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    30/05/2020 Safety Objection – UMP University

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    These concerns are often token but can be real, especially for women that have had negative experiences
    previously.

    Objection: “How do I know you’re not a serial killer” (Token)

    Guy: “Don’t worry, I gave up serial killing last week” (Token)


    Guy: “Hey, by the way. Random question. What blood type are you, and how would you rate your
    kidneys from 1-10?’ (Token)
    Guy: “I think it’s you I should worry about missy!” (Token)

    Objection: “You might kidnap me.”

    Guy: “Oh, I am kidnapping you! This is going to be the best kidnap of your
    life” (Token)
    Guy: “I’ll tie you up only if you want me to.” (Token)

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    Objection: “How do I know you won’t rape me?”

    Guy: “Please. It’s you I should worry about!” (token)


    Guy: “Don’t joke about rape! Seriously. It’s not funny at all. I’ve had
    someone very close to me go through that, and you shouldn’t trivialize it!”
    (Token)

    I have labeled this token, but you answer it in a very serious way. It prevents her from ever using it as a
    token objection again (and if there were even a 1% real concern, she can now see that you take the
    concept of consent very seriously).

    You can also deal with these safety concerns with righteous anger. If I continually get this objection over
    and over again, this is the tactic I use.

    Guy: “Okay, seriously, you need to stop! You are acting super creepy and making
    me feel weird. You keep acting as if I’m going to kill you or something. If you don’t
    feel safe, then you can leave right now. If you are going to stay, you need to stop
    being creepy!”

    It frames them as weird and creepy by bringing up such concerns and also gives them the ultimatum to
    leave.

    Real concern

    If the girl has a legitimate concern, you can reassure her by showing her on Google Maps exactly where
    you live. Let her friends take a photo of your ID and take your number. Also, you can suggest setting her
    phone on location, so her friends know where she is.
    The other thing that I find very helpful is just being direct with the girl and pointing out that she should
    trust her instincts.

    Guy: “Listen, you know I’m not some serial killer or kidnapper. Honestly, deep
    down, you know that. You are a smart girl, and you have a really high social
    intelligence. You would know straight away know if I was some kind of creep. I get

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    that you are a little worried because you probably don’t do this often. But you
    know I’m a cool guy. You have nothing to worry about.”

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