Module 2:

THE GMRC TEACHERS

REACHING OUT TO
OTHERS
 LESSON 2
Valuing and
Appreciating the
Uniqueness of Others
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LEARNING OUTCOMES
▰ describe how good manners are developed
▰ demonstrate in one's actions the virtues and good manners for
healthy intra- and inter- personal relationships
▰ appraise the utility of the suggested tips and strategies in the
Philippine context.

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Introduction
▰ One of the social contexts of children which can train them to
become the now of society is the school.
▰ The school with positive adult models works in a collaborative
manner with other social agents to develop the learner holistically
as envisioned by the Philippine K-12 curriculum.
▰ Part of school learning is learning how to get along with different
kinds of classmates and others as well.

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Introduction
▰ The teacher should be a role model in her/his intra-and inter-
personal relationships.
▰ Teacher should walk what she talks in terms of the manners,
virtues and values demonstrated.
▰ It is in this respect that the teacher should instill an appreciation
for diversity from the start.

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 Activity

How’s My Manners?

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TRUE or FALSE
▰ 1. I treat people the way I want to be treated.

▰ 2. I treat people impartially and without prejudice.

▰ 3. I respect people whatever is their status in life.

▰ 4. I can tolerate differences around me.

▰ 5. I can wait for my turn in a very busy grocery counter.

▰ 6. I consider the feelings of other people who will be affected by my actions.

▰ 7. I am open-minded and reasonable.

▰ 8. I play by the rules. play by the rules.

▰ 9. I show courtesy by greeting people in offices, classrooms or at home.

▰7 10. I never take advantage of others.

TRUE or FALSE
▰ 11. I ask permission when I want to borrow some things from other people.

▰ 12. I can control myself from not using my cell phone when it is examination season.

▰ 13. I open doors for those who are carrying heavy objects.

▰ 14. I laugh at the mistakes of other people.

▰ 15. I forgive my classmates when they hurt me.

▰ 16. I cheat in a game in order to win.

▰ 17. I easily get mad when people don't understand my views.

▰ 18. I show respect to siblings and other people younger than me

▰ 19. I wait for my turn to speak up in a conversation.

▰ 20. I critical of the shortcomings of other people.

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TRUE or FALSE
▰ 21. I show consideration for persons with special needs.

▰ 22. I sing the Philippine National Anthem seriously.

▰ 23. I listen to the wisdom of my parents.

▰ 24. I perform my assigned responsibility in group tasks

▰ 25. I treat medical frontliners with respect.

▰ 26. I don't blame others for my failures.

▰ 27. I refrain from eating unhealthy foods.

▰ 28. I can control my temper.

▰ 29. I use first names or Ma'am/Sir when talking to people.

▰ 30. I don't use swear words or offensive language when angry or startled.
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ANALYSIS
▰ How would you describe your manners as a person?
▰ What would you consider as your strengths?
▰ What would you consider as areas for improvement?
▰ What necessary steps will you take to improve yourself?

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ABSTRACTION
▰ The home was our first classroom with our parents as our first
teachers. We observed, absorbed, internalized and imitated their
manners, values, habits, and practices, among others.
▰ As we grew older, our social horizons expanded to include the
school where we met teachers, peers, school heads, community
members and other parents.
▰ The various social institutions galvanized our internalization of the
values of respect, courtesy and politeness, tolerance, fairness and
self-control.
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 Different values which inspire our Generation
Alpha to internalize.
A. RESPECT
▰ Latin word respectus which means attention, regard or
consideration
▰ defined as esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a
person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a
manifestation of a personal quality or ability.

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Respect comes in different ways. They are:
A. Respect for Self
▰ This is the ability to respect the self, to value and appreciate oneself. This is
accepting the self regardless of what others think.

B. Respect for Others

▰ This refers to the act of tolerating, accepting and considering another person inspite
of individual differences. Examples are respect for parents, men and women equally,
teachers, older persons, religious beliefs, for people with varying sexual orientation
(LGBTI), etc.

