7 Attractive Bad Boy Traits

Every High-Value Man Must

Possess
January 25, 2020 by BunchOfWisdom
It’s no secret that bad boy traits are always in high demand.

Women want bad boys and their babies. Men secretly want to be just
like them.

But I’m not talking about those self-destructive bad boys who are in
and out of jail all the time, even though they are sought after as well.

I’m talking about the good bad boys who have the right qualities,
attitudes, and mindsets.
The ones who offer so many positive values to themselves and those
close to them while also having no problems creating and dealing with
conflicts, also for the sake of themselves and their loved ones.

These bad boys don’t shy away from opposition or hardships and,
instead, find opportunities within difficulties to elevate themselves and
improve their conditions.

These kinds of men are extremely rare to find, especially today in our
homogeneous societies where everyone acts and speaks the same
way to avoid attention and controversy.

In an age where masculinity is shrinking and often shamed, adopting

the right bad boy traits can easily help you stand out and become a
high-value man worthy of women’s attention and men’s admiration.

But that’s only if you don’t give a damn what others think.

So let’s go through the bad boy qualities every man should have to
become a better and stronger version of himself:

1. Bad Boys Are Unapologetically

Authentic
One of the very obvious bad boy traits that will stand out to you in a
typical bad boy is his authenticity.

Bad boys tend to be extremely genuine without trying.

They say and do what they want regardless of what others think, and
this is a polarizing mindset that engages men and women enough to
draw them into their interesting lives.
People who are blessed with that trait know what they are and what
they are not. They remain centered and grounded in what they believe
they are and should be, regardless of the norms of their societies.

And that’s exactly why they draw people to them.

It’s a refreshing quality that shows a lot of strength and status within
itself because we all know and understand what it takes to become
genuine, different, and uncensored.

To just be without consideration of opinions, comments, and

judgment.

That’s also why authentic people are more memorable, mysterious,

and exciting.

When a woman finds an authentic man, she’ll normally get intrigued

by his uniqueness and the uncommon way he presents himself. This
intrigue is could easily become the starting point of sexual attraction in
an interaction.

It’s that authenticity is what gives women reasons to stay and enjoy
your approaches/dates. It’s your bonafide character that convinces
them to give you their number and join you on your way home.

Obviously, authenticity on its own is not the only trait you must
possess for attraction, but it’s a very decisive quality; it will either help
pull a girl to you quickly or push her away immediately.

And that’s what you want when you’re dealing with a woman: genuine
desire.
How to Become More Authentic

You might be convinced that authenticity is one of those good bad boy
traits to have, but not sure how to ingrain it into your personality.

You might see yourself as an average man who doesn’t quite stand
out in a very noticeable sense.

If this is your case, then how do you change your own personality to
become more authentic, when authenticity is not about to change and
more about self-acceptance, to begin with?

Wouldn’t you be faking it if you’re altering who you are?

This a very common question a lot of people ask themselves as they

admire authenticity in others, but not sure how to replicate the trait in
their own nature.
What those same people somehow don’t realize is that authenticity is
not about copying a mindset from someone else or even adding to
your character, it’s about taking away all the unnecessary thought
processes, behaviors, and traits that don’t fall in line with your intuition
and what you truly believe in.

When you pay close attention to the most authentic people around
you, you’ll notice that they don’t think too much about how they talk
and react — their actions and behaviors tend to be seamless.

They don’t hope they offend others with whatever they say and they
don’t feel the need to compare themselves with others and how they
dress and act.

They just listen to their intuition and act accordingly.

Now, this doesn’t mean you should only follow what your instincts tell
you every single time, because that will lead to a lot of emotional
reactions and reckless behavior, but it’s important to pay attention to
your gut feeling and what it offers to you while using your common
sense and logical thinking brain at the same time.

Stop doing something that you know isn’t right for you only and just
because everyone thinks that’s the way to go.

Stop preventing yourself from taking certain opportunities and risks

because your parents/friends think it won’t help, when you deep down
know it’s all you’ve wanted.

When you make tuning in to your instincts a habit and communicate

more with your emotional mind, you’ll gradually become more
authentic.

You’ll slowly become you.

2. Bad Boys Are Unrealistically
Confident
Out of all the bad boy traits, if you ask women for the number one
quality they look for, most likely it’s going to be confidence.

Just look at all the bad boys women tend to flock to, you’ll notice that
these men are usually extremely confident — sometimes even
arrogant and borderline delusional.

And even though they come off as narcissists, girls will somehow still
believe in them and what they say. Girls for them anyway.

It’s just that attractive as a trait.

