Interpersonal Relations and Transactional Analysis
Interpersonal Relations and Transactional Analysis
Interpersonal Relations and Transactional Analysis
Transactional Analysis
Lack of self-awareness in interactions
IF WE WISH TO!
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TRANSACTIONAL
ANALYSIS
9The Controlling or Critical Parent,
(CP) and
9The Nurturing Parent (NP) .
The Controlling Parent
9Critical.
9Giving injunctions.
The Nurturing Parent
9Unconditionally supportive
9Defender
zVocabulary:
zShould, don’t, must, always, never,
I know, now what? Because I said
so.
zI’ll take care of you, poor thing,
there-there, come on, give it a try
Tone:
Sneering, loud, harsh,
contemptuous,
condescending, punishing,
sympathetic, encouraging
zGesture/Posture-
REBELLIOUS CHILD
zVocabulary:
zWow, give me, I want, MINE, I wish,
I’m scared, help,
zTone:
zgiggle, chuckle, whine, swear, yell,
fast & high-pitched, whistle, playful,
ask permission.
zGesture/Posture:
zslumped, curled up, putting up hand to
ask question
zFacial Expression:
ztears, pouting, downcast or uplifted
eyes, tilted head, wide-eyed, fluttering
eyelashes, flirtatious, admiring
CP NP
PA CA
AC
NC LP
RC
Functional Diagram
Controlling
Nurturing
or
Parent
Critical
Parent CP NP
Photographic Combining
Adult Adult
PA CA
RC
Adapted Child AC FC
CC
Rebellious Compliant Free/Natural Child
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We are 7 People
1. NC/FC
- needs strokes (touch/recognition)
- needs vary from time to time
- feels sad, mad, glad, scared
- is spontaneous, creative
2-3. PA/CA- computer: facts not opinions,
analyses & synthesizes
4. NP - sympathetic, sensitive to needs
- firm yet caring
- non-demanding
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z 5. CP – others are NOT OK, dominates
z 6. RC – Angry; others are NOT OK;
sabotages
z 7. CC – scared; it is NOT OK; whines
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From the undernoted communications, indicate
whether the Boss (B) seems to be in his P/A/C
–
X: How do you like the new filing system I have
just set up?
B: You spend much time in deciding how to do
things. You just do it and be done with it.
EXERCISE
X: How do you like the new filing system I have
just set up?
B: I really like it. I wish I had system like it when I
had your job 5 years ago.
X: How do you like the new filing system I have
just set up?
B: Poor boy! You must have worked all day to set
up that system. Can I help you to catch up your
other work?
EXERCISE
II
Imagine one co-worker is unexpectedly
patted your back. What ego state is shown
by each of the following responses.
1.You think I would like to know what made
him do that.
2.You respond silently ‘that feels good’.
3.Suddenly you feel a mental voice saying’
Never let anyone touch you. Familiarity
breeds contempt’.
EXERCISE - III
Susmita, one of your colleague turns up an
hour late in office. What ego state is shown up
by each of the following statements:
1.It is not fair that she gets away with that. It
makes me mad.
2. Poor lady! She must have had a hard night.
3.I wonder what the boss is going to say.
Response to a piece of Modern Art:
a) Good lord! They call this Art!
b) Rather high priced at Rs.500.
c) What lovely colours!