Marriage Quotes

“Hast thou gone among the streets of the city and the watchmen there, and found the one thy soul loves?”
― Cassandra Clare, Chain of Iron

“There was something she hadn't known when she went into marriage and became a mother that she knew now: it was only possible to live without love when you'd never known it.”
― Kristin Hannah, The Four Winds

“The Almitra spoke again an said , And what of Marriage, Master?
and he answered saying:
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter you days.”
― Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet

“Veblen, you may not know it now, but marriage affects everything that happens to you. Your mate becomes the mirror in which you see yourself. If he doesn't see you as a beautiful pearl, you'll wither.”
― Elizabeth Mckenzie, The Portable Veblen

“You shouldn’t be married to an asshole, I guess. Probably no one should, except maybe other assholes.”
― Emily Henry, Beach Read

“If you're ever bored, take my advice and get married. Your wife, indeed, may bore you in that case, but you'll never bore yourself.”
― Henry James, The Portrait of a Lady

“Marriage is called an ‘institution’ because you must be somewhat mental to get into it. You first seek asylum but end up living in one. You don’t believe me? Well, in Spanish ‘Esposas’ means wives as well as handcuffs. But hey, that’s nothing but a linguistic coincidence.”
― Omar Cherif

“A man may not be a vocational theologian, but in his home he must the resident theologian. The apostle Paul, when he is urging women to keep silent in church, tells them that "if they want to learn something, let them ask their own husbands at home" (1 Corinthians 14:35). The tragedy is that many modern women have to wonder why the Bible says they should have to ask their husbands. "He doesn't know." But a husband must be prepared to answer his wife's doctrinal questions, and if he cannot, then he must be prepared to study so that he can remedy the deficiency. This famous passage is not such a restriction for wives as it is a requirement for husbands. If he doesn't know, he must find out.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“Husbandry is the careful management of resources - It is stewardship. And when someone undertakes to husband a woman, he must understand that it cannot be done unless he acts with authority.”
― Douglas Wilson, Reforming Marriage: Gospel Living for Couples

“Se stie insa ca sursa tuturor greutatilor moderne este ceea ce numesc eu inertia masculina. Problemele in casnicie au aparut numai dupa ce barbatii nu au mai plecat pe mare si au inceput in schimb sa bocaneasca pe langa casa in weekenduri. Barbatii au inteles si ei in sfarsit chestia asta si incearca sa umple tot acest timp liber care le ramane cu treburi urgente imaginare.”
― Hallgrímur Helgason, Woman at 1,000 Degrees

“We are happily married. She is happily, and I am married.”
― Anoir Ou-Chad

“As far as she'd discovered, she could have any man in the world, and for that, she would settle for no man on earth.”
― Criss Jami

“Love is a common theme in the poetry of Iran...While love is highly promoted in poetry, the concept of marriage is not.”
― Nakhati Jon, Survey of Shia Marriage in Iran: Based on literature, media and personal interviews

“Was this the stuff married life would be made of, two people making way for the confounding spectacle of the other, bewildered and slightly afraid?”
― Elizabeth Mckenzie, The Portable Veblen

“There was a time, when they were still just sweethearts dating and at the beginning of their marriage, when Willie thought she knew Robert better than she knew herself. This was more than a matter of knowing what his favorite color was, or knowing what he wanted for dinner. without him having to tell her. It was a matter of knowing the things that he could not yet let himself know. Like that he was not the kind of man who could handle invisible hands around his neck. That Carson’s
birth had changed him, but not for the better. It had made him deeply afraid of himself, always questioning his choices, never measuring up to a standard of his own making, a standard that was upheld in his own father’s generous love, a love that had made a way for him and his mother, even when the cost had been great. That Willie could recognize these things in Robert, but be unable to recognize his hunched back, his hanging head, frightened her.”
― Yaa Gyasi, Homegoing

“There was a time, when they were still just sweethearts dating and at the beginning of their marriage, when Willie thought she knew Robert better than she knew herself. This was more than a matter of knowing what his favorite color was, or knowing what he wanted for dinner. without him having to tell her. It was a matter of knowing the things that he could not yet let himself know. Like that he was not the kind of man who could handle invisible hands around his neck. That Carson’s birth had changed him, but not for the better. It had made him deeply afraid of himself, always questioning his choices, never measuring up to a standard of his own making, a standard that was upheld in his own father’s generous love, a love that had made a way for him and his mother, even when the cost had been great. That Willie could recognize these things in Robert, but be unable to recognize his hunched back, his hanging head, frightened her.”
― Yaa Gyasi, Homegoing

