Marriage Quotes

“Once you are married, there is nothing left for you, not even suicide.”
― Robert Louis Stevenson, Virginibus Puerisque

“You end up marrying the one you don't understand. Then you spend the rest of your life trying.”
― Fredrik Backman, Anxious People

“If human relationality formed the bedrock of meaning, it seemed to us that rearing children added another dimension to that meaning.”
― Paul Kalanithi, When Breath Becomes Air

“We actually all tend to make assumptions when it comes to those we love. It’s called the closeness-communication bias. As wonderful as intimacy and familiarity are, they make us complacent, leading us to overestimate our ability to read those closest to us.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“Her sad eyes, they were full of wonderful stories.”
― Jordan Hoechlin

“Komitmen gak seburuk itu Bang. Lo mungkin gak bisa ke sana ke mari. Tapi di satu sisi, lo juga bisa egois atas istri lo sendiri. Dia hak lo buat dimiliki. Ada sensasi lain waktu lo nyentuh dia sedangkan lo mikir bahwa hal itu bukan dosa seperti biasanya. Meluk dia bukanlah dosa. Tidur sama dia bukanlah dosa. It's completely rightness.”
― Lina Dianita, BaRania - Kesempatan Kedua

“I loved being with you. You adored me, and you would do anything for me. But sometimes I'd go into a room and I wouldn't think there was anybody in there. And I'd turn the light on, or I'd turn the lights off, and I'd realize that you were in there, sitting on your own, not reading, not watching TV, not doing anything.”
― Neil Gaiman, American Gods

“The goal is to have a 'soulmate' not a cellmate.”
― Kevin Darné, Every Ending is a New Beginning

“Deep in her soul—it was the deepest thing there—lay a belief that if a certain light should dawn she could give herself completely; but this image, on the whole, was too formidable to be attractive.”
― Henry James, The Portrait of a Lady

“An eagerness to promote short-term grievances into long-term grudges is detrimental to family harmony.”
― Miss Manners

“The Key to a successful and lasting Marriage Relationship is friendship”
― Manuel Corazzari

“It is life and death,
Life like you are left
With a phantom limb:

To lose your wife
Or your best friend

- With the right leg gone -

Attempting to feel,
A tempting to mend

- Or an arm stretched strong -

Our tendencies to steal,
Thence heal the way it ends;

Prolonging as we reach back again,
But then again,
So far? See, to reject what is real,
My love, has been
Our greatest sin”
― Criss Jami

“Let’s be honest. Half of all wedding celebrations are a lot like cheering for the frickin’ Titanic on the day of departure.”
― Vindy Teja

“She waved me to a plaid couch in the middle of the living room floor. I eased down and looked around the sorry place. The odor of stale turnip greens was so thick, it seemed like it was seeping through the walls. Every piece of furniture looked like it belonged in the city dump, especially a chair with no legs facing the couch...If Betty Jean hadn't been so cheerful, I would have felt sorry for her.”
― Mary Monroe, Red Light Wives

“Most guys will walk into a marriage thinking... Well I just did what I was always told to do... and I said I do. And I was a stand up guy. But I don't understand why she was fucking her Boss.”
― Richard Cooper

“Whereupon Jim flopped into a chair and held forth at great length on the necessity of keeping wives in their places; to wit: speechless and expressionless in the presence of their lords and masters and cited several instances where men had met their downfall and utter ruin by ill advisedly permitting their wives to air their ignorance by talking. His audience, composed entirely of males, agreed with him. Wife-beaters are numberous in Poplar Street.”
― Zora Neale Hurston, Hitting a Straight Lick with a Crooked Stick: Stories from the Harlem Renaissance

“Love without the spirit of embracing is not complete. To love is to embrace someone. When you feel embraced you automatically feel loved.”
― Khuliso Mamathoni, The Greatest Proposal

“That he loved her seemed unimportant compared to what she was. He only loved her, which really made him a lot less than a friend or an acquaintance. Other people saw her and talked to her when she was herself, her great, important self. It was wrong, this idea that you know someone better because you have shared a bed and a bathroom with her. He knew, and not another human being knew, that she cried “I” or “high” in moments of great ecstasy. He knew, he alone knew her when she let herself go, when she herself was not sure whether she was wildly gay or wildly sad, but one and the other. But that did not mean that he knew her. Far from it. It only meant that he was closer to her when he was close, but (and this was the first time the thought had come to him) maybe farther away than anyone else when he was not close.”
― John O'Hara, Appointment in Samarra

“It seemed to me a lot of people had marrying on the mind in Louisiana. As if there was something like an unfinished sentence about a woman of 19 traveling alone. Perhaps, in the south, it was just hard to imagine that, “A woman of 19 travels alone.” was a complete sentence.”
― Vanessa Osage, Can't Stop the Sunrise: Adventures in Healing, Confronting Corruption & the Journey to Institutional Reform