C. Respect for Social Norms

▰ This is the ability to respect all norms that govern society. Some examples include
respect for courtesy rules inside the classroom, traffic rules or health protocols
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Respect comes in different ways. They are:
D. Respect for Nature
▰ This covers appreciation of the environment. Examples include knowing how to dispose
of our garbage properly, not wasting water or recycling, etc.

E. Respect for Family

▰ This implies being able to understand and respect each other within the family, and
thus being able to live in harmony with each other.

F. Respect for Values

▰ This refers to the ability to honor our own principles. An example of this is respect
for life.

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Respect comes in different ways. They are:
G. Respect for Culture
▰ This refers to the ability to recognize that there are other beliefs and be able to respect them.
This can be seen in our being able to accept varying religious beliefs.

H. Respect for National Symbols

▰ This refers to the ability to value and appreciate the symbols of a nation. Do we give
respect to the Philippine flag as we sing the National Anthem?

I. Respect for Human beings

▰ This refers to the ability to comply with legal norms, respect laws, church dogmas
and beliefs.

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Indicators of the presence of Respect
▰ You feel safe being around each other.
▰ You know it's okay for you and others to express who you are.
▰ When you disagree you listen each other and demonstrate patience.
▰ You don't yell or talk over the top of each other.
▰ You are not controlling other person's choices.
▰ You can talk openly about your needs and wants.
▰ You allow your friends and others the space they need.
▰ You can admit to others if you have made a mistake. (kidshelpline.com)

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Borba (2002) suggested trying the following tips in conveying the
meaning of respect by modeling and teaching it.
▰ If you are a parent or a teacher, treat each child as a very important person in the world, in the classroom.

▰ Give love with no strings attached.

▰ Listen attentively and respectfully.

▰ Build positive self-concept.

▰ Parents need to tell their children why they love and cherish them as well as make their children their priority.

▰ Respectful rules can be instilled at home and in the classroom

▰ Don't engage when treated disrespectfully

▰ Teach new behaviors to replace the inappropriate ones.

▰ Encourage respectful behavior through reinforcement of the good being done

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Suggested activities to learn the meaning and value of respect.
▰ Look up the definition of respect. Write it down. Now describe ways you have acted
respectfully or disrespectfully this week.

▰ What are three ways by which you can show your teacher respect?

▰ What are three ways by which you can show your parents respect?

▰ Think of classmates who are respectful and talk about why they would make good friends.

▰ Work with a partner or a group to create a song, a rap or jingle about respect.

▰ Prepare a list of magic words that show respect. Here are a few: please, excuse.me, thank you,
etc.

▰ Role play or act out a class scenario or home setting that shows RIGHT SCENE
(RESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR) and WRONG SCENE (DISRESPECTFUL BEHAVIOR) and
engage learners in a discussion.
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Suggested activities to learn the meaning and value of respect.
▰ List five ways by which we could show greater respect for our environment.

▰ Suppose you're invited to your friend's home for a family party. What are some ways you could show
respect and courtesy when your first arrive? At their table? When you leave?

▰ Make a campaign poster about respect. Make sure you include the word "Respect"and two reasons
why someone would want to vote for having respect at your school.

▰ Write a commercial about respect. Try to sell respect so others will want to start using it. For
instance, say something positive that might happen in the world if more people showed respect to
one another.

▰ Make a collage for respect on a piece of poster board. Draw pictures or paste magazine pictures that
show different ways you can show respect to others.

▰ Write an essay describing how the world would be different if more people showed respect toward
one another.
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 The home, the classroom and the community can be
partners to develop children's respect. This synergy is
needed if we look forward to raising a generation of respectful
young persons.

