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Differentiate from critical, punishing, and destructive attitudes that you internalized in
your early lives
Differentiate from undesirable traits in your parents that you see in yourself
Challenge the defensive reactions you had (as a child self) that no longer serve you in the
present
Formulating and learning to live by your own values – who do you want to be?
Taking these steps of differentiation allows us to live in a less defended state in which we
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Be careful. Some of these do not apply to high functioning autism spectrum/ASD yet love and connection is very
present in action in these relationships with these individuals. Often without eye contact, less affection due to sensory
differences and little to no verbal affirmations.
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You are making a huge generalization when you say that people with ASD aren’t capable of experiencing or expressing
true love. You are very wrong. Their experience may be atypical in how their love is shown or perceived, but that does
NOT mean they are incapable of truly being in love. The way you speak about the acceptance of “these people” is
shameful. “Those people” happen to be loved by a growing segment of the population because others have realized
that those on the spectrum, in fact, are valued members of society who are worthy of love and are worthy of being
treated with kindness, compassion, and respect.
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You are absolutely wrong and also very ableist by stating that autists cannot experience love. We may have to work
very hard and long to recognize it, and work on mitigating emotional pitfalls like RSD, but it’s DEFINITELY possible,
and quite a few of us tend to love harder than neurotypicals, especially if that relationship is with another ND person.
Honestly. What you’re saying is completely ill informed and anecdotal.
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Ok love y
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True love often has to go through bad phases n challenges in life.If you truly love that person n desire to spend the
rest of ur life with them…Then every couple should endure the challenges that life throws at them….Please don’t give
up on your partner even if it’s seems impossible to be with eachother..
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That is what true love does. If it doesn’t do that, its not true love. There is no middle ground on that. It is or it isn’t
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Real true love really existed in the past when the real good old fashioned ladies were around which today it is a very
different story altogether unfortunately.
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Love is not about the submission of a woman to a man, or vice versa. It is an emotion, and a choice, that affects our
lives daily. If what you want is a perfect woman, you will never find it. I suggest strongly that you look within yourself
and discover who you really are before you make haughty expectations for others. If you aren’t willing to wait on your
partner, why should she wait on you? If you’re disillusioned to women, how will you ever fall in love freely with one?
If you’re very sexually experienced, do you really expect to marry a virgin?
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True. It states right there in the article that love is a verb. It’s something you do, not something you feel.
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actually its more of a noun than a verb, and one can indeed feel love, the feeling of when you’re in love release all
those little happy chemicals in your head. it makes you feel all warm and happy, whether its infatuation or real. the
difference is the infatuated kind won’t last you long.
Love, as a noun, is not an emotion per se, but an attraction, acceptance and affection towards someone or something.
Hate is a type of repulsion and rejection. The elements of love require some attraction, agreement at some level and
communication. The intensity of love can vary based on the level of attraction, agreement and communication. The
more you communicate things both partners find positive and agreeable, beneficial and of interest, the more the
relationship will flourish. One way love can exist (as in unrequited love) but true love requires mutual
communication, mutual attraction and shared interests with some commonality in how each view reality.
Love as a verb is the action of expressing or being in love (as a noun) as we love each other.
True love cannot be known with your eyes but with your heart
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It may be an emotion and a feeling, heck also a non and I challenge the statement of an action unable to create loving
feeling only the feeling being able to create the action… I daily perform actions of love that then fill me with love and
loving feelings, in my own relationships, with family, my kiddos, and also my fellow humans I cross paths with… I am
a lover and giver and giver and lover they most definitely flow abundantly in either and both directions and I
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It is a feeling in the core of your being, and if you are lucky enough with love, you wake up every morning with the
knowledge that you have done enough for validity of oneself sharing love to the ones who complete them. Carpe diem.
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Pierce, women back in the old days made love very easy to find compared to today. Now most women have their very
high unrealistic expectations and standards. May they grow very old all alone with their Cats.
