing your attraction
to your significant other?
A. Kissing B. Smiling at each other
C. Intimate activities D. Invading personal space
3. Which of the following influence the person to get attracted to people
who are geographically closer to them?
A. Physical Attractiveness B. Similarity
C. Proximity D. Reciprocity
4. Which of the following influences the person to get attracted to others
who like them back?
A. Physical Attractiveness B. Similarity
C. Proximity D. Reciprocity

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 5. It is an act deciding to consistently fulfil and live by agreements made
with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity
and respect serve as a guide to one’s behaviour and thinking
A. Passion B. Commitment
C. Attraction D. Attachment
6. It is described as the love-struck phase which is part of lust because it
involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire.
A. Passion B. Commitment
C. Attraction D. Attachment
7. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is
characterized by intimate, non-passionate type of love with long term
commitment.
A. Consummate B. Romantic
C. Companionate D. Fatuous
8. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is ideal and
complete form of love with intimacy, passion and commitment.
A. Consummate B. Romantic
C. Companionate D. Fatuous
9. It is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that is considered as
the selfless or unconditional love.
A. Philia B. Agape
C. Storge D. Philautia
10. It is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that is considered
having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self.
A. Philia B. Agape
C. Storge D. Philautia
11. Which of the following Ancient Greek’s types of love is recommended
for your family?
A. Storge, Agape, Philia B. Pragma Eros, Ludus
C. Storge, Eros, Philia D. Storge, Philia, Philautia
12. Which of the following Ancient Greek’s types of love is recommended
for friendship?
A. Storge, Agape, Philia B. Pragma Eros, Ludus
C. Storge, Eros, Philia D. Storge, Philia, Philautia
13. Which of the following is an element of a healthy relationship?
A. One person make all the decisions B. Be disrespectful
C. Trust one another D. You are threatened
14. Which of the following is a good sign of a healthy relationship?
A. You are afraid of your friends temper.
B. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you.
C. Your friend threatens to hurt you
D. You friend makes fun of you.

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 15. Which of the following is a good sign of an unhealthy relationship?
A. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
B. There is communication, sharing, and trust.
C. You feel fear in your relationship.
D. You feel safe to share secrets

Lesson1 PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP

Pre-historic humans were interacting already through different forms of

behaviour suchWhatas smiling,
I Needgreeting
to Knoweach other, showing love, affection and
loyalty, or hunting food together. These were all necessary for their survival
especially in the group that you were belonged. The primary reason for the
human beings to be belonged is survival.
Today, belongingness still exists since it has many benefits such as
having support system when you need someone to share your sadness,
happiness and other concerns especially for the teenagers. In adolescence
stage, teenagers begin to form a sense of identity that involves shaping
values and setting future goals. They develop social skills and interact with
the people around them. The nurtured relationships with other people help
us to survive. Hence, we need to understand the relationships formed by the
teenagers among the people around them.

What’s New

Activity 1: The People around Me

Draw a rectangle on blank sheet of paper. Connect three more rectangles
as shown below. Lists down the people you have close connections with
and who considered family, friends, or partner. You may draw or put
pictures of them if you want.

FAMILY

PARTNER YOU FRIENDS

(if there’ any)
What’s is it

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 As you have listed all the people in your life right now that you have
close connection, so let us know what this close connection that you have
with them is.

Personal Relationship refers to the association and close connections

between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds
often grow from and are formed by mutual experiences. Teenagers
commonly have relationships with their family, friends and significant other.
The changes in a teen’s physical and cognitive development come with big
changes in their relationship with family and friends. In adolescence stage, a
new understanding of one’s self occurs. This may include independence,
identity and self-esteem.
Family Relationships
Family is defined as “two or more persons who are related by birth,
marriage, or adoption, and who live together as one household.” It includes
siblings and parents who may with you as you grow up, and relatives such
as grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins who you may not see
frequently.
Family bond plays a vital role in person’s well-being since it may form
other kinds of relationships such as friendships and romantic relationships.
Having strong family relationships is ideal although it doesn’t happen
always. There should be love and closeness. Parents and older relatives
role is to guide discipline and support you when needed. Arguments,
disagreements, moments of anger and hurt are normal in a family since you
spend so much time together, and these are short-lived for families still love
and care about each other. There is an increase of arguments and conflicts
with parents when teenagers assert their independence and find their
identity as adult. These shall pass after teenage years.
In some families, there is little physical contact whereas in others, it is
common for family members to express affection by means such as
hugging, kissing on the cheek or forehead, patting the head or tousling the
hair, patting on the back etc. It is common for babies and younger children
to be carried or held.
Friendships
Friends are the people who we are not related to but who we choose to
interact with. They are the people who we trust, respect, care about and feel
that we can confide in and want to spend time with. A friendship is a
reciprocal relationship. Both people must see each other as a friend for it to
exist.