Without feelings of respect, what is there to

distinguish men from beasts?
CONFUCIUS

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 Different values which inspire our Generation
Alpha to internalize.
B. COURTESY & POLITENESS
▰ Courtesy is polite behavior that reflects good manners, respect
and kindness to others. It means avoiding sarcasm and
overbearing behavior.
▰ The home is the first seat of courtesy and politeness. When
members of the family are courteous to each other, that's how they
will treat people outside of their homes. A courteous child is
easier to befriend than someone who has ill manners.
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Helpful tips to help teach our children and learners
courtesy and politeness:
A. You first
▰ This means that the parent is always the first and foremost teacher. When the child is in school,
the teacher becomes the second parent assuming the loco parentis role. Thus, parents and
teachers are expected to be positive examples to the child in terms of showing good manners.

B. Turn Up the Tolerance

▰ When your child or learner observes that you can tolerate and respect individual
differences you clearly convey the message that you accept diversity. Show them
that differences with other people in terms of color, appearance, size, status, or
beliefs are fine with you.

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Helpful tips to help teach our children and learners
courtesy and politeness:
C. Read the signs
▰ Help children learn how to read people's emotional signs. You can act out by showing different
facial expressions and body language - with the corresponding emotions.

D. Mind your manners

▰ Please, thank you, good morning and good afternoon greetings never go out of
style. If a parent or teacher uses these words for example in their daily transactions,
delighted responses can be solicited from the children.

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Helpful tips to help teach our children and learners
courtesy and politeness:
E. Lend a helping hand
▰ It's good to encourage children to assist people, especially those in need such as giving help to
an old person or opening the door for someone who carries heavy stuff. The little things our
children can do can become bigger in the future.

F. Lesson integration
▰ The learning of a manner/ value can be integrated in a lesson. A sample scenario
can be presented such as interrupting an adult when adults are having a
conversation. The exercise will involve children waiting patiently for their turn until
the adults are done with their conversation. This can be demonstrated in a one-on-
one situation or in a group setting.

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 Different values which inspire our Generation
Alpha to internalize.
C. TOLERANCE
▰ "Tolerance is respect, acceptance and appreciation of the rich
diversity of our world's cultures, our forms of expression and
ways of being human…Tolerance is harmony in difference”
▰ Tolerance is a virtue. If we want to be treated decently, we need
to treat them decently as well.

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For children, the specific concepts of tolerance that can be introduced, concretized and
internalized according to the following age groups include:

Age Group: 3-7 y/o

▰ We are all unique and have something valuable to offer and

share. Tolerance is accepting others and appreciating
differences.
▰ Tolerance is accepting myself, even when I make mistakes.
Tolerance is accepting others, even when they make mistakes.

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For children, the specific concepts of tolerance that can be introduced, concretized and
internalized according to the following age groups include:
Age Group: 8-14 y/o

▰ Peace is the goal; tolerance is the method.

▰ Tolerance is being open and receptive to the beauty of differences.
▰ Tolerance is respecting and appreciating the culture of others.
▰ Tolerance is mutual respect through mutual understanding.
▰ The seeds of intolerance are fear and ignorance.
▰ The seed of tolerance, love, is watered by compassion and care.
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For children, the specific concepts of tolerance that can be introduced, concretized and
internalized according to the following age groups include:
Age Group: 8-14 y/o
▰ Those who know how to appreciate the good in people and situations have tolerance.

▰ Tolerance is an act of humanity, which we must nurture and enact each in our lives
everyday.
▰ Tolerance is the ability to face difficult situations.

▰ To tolerate life's inconveniences is to let go, be light, make others light, and move
on.
▰ Tolerance recognizes individuality and diversity while removing divisive masks and
defusing tension created by ignorance. (For 12- to 14-year-old students only.)

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A parent can try these steps in teaching tolerance
Set a good example
▰ Kids learn from observing your interactions with others. If you're respectful to all
people, your children will follow suit. Positive role modeling is the starting point that
every parent ought to remember.

Expose your child to different cultures.

▰ The friendships your child has, can have a lasting effect. The exposure to friends who
differ from them in terms of socio-economic status, municipality of origin, spoken
language can facilitate their understanding of tolerance.

