The Bimbo Has Brains Quotes

“Liars are highly unlikely to admit their lies, never mind apologize for the hurt they’ve caused. Liars don’t genuinely apologize. Deceit has become their full-out lifestyle. They are centered on themselves with no thoughts of the consequences of their lies. In cowardly style, they tell more lies to try and cover their tracks. They are not good at admitting they actually have shortcomings.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“There is tremendous trauma in the betrayal caused by a perpetual liar as they repeatedly commit psychological abuse.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“If someone yells at me, they are not expressing love. They may be threatening me. They may be expressing great frustration with me. They may simply be trying to control my behavior. However, they are not communicating love.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Some people believe that if they yell and scream, others will get the point of just how serious they are. For me, all I get is the point of just how out of control that someone is.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Direct lies, small lies, huge lies, and lies of omission… these are all self-serving and sources of self-destruction.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Apologies require taking full responsibility. No half-truths, no partial admissions, no rationalizations, no finger pointing, and no justifications belong in any apology.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“It’s amazing how many cheaters and liars believe they won’t be caught. News Flash: In today’s age of technology, there won’t just be a paper trail. There will be multiple electronic and digital trails, as well.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Screaming and repeating lies makes them neither true nor more believable.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“We will remember the hurt, the injustice, and the trauma, but we can forgive the sinner.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“No one else “makes” us do anything. They can’t make us nag them, or make us angry, or make us have to strike out at them, or make us drink alcohol, or make us yell at them, or anything else. We are responsible for our choices, including our responses and reactions.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“I can only imagine that future generations will consider us to have been barbaric for our intolerance of differences.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Adding more bull to bull yields bigger bull.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Most single people are sick of married people presenting themselves as both available and interested, when indeed they are merely “playing.” Oh, yeah… and cheating. Gee, that is attractive. Not! Others could not care less what someone’s marital status might be.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“If there were past misdeeds, I do not believe we should nag or repeat them, never mind throw them in someone’s face. If they sincerely apologized and we genuinely forgave them, we must move on. Learn from mistakes, but move on. If we bring them up and toss them at the offender, we may not have actually forgiven them, even if we claim we have.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Whether we know it or choose to admit it, we are either an Encourager or a Discourager. We each make a choice as to which type we will be… every day. Discouragers bring “stresspools.”
I call any of those places that add unnecessary stress and aggravation “stresspools.” They are just as stinky and rotten as cesspools, but “stresspools” wreak of tension, strain, anxiety, worry, hassle, pressure, and emotional trauma.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Unconditional love takes a strong and deliberate evolution. Unconditional love is way beyond emotional involvement. This is loving the person inside the person… loving their very soul.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Societies that have condoned male cheating and condemned female cheating are simply male-dominated cultures. Cheating is cheating, no matter who is doing it. It’s wrong.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Actively repeating a lie or denial does not make it true.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don’t love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“When we resort to screaming at someone, we are revealing weakness and a sense of helplessness. If we can’t seem to get our message or feelings across any other way, then we get angry, and we get loud!”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Should we “expect” our physical, sexual, intellectual, and emotional intimacies to automatically continue throughout a marriage? Nope. At least, not in my opinion. But I do think we should be able to expect both partners to protect and preserve the sanctity of these intimacies. That, to me, is part of honest loyalty.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“We are imperfect humans and are bound to need attitude adjustments from time to time.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“We may repeatedly try to get our need for sex or our need for communication met by our partner. If our attempts are met with rejection over and over again, we may eventually stop asking. We tend to give up rather than keep setting ourselves up for regular rejection.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“It takes a strong woman to tolerate a weak man. That said, it takes a strong man to tolerate a weak woman, too.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“When it comes to people… you could aptly say that I am a racist… a human racist. I believe in people. There are good and not-so-good people of all colors and creeds. I’m not here to judge. Period. As people, we draw judgments from others when we behave badly, especially when we try to blame our bad behavior on others. This is not based on race, age, sex, or religion. It’s based on behavior differences.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“It matters not which partner is bringing negativity into conversations and exchanges. Toxicity has no place at all between people who have promised to love each other.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“If we are sharing challenges and concerns, laughter and life stories, dreams and dramas with someone other than our mate, we are making precious, intimate connections with someone other than our mate. We need to keep not only physical, but emotional and intellectual connections strong and active with our beloved.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“Some people think that it’s okay to be downright nasty to people they love. It is not okay. Nasty is never called for, and it’s certainly not sweet, useful, nor positive.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“In truth, if it isn’t to save your life when it’s in imminent danger, someone yelling at you is just plain wrong. The same is true for ranting or bitching. The same goes double for anything even close to manhandling.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts

“I am a great believer in not pushing each other’s “buttons” just because we know where they are! That’s part of trusting each other. We need to trust that our vulnerabilities and challenges are safe with the person we love.”
― Cathy Burnham Martin, The Bimbo Has Brains: And Other Freaky Facts