Year Of: Shonda Rhimes

YEAR OF
How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun

and Be Your Own Person
SHONDA
RHIMES
READING GROUP GUIDE
INTRODUCTION
With three hit shows on television and three children at home, the uber-talented
Shonda Rhimes had lots of good reasons to say NO when an unexpected invitation
arrived. Hollywood party? No. Speaking engagement? No. Media appearances? No.
And there was the side benefit of saying No for an introvert like Shonda: nothing
new to fear.
Then Shonda’s sister dropped a grenade on Shonda’s seemingly safe, happy
life: “You never say yes to anything.” These words stuck in Shonda’s brain and
prompted her to challenge herself: for one year, say yes to everything. Say YES to
the unexpected invitations that come your way. Say YES to the things that scare
you. Shonda reluctantly set out—and the results of her hard-won, yearlong journey
are nothing short of transformative. In Year of Yes, Shonda Rhimes chronicles the
powerful impact saying yes had on every aspect of her life—and how we can all
change our lives with the power of YES.
This reading group guide for Year of Yes includes an

introduction, discussion questions, and ideas for enhancing
your book club. The suggested questions are intended to help
your reading group find new and interesting angles and topics
for your discussion. We hope that these ideas will enrich your
conversation and increase your enjoyment of the book.
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QUESTIONS & TOPICS
FOR DISCUSSION
1. Shonda Rhimes has spent her entire life “making stuff up” and was lucky
enough to make a career doing something she loves that comes naturally to her:
writing fiction. Why, then, do you think it is such a challenge for Shonda to
write this book and to tell the truth about herself?
2. Why does Shonda decide to spend a year saying yes to things that scare her? Do
you think she makes the right choice? If you were in her place, would you have
committed to a Year of Yes? Why or why not?
3. Compare Shonda’s previous experiences with publicity and media appearances,

such as the TCA panels or the Oprah interview when she was “a walking panic
attack” (40) to her publicity experiences as the Year of Yes progresses. How does
the Dartmouth commencement speech act as a turning point?
4. How does Shonda’s sense of humor affect her experiences throughout the Year
of Yes? Does it help her along the way, or does she use it as a shield?
5. Early on in the Year of Yes, publicist Chris calls Shonda out to prove that it’s not
just big talk and to hold her accountable to saying yes to publicity opportunities.
Why is having a strong support network so important? How does it affect
Shonda’s success and motivation?
6. What does Shonda learn from her own characters, such as Christina Yang on
Grey’s Anatomy?
7. How does motherhood change Shonda’s priorities? How does it change her
relationships with and perspective on working mothers?
8. Saying yes began to take Shonda away from home too often, away from her
children, and from sleep. How does saying yes to saying no allow the pendulum
to swing back to moderation? How does Shonda’s family help ground her?
9. Shonda writes about the importance of uninterrupted time for yes, for love, for
what makes us happy; with no cell phones, laundry, or growing to-do lists to get
in the way. What can you do in your own life to be more present, to give your
uninterrupted attention to your loved ones?
10. How was Shonda’s relationship with food and her own body changed by saying yes?
11. Shonda is often recognized as a trailblazer for the way she portrays diversity in
her shows (which she calls just plain normal), and the stakes are often very high
for Shonda as F.O.D. (First. Only. Different.) How does the pressure affect her
and her pursuit of yes? Do you think she embraces her role as “trailblazer”? Why
or why not?
12. Consider this passage as Shonda reflects on the difficulty many women have
with accepting a compliment: “When you negate someone’s compliment, you
are telling them they are wrong.You’re telling them they wasted their time.You
are questioning their taste and judgment” (193). How does saying yes change
the way Shonda thinks about giving and receiving compliments? How does this
affect her overall confidence?
13. While it was difficult (okay, maybe excruciating), what does Shonda learn from
her realization that she doesn’t want to get married? What would you have done
in her situation? Why?
14. Shonda writes that when she does something, she really does it and throws
herself into it 100 percent. What would you do if you weren’t restricted by fear?
ENHANCE YOUR BOOK CLUB
1. Watch Shonda’s Dartmouth speech at https://www.youtube.com/

watch?v=EuHQ6TH60_I. Watch for the moment when she exhales out her
fear, then exhale out your own fear and share your best graduate-ready wisdom
with your book club.
2. Dance it out. Prepare a playlist of your favorite songs that you can’t help but
dance to, and have a dance party at the end of your book club meeting. Share
your favorite songs, your favorite dance moves, and dance it out together!
3. Watch your favorite Shondaland shows with your book club. Go back to the
beginning with Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice, Scandal, or How to Get Away
with Murder.

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YEAR OF

How to Dance It Out, Stand in the Sun

This reading group guide for Year of Yes includes an

3. Compare Shonda’s previous experiences with publicity and media appearances,

ENHANCE YOUR BOOK CLUB

1. Watch Shonda’s Dartmouth speech at https://www.youtube.com/

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