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Women in the past had real class compared to the very horrible ones that are everywhere these days. Today feminism
is cancer.
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Well my husband and I did marry as virgins. I would honestly have to admit now that in our experience to do this was
a mistake. It takes the love and respect and chemistry. Getting to feel that both of you. True love actually hurts
sometimes when you are away from each other.
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This is a classic epistle I have read about love and its meaning. A detailed study of the above, one will find out that
there are many who think that they are in love why they are not. For instance, a young man whose parents were
opposing the lady he wanted to marry. The young man screamed at his parent, ” if I can’t marry her I will die” In less
than six months of their marriage, the same young man again screamed at his parent, “if she doesn’t leave this house,
I will kill her” Can one say that the young man and his woman were in love in the first place?
One thing i knew about love is that those who say they are in love, they must be ready and willing to sacrifice for each
other and as well as do things that will make the love to grow.
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Enjoyed the info. Very informative and eye opening. Best advice I’ve read thus far. I still believe that we are capable of
loving Someone for a lifetime. I believe that whatever characteristics and behavior you had when u met, u should
consider growing along the same during your lifetime. Yes we change, when we truly love, our moral compass should
be pointed in a common direction. Most enlightening thing I learned from this read was to remain an individual.
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What I know about true is that love that shares good times together but most importantly when it has the power to
over come all the misunderstandings between the two of you only that power can lead to everlasting love. Cause we all
break up because we feel we can’t take it anymore and can’t even fight the misunderstandings between us. But true
love exists just that it is rare
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What you say is true, I am divorcing my husband because I know he is not ready to be in a relationship. He does not
understand how a relationship should be. I am the parent and he is the child. And the only routine that he has with
me is sex when he comes from work. He does not speak to me, he always runs away when we need to talk about
important things about our relationship, even when he has sex with me, when he is finished having sex with me he
does not say one word to me, he just goes on Facebook and speak to his friends. I know a lot about love, especially
true love, and I give so much to my husband, just to make him happy and feel better, but he never does anything for
me. He does not even say hello to me when he comes home from work. Please tell me, do you call that true love, or is
he just using me for sex? Because I feel he doesn’t truly love me. That is why I decided to go for a divorce with my
husband, and leave him.
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It’s so unfortunate to hear that you are heading into a marriage beak out with your husband. However, giving him
another chance and involving his friends to discuss matters of his behaviour will also have a positive change. He may
admit his mistake and may change.
Otherwise, I have learnt that you can match with me if given consideration.
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Mick July 21st, 2019
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My rational and scientific mind read and agreed with a lot of what was said in this article. However, I am one of those
hopeless romantics (as stated) who yearns for more than what life is currently giving. Just today I finished a story
which was one of those “love at first sight” kind of romances. I’m currently at a point where I’m close to miserable, not
just with my relationship but also the rest of my life in general, and I’m sure that my relationship plays a major role
why I feel the way I do.
I have been told so many things in my life and never really had good examples of a “healthy” relationship. Which is
probably why I cling to this Hollywood idea of “love at first sight” and undying love for another. I was once told that a
relationship should come naturally. Yes you have a few disagreements, but for the most part, it should flow without
major issues or effort. Then, there is everyone else saying that relationships take work and nothing comes easy. But
how do we know which is true? Are there really relationships out there were the couple have this ultimate connection
and never truly have to work too much to keep it flowing? Do we just think that isnt the case because so many have
never found that and have just excepted that relationships do truly take a lot of time and effort? Which is real?
That is the question I want to answer. I’m still young and I don’t want to waste my time being miserable or working so
very hard to keep up a relationship that in the end, will not work.
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It ebs and flows. At times it will fell effortless and other times it takes effort. The key is to hang in there during the
times it’s a bit harder, know it will pass, and truly relish the ride when it’s easy.
