Loving Kindness Meditation

Loving-kindness meditation
Loving-kindness meditation can be brought in to support the practice of insight

meditation to help keep the mind open and sweet. It provides the essential balance
to support Insight meditation practice.
It is a fact of life that many people are troubled by difficult emotional states in
the pressured societies we live in, but do little in terms of developing skills to
deal with them. Yet even when the mind goes sour it is within most people's
capacity to arouse positive feelings to sweeten it. Loving-kindness is a meditation
practice taught by the Buddha to develop the mental habit of selfless or altruistic
love. In the Dhammapada can be found the saying: "Hatred cannot coexist with
loving-kindness, and dissipates if supplanted with thoughts based on loving-
kindness."
Loving-kindness is a meditation practice, which brings about positive attitudinal

changes as it systematically develops the quality of 'loving-acceptance'. It acts,
as it were, as a form of self-psychotherapy, a way of healing the troubled mind to
free it from its pain and confusion. Of all Buddhist meditations, loving-kindness
has the immediate benefit of sweetening and changing old habituated negative
patterns of mind.
To put it into its context, Loving-kindness is the first of a series of meditations

that produce four qualities of love: Friendliness (metta), Compassion (karuna),
Appreciative Joy (mudita) and Equanimity (upekkha). The quality of 'friendliness'
is expressed as warmth that reaches out and embraces others. When loving-kindness
practice matures it naturally overflows into compassion, as one empathises with
other people's difficulties; on the other hand one needs to be wary of pity, as its
near enemy, as it merely mimics the quality of concern without empathy. The
positive expression of empathy is an appreciation of other people's good qualities
or good fortune, or appreciative joy, rather than feelings of jealousy towards
them. This series of meditations comes to maturity as 'on-looking equanimity'. This
'engaged equanimity' must be cultivated within the context of this series of
meditations, or there is a risk of it manifesting as its near enemy, indifference
or aloofness. So, ultimately you remain kindly disposed and caring toward everybody
with an equal spread of loving feelings and acceptance in all situations and
relationships.
How to do it . . .
The practice always begins with developing a loving acceptance of yourself. If

resistance is experienced then it indicates that feelings of unworthiness are
present. No matter, this means there is work to be done, as the practice itself is
designed to overcome any feelings of self-doubt or negativity. Then you are ready
to systematically develop loving-kindness towards others.
Four types of persons to develop loving-kindness towards:
a respected, beloved person such as a spiritual teacher;
a dearly beloved a close family member or friend;
a neutral person somebody you know, but have no special feelings towards,
e.g. person who serves you in a shop;
a hostile person someone you are currently having difficulty with.
Starting with yourself, then systematically sending loving-kindness from person to

person in the above order will have the effect of breaking down the barriers
between the four types of people and yourself. This will have the effect of
breaking down the divisions within your own mind, the source of much of the
conflict we experience. Just a word of caution if you are practicing intensively.
It is best if you choose a member of the same sex or, if you have a sexual bias to
your own sex, a person of the opposite sex. This is because of the risk that the
near enemy of loving-kindness, lust, can be aroused. Try different people to
practice on, as some people do not easily fit into the above categories, but do try
to keep to the prescribed order.
Ways of arousing feelings of loving-kindness:
Visualisation Bring up a mental picture. See yourself or the person the

feeling is directed at smiling back at you or just being joyous.
By reflection Reflect on the positive qualities of a person and the acts of

kindness they have done. And to yourself, making an affirmation, a positive
statement about yourself, using your own words.
Auditory This is the simplest way but probably the most effective. Repeat an
internalized mantra or phrase such as 'loving-kindness'.
The visualisations, reflections and the repetition of loving-kindness are devices

to help you arouse positive feelings of loving-kindness. You can use all of them or
one that works best for you. When the positive feeling arise, switch from the
devices to the feeling, as it is the feeling that is the primary focus. Keep the
mind fixed on the feeling, if it strays bring it back to the device, or if the
feelings weaken or are lost then return to the device, i.e. use the visualisation
to bring back or strengthen the feeling.
The second stage is Directional Pervasion where you systematically project the
aroused feeling of loving-kindness to all points of the compass: north, south, east
and west, up and down, and all around. This directional pervasion will be enhanced
by bringing to mind loving friends and like-minded communities you know in the
cities, towns and countries around the world.
Non-specific Pervasion tends to spontaneously happen as the practice matures. It is