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 There are different degrees of friendship. You may find that you feel
closer to some friends than others. This is perfectly normal. Some friends,
especially if they have only been known for a short time or are not seen very
often, may not be appropriate to confide in about personal issues or
concerns. You may find that you feel more comfortable and able to confide
in friends whom you have known for longer or spend more time with.
Furthermore, friends who are very close and know each other well are
referred to as “best friends or close friends”. Some people have many
friends, while others may only have one or two. There is no right or wrong
number of friends to have and everyone is different. Good friendships are
mutually respectful, supportive and share common interests and ideas. It
should be built on honesty, support and loyalty.
Some friendships can be close while some friends choose to greet
each other by hugging or kissing on the cheek, other friendships may have
no physical contact, or may simply shake hands. Romantic contact or Being
intimate physically is not appropriate in a friendship.
Romantic Relationships
A romantic relationship is when you feel very strongly attracted to the
other person, both to their personality and, often, also physically and should
be reciprocated by the other person in the relationship. A romantic
relationship exists between a boyfriend and girlfriend (in a heterosexual
relationship) or a boyfriend and boyfriend or girlfriend and girlfriend (in a
homosexual relationship) or spouses (in a marriage) or life partners (in a
civil partnership or long-term unmarried relationship). People in a romantic
relationship often see each other and when apart will find ways to contact
each other by phone and the like. A romantic relationship is the closest form
of relationship in which, the two people who are involved will often describe
themselves as being attracted to each other and/or “in love”. They feel a
strong connection and bond to each other that they do not feel with anyone
else, even close friends. The bond is also exclusive and monogamous.
Arguments and disagreements occur in romantic relationships
sometimes. These arguments can be overcome through effective
communication, understanding and compromise. In other cases, if there are
frequent arguments, the two people involved my decide to end the
relationship. Relationships can be of varying duration. Some relationships
quickly become apparent that the two people involved are not compatible
and do not want to spend their lives together, and so the relationship may
end after only a few months. In other cases, both may be together for many
years or may stay together for the rest of their lives.

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 Successful romantic relationships are built on love, trust, respect,
support, acceptance, shared interests and a desire for the two people
involved to share their lives together and end with marriage. For teenagers,
various kinds of physical contact are not appropriate. These include
prolonged cuddling and holding, kissing on the lips and sexual intercourse.
Pre- marital sex is unacceptable.

What’s More
Activity 2. My Family, Friends and Significant Other’s Portrait
In silence, think about your family – the members, your friends, and
significant other (if there’s any), their current situations, and the quality of
your relationships with them. In a blank sheet of paper, divide the paper into
three and draw or illustrate the portrait of your family, friends and significant
other (if there’s any). Remember that there is no right or wrong illustration.
Your illustration/ drawing should reflect how you perceive your family,
friends and your partner (if there’s any) and the relationship you have with
them right now. At the back of the paper, answer the following questions.

Guide Questions:
1. How did you feel when you were creating the portrait of your family?
friends? Partner (if there’s any)?
2. How easy or difficult was it for you to come up with the drawings/
illustration? What made it easy? What made it difficult?
3. What new things did you realize or discover about your family/ friends/
partner (if there’s any) after making your drawing?

What I Can Do

ACTIVITY 3: Journal Reflection

Use these guide questions to share your thoughts, feelings, and opinion
about your personal relationship.