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Although there are ebbs and flow In a relationship , if a relationship is more effort and work then it is mutually loving
and easy going then, I would consider that the partnership might not compatible. Every relationship comes with its
issues, baggage and work , but if the good outweighs the bad then the partnership is worth the effort and keeping.
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In my experience, love feels easy and joyful most of the time. We have problems that come up, especially when one or
both of us are under stress. Those are the times when we work at our relationship, but it doesn’t feel like “hard work”
or forcing it, because both of us are trying equally hard. We’re both trying to fix the issues as a team. And the good far
outweighs the bad overall. Sending you my best wishes to figure out what’s right for you in your relationship
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Faridoon September 25th, 2022
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Love is so uncertain. I married what I though the love of my life. There were great times but a lot of bad times. Be
strong this of only yourself be you own person and don’t settle for just love. But honesty,if anyone is ever really
honest, . Just love yourself and you don’t need anyone to make you happy just you. I have learned this at age 75. Don’t
wait!!
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Love was very easy to find many years ago since women were a lot different back then. Today they have really changed
for the worst of all unfortunately.
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In what way in your opinion were women like then and aren’t now?
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Well women in the past were very old fashioned and accepted their men for who they were back then, and money was
never an issue like most women want today. The great majority of women these days want a man with money, and
have very high unrealistic expectations now more than ever. So it is really the women today that have really changed
unfortunately, and most women back in the past weren’t like today at all as you can see in case you haven’t noticed.
Very easy for a man to find love in the old days, since many of us single men really can’t find love today even when we
try. That is why our family members were very lucky back then when they met one another.
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Actually, marrying a man for money was more common back in the older ages. Women did not make as much money
as the men, and they had to marry to support their family and themselves. Thats not love, cuz they did not have much
of a choice. Feminism is what made women more independent. That way they could find someone they love
instead.You are the problem, not the women.
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Nice 🙂
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Most women in the past made love very easy to find. Very different women many years ago, compared to today.
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Most women back in the past had much better manners and a very good personality, something they don’t have today
at all unfortunately.
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Milena Videnova January 29th, 2020
True love could be a way of expression or act of giving yourself to someone who understands you with all of you
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True love is real but rare. I fell madly in love with my friend’s sister 35 years ago. Both of us have raised children, had
unsuccessful marriages. I thought she had a perfect life and I had nothing to offer. Instead she moved from abusive
man to abusive man, and lived a poor, tragic life. I married an immigrant woman and raised her to prominence in the
community, and she treated me like garbage once she had the things she desired. Now after living 30 years without
contact, my true love and I reconnected and we can still complete each other’s sentences. She loved me as well, but
thought she wasn’t good enough for me! We’re empathic and everything just flows with us. There are no
misunderstandings. We know each other so intimately yet every day each of us finds something new in the other. And
these discoveries, whether joyous or painful, bring us closer and reaffirm our love. We really are two halves of a
whole. Each of us completes the other. Every day is new and amazing.
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True love is when you see everything you have ever wanted in someone, and also some things that you didn’t even
think you can settle for, but you ended up settling for it, true love is when you know you have many options out there,
that can be better for everyone around you, but you chose to be with that specific person, true love is willing to grow
with that person and work on your flaws together, give them your hand to be the best version of themselves, and don’t
give up, you might have a lot of hard times, relationships are not always rainbows and butterflies, love will show in
your actions, how you are dealing with those hard times, and are you willing to give up on that person to satisfy your
ego? Or are you willing to accept him and grow with him and help him work on him self to get over his insecurities
and traumas? Love talks louder in actions and situation than it does talk in words.
Stay blessed
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I am literally crying while replying to let u no that if this is what love really is I will pray everyday to have this because
I have never ever ever experienced this kinda of love before just pain just pain just pain.
