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    Erotic Humiliation
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    Negotiation Form

    Its common to want to jump into the good stuff when exploring kinky play,
    but negotiation done right is time well invested. These questions cover the how
    (protocols and health concerns), the what (activities to explore and avoid), and
    most importantly the why (what your goal feeling is for the scene). It may
    seem extensive, but having a clear understanding of who youre playing with
    will give you both a higher chance for successful scenes together, especially
    when youre playing with something as complex as erotic humiliation.

    I recommend that you start with no more than 5-10 interests so you dont get
    overwhelmed with options (even better, pick your top 3.) Figuring out the goal
    feeling (aka your kernel kink) tends to have better results than focusing on the
    activity (unless theres a specific fetish for an action or item).

    Remember that consent is a vital


    part of any kink play. Communicate
    with your partner and look for clear,
    enthusiastic consent before moving
    forward.

    It can be helpful to actually print out


    this negotiation form and write your
    answers down, but you can also use
    it as a guide for a verbal discussion.

    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook


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    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook
    !10 Basic Negotiation Questions
    EnoughToMakeYouBlush.com

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    1. How are we negotiating? (circle one)
    In-person/Online Oral/Written Casual/High Protocol
    2. What is the goal feeling for each of us?

    3. What are our soft and hard limits?

    4. Is sexual contact acceptable? If yes, what kind?

    5. What are the activities wed like to explore?

    6. Are there any health issues to be aware of?


    Physical Health & Mobility Concerns Mental Health

    Medications Is it okay to give or get marks?

    7. What are our safewords? (verbal & nonverbal)

    8. Are there any triggers we need to be aware of? (activities, feelings, words)

    9. What is our Trigger Plan?

    10. What are the Aftercare needs for each person?

    Bonus Questions! Information is power, so you can use these


    questions to further your discussion with your play
    ! What's the last thing you thought
    partner. Use another sheet if necessary!
    about while masturbating?
    ! What is your most humiliating fantasy?
    ! What are three things you would like to explore that youve never tried before?
    ! Did you have an experience that sparked your interest in/desire for humiliation play?
    ! What activities do you find humiliating, and can you share why you find them humiliating?
    ! Do you have any fears or anxieties about playing with erotic humiliation?

    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook


    EnoughToMakeYouBlush.com

    Erotic Humiliation Activity List


    !

    This is in no way meant to be a complete list, but its pretty extensive and is focused on activities
    often associated with erotic humiliation play. Ive listed many of the activities from throughout
    my book Enough To Make You Blush: Exploring Erotic Humiliation,
    so that theyre in one handy place during negotiation.

    Remember that the negotiation process is meant to be fluid and ongoing. Different activities will be
    appealing (or not) at a variety of levels as you progress through your explorations.

    As always, consent is of the utmost importance. Consent given for one activity doesnt mean its been
    given for all others. Communicate as clearly as possible and respect boundaries and limitations.
    !
    !

    There are (at least) two ways to use this Activity List.!

    Option 1: Option 2:
    !
    The!more!traditional!way!of!using!a!list!like!this!is!to!
    I recommend that you focus on picking go!through!the!whole!thing!and!rate!each!activity!by!
    your top 5 or 10 interests to start with interest!and!experience.!Using!a!scale!system,!you!
    rather than trying to figure out ALL THE can!mark!each!option!with!the!following!(if!you!dont!
    know!what!the!activity!is,!just!put!a!question!mark!
    THINGS that you want to do. Dont
    ?):!
    forget the Kink Buffet analogy; youll
    have many more delicious experiences NO!HH!Zero!interest/Hard!Limit
    if you try bites at a time instead of trying 1!!Not!very!interesting,!dont!want!to!try!it
    to stuff yourself silly all at once! After 2!!Is!up!for!discussion/Soft!Limit
    picking your top activities, you can go 3!!I!could!be!interested!in!this!if!you!are!
    4!!Im!very!interested!in!doing!this/Lets!try!it!
    through the negotiation questions 5!!Favorite!Activity/Top!Pick!
    specifically for each activity, including
    any previous experience youve had and Or!you!can!invent!your!own!scale,!but!make!sure!
    any details about your interest and you!are!clear!about!what!each!thing!means!!You!
    limits (for example; I really enjoy/desire should!also!discuss!the!level!of!experience!and!any!
    details!or!specifics!about!your!interests.
    piss play but have a hard limit on
    ingesting).

    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook


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    Activity Interest Experience


    Abandonment
    Age Play
    Anal Training
    Armpit Worship
    Ashtray Service (swallowing ash)
    Begging
    Being all powerful
    Being caught masturbating
    Being loaned out for service
    Being loaned out for sex
    Being powerless
    Being called it or thing
    Blackmail & being outed
    Bondage & physical restraint
    Body-image insults
    Body modifications
    Boot Worship
    Breath play
    Bruises
    Bukkake (cum on face)
    Butt Plugs
    Burping
    Cages
    Chastity
    Cleaning
    Clothed Female, Naked Male
    Corner Time
    Confessing fantasies
    Consensual non-consent
    Corporal Punishment
    Crawling
    Cross-Dressing
    Cuckolding/Cuckqueening
    Cum consumption
    Dehumanization
    Denial of speaking
    Diapers

    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook


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    Dildos (sex toys)
    Dirty Foot Worship
    Domestic or household chores
    Edging (being kept on the brink of orgasm)
    Endurance testing
    Enemas
    Examinations & Inspections
    Exhibitionism
    Eye-contact restrictions
    Face Slapping
    Farting
    Financial Domination
    Fisting (vaginal or anal)
    Forced Bisexuality
    Forced Feminization
    Forced physical exercise
    Forced to suck a strap-on
    Forniphilia (human furniture)
    Gags
    Gender-based insults
    Genital Torture
    Genital Worship
    Group Sex
    Hair-pulling
    Hand-jobs (giving/receiving)
    Hoods (partial/full)
    Intelligence-based insults
    Kneeling
    Leash training
    Masturbation instruction
    Modeling for erotic photos
    Mouth-soaping
    Nudity
    Nipple play (nipple torture)
    Obedience Training
    Orgasm Control
    Orgasm Denial
    Over-the-Knee Spanking
    Ownership (owning/being owned)

    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook


    EnoughToMakeYouBlush.com
    Predicament situations
    Phone Sex
    Piss Play ingesting
    Piss Play -- golden showers
    Protocol Training submissive positions
    Protocol Training -- other
    Public Humiliation -- kink events
    Public Humiliation -- general world
    Puppy Play
    Quizzes & Tests
    Race Play
    Rough Physical Handling
    Ruined Orgasm
    Scolding (verbal lectures)
    Scat
    Serving as a Maid or Butler
    Sensory Deprivation
    Sexual Objectification
    Shaving Body Hair
    Slutty Clothing (private/public)
    Slutty Makeup (private/public)
    Small Penis Humiliation (sph)
    Smelly Foot Worship
    Spit
    Sploshing (messy food play)
    Spreader Bars
    Tease & Denial
    Time-out Punishment
    Trampling
    Verbal Mantras
    Watching pornography
    Wearing leash & collar
    Wearing lingerie/panties
    Wearing signs
    Wrestling
    Writing on body
    Writing sentences

    Enough To Make You Blush Negotiation Workbook

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