“According to Adolf Guggenbuhl-Craig, the Swiss analyst and author of Marriage: Dead or Alive, a wedding is more than a party or a legality. It's not less than a boxing ring, two people facing off, acknowledging their separate identities rather than their union, in the company of all the people who lay claim to them. A wedding is the time and place to recognize the full clutch of the past in the negotiation of a shared future.”
― Elizabeth Mckenzie, The Portable Veblen

“She envisioned him walking through a blizzard, his head down, his moustache coated with ice, his frozen fingers gripping his bayonet.”
― Diana Stevan, Sunflowers Under Fire

“She understood that unrequited love could break a heart, but there was nothing she could do about his sorrow.”
― Diana Stevan, Sunflowers Under Fire

“The husband is the head of the home.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita

“The way of a man is in a woman.”
― Lailah Gifty Akita, Pearls of Wisdom: Great mind

“Your only personal effect that you don’t take with you into marriage is your freedom.”
― Nkwachukwu Ogbuagu

“Regarding each other as the king and queen of your world provides a strong foundation for mutual support as your personal transformations unfold.”
― Jim Sharon, Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating and Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship

“We coined the term "HeartWise" as a double entendre. One meaning is emotional--with regard to matters of the heart, such as love, compassion, gratitude, and joy. The second meaning relates to practical heart wisdom--an evolving process that transcends intellectual knowledge.”
― Jim Sharon, HeartWise: Deepening & Evolving Love Relationships

“Bending the (Conventional) Rules: As a couple you mutually create your own guidelines and agreements, which remain fluid, subject to change as needed or desired. No topic is off limits, and you are willing to risk sharing your inner secrets. You are willing to stretch your comfort zones to get to know each other more intimately.”
― Jim Sharon, Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating and Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship

“Communicating--the act of speaking and listening--has its own rhythm, its own dance steps. You and your partner each have your own style. Are you dancing together?....Are you always the leader in the dance or are you often
a follower? Are you timid and afraid of stepping on your partner's toes or do you gracefully flow and glide together across the dance floor of life?”
― Jim Sharon, Secrets of a Soulful Marriage: Creating and Sustaining a Loving, Sacred Relationship

“There was no love that I could see or feel between the men and the women; only boredom. Yet, paradoxically, I could also tell that this was what everyone wanted: a family structure they could be unhappy in; at least it formed the basis of a stable home, a baseline to a life that would otherwise not be tethered to anything.”
― Cyril Wong, Ten Things My Father Never Taught Me and Other Stories

“Other people keep you sane. That is part of why it is a good idea to get married. Why? Well, you are half insane. And so is your spouse. Well, maybe not half; but plenty. Hopefully, however, it is not generally the same half. Now and then you meet couples who have the same weakness, and then they compound that failing in each other. ... It is a fortunate happenstance, generally speaking, that your idiosyncrasies are likely to be somewhat randomly distributed, and that if you unite with someone else, you are likely to find some strength where you are weak, and vice versa. When you unite the two of you to create that original 'divine being' (that is the symbolic idea), then you have a chance of producing one reasonable, sane being. That is good for you both, even better for your children, who now have a fighting chance of adapting to what constitutes generally sane behavior; and it is good for friendship and the broader world, too.”
― Jordan B. Peterson, Beyond Order: 12 More Rules For Life

“From these assumptions [that there is someone out there who is perfect, and that there is someone out there who is perfect for me], you are deriving at least three errors, which is quite an accomplishment given that you have made only two assumptions. To begin with, there is not anyone out there who is perfect. There are just people out there who are damaged, quite severely, although not always irreparably, and with a fair bit of individual idiosyncrasy. Apart from that, if there was someone out there who was perfect, they would take one look at you and run away screaming! Unless you are deceiving someone, why would you end up with anyone better than you? You should be truly terrified if you have been accepted as a date. A sensible person would think of their new potential romantic partner, 'Oh my God! You are either blind, desperate, or as damaged as me!' That is a horrifying idea- signing up with someone who is at least as much trouble as you. It is by no means as bad as being along with yourself, but it is still out of the frying pan and into the fire, although at least the fire might transform you. Thus, you get married, if you have any courage, if you have any longterm vision and to vow and adopt responsibility, if you have any maturity; and you start to transform the two of you into one reasonable person. And it is even the case that participating in such a dubious process makes the two of you into one reasonable person with the possibility of some growth. So, you talk. About everything. No matter how painful. And you make peace. And you thank Providence if you manage it, because strife is the default condition.”
― Jordan B. Peterson, Beyond Order: 12 More Rules For Life

“She watched her husband's jaw flex and knew he was unhappy with how she had answered. But what was she supposed to say? 'I was up all night worrying about the fact that I can never be good enough for you?' She hated herself. She hated herself for doubting. She hated herself because she knew she was hurting him.”
― Catherine Brusk, What Strength Washed Up