“Marriage would wreck us. Both of us...I'm sorry. It's just not right for me.'
'Don't you love me?'
'Of course I love you. But that doesn't mean I want to marry you.”
― Naomi Wood, Mrs. Hemingway

“He saw marriage as the loving alignment of two people who can lead parallel lives but without forgoing any independent dreams or ambitions.”
― Michelle Obama, Becoming

“The ordinary challenging relationship remains a strangely and unhelpfully neglected topic. It's the extremes that repeatedly grab the spotlight - the entirely blissful partnerships or the murderous catastrophes - and so it is hard to know what we should make of, and how lonely we should feel about, such things as immature rages, late-night threats of divorce, sullen silences, slammed doors and everyday acts of thoughtlessness and cruelty.
Ideally, art would give us the answers that other people don't. This might even be one of the main points of literature: to tell us what society at large is too prudish to explore. The important books should be those that leave us wondering, with relief and gratitude, how the author could possibly have known so much about our lives.
But too often a realistic sense of what an endurable relationship is ends up weakened by silence, societal or artistic. We hence imagine that things are far worse for us than they are for other couples. Not only are we unhappy; we misunderstand how freakish and rare our particular form of unhappiness might be. We end up believing that our struggles are indications of having made some unusual and fundamental error, rather than evidence that our marriages are essentially going entirely according to plan.”
― Alain de Botton, The Course of Love

“The Romantic ideas are, he knows now, a recipe for disaster. His readiness for marriage is based on a quite different set of criteria. He is ready for marriage because - to begin the list - he has given up on perfection.”
― Alain de Botton, The Course of Love

“Remember me to Rob. I jear of a great many weddings, but his has not been announced yet. He must not forget his house... Mildred says a good house is an effective card in the matrimonial game. She is building a castle in the air.”
― Robert E. Lee, Recollections and Letters of General Robert E. Lee

“Coche’s answer was pretty simple: people in long term relationships tend to lose their curiosity for each other. Not necessarily in an unkind way; they just become convinced they know each other better than they do. They don’t listen because they think they already know what the other person will say.

Coche gave the example of spouses who answer questions or make decisions for each other. They might also give gifts that miss the mark, resulting in disappointment and hurt feelings. Parents can make the same sorts of mistakes, assuming they know what their children like or don’t like and what they would or would not do.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“It’s as if once you feel a connection with someone, you assume it will always be so. The sum of daily interactions and activities continually shapes us and adds nuance to our understanding of the world so that no one is the same as yesterday, nor will today’s self be identical to tomorrow’s.

Opinions, attitudes, and beliefs change. So it doesn’t matter how long you have known or how well you think you know people; if you stop listening, you will eventually lose your grasp of who they are and how to relate to them.

Relying on the past to understand someone in the present is doomed to failure. The French writer André Maurois wrote, “A happy marriage is a long conversation that always seems too short.”
― Kate Murphy, You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

“From what you have seen so far it should be obvious that a major source of toxic shame is the family system and its multigenerational patterns of unresolved secrets.

More specifically these families are created by the shame-based people who find and marry each other. Each looks to and expects the other to take care of and parent the child within him or her. Each is incomplete and insatiable. The insatiability is rooted in each person's unmet childhood needs. When two adult children meet and fall in love, the child in each looks to the other to fill his or her needs. Since "in love" is a natural state of fusion, the incomplete children fuse together as they had done in the symbiotic stage of infancy. Each feels a sense of oneness and completeness. Since “in-love” is always erotic, each feels "oceanic" in the sexual embrace. “Oceanic” love is without boundaries. Being in love is as powerful as any narcotic. One feels whole and ecstatic.

Unfortunately this state cannot last. The ecstatic consciousness is highly selective. Lovers focus on sameness and are intrigued by the newness of each other. Soon, however, real differences in socialization begin to emerge. The two families of origin rear their shame-based heads. Now the battle begins! Who will take care of whom? Whose family rules will win out? The more shame-based each person is, the more each other's differences will be intolerable. “If you loved me, you'd do it my way,” each cajoles the other. The Hatfields and the Mccoys go at it again.”
― John Bradshaw, Healing the Shame that Binds You

“I meditate with my mala beads and ask myself hard questions: "Can I accept responsability for the things that happened, the things I created? Can I accept responsability for the hurt I've caused? That's why people get divorced--because they can't deal with the sad feelings they created. And until you can get right and accept the fact that you've shattered somebody, that you've broken their heart in more ways than one, there's no way that you've ever going to be able to survive.”
― Abby Wambach, Forward: A Memoir

“I got married. It could happen to anyone.”
― Ljupka Cvetanova, The New Land

“You have to build you a love nest---before you get you a bird.”
― Rufus Edward Gandy(Beloved husband of Marsha Carol Watson Gandy)