1. What kind of relationship do you have in your family, friends, or partner (if
there’s any)?
2. What is your role in the relationship?
3. Are you satisfied with the type of relationship that you have with them?
4. Do you believe that your relationship with them can be improved?
5. In what ways can you help to improve your relationship with them?

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 ATTRACTION, LOVE
Lesson2 AND COMMITMENT

What I Need to Know

Every human being has his own way of expressing his attraction, love,
and commitment due to our different life experiences. When attraction
between two persons is discussed, it is often understood as based on
physical appearance while this might be true to a certain extent but there is
more to attraction that we already know.
According to Helen Fisher, attraction is primarily on physiology or certain
hormones that get attracted to others and is the first stage during the
changes of personality development which leads to closeness, love and
commitment. But, disappointments in relationships occur usually because of
the misunderstanding about the different ways of expressing their attraction,
love and commitment. Thus, let us explore how we can express our
attraction, love and commitment to others.

What’s In
Activity 4: The People I am Attracted to
Write down the name of the person/s that best fit for each statement on the
second column and on the third column, elaborate/specify the reason/s of
your attraction similar to the statement given. You can answer as many as
you can.
Example: I am physically attracted to (name of the person) because she has
lovely eyes and beautiful smile.
Statement Name of Reasons
Person/s
1. I like him/her because he/she is
physically attractive.
2. I am attracted to him/her because I
am familiar with him/her and we often
see each other.
3. I am attracted to him/her because we
are alike.

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4. I am attracted to him/her because we
have the same feelings or we like each
other.

What’s New

Activity 5: Love Test

Each item is a hypothetical situation that reveals psychological aspects of
you. However, the results are not necessarily true. When answering a
question, do not dwell too much on the item and simply write your answer
that comes in your mind first.
Hypothetical Situation Answer
1. You are walking to your boyfriend's or girlfriend's
house. There are two roads to get there. A straight path o Short
that you will arrive quickly but is very plain and boring. o Long
The other is longer but full of wonderful and interesting
sights. Which path will you choose?
2. On the way, there are two rose bushes which is full of
red roses and the other is full of white. You pick 20
roses for your loved one. What color combination will
you choose? (Any combination including all one color is
fine.
3. You finally get to your boyfriend's or girlfriend's o Do it
house. A family member answers the door. You can ask yourself
them to please get your boyfriend/girlfriend or you can o Ask a
go yourself. Which do you do? family
member
4. You go up to your girlfriend's or boyfriend's room, but o Window
nobody is there. You can leave the rose. Where will you sill
out the roses? o Bed
5. Later, it's time for bed. Both of you sleep in separate o Awake
rooms. In the morning, when it is time for both of you to o Asleep
get up, you go into his or her room and check up on
them. When you arrive, is he or she awake or asleep?
6. Now it is time for you to go back home. Do you take o Short
the short but plain and boring road or the longer, sight o Long

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 filled road?

What’s is it

In the biological model of love as proposed by anthropologist Helen

Fisher, love can start with any of these three feelings: lust, attraction and
attachment depending on the person. Each involves different
neurochemicals in your brain.

Three Brain Systems of Love or Stages of Falling in Love

1. Lust refers to an urge or desire that motivates us to partake in sexual
activity.
2. Attraction is described as the love-struck phase. This is the stage when a
person loses sleep and appetite over someone and become excited to
someone while daydreaming of special person. It is part of lust because it
involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire. Many
factors influence attraction.
Factors of Attraction
a. Physical Attractiveness
It is one of the primary determinants of romantic attraction. Most
people prefer whom they consider physically attractive especially in
the early stages of dating.
b. Proximity
People tend to get attracted to people who are geographically closer
to them. They are more likely to develop feelings of mutual familiarity
with the people who live close to us or go to school with us and
increased level of comfort when there is regular contact and no prior
negative feelings.
c. Similarity
People pick partners who we have similarities with such as social
class, background, religious beliefs, age and education. The more
attitudes and opinions two people share, especially when they are
similar, the more they will want to do the same activities, and would
create a strong bond between them.
d. Reciprocity
People like others who like them back. People feel indebted when
someone does something good for them and tend to reciprocate the

