Harmony in The Family: By: Priya Jaidka
Harmony in The Family: By: Priya Jaidka
Harmony in The Family: By: Priya Jaidka
Program
= To Understanding Harmony
At all 4 Levels
To Live in “
2 RELATIONSHIPS 3
PHYSICAL
FACILITIES
(with human (with rest of
beings) nature) Animal
Conciousness
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Harmony in the Family
1. Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship – of one
self (I) for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are definite
4. Their fulfilment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust 6- Reverence
2- Respect 7- Glory
3- Affection 8- Gratitude
4- Care 9- Love
5- Guidance
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• When these feelings are in me, I am in a state of harmony, happiness
• When I express them to the other, the other also feels happy
Vs
• I only expect the other to express these feelings to me
• I feel happy only when the other expresses these feelings to me
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Trust
Trust = to be assured
= to be assured that each human being inherently wants oneself
and the other to be happy and prosperous, to have this clarity
Absence of Trust
= lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness
= Doubt, Fear, Opposition…
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Trust
Verify on the basis of your natural Verify on the basis of your
acceptance
competence
1a. I want to make myself happy √ 1b. I am able to make myself
?
always happy
2a. I want to make the other happy √
2b. I am able to make the others
always happy ?
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy √ 3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy ?
4a. The other wants to make me 4b. The other is able to make me
happy ?
always happy ??
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Trust
Trust on intention = Having no doubt on intention
Verify on the basis of your natural Verify on the basis of your
acceptance
Trust is to be able to see that: competence
Everyone wants to understand (Sabhi sahi samajhna chahte hain)
1a. I want to make myself happy √ 1b. I am able to make myself
Everyone wants to live in harmony (Sabhi sahi jeena chahte hain)
?
Everyone can understand (Sabhi sahi always happy
samajh sakte hain)
2a. I want to make the other happy √
2b. I am able to make the others
Ie. to have no doubt on intention, to have the clarity that the other wants
to be happy, and to make me happy always happy ?
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy √ 3b. The other is able to make
herself/himself always happy ?
4a. The other wants to make me
happy
√ 4b. The other is able to make me
always happy ??
When I assume 1b, I complain about When I become aware of 2b, I take
the other responsibility – I develop my own
ability and facilitate the other to
avoid making the mistake in future
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3 possibilities
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Ex: Trust
How many persons do you have trust on intention – unconditional
(never having a feeling of opposition, getting irritated or angry)?
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How many persons do you have trust on intention – unconditional
(never having a feeling of opposition, getting irritated or angry)?
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Feelings (or Expectation of Feelings) in Relationships
• Trust (Vishwas) FOUNDATION • Reverence (Shraddha)
VALUE • Glory (Gaurav)
• Respect (sammaan) • Gratitude (Kratagyata)
• Affection (Sneha) • Love (Prem) COMPLETE VALUE
• Care (Mamta)
• Guidance (Vatsalya)
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Differentiation (Disrespect)
Differentiation = Disrespect
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Differentiation Respect
I evaluate on the basis of body, I evaluate on the basis of I (Self)
physical facilities or belief (pre 1. We have the same purpose
conditioning) 2. We have the same program
3. We have the same potential
(difference only in competence)
The other is different from me The other is like me
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The feeling of being related
Affection – The feeling of acceptance of the other as one’s relative
(feeling of being related to the other)
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The feeling of being related
It all starts with identifying that one is related to other human being
(Affection ) and it slowly expands to the feeling of being related to all
human beings (Love ) and then to all, each & every unit in nature
(human being as well as other units).
This leads to Undivided Society .It starts from family and slowly expands
to world family; without being obstructed at any intermediate level.
Evaluate for yourself if you have natural acceptance for this or to
make a boundary at some level.
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Excellence
Understanding of the Harmony &
at all 4 levels
Living in that Harmony
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Excellence
Understanding of the Harmony &
at all 4 levels
Living in that Harmony
Worship
Effort made to achieve the excellence
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Check for yourself
In relationship:
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Joint family = happy family?
Small family = happy family?
Samajhdaar family = happy family
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Harmony in Family – From Family to World Family (Undivided Society)
1. Relationship is – between the self (I) and the other 1- Trust FOUNDATION VALUE
self (I)
2- Respect
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in
relationship – of one self (I) for the other self (I) 3- Affection 7- Glory
3. These feelings can be recognized – they are 4- Care 8- Gratitude —
definite 5- Guidance 9- Love COMPLETE VALUE
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual
6- Reverence
happiness
Justice is ensuring right understanding in the self leading to right feelings and
it's expression in relationship resulting in mutual happiness. We have
Natural Acceptance for Justice for All – from Family to World Family
Natural acceptance for Justice is already within you
Right understanding makes you aware
Once you are aware of it, there is continuity of these feelings and you are able
to fulfil them
Having right feelings in oneself leads to one’s happiness
Expressing these feelings to the other leads to happiness in the other
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