If you just look at any successful individual who’s great at what they
do, you’ll notice their supreme confidence in their abilities. There’s so
much self-assurance that you almost think they know something you
don’t.

Swag.

Confidence comes in a lot of forms; in speech, body language, eye

contact, and even the internal dialogue that takes place in your own
mind where nobody’s watching, and to become a confident man, you
must have conviction in everything you say and do.

You must have total faith in your values, beliefs, boundaries, and
standards to the point where you prioritize them over those of others.

Because without confidence, you’ll pass through life without creating

and capitalizing on opportunities that could serve you and help you
grow as a man in your career and relationships.

With no conviction in your values and standards, you’ll be walked all

over by other men and avoided by other women.

On top of that, you’ll always feel sorry for yourself for squandering the
potential to be a more capable man.

How to Be More Confident

Like any muscle that needs training, confidence is a quality that you
cannot have and master it by practicing it in everything you do and
say.

Until it becomes part of you.

If you’re someone who is struggling with developing self-confidence, it

will be hard to get out of the comfortable low self-esteem that has
been ingrained in you for a long time.

You’ll want to boost your self-esteem by being more purposeful with

the way you act around others, but the problem is sometimes it won’t
make a lot of sense.

Sometimes you’ll feel like you’re not being authentic and real with
yourself, and sometimes you’ll feel confused and lost with how you’re
supposed to act.
The best way to deal with this is being aware of your unconfident and
lackluster state, and then always pushing your boundaries gradually to
broaden your comfort zone past that unpleasant state.

It all starts with your inner dialogue; what you tell yourself about
yourself.

Also, most likely, you already know what you’re already afraid of.

You might already know that you’re not good at public speaking, and
this would be your starting point.

Or you could have an idea that approaching women is something your

intuition has always wanted but you’ve continually talked yourself out
of it with excuses that don’t really serve you. This is also a great
starting point to deal with for a more confident version of yourself.

Remember that you’re going to suck at whatever it is you push

through for a couple of times, but as long as you know that it takes a
couple of more trials, time, and as long as you understand that it’s
normal to suck at a new skill — even when it doesn’t make a lot of
sense at times, you’ll always reap the rewards and become thankful
for trying.

How Exactly Confidence Plays a Huge Role in

Attraction
Women are wired to get attracted to confident men.

To deliver financially, you need a healthy degree of confidence to

compete in any capitalist market.

To provide security, you need to become confident enough to able to

protect your own family when the time comes. And that’s extremely
important for a woman to have.
To have a healthy sexual bond with a woman, you obviously need
confidence in your own physical and mental abilities to be able to keep
your girl happy, in both short and long term relationships.

Women don’t usually rationally and intentionally look for confidence,

they will instinctively feel it. Once they do, they will start
feeling something towards you.

Because if you have enough confidence, you’ll flirt, escalate, check,

and have fun with the women you’re dealing with.

When they feel your positive vibe and how sure you are of yourself,
they’ll naturally just want more of that — they’ll get invested enough to
enter your Frame and follow your lead knowing that being with you
would be enjoyable and worthwhile.

3. Bad Boys Are Shamelessly Selfish

Bad boys are extremely selfish and they can be very ruthless about it.

They understand that the only ones who will put their needs first are
themselves; nobody else will truly have their best interests in mind.

But when you put yourself first and stay consistent in doing so, you’ll
naturally get a lot of hate for it.

People you know and don’t know will tell you that you’re uncaring for
the well being of others, which might be true depending on how self-
centered you are.

However, sometimes the anger and hate you get when you’re not
doing what you’re told is because of you not submitting to other
people’s agenda and serving their best interests.

The thing is as long as you’re not hurting anyone, you must do what’s
best for you and those you care about regardless of what others think.
Other than that, selfishness that brings you results will still get
respected by your peers and women, even if they don’t understand it.

And when it comes to dating, respect is necessary for any sort of

attraction to take place. Without respect, attraction is pretty much
impossible.

Nice guys who can’t say “no”, on the other hand, are extremely
selfless and generous with their time, energy, and resources.

Do they get respected?

No.

Do they get recognized for at work for being “yes” men?

No.
Do they get high-value women?

Hell no.

In fact, they get dumped for the selfish bad boys.

And when they’re not being dumped, nice guys are usually just being
used as emotional tampons for women to call whenever they get
frustrated about not getting these -surprise- bad boys to chase after
them.

So don’t be a typical nice guy who has no healthy degree of

selfishness. Otherwise, people will take advantage of you for what you
have and you’ll get discarded for someone else when a better option
comes up.

Remember: it’s only when you hold yourself in high regard that others
will want to do the same for you.