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 action. The more we are liked by someone they equally like, the more
we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking.
3. Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one
person to another across time and space. It is when long-lasting
commitments are exchanged.
Robert Strenberg (1988) suggests that there are three main
components of love. Love relationships vary and it depends on the presence
or absence of each of these components.
Three Components of Triangular Theory of Love
1. INTIMACY is an intimate interpersonal relationship that involves physical
or emotional intimacy. It is characterized by friendship, familiarity, or
romantic love. It involves closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
2. PASSION is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire for
something.
3. COMMITMENT is the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or
support something. It is an act deciding to consistently fulfil and live by
agreements made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the
values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to one’s behaviour and
thinking. The easy ways to express your commitment to your
relationships is to show love and loyalty, respect and appreciate others,
convey honesty and trust, work as a team and compromise, and
disagree agreeably.
The combination of the three (3) components can produce eight (8) types of
love.
Types of Intimac Passio Commitme Example
Love y n nt
Nonlove No No No
Liking Yes No No Friendships
Infatuation No Yes No Experiencing love at
first sight or being
obsessed with a
person
Empty Love No No Yes Stagnant
Relationships or
Arrange marriage
Fatuous No Yes Yes Relationships
motivated by passion

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 Companionat Yes No Yes Relationships lacking
e passion such as
those between family
members or close
friends
Romantic Yes Yes No Being bonded
emotionally and
physically to another
person
Consummate Yes Yes Yes Complete love
Love occurs not solely between romantic partners only. Humans can
experience different types of love in various relationships, such as with
romantic partners, friends, family and even strangers. Ancient Greeks
studied love and denote each type by giving each one a Greek name. Lee
(1973) offers a theory love styles which are derived from an analysis of
writings about love through centuries.

1. PHILIA – Affectionate Love

It is a love that runs deep in true friendship. Love without romantic
attraction and occurs between friends or family members. It is called
brotherly love when both people share the same values and respect each
other.

Ways to show this love:

 Engage in deep conversation with a friend.
 Exchange beliefs and imperfections with close friends.
 Be open and trustworthy
 Be supportive in difficult times.
2. PRAGMA – Enduring Love
It is a mature love that develops over time. Commitment and efforts are
needed to reach “Pragma”. Instead of “falling in love”, you are “standing
in love” with the partner by your side.

Ways to show this love:

 Continue to strengthen the bond of long-term relationships
 Seek and show effort with your partner.
 Choose to work with your partner forever.

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3. STORGE – Familiar love
It is naturally occurring love rooted in parents and children, as well as
best friends. It’s an infinite love built upon acceptance and deep
emotional connection. This love come easily and immediately in parent
and child relationships. It flows between parents and children or
childhood friends.
Ways to show this love:
 Sacrifice your time, self or personal pleasures.
 Quickly forgive harmful actions.
 Share memorable and impactful moments.
 Show gratitude towards the people close to you.
4. EROS – Romantic Love
It is a personal infatuation and physical pleasure. It is a passionate love
displayed through physical affection.
Ways to show this love:
 Admiring someone’s physical body
 Engage in physical touch such as hugging and kissing but it is not
appropriate for you yet.
5. LUDUS –Playful love
Flirting and beginning stages of intimate love. It is a child-like and
flirtatious love found in the beginning. This type of love consists of
teasing, playful motives and laughter between two people.
Ways to show this love:
 Spend time together to laugh and have fun
 Exemplify childlike behaviour together.
6. MANIA –Obsessive Love
Obsessiveness or madness over a love partner is mania. It leads to
unwanted jealousy or possessiveness.
Ways to avoid this love:
 Recognize obsessive or possessive behaviour before acting upon
it.
 Focus on yourself more than another person.
 Put trust into your relationships
7. PHILAUTIA –Self Love
It is having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self.

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 It is when you recognize your self-worth and don’t ignore your personal
needs. Self-love begins with acknowledging your responsibility for your
well-being.