not discriminating. It has no specific object and involves just naturally radiating
feelings of universal love. When it arises the practice has then come to maturity
in that it has changed particular, preferential love, which is an attached love, to
an all-embracing unconditional love!
Loving-kindness is a heart meditation and should not to be seen as just a formal

sitting practice removed from everyday life. So take your good vibes outside into
the streets, at home, at work and into your relationships. Applying the practice to
daily life is a matter of directing a friendly attitude and having openness toward
everybody you relate to, without discrimination.
There are as many different ways of doing it as there are levels of intensity in
the practice. This introduction is intended to help you familiarize yourself with
the basic technique, so that you can become established in the practice before
going on, if you wish, to the deeper, systematic practice to the level of
meditative absorption.
BuddhaNet's Loving-kindness Meditation Section
Venerable Sujiva's clear and comprehensive presentation in BuddhaNet of Metta

Bhavana (which is the Pali term for the cultivation of loving-kindness) is a step-
by-step explanation of the systematic practice. This section, based on the
Visuddhimagga, The Path of Purification, is for meditators who are prepared to
develop loving-kindness meditation to its fullest and thereby experience the deeper
aspects of the practice.
A benefit of developing the five absorption factors of concentration through the

systematic practice is that it will counteract the Five Mental Hindrances of the
meditator: Sensuality; that is, all forms of ill-will, mental inertia; restlessness
and skeptical doubt. When the meditator achieves full concentration, five
absorption factors are present: the first two are casual factors: Applied thought
and Sustained thought, followed by three effects: Rapture, Ease-of-mind and One-
pointedness or unification of mind. The five absorption factors have a one-to-one
correspondence to the five mental hindrances, or obstacles, to the meditator:
Applied thought, by arousing energy and effort, overcomes the hindrance of sloth
and torpor; Sustained thought, by steadying the mind, overcomes skeptical doubt
which has the characteristic of wavering; Rapture with its uplifting effervescence,
prevails over feelings of ill-will; Ease-of-mind, by relieving accumulated stress,
counteracts restlessness or agitation of mind; while One-pointedness restrains the
mind's wanderings in the sense-fields to inhibit sensuality. The benefit of
achieving deep concentration with this positive mind set is that it will tend to
imprint the new positive conditioning while overriding the old negative patterns.
In this way, old negative habits are changed, thereby freeing one to form new,
positive ways of relating.
We also have, in BuddhaNet's Loving-Kindness Meditation section, inspiring

instructions by Gregory Kramer of the Metta Foundation on teaching loving-kindness
to children within the family context. Gregory gives practical advice to parents on
how to bring the practice of loving-kindness within the home. In this way, we can
hope that loving-kindness meditation will become a natural part of the Buddhist
family's daily practice, and that one day it will be adopted universally as a
practice to uplift human hearts.
May you be happy hearted!

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Loving-kindness meditation

Loving-kindness meditation can be brought in to support the practice of insight

Loving-kindness is a meditation practice, which brings about positive attitudinal

To put it into its context, Loving-kindness is the first of a series of meditations

The practice always begins with developing a loving acceptance of yourself. If

Four types of persons to develop loving-kindness towards:

a respected, beloved person such as a spiritual teacher;

a dearly beloved a close family member or friend;

a hostile person someone you are currently having difficulty with.

Starting with yourself, then systematically sending loving-kindness from person to

Ways of arousing feelings of loving-kindness:

Visualisation Bring up a mental picture. See yourself or the person the

By reflection Reflect on the positive qualities of a person and the acts of

The visualisations, reflections and the repetition of loving-kindness are devices

Non-specific Pervasion tends to spontaneously happen as the practice matures. It is

Loving-kindness is a heart meditation and should not to be seen as just a formal

BuddhaNet's Loving-kindness Meditation Section

Venerable Sujiva's clear and comprehensive presentation in BuddhaNet of Metta

A benefit of developing the five absorption factors of concentration through the

We also have, in BuddhaNet's Loving-Kindness Meditation section, inspiring

May you be happy hearted!

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