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Scott June 27th, 2022
Pain comes with real love sometimes, it’s all good cause it simply love pain, I guess you sometimes have to pay that
tiny wonderful pain in order to achieve that great love you are after, nothing in life comes easy, at least not for me, so I
tell myself, never give up the ship, just keep on trucking in hopes of arriving at your final destination, true
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I totally agree!!! Love is respect, communication,understanding someone even if you don’t agree, but mostly putting a
persons’ needs before your own!!! It’s making a decision daily to act & be that way for that person & not making a
choice to leave when things get tough because life is an adventure & it’s not always pleasant, but it’s that person you
know you can count on during adventure!!! Just reunited with the LOVE OF MY LIFE after 30 yrs apart & proir to
that had began dating at me-16yrs old & him19 yrs old…he had broken my heart, I had broken his later but the
connection had ALWAYS been there& now almost 40+ years later we are both elated & understand what love is really
about!!! Women be good to men & vice versa! Peace out!
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My boyfriend likes and looks forward to doing everything together and consistent intimacy 24/7. I like it too, but if
this were to be the case for the rest of our lives, would it be damaging in any way to our relationship?
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Yes!!! That sounds controlling. Not a healthy relationship. Be careful and wise.
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True love is eternal. It cannot be stolen. True love is responsive,transparent,faithful. It is really difficult to find true
low these days. Love is choosing someone again and again. Too busy is a myth, people make time for important things
and for what they love.
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True Love is knowing when there is so much you don’t know. A gut feeling deep within you that nobody can take
away, destiny. True Love always finds a way, it’s not what everyone hopes for it to be.
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Is ok
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True Love is knowing when there is so much you don’t know. A gut feeling deep within you that nobody can take
away, destiny. True Love always finds a way, it’s
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True love is a choice. Like I choose to wait for my man to come home from deployment with trust, patience and faith
in him. Even if you have doubts you still choose to trust him because you want your relationship to work and spend a
whole life for him.
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Ashley August 21st, 2020
It depends from person to person,it’s a bond felt by the person,It’s just not something called pure, there is more to
it,It depends how strong you care and feel for the person more than the person’s feelings for you.
It’s something motherly which you can sacrifice or care selflessly, that’s why very less people can experience love,it
also depends on how close and open to each other and how close you are as a partner, so it’s like friendship on deeper
levels and you can do everything you want together or at least the person should be on your friend circle or closer and
they both fall into same category not different so most importantly it’s not something you will do with your friends
and sacrificing your love, because if you really close together you don’t Need to leave your love to do it with your
friends
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Everything in this article is true – but I don’t know that it is possible to move beyond barriers to love until experience
peels back the layers of conditioning. I am with the same man I have – for a better half of a decade- been in an on and
off relationship which was formed in a fantasy bond, maintained on a trauma bond. We finally separated for a year
and during that time I formed a fantasy bond with another man who, in his willingness to pretend to be my fantasy
while secretly degrading me in ways no other has. Seeing who he was and how my fantasy enabled me to participate in
such a fake, gross, abomination of love forced me to see that on a deeper level I never loved any man in my almost 40
years… it has always been about me and my fantasies. My partner had his own maturing experiences during our time
apart. We reconnected ready to love each other and while we’ve had to practice and notice the old patterns – we’ve
peeled them away through healthy interaction. We now love each other with compassion and empathy and protect
our bond knowing it requires commitment and effort on both our parts to be self aware, not project and take
responsibility for our own moods, habit etc. Love doesn’t fix your life, but you can’t have it until you know that much
like a garden, you have to work to dow seeds and weed it for it to bear food.
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It is the great blog post .It is the helfpul and informative blog .I am always read your blog . I like it thanks for sharing
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When the real good old fashioned women were around many years ago which made love so very easy to find in those
days. Men never had a problem back then, and today it is like trying to find a needle in a haystack.
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John December 11th, 2021
Men did not have a problem finding a woman “back then”, because men had all the power. Women did not have much
of a choice. To the men, they were property, and that is NOT love. And if you think that, you need to see a therapist.
