Sexual Self
Sexual Self
Sexual Self
SEXUAL SELF
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DISCUSSION/READINGS
INTRODUCTION
sexual development in an individual. Physical changes
Puberty marks the start of
start and as an
individual continues to adolescence, these changes are highlighted as Sex
Since sex undergoing physical changes, and producing feelings that
hormones, are sexual in nature
as usually a taboo subject, most adolescents are confused
to handle them, who
feelings: how
with these
and what is considered normal and
inappropriate sexual to ask about these sexual feelings
understand these is to learn about
responses. The best way to
sexuality to get to know
human
one's
own body and responses and establish her/his Sexual Self.
WHAT IS YOUR
and understand
SEXUAL SELF? This is the part of yourself where you learn
your sexual
development and how people's sexual activity, beliefs.
misconceptions and unlimited access from the internet on sex can influence your own sexual
behaviors and responses. Your sexual self speaks of your sexual health, sexual orientation.
gender identity and expression and values around sexuality.
1. Sexual Development
Sexual Development is lifelong process that starts at the moment of conception
(Tsiaras, 2006). People are all a little different from