17 OF THE WORST PREGNANCY INSULTS

Pregnancy is different for everyone; for some, they seemingly sail through it without a care in the world whilst others have a bit of a tougher time. But one thing that’s for sure is that when you fall pregnant, everyone seems to have an opinion!

They will have an opinion on your birth choices, your parenting ideas and everything in between.

Most of the time people will keep their opinions to themselves or share them in a kind and constructive way, but what happens when they don’t? That is when an opinion ends up being more of an insult and if you have been insulted during your pregnancy then you are certainly not on your own.

We spoke to the Emma’s Diary mums who told us the shocking and awful things that had been said to them during what should be one of the happiest times in their lives. Can you relate?

1. ‘You’re the size of a house, are you sure they got your due date, right?’

Would someone comment on the size of a person’s body if they weren’t pregnant? Probably not. So why is it that when you are pregnant people find it okay to comment on your size?!?

2. ‘Aren't you a little young, don't you want a career?’

Can women not have a baby and a career now days? Obviously, whoever said this is still living in the dark ages!

3. ‘Your stretch marks are dark, aren’t they?’

Most women feel sensitive about their changing body and stretch marks are something that even though they are completely normal, they can feel alien. Having people comment on them is just not on!

4. ‘Oohhh you can tell it’s your first’

Worrying during pregnancy is a completely normal thing and it doesn’t matter if it’s your first, second or tenth baby, worrying is normal and expressing concern is a great way to squash any fears or worries. Women shouldn't have to feel nervous of being judged for asking questions or acting a certain way.

5. ‘You should be enjoying this pregnancy and appreciating it, why are you always so negative?’

Show us the rule book that says that pregnancy must be rainbows and sunshine all the time? Pregnancy can be tough and regardless of how grateful you feel to be pregnant; it is okay to have days where things feel hard.

6. ‘Are you sure you're having a baby, where's your bump?’

Not only do people comment when your bump is ‘too big’, but they also aren’t happy when your bump is ‘too small’! How about just don’t comment on people’s baby bumps!

7. ‘How are you ever going to lose all that pregnancy weight?!’

Well at least you don’t have to worry about losing all that judgmental weight like this person has to!

8. ‘Oooohh another girl, you’ll be trying for a boy next time?’

Oh yes…because we can pick what gender baby, we have can’t we? Most women are just happy to be carrying a healthy baby and are not worried about what gender it is, have people even considered that?!

9. ‘Was it planned?’

Is that ANY of anyone’s business?

10. ‘Aren’t you single?’

Once again, is that anything to do with anyone?!?

11. ‘You chose a bad time to have a baby, pandemic and all...'

Why didn’t we investigate our crystal ball and realise that the world was going to plunge into a global pandemic??

12. ‘Are you sure it’s not twins?’

This is just a veiled way of calling someone big and it is NOT okay!

13. ‘Good luck raising her on her own’

Many parents choose to raise children on their own and for some the situation is taken out of their hands. A comment like this isn’t helpful and could make someone feel worse in a bad situation.

14. ‘Sleep now because soon you’ll never sleep again!’

Thanks for the reminder and maybe you should try sleeping with horrific heartburn, a tiny foot in your ribs and the wonderment that is pregnancy insomnia!

15. ‘Are you sure it’s OK to eat/drink that?’

Unless you are a doctor, or a medical professional then don’t comment on what a pregnant person is eating/drinking. For all you know it could be the only thing they have been able to face all day!

16. ‘You still haven’t had your baby yet?’

The last month of pregnancy can feel like it lasts for months on end. Having someone comment about you clearly not having had your baby yet isn’t going to do anything but make you feel angry, and an angry pregnant woman is not a good thing!

17. ‘You sure you can afford another baby?’

Show me your bank accounts and household finances and then we will talk about mine!

Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t give people a right to ask things they would never dream of asking usually.