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It is the great blog post.It is the helfpul and informative blog .I am always read your blog . I like it thanks for sharing
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I can’t control my feelings. You a lot to do with why I fell in love with you. I will always love you. I have no choice but
to accept that you want something and someone better than me in life. U deserve everything and I hope u find what
you are looking for.
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Well, as a women, I don’t think that you are fully wrong, but partially yes. It is not only women who have changed, the
whole society and its perspective has changed. If you are talking about money, then I must say that yes, there are
women who are after money, but there are men as well who are behind women’s money. Just saying that women
changed is much hypocrite of you. Then, just think once, if you were back if the last two centuries, when divorce was
not taken as a good approach, and your better half was an abuser, would you really want to live with them.
Just a simple advice, stop generalizing how people are, there are different types of men, kids, women and LGBT
community people. Also to me arranged marriage is something which I don’t really accept because if I never met a
person how will I know what they are like. So, sorry to say this, along with women, men have also changed to worse,
many men have become abusers to their wives and children.
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Then there are many of us good single men that really do know how to treat a good woman with a lot of love, respect,
and commitment. And it is very unfortunate that many of us men just can’t meet a good woman, no matter how hard
we try.
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Do you think that you cannot find a good woman because good women don’t exist anymore? Isn’t that a little weird
that there are so many good men but no good women? Or do you think it is possible that your standards for a what
good women is, is a bit unrealistic. Men are calling us bad women because we want to be equal, we want to be treated
with respect as people, not as objects. We want to be independent and we want to choose what we do with our bodies.
Those are not traits of a bad person, those are just traits of a person who does not want to be controlled by others
anymore. If you think that makes women bad, then you might have to look in the mirror and wonder why you want to
control women and why you get upset when they want to be treated the same way you want to be treated.
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Preach Hanzo!
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The real good old fashioned women were the very best years ago compared to today, which most of them really were
at that time. What in the world happened to these women today? Oh i really know, Feminism.
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Oh, I’m sorry, does it bother you that women now have the opportunity to vote? To voice their opinions? To have
equal rights to men in terms of opportunities and wealth? By definition, feminism is the equality between sexes. Do
not blame your relationship issues on women wanting equal rights.
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Why don’t you go and get yourself a bunch of cats for pets, sounds like you will need them for company.
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What happened is that we don’t want to be treated like we are your property anymore. Because you might not want to
believe this, but we are not. Of course the good old days were better for men but have you ever considered that the
women back then were not happy? You want us to stay in the previous century while you can go on and excel and
prosper? Don’t you think that is a bit unfair? We are not your possessions or your children or your servants or your
concubines. We are your equals and you will have to deal with that or go your own way.
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Real love really happened many years ago when our family members met one another back then since women were
very much old fashioned, and it wasn’t about money at all back then either. Both men and women in those days didn’t
have much at all, and had to work real hard on top of it all. Women today now have very high expectations and are
very spoiled, greedy, and very selfish, since they just want everything they can get. This is why love is very difficult to
find for so many of us men nowadays because of this.
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Our family members are real proof when they met one another back then, since now women are the very complete
opposite from the past making love not so easy to find for so many of us single guys now unfortunately.
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Why does it hurt when you’ve fallen for someone? I’ve been stuck on this beautiful British woman for quite some
time:
Of course I’m nowhere near her league and she’ll NEVER give me the time of the day. I’ve tried talking to her but she
ignores me so I’ve no choice but to walk away but occasionally view her social media but… it hurts. I know I’m not
crazy nor am I stalker. I’m just so attracted to her beauty, talent and that magnificent voice of hers. I know it’s not
magic because the first time I laid my eyes on her I was so mesmerized and been stuck on her ever since. I have talked
with her a couple of times but that was it.
Because I left her name and url perhaps someday she’ll read this comment and know that somebody is always
thinking about her.
I haven’t been in a relationship for quite some time and talk to women all the time so it’s not as if I’m desperate. Just
that I’m deeply attracted to her so much but… it’s quite the opposite for her.
