Being A Tweenager

Being a Tweenager
by Rachel Santos- Villafuerte

Tweenagers insist on having their parents‘ full attention but in the same breath say ―Leave me
alone The term ―tween‖ is a blend of the words between and teen and is used to describe the
period between childhood and adolescence, or the ages between eight and twelve years. Yuan
is in the sixth grade. He is a tween. There are so many things that he wants to do and prove to
himself and his family. He wants older people to say that he is a responsible person, and he
wants his parents to give him independence. But he still needs mom‘s help in fixing his clothes
and even reminding him to change his socks! One moment, he has the temper of a terrible
two-year-old and in another he can be as sweet as chocolate pie. ―Tweenagers just like Yuan,
need to know how to express their feelings clearly and how to say it without hurting other
people‘s feelings. If you‘re feeling hurt because someone criticizes you, you need not lash it
out on others or use hurtful words. The first thing that you need to do s understand why you‘re
feeling hurt and what you can do to help yourself to stop from feeling hurt. For example, if
your friend criticizes you because of the manner, you speak or the clothes you wear, you feel
hurt because you value his or her opinion of you. You may begin to feel bad about yourself and
you may think that you are not likeable anymore. You may also think that others will no longer
want to be your friends because you are ―uncool. Then you may start to answer back or to get
back at your friend by criticizing him or her. However, you must understand that you should say
what you feel only when you are calm, collected and when you already thought about what to
say to your friend. Maybe you can ask why he/ she said what has been said or what he or she
thinks you should do to speak better or dress better. Another feeling that many tweenagers
feel is anger. Sometimes when you feel that older people do not value your opinion and they
think you‘re still a child, you feel angry with them. When a friend says that he or she doesn‘t
want to be your friend, you feel angry. When your parents cut your allowance or ground you
because of the bad choices you have made, you feel angry. You think that you don‘t deserve it.
When you‘re angry, you sometimes just want to disappear or scream in utter helplessness. As a
tweenager, it‘s important for you to make sure that you express your feelings even if they are
of anger or annoyance. Expressing your feelings doesn‘t mean that you should lose your
temper. The best way to do this is to explain calmly that you are angry and why. The most
important feeling that a tweenager has is the feeling of acceptance. Every tweenager wants to
belong to a group. That is why if you‘re a tweenager you want to do what your friends do,
wear, say, and like. To prove that you are part of the group, you do what your friends tell you to
do, even if sometimes you don‘t want to do it. This is called ―peer pressure.‖ You think that
belonging to a cool group means that you are popular and well liked by everyone. Sometimes
you don‘t listen to what your parents say and you want to be left alone. You prefer to stay with
your friends the whole day and when you 9 Region V/Daily Lesson Plan/2019-2020 come
home, you feel that your parents are ―crowding you. you feel hurt, angry and alone. You wish
that you could just be with your friend who understand how you feel. Remember that as a
tweenager, it‘s important for you to express calmly how you feel and to learn how to balance
your time between family and friends. Your family just like your friends is a group. And you can
always count on the people in that group to listen, love, nurture and provide for your needs as
you go through life as a tweenager.
Answer the following questions on your notebook.
1. What is tweenager?
2. Who are considered tweenager?
3. As a tweenager, how do you deal with your emotions? What are the three feelings mentioned in the selection?
4. Why do tweenagers feel hurt? Angry?
5. Cite instances when tweenagers feel angry. Do you think they have reason to be so?
6. In your own personal life, what are the reasons why you are sometimes angry?
7. Why is it important for tweenagers to understand and appreciate themselves? 8. Was it easy to answer questions
about the selection? Where you able to understand it?

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