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A parent can try these steps in teaching tolerance
Bring the message home
▰ When your child makes an insensitive remark, remind him/her of how she feels when
she isn't treated well by friends and ask him/her "How do you think that boy felt when
none of the kids would play with him because he is so big?"

Treat your youngster with respect

▰ If the child feels good about herself and is confident about her place in the world, she
will be less likely to be fearful of people who are different from her. A child who feels
secure in your love and has a positive self-image will have no need to put someone
else down to feel valuable or powerful.

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A teacher can create a haven of tolerance by engaging in
these strategies:
Let Your Bulletin Boards "Speak"
▰ The class bulletin board can display positive messages encouraging diversity,
tolerance, acceptance and making your classroom a safe space.

Acknowledge Learner and Teacher Emotions

▰ There are events in the life of the learner or the teacher which are emotionally
charged. One of the best things to de is to create a space where everyone can
acknowledge those emotions and ask questions freely while moderating the
discussion.

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A teacher can create a haven of tolerance by engaging in
these strategies:
Explain Terms and Concepts Related to Current Events
▰ Parents and teachers can explain what the pandemic is all about and how people can
be kind to each other and not discriminate especially the front-liners. Concepts of
generosity and sharing can be discussed within the family.

Foster a Sense of Empathy in your Classroom

▰ Many teachers consider empathy as the antidote to bullying. You can bring more
empathy into your teaching by encouraging critical thinking and self-reflection.

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A teacher can create a haven of tolerance by engaging in
these strategies:
Lead by Example
▰ We can create a higher standard of behavior by showing our learners how to treat
others with tolerance, respect, and sympathy.

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 Different values which inspire our Generation
Alpha to internalize.
D. FAIRNESS
▰ According to Seligman & Peterson (2004), it is treating all people the
same and giving everyone a fair chance. In addition, fairness,
according to Merriam- Webster's Dictionary, is" marked by impartiality
and honesty; conforming with the established rules.”
▰ fairness has to do with giving everyone what he or she needs and
deserves. On the other hand, equality is giving everyone the same thing
or amount, regardless of the circumstances.

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 Different values which inspire our Generation
Alpha to internalize.
D. FAIRNESS
▰ Examples of being fair include playing by the rules, taking turns, sharing
and listening to others, being open-minded, respecting people, being
supportive of friends, among others
▰ Wrongly blaming or punishing somebody for something, excluding other
children from play or not giving the person the chance to explain one's
side are examples of unfairness.

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Suggested activities to make fairness more understandable
for young children
1. Have children brainstorm and role play solutions such as trading toys, sharing
and playing together.
▰ This provides children with a basic understanding of taking turns, an important
element of fairness.

2. Be attuned to children's interactions and be ready to respond immediately to

incidents of unfairness.

3. Identify and point out fair and unfair behaviors.

▰ Draw attention to behaviors in books, movies and in life when others are acting in a
fair or unfair manner. The child can be asked of what has been observed in reality.

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Suggested activities to make fairness more understandable
for young children
4. Encourage a safe and secure atmosphere in which children feel free to express
their feelings and ask questions.
5. Praise fairness.
▰ Take a moment to recognize and verbalize when your child is acting out of fairness.
Helping him/her to notice fairness in ones own behaviors will help him/ her to grow in
understanding of the concept.

6. Make the idea of fairness concrete, Use images to inspire conversations about
fairness.

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3 Componets of Fairness by Rodabaugh
Interactional fairness
▰ the kind of interaction between teacher and learners.

Procedural fairness
▰ the rules for grading and classroom administration.

Outcomes fairness
▰ the distribution of scores and grades

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Tips on how to be fair and ethical inside the classroom
1. Impartiality
▰ Learners expect their teacher to treat everyone in the class equally; that is no favorites. To avoid
giving the impression of partiality, the teacher needs to carefully monitor behavior and interactions
with the children.

