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Haliza Adany Ihsan

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The Thing About a Narcissist and a Self-Centered Person

How much of an attention seeker can you be before people start accusing you of being a
narcissist? In this day and age, you might hear the word ‘narcissist’ being treated like a
throwaway term. The second someone exhibits certain problematic behaviors, they are now a
‘narcissist’. Do not take this the wrong way; being entitled, selfish, acting in a thoughtless way,
and so on, are indeed toxic and incontrovertibly in line with narcissism. However, these are just
narcissist-like traits. The truth is, not everyone who displays these behaviors are narcissists. To
treat the word as such is, in fact, downright dangerous. Narcissism is an actual mental health
condition, thus throwing this word around negligently may result in demonizing individuals who
have been diagnosed with the disorder, that are also in the process of bettering themselves. While
it is possible that some of the people whom you label as narcissists may meet the criteria, what if
they are simply self-centered? Despite the similarities in their behavioral patterns, narcissists and
self-centered individuals differ substantially in a few key ways, which includes their degree of
self-awareness and underlying motivations.
According to DSM-5, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a cluster B personality
disorder where individuals who suffer from it have a grandiose sense of self-importance,
excessive desire for admiration and attention, lack of empathy, are overly self-involved and
selfish, while also riddled with insecurities. On the other hand, self-centeredness is a personality
trait or behavior defined by an excessive focus on oneself and one's needs, desires, and interests,
frequently to the detriment of other people's needs and feelings. Now, you might think they
correspond with one another, and you are right, they do have similarities. That is due to the fact
that all narcissists are self-centered, but not all individuals who are self-centered are narcissists.
Nevertheless, this is what should be highlighted; a person who is diagnosed with NPD is a
person that has a personality disorder, whereas someone who is self-centered, well, that is just
their personality.
Following that, a person who is self-centered typically would be a little bit open in
recognizing that their behaviors might not serve them very well in social settings or other
environments, thus they may feel otherwise ashamed of their shortcomings, although still
choosing to act upon them. On the contrary, a narcissist generally would think anyone who
points out their self-centeredness are totally wrong, even to an extent of justifying their own
actions. This does not imply that narcissists are beyond repair, that they are incapable of change.
Some narcissists are self-aware, but their inflated sense of self-importance and ignorance of the
effects of their actions on other people make it harder to make room for change than those who
are merely self-centered.
Furthermore, people with NPD have different underlying motivations compared to
self-centered individuals. They have a plethora of motives, and everything that fosters their own
benefit definitely made it into the list. Narcissists need to win all the time. That being said, when
someone needs empathy, they see it as an opportunity of manipulation. Unlike narcissists, people
who are self-centered most often than not come from a place of feeling unimportant, and as a
result, their motivations are usually oriented on self-preservation and satisfying their own needs
and desires.
Overall, it may be said that the degree of self-awareness and underlying motivations are
two of many distinctions that can be made between narcissistic and self-centered. It is important
to keep in mind that these two terms cannot be used interchangeably, because as conveyed
above, they do not share the same significance. Although, the fact that we would detest spending
time with either of those types of people is one reason the two share a commonality.

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