4. Bad Boys Are Womanizers

Bad Boys Vs. Nice Guys: Dating Strategies
Of all the typical bad boy traits men would like to have, this is the one
that’s always going to be sought after, and it should be no surprise.

To clarify why bad boys are so effective when it comes to Game and
dating, it’s important to layout the dating strategies bad boys utilize
and the that of nice guys — the two polar opposites.

Now, you might think that nice guys don’t have a strategy; that they’re
just being their nice and kind selves to selflessly please women.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth.

If nice guys were that selfless, they wouldn’t be annoyed and pissed
about seeing their dream girls flock to the selfish bad boys.

If a white knight was that generous, he should feel nothing as he

watches all these “selfish” bad boys easily hijack the long investments
he has made over months and years, in just a couple of minutes.

That’s never the case though, right?

The truth is nice guys who finish last and white knights will always put
the women they like on pedestals and senselessly give them
everything they have to offer to win these women over, and when
things don’t go their way, they’ll end up sulking, frustrated, and maybe
even a little resentful towards women.

These men treat relationships as credit systems.

They think women are extremely binary beings who just simply need
an abundance of attention and love to be convinced of being in a
committed relationship.

And that’s because nice guys have a flawed understanding of desire

and how it works, and we can’t blame them entirely for not quite
understanding the intergender dynamics.

They have watched a lot of Disney movies and have been conditioned
from a young age to chase and please women to win over female
desire.

They have been taught since they were kids that the woman is the
prize, and you have to convince her to commit to you through sheer
effort and persistence.

But genuine desire doesn’t work that way.

Attraction cannot be arranged in a logical sense. Otherwise, we would
all be having harems of models around and everyone would be happy
— not reading dating articles online.

I see you

What you need to understand is that those nice guys who always end
up last tend to have zero bad traits and nothing else to offer but their
wonderful intentions and attention. Obviously, women are emotional
beings who need to be swept off their feet with a little more than that
to commit for good.

What womanizers and bad boys already know is that women don’t
want to be with men who are emotionally reliant and outcome
dependent on what women feel or think about them.

Bad boys know women want to pursue just like them. The act of
pursuing itself is what makes you invest in someone.

Women want to pursue men who other women want to have and other
men want to be.

They want men who have so much competency and value to stand
out from the crowd. And by value, I don’t necessarily mean money.
That’s just the cherry on top.

To be that kind of high-value man, you definitely have to care less

about what others think and value. You have to put yourself and
values upfront, and understand that the right people will follow.
You have to be willing to lose a girl you like to make sure you win her
over. You need to be willing to hold back from investing to give her the
chance to put effort and keep you as well.

You have to be a prize.

Are Nice Guys Really That Nice?

This might seem surprising to many, but nice guys who use kindness
to win women over aren’t really nice as they’d like you to believe.

They are actually cowards.

In fact, you can even say the actual nice guys are the bad
boys. Here’s why:

Nice guys try to act on their best behavior and slot in their kindness in
interactions with women and hope women magically fall in love.

Bad boys just don’t give a damn. They stay true to themselves and
their values. If a woman a bad boy is talking to likes who he is, great.
If not, he knows there’s plenty of fish in the sea.

A nice guy typically thinks he just has to give a woman attention

without showing his true intentions via fake friendship.

No boundaries. No vetting. No rules to stick to.

He’ll just continue this one-sided process of showering a lady love

thinking she will just get baited by his dedication and make the first
move.

But, of course, he ends up waiting forever. Or get invited to her

wedding.
 Nice Guy Tactics

Using fake kindness as a way to attract women is tactic is off-putting

for these women. Girls will see right through this BS. Not only that, but
they also might even take advantage of these naive men and aim for
their attention and resources.

Bad boys, on the other hand, will flat out show their desire and man-
to-woman intentions right off the bat. No beating around the bush and
no artificial friendships.

He’ll approach and flirt even if he’s afraid to, and girls gravitate
towards that kind of bravery and openness.

Even when a bad boy wins a woman over, he’ll still have no problems
losing her if she disrespects him and crosses his boundaries. He won’t
chase her, especially if she doesn’t give him the attention he thinks he
deserves, and girls are attracted to emotionally independent men like
that too.

That’s the main difference between bad boys and nice guys, and
that’s why bad boys always finish first.
Bad Boy Tactics

5. Bad Boys Are Openly Passionate

MMA. Business. Fitness. Guns. Fashion. Women. Tattoos. Cars.
Surfing. Drinks. Cigars. Music.

These are all some of the topics bad boys tend to become passionate
about, and they will definitely and openly let you know about it.