2. Respect
▰ Respect involves treating learners politely. Ridiculing a learner or calling a learner's comment as
"stupid" is inappropriate in all circumstances

3. Concern for students

▰ Students expect their teachers to care about them and their academic performance. concern by
learning and using students names, talking to them before and after class, carefully answering
questions, and inviting them who appear to be having problems with the subject to discuss those
problems and potential solutions
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Tips on how to be fair and ethical inside the classroom
4. Integrity
▰ Integrity means being consistent and truthful and explaining your policies, procedures and decisions
and why they are necessary, so that their fairness can be judged and understood.

5. Propriety
▰ Propriety means acting in a socially acceptable manner that does not offend students sensibilities.

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Doable steps on how to be fair person
▰ Treat people the way you want to be treated
▰ Take turns
▰ Tell the truth. Play by the rules
▰ Think about how your actions will affect others
▰ Listen to people with an open mind
▰ Don't blame others for your mistakes. Don't take advantage of
other people. Don't play favorites
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 Different values which inspire our Generation
Alpha to internalize.
E. SELF CONTROL
▰ Self-control is primarily rooted in the prefrontal cortex- the planning,
problem-solving and decision making center of the brain which is
significantly larger in humans than in other mammals.

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3 Main Parts of Self Control
1. Monitoring
▰ involves keeping track of your thoughts, feelings and actions.

2. Standards
▰ guidelines that steer us toward desirable responses. Our standards originate
from society and culture. Think of the speed limit sign that tells you how fast to
drive or the laws that tell you to pay your taxes.

3. Strength
▰ Strength refers to the energy we need to control our impulses. Numerous factors
affect our self-control strength, such as mental exhaustion and stress.
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How important is self-control? Self control improves life
in three ways:
1. Self-control contributes to the person's well-being
▰ Self-control relates to better health. Physically, self-controlled people sleep better,
experience fewer physical sickness symptoms and live longer lives. They also
enjoy better mental health.
▰ Self- control relates to lower anxiety and depression. Behaviors that relate to
mental health problems, such as substance use and suicide, are less common
among self-controlled people.
▰ People with self-control are likely to reach their goals.

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How important is self-control? Self control improves life
in three ways:
2. Self-control builds and strengthens relationship
▰ Beyond wealth or good looks, people want self- controlled relationship partners.
We want to spend our lives with people we can trust, who follow through on
their promises and who will override their impulse to leave or lash out when
things get tough.

▰ Self-controlled people are forgiving and react to conflict with benevolence rather
than violence.

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How important is self-control? Self control improves life
in three ways:
3. Self-control makes societies productive
▰ Self-control helps societies flourish. Self-controlled people, compared to their
less-controlled counterparts, earn more money.
▰ Not only do self-controlled people enjoy greater wealth, they behave more
generously. They override their selfish impulses and go out of their way to help
others.
▰ Is the Philippines reaping these benefits? Filipinos now pay the price of their lack
of self-control especially in terms of waste disposal. Flash floods destroy lives and
property during typhoons or heavy monsoon rains.

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Ways to teach Self-control in the Classroom
A. Secret Code Word
▰ For this strategy, the teacher and the learner agree on a secret code word to remind him or
her. It can be anything. It can be any word such as unicorn, malling, etc. that can be said by
the teacher to the child. The code word helps children become aware of their behaviors
and hopefully stops what's being done.

B. Calming Space
▰ An important part of encouraging self regulation is to provide a space for students to go
when they need to calm down and refocus.
▰ It is simply a place where a student can choose to go if a break would help them to get
back on track. A teacher may suggest that a student goes to the designated area, but a
student should not be forced to go there.
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Ways to teach Self-control in the Classroom
C. Talk About It
▰ This may be the most simple tip, but the most important. Self control is a skill. It is a skill
that needs to be taught, talked about and encouraged. Keep on inspiring the learners and
guided conversations on the pros and cons of self-control can be initiated.