Ways to avoid this love:

 Respect, accept ad appreciate yourself.
 Create environment that nurtures your well-being.
 Take care of yourself like a parent would care for a child
 Spend time around people who supports you.
8. AGAPE –Selfless Love
It is an empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone. It is the
highest love to offer. It is given without any expectations of receiving
anything in return. It is considered as unconditional love.
Ways to avoid this love:
 Dedicate your life to improve the lives of others.
 Stay conscious of your actions for the good of humankind.
 Offer your time and charity to someone in need.
 Express unconditional love in any situation
What’s I Have Learned

ACTIVITY 6: Love Combination

Identify the perfect combination of different theory of love styles that can
create something beautiful on your connection with your family, friends and
significant other. Though there isn’t a perfect equation for every relationship,
these combinations can provide a perspective on how to work various types
of love into your relationships.

Relationship Combination of Types of Love

Family ___________+____________+_____________
Friendship ___________+____________+_____________
Significant Other ___________+____________+_____________

What’s More

ACTIVITY 7. Love Language In The Family

This activity aims to help you realize your love language or the way you
would usually prefer to receive from and give love to your parents, friends

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and significant other. You can take the “Love Language Personal Profile”
based on Dr. Gary Cahpman’s The 5 Love Languages using this link
https://bit.ly/3cpjE1H.

If you don’t have internet access, you can actually assess yourself, your
family, friends, and significant others of your love languages.

1. Words of Affirmation
“Actions don’t always speak louder than word”. Unsolicited compliments
mean the world to you. Wanting to hear “I love you” or other positive
compliments you’re your partner. And if you don’t hear it, then you might feel
unloved. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You
wanted to hear kind and encouraging words that build you up.
2. Acts of Service
Doing nice things for other people and anything you do to ease the burden
of the other person are “acts of service.” Whether it’s changing someone’s
oil, cleaning the house, or giving a back rub, doing things to help make the
other person happy is what this one is about. Helping with homework can be
an expression of love to you. The words you wanted to hear is “Let me do it
for you”.
3. Receiving Gifts
You value giving and receiving gifts and some do not. So, if you measure
your partner’s love by how many gifts you are given, then your love
language is “receiving gifts.” Don’t mistake this love language for
materialism; the receiver of the gifts wanted on the love, thoughtfulness, and
effort behind the gift. A missed birthday or a thoughtless gift would be
disastrous.
4. Quality Time
You measure the quality of love by how much time the other people want to
spend with you. If you don’t get enough “together time,” then you might feel
unloved. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there
– with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks standby
makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or
the failure to listen can be hurtful.
5. Physical Touch
A person whose primary language is physical touch is not very touchy.
Hugs, pats on the back, holding hand and thoughtful touches on the arm

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can show excitement, concern, care and love. Physical presence and
accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and
destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety
and love to you.

What’s I Can Do?

ACTIVITY 8: Journal Reflection

Upon knowing the results, reflect and write in your journal the following:
1. Using the answer in activity 1, write your love language and the love
languages of your listed family members such as parents and siblings,
friends and significant other.
2. How you can further express your love to them?
3. List down the things on how you wanted to be loved and how you can
share your love to them.

BEING RESPONSIBLE
Lesson3 IN A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

What’s New
ACTIVITY 9: Friendship Stoplight Analogy
Recognize examples of positive and negative behaviors related to healthy
and unhealthy relationships. The purpose of this activity is to explore
relationships using stoplight analogy. Color the circle corresponding to you
answer.

RED – Stop! These are bad sign of relationship.

YELLOW – Caution! These are warning signs of relationship.
GREEN – Go! These are good signs in a friendship!

1. You are afraid of your 11. Your friend threatens

friend’s temper. to hurt you.
2. You enjoy being with 9. You say that you agree
this person but you also with your friends, even
enjoy spending time with though you really don’t.
other friends. You are afraid they won’t
be your friend anymore, if

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 you disagree.
3. Your friend pressures 10. You rarely get to plan
you to do things you do not what the two of you will do
want to do. together.
4. Your friend tells you not 12. You are nervous that if
to hang out with certain you tell your friend
people. something personal,
he/she will tell other people
at school.
5. You usually feel happy 13. Your friend is happy
when you are with this when good things happen
person. to you and celebrates your
successes..
6. Your friends talks to you 14. Your friends
about his/her feelings. sometimes make fun of
you.
7. Your friend criticises you 15. Your friend respects
or people you care about. your feelings and your
opinions.
8. Your friend bullies and
makes fun of other people
at school.