Their sharing of passion is also how they separate themselves from

regular normies.
People are drawn to passion, even if they don’t really care about
whatever it is you’re passionate about.

Because talking about something that is part of your identity is

personal, human, raw, and real. It inspires people to admire your
openness and reciprocate by sharing what they care about as well.

And when passions become mutually shared among people, they

become reasons for people to bond even more.

However, if you lack passion, you lack depth in your identity and
bonds.

If you’re all about just going to a day job you don’t really care about
and then come back to hang out with similar friends or watch Netflix at
home all day every day, you don’t give your chance to grow and
become a person with unique and memorable experiences.
People without such experiences end up being bland and not really
interesting to connect to.

Passion & Purpose Outside Relationships

Also, having a passion and something to work on that’s personal to
you gives you a mental edge. It gives you a purpose to work on and
goals to chase — something that is incredibly attractive to those
around you, even if they don’t understand that hobby or obsession.

This drive reflects on other people and areas of your life, relationships
included.

Because when it comes to relationships, it’s those who focus on

something personal are the ones who’re the happiest and appreciated
by their partners.

If you’re in a relationship and lack a purpose that only belongs to you,

you’ll have no choice but to either just get depressed and become
completely inactive or just slowly make other people become that
purpose — people like your partner.

And while that may sound like a good thing initially, having your
partner become your sole focus always leads to a disastrous end to
your relationship.

When your passion becomes a person, you slowly grow clingy, needy,
and desperate to keep that person.

You become an obsessive man who is too afraid to lose his woman;
something women have disdain and no respect for.

So look for your own purpose if you already don’t have one by
exploring your hobbies and what clicks with you on an emotional and
mental level — you’ll then have more to look forward to in life, which is
something that’s going to rub off on others and inspire them
6. Bad Boys Are Aggressively
Competitive
You’ll never find a bad boy who just keeps to himself and doesn’t
bother with any sort of healthy competition.

You’ll always find one either having an amateur bout in a boxing ring,
rapping battle in front of a live audience, or competing with his
business against others and showing everyone the kind of results he’s
getting.

You’ll also notice him teasing his male friends he appreciates and girls
he’s interested in to sharpen his wit and entertain his circle.

Being competitive is one of those bad boy traits that direct men’s
masculine energy through any kind of competition for developing their
Game, skills, and, goals, lifestyle.

Because consistently being in a competitive state keeps you sharp

and toughens your skin and keeps you ready and capable of dealing
with the daily hurdles in life.

And when you do successfully pass life’s tests, you give yourself more
reasons to believe in your own self and abilities, which in return,
upgrades your self-confidence, status, and wisdom even further.

Staying ready for competition is a mindset you always need to keep in

check by consistently evaluating your level and that of your
competition in gyms, offices, or stages of some sort.

Without that mindset, you’ll become idle in a comfortable zone — a

very easily burstable bubble that hinders you from growing more
successful and attractive as a man. You’ll slowly become fearful and
worried about the possibility of any uncomfortable situations or
opposition that comes your way.
7. Bad Boys Are Entitled
Bad boys think that they are entitled to respect and appreciation, and
that’s exactly why they get them.

They have set boundaries for how they should be treated, they never
put themselves in compromising situations where they let others
disregard them.

This entitlement is one of those bad boy traits that is intuitively felt in
interactions with other men and women.

When men know that you’re entitled to respect, they’ll think twice
before crossing you. But if they feel that you’re too self-deprecating or
don’t think highly of yourself, they’ll have no reason to appreciate what
you have to offer.

And when women notice that you’re entitled to their respect, they’ll
think twice before testing, flaking, and disrespecting you.

Some women will even get attracted to your self-appreciation that they
will think of you as a challenge to pursue. They’ll appreciate that you
don’t give your attention easily, assuming it’s valuable, of course.

Women just love men who don’t put up with their BS.

That’s because a man’s mental point of origin gives a woman the

impression that he’s of higher value compared to so many others.

Having said that, if you don’t have a healthy degree of entitlement,

nobody will give you the attention or appreciation you think you
deserve.

Never wait for people to treat you the way you wish to be treated.
Always be in control of your reactions to make sure their actions fall in
line with your expectations.
Set boundaries and expect people to follow.

Integrate the Bad Boy Traits Mindfully &

Consistently

Some of these bad boy traits tend to be negative and destructive on

their own if applied from a place of insecurity, so it’s important to be
mindful of why you’re seeking these qualities and how it’s going to
help you and those who matter to you.

Changing who you are for the better isn’t easy, but if you do believe in
these positive changes and stay consistent with your development,
you’ll naturally grow into the person you’re trying to be