With this being said. I like to get some feedback from the author regarding this situation I’m in.
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it appears from the commentary that a lot of people want to live in the past instead of concentrating on the present
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The reason my marriage developed a fantasy bond and failed was more or less because my spouse refused to do their
own work. I appreciate the content on PsychAlive, but I find that it puts a tremendous amount of responsibility on the
reader in a way that comes across as shaming. I put in so much work for years, and I ate up everything on this site at
the end of that relationship, desperately trying to reach the promised land PA describes. Re-reading it now is
cringeworthy at how much pressure is put on the party who happens to be reading this. Newsflash: if your
relationship has gotten this bad, you have to stop trying to fix the relationship by reading internet articles and actually
look at who each of you are. Simple question: is this the treatment you would tolerate in a friendship? That question
helped me leave my horrible marriage, and it keeps me from leaving relationships that are in a tough patch but are
healthy and good for me.
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I really loved reading your blog. It was very well authored and easy to understand. Unlike other blogs I have read
which are really not that good.Thanks alot!
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Hi! I’m deaf. I would know how can I show my true love to someone? 🥲
Thanks!
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I’ve been married 50 years. Our marriage has been tumultuous. He was controlling. I stayed because of my only child.
Now, we basically live like roommates. No intimacy, nothing. I’m not leaving at this point in my life. I wish I had the
same love we shared before, but we just go through the motions. It changed when my health took a turn for the worse!
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Love is just an illusion. Most couples get divorced which leads to a lot of hatred. Stay in the real world and stay single
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Think about how much you love your child. What do you think is the best representation of that love? When you truly
and I mean truly love someone, don’t you want them to be happy no matter how bad it makes you feel. For instance,
would you want your child to be miserable just because you do not believe in gay relationships. So your child goes
through life living a lie, hiding his truth because you now have taught him love is earned. Love is not something you
can earn by doing something for someone to make them love you. True love comes naturally. True love can be painful
just as much as it can be blissful. True love is when you are not thinking about how it will make you feel, but how it
will make the other person feel. When you love someone or something such as a pet, you cannot stand to see it hurt.
The only thing you want when you truly love someone is to see them happy. You are willing to sacrifice your pain for
their happiness. If your willing to have them endure pain to make you happy you do not love them. How could you
love something that you porposly made then endure pain so you could feel happiness. The perfect example of true
love is this: your partner has met someone she feels she truly loves, comes to you and breaks down and tells you she
no longer feels love for you, she doesn’t know why, she can’t explain how it happened and you tell her to end it with
that person right now. She ends that relationship because she doesn’t want to hurt you. One year later she is severely
depressed and has been distant, unloving but still sticks by your side. 5 years go by and she is still by your side
miserable. But you are happy as can be this entire time. What would it take for you to let this person go no matter how
much pain you will suffer. The answer is “Love”. You will love her in her happiness, you will support her in her
happiness, you will not do anything that will cause her pain. Man or women love conquers your selfishness. If that
person needs to leave your relationship because she believes she loves this other person, you must let her go with all
your blessings. If you were willing to do this, if every man or women could do this I can almost guarantee there would
be a high percentage of those we blessed with happiness to return to the partners they left as their eyes were opened
to how unbelievably beautiful you are. Would you be able to continue to help that person who left you? Would you be
able to keep being positive to that person that left you? What if she left you and she had no means to find a home to
live in, could you help her find a house or room to get started in. Could you help her knowing she believes she loves
this other person? This is the test of true love!
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I would Know what True Love Is The Kind of Love I’m feeling isn’t True Love it’s not True Love at all. True Love from
Frozen remember.