What’s is it
The situations given in the previous activity can all be applicable
among your family and significant other or partner. Learn to recognize
examples of people who engage in negative behaviors that lead to
unhealthy relationships. These are some important aspects for healthy
relationships.
Important Aspects for Healthy Relationships
Adapted from Woititz, J. , Adult Children of Alcoholics
Mutual Respect Do I treat the other person as if he/she is of value?
Compassion Do I have genuine concern for the issues that cause the
other person concern?
Empathy To what degree am I able to allow myself to be open to
what he/she feels?
Understanding Do I try to understand the other peson, what they say or
do?
Acceptance Can I feel I am okay the way I am? Do I accept him/her

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 as he/she is?
Honesty Is the relationship built on truthfulness, or are there
games involved?
Trust To what degree am I willing to let the other person know
private aspects of my thoughts, feelings, and life?
Good Can we talk freely about issues that are important to the
Communication relationships?
Do we know how to talk so we each are understood and
sharing is safe?
Consideration Am I mindful of the other person’s needs as well as my
own?
Compatibility To what extent do we like and value the same things?
Mutual In areas of disagreement, are we able to agree or
Enjoyment disagree?
Personal Am I able to maintain my beliefs and sense of self as
Integrity well as offer my time and attention to the relationship?
Vulnerability To what degree can I let down my barriers and allow the
other person to see my perceived weaknesses, without
fear of negative reactions from them?

What’s More

ACTIVITY 10: Characteristics of Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

Divide your paper into two columns and identify healthy and unhealthy
relationships
1. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
2. You do not try to control each other. There is equal amount of give and
take.
3. You feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
4. There is communication, sharing and trust. You feel safe to share secrets.
5. You feel that you give more attention to them than they give to you. You
feel controlled.
6. You don’t communicate, share or trust.
7. You like to spend time together but also enjoy doing things apart.
8. You feel pressured to spend time together and you feel guilty when you’re
both apart from each other.
9. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
10. It’s easy to be yourself when you are with them.

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11. You respect each other’s opinion. You listen and try to understand their
point of view even if you don’t always agree with them.
12. You feel the need to be someone that you are not.
13. There is no fear in your relationship.
14. You feel there’s no respect for you or your opinion. You are not able to
disagree.
15. You feel fear in your relationship.

What’s I Can Do

ACTIVITY 11: Journal Reflection

Upon learning to determine the ways to nurture you relationship to others,
reflect and write in your journal the following:
1. Assess your relationship with your family, friends or significant partner
by identifying the things that make it healthy and unhealthy.
2. Write possible ways on how you will change your unhealthy
relationship to them into healthy relationship (if there’s any).
3. What are the things you can possibly do or promise to yourself to
become responsible in maintaining the healthy relationship you have
to other people?

Summary
1. Personal Relationship refers to the association and close connections
between people, formed by emotional bonds and interactions.
2. Different Types of Relationships: family, friendship, romantic
relationships.
3. Three Brain Systems of Love or Stages: Lust, attraction and
Attachment.
4. Factor of Attraction are physical attractiveness, proximity, similarity,
reciprocity.
5. Three Components of Triangular Theory of Love by Robert Strenberg:
Intimacy, Passion and Commitment
6. The combination of the three (3) components can produce eight (8)
types of love: Nonlove, liking, infatuation, empty love, fatuous,
companionate, romantic consummate
7. Eight love styles name after Greek names:
 PHILIA – Affectionate Love

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  PRAGMA – Enduring Love
 STORGE – Familiar love
 EROS – Romantic Love
 LUDUS –Playful love
 MANIA –Obsessive Love
 PHILAUTIA –Self Love
 AGAPE –Selfless Love
8. Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Cahpman
 Words of Affirmation
 Acts of Service
 Receiving Gifts
 Quality Time
 Physical Touch
9. Important aspects to nurture relationship are the following: mutual
respect, compassion, empathy, understanding, acceptance, honesty,
trust, good communication, consideration, compatibility, mutual
enjoyment, personal dignity, vulnerability

Assessment: (Post-Test)