D. Play Activities/Games.
▰ These are non-threatening ways to help teach self-control and effective in controlling
impulses.
▰ The teacher needs to process the experience after playing. Games make the teaching of
self-control fun.
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Games which are helpful in teaching Self-control
D.1. Statue Dance
▰ In an open space or inside the classroom, play music. Students will dance while the music
plays, and when the music stops, students will freeze! If you want to add a layer of
difficulty, when students freeze, have them strike a karate pose. Anyone who is caught
moving gets eliminated.

D.2. Simon Says

▰ The teacher gives an instruction• like, "Touch your nose, " but students only follow the
directive if the directive begins with, "Simon says." For example, students would not
touch their noses if the teacher says, "Touch your nose," but they would touch their noses
if the teacher said, "Simon says touch your nose." Or you can use your name to title this
game.

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Games which are helpful in teaching Self-control
D.3. Statue with Action!
▰ For this game, the teacher stands on one side of the room and the students stand on the
other. The teacher turns the back to the students. The students begin silently moving toward
the teacher. The teacher can then turn around, but when the teacher turns around, all
students must freeze in a statue position and hold it until the teacher turns around again!
Anyone the teacher sees moving is out of the game.

There are other games which can be used such as musical chairs
or trip to Jerusalem. What the teacher needs to do is create and
innovate.
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Ways to teach Self-control in the Classroom
E. Create an Environment that Rewards Self-Control

▰ More often than not, teachers pay attention to misbehaviors more than they notice good
behaviors. It's about time that children who monitor and control behavior are recognized
and rewarded. The rewards need not be of high value, but you can think of rewards or
incentives that can truly motivate them to exercise self-restraint.

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Four tips to improve self-control.
1. Become a mental energy accountant
▰ Many students plan how they spend their time. Few students plan
how they spend their limited self-control energy. Encourage students
to spend the next week considering what they will do and how much
self-control energy they will need to do it. How much time do you
spend for social media, online gaming or studying?

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Four tips to improve self-control.
1. Become a mental energy accountant
▰ Many students plan how they spend their time. Few students plan
how they spend their limited self-control energy. Encourage students
to spend the next week considering what they will do and how much
self-control energy they will need to do it. How much time do you
spend for social media, online gaming or studying?

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Four tips to improve self-control.
2. Build self-control strength
▰ You can strengthen your self-control by doing seemingly unrelated
self-control tasks. For two weeks, encourage your students to use
their non dominant hand to complete everyday tasks (e.g., cleaning,
brushing their teeth. Research indicates that this simple exercise
increases self-control in other domains, such as reducing aggression
(Denson et al., 2011).

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Four tips to improve self-control.
3. Play offense against your environment
▰ Roy Baumeister and John Tierney (2011) argue that self-controlled people
take control over their environment. If students want to lose weight, refrain
from drinking soda. If they need to submit a course portfolio as
requirement, the cellphone is switched off. Encourage the learners to
identify one way they can change their environment to help them achieve a
specific goal. Ask them to implement the change for three days. Later, ask
students to share their experiences about how the environmental change
influenced their ability and motivation to achieve their goal.

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Four tips to improve self-control.
4. Take the mind out of the middle
▰ Self-control hurts because we have to battle against ourselves. Should I
exercise now or later? Should I study now or check my FB account?
▰ A solution is to take the mind out of the middle by setting up a mental
contract, what . psychologist Peter Gollwitzer and colleagues call
implementation intentions • (Gollwitzer & Sheeran, 2006). To achieve an
academic goal, students might say," When I get home from class, I will
read. This sounds simple, but it works.

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APPLICATION
▰ 1. Am I sensitive to the fact that people differ from each other?
▰ 2. Do I treat everyone I meet fairly?
▰ 3. Am I respectful in my communication with classmates, peers
regardless of age, gender, religion, SES, race, ethnicity and
abilities? How?
▰ 4. What practices do you observe to celebrate your uniqueness
as persons inside the classroom?

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APPLICATION
▰ After reflecting on these questions, please do the task of
making a quotation celebrating and championing diversity.
Post your original quotation online thru FB group, Google
classroom or Instagram or as instructed by your course handler.

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