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The debate about love being a feeling or a choice is difficult to answer. I was recently presented by my soon to be ex-
wife that she lost the feeling. I decided to do more to make life easier on her and it didn’t seem to make a difference. I
felt that she needed to make a choice to accept that after almost 10 years of marriage to be happy by making the other
person happy. It usually comes with compromise and in our case we could not figure that out when it came to physical
intimacy. We have 2 school age children. We both had our moments of infedility 2 years ago. I thought we recovered
well but I believe the damage was still tough on her heart as I was willing to forgive. So forgiveness is my definition of
love as long as it doesn’t have to be over the same thing again and again. The choice to forgive is love!
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Trueeee loveeeee…..
What is it?
Love is patient
Love is kind
It does not envy or boast…
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The Gottman Institute and other research show that using “we” language makes for HEALTHIER, more secure
relationships, so I’d like to see a citation on that particular piece of advice.
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Real true love is being very caring, loving, committed, compatible, and really being there for one another as well. And
being very faithful to one another too.
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hello. you don’t know me but I just wanna say that loving someone is easy but cherishing them and loving them the
correct way is hard but to take the time and spend time with them in whatever communication, physically being there
to spend time or to be there for them, through technology, or some sort of communication, do things that she likes,
spend time with her as much possible time you have, do things together like baking, reading books, maybe even video
games, or watching a movie doing these things to solely focus on her alone, to desire her and have a mutual respect,
love and affection for her. Hopefully this helps or if you already have it figured out then I’m happy for you continue to
love her equally as much as she loves you
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I am dating a guy he doesn’t know any my family member and my mom call me to spend the vacation with her so i ask
the guy this is the opportunity to see her and tell her that I’m with you but the guy said he can’t go unless next time so
i want to ask does this mean love or what please help me
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Help PLEASE,,
-she lied about not being in relationship the past 6 years before we met.
– lied about having no sex the lay 3 years before we met.
– few months in I saw texts between a couple of men and her which she then deleted and blamed it that her phone
glitched and deleted those text and others (to make it believable)
– have always avoided talking about past relationships.
– the ex she dated 3 years before me was apparently such a terrible boyfriend that it traumatized her, that’s why she
didn’t want to tell me.
– then found picture of them two on her phone.
– also found Instagram direct messages she had with him throughout an entire day while she was at work. I found out
and she says it meant nothing. That she felt bad. While he takes about kissing her and you know the rest. She did not
stop him whatsoever from talking to her as a matter of fact she conversed with him that entire day. I confronted her at
the end of her work day. She apologized said would never happen again. Said she deleted because it meant nothing
and she doesn’t want something that has no meaning on her phone. But that same night, around bed time, he again
texted her asking “wyd” she replied yet! “Going to bed”
Fast forward she always plays what happened down to seem like these things meant nothing, that they’re
meaningless!!
To me that’s down right disrespectful!!
She does still have strong feelings for her ex. And her ex still randomly seeks her out, prank calls, left roses on her car.
She knows all this but denies it’s him.
We recently broke up for two weeks. While broken up she changed her Instagram caption to “don’t ever look back.
True love never dies.” And still has that up even now that we’ve been back together for months.
Am I wrong?
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This is highly informatics, crisp and clear. I think that everything has been described in systematic manner so that
reader could get maximum information and learn many things.
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Ok
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True love to me feels as easy as breathing. You don’t have to force it and you can’t fight it. When you think you’re not
ready—bam it will hit you because love knows no boundaries. I wonder how many loves you get in this life and if only
one remains true. You either have one shot or infinite opportunities. True love is a sacrifice in many ways—whether
that’s your freedom, or the ability to put their needs above your own, and even when you’re angry you still adore them
and have their best interest at heart. As the bible states, love is not boastful. It does not envy. True love motivates and
marvels to see you shine. It doesn’t strive for perfection, love meets you in imperfection. Love is a mystery, described
as a feeling to some and a choice to most. Love can’t be put in a box. True love is what keeps humanity hopeful. We all
seek true love and I hope everyone has the chance to at least experience it once, if not multiple times in numerous
ways. Always remember that love comes and love goes, but the greatest love you should always have is with yourself.
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