Multiple Choice. Select the letter of the best answer among the given
choices.
1. It is an act deciding to consistently fulfil and live by agreements made
with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity
and respect serve as a guide to one’s behaviour and thinking
A. Passion B. Commitment
C. Attraction D. Attachment
2. It is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that is considered
having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self.
A. Philia B. Agape
C. Storge D. Philautia
3. Which of the following influence the person to get attracted to people
who are geographically closer to them?
A. Physical Attractiveness B. Similarity
C. Proximity D. Reciprocity
4. Which of the following Ancient Greek’s types of love is recommended
for your family?
A. Storge, Agape, Philia B. Pragma Eros, Ludus
C. Storge, Eros, Philia D. Storge, Philia, Philautia

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5. Which of the following influences the person to get attracted to others
who like them back?
A. Physical Attractiveness B. Similarity
C. Proximity D. Reciprocity
6. It is described as the love-struck phase which is part of lust because it
involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire.
A. Passion B. Commitment
C. Attraction D. Attachment
7. Which of the following is an element of a healthy relationship?
A. One person make all the decisions B. Be disrespectful
C. Trust one another D. You are threatened
8. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is
characterized by intimate, non-passionate type of love with long term
commitment.
A. Consummate B. Romantic
C. Companionate D. Fatuous
9. It is a type of love named after ancient Greeks that is considered as
the selfless or unconditional love.
A. Philia B. Agape
C. Storge D. Philautia
10. Which of the following Ancient Greek’s types of love is recommended
for friendship?
A. Storge, Agape, Philia B. Pragma Eros, Ludus
C. Storge, Eros, Philia D. Storge, Philia, Philautia
11. According to Robert Stenberg, it is the type of love that is ideal and
complete form of love with intimacy, passion and commitment.
A. Consummate B. Romantic
12. Which of the following is a good sign of an unhealthy relationship?
A. You feel good about yourself when you’re around the other person.
B. There is communication, sharing, and trust.
C. You feel fear in your relationship.
D. You feel safe to share secrets.
13. Which of the following is a good sign of a healthy relationship?
A. You are afraid of your friends temper.
B. Your friend is happy when good things happen to you.
C. Your friend threatens to hurt you
D. You friend makes fun of you.
14. Which of the following is appropriate to do in expressing your
attraction to your significant other?
A. Kissing B. Smiling at each other
C. Intimate activities D. Invading personal space

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 15. This refers to the close connections between people, formed by
emotional
bonds and interactions.
A. Personal Development B. Intimacy
C. Personal Relationship D. Commitment

Answer Key
ACTIVITY 5 Love Test Analysis
1. The roads signify your attitude towards falling in love.
 Short road - You fall in love quickly and easily.
 Long road - You take your time and do not fall in love easily.
PRE-TEST 2. The red roses signify how much you expect to give in a relationship while white
ACTIVITY 6: Love Combination
1. C roses represent how much you expect in a relationship.
FAMILY = Storge + Agape  + Philia
If you choose all red with one white, he/she gives 90% in the
2. B
FRIENDSHIP=Philia + Storge relationship but expects to receive only 10% back.
+ Philautia
3. C 3. It illustrates your attitude in handling relationship problems.
4. D SIGNIFICANT OTHER =Pragma Ask a family member - You may beat around the bush, maybe asking a
5. B +Eros+Ludus third party to intervene. Avoidance of problems runs high.
6. C  Do it myself - You are pretty direct. If there is a problem, you confront it
and deal with it. You want to work it out right away.
7. C
4. The placement of the roses indicates how often you'd like to see your
8. A boyfriend/girlfriend.
9. B  Placing the roses on the bed means you need lots of reassurance in
10. D the relationship, and you'd want to see your loved one every day, if
11. A possible.
 Placing the roses by the window show that you don't expect or need to
12. D
see your loved one too often.
13. C 5.
14. B  Finding your boyfriend/ girlfriend asleep: You accept your loved one the
15. C way they are.
 Finding them awake: You expect him/her to change for you.
6. The roads represent how long you stay in love.
 Short road - You fall out of love easily.
 Long road - You tend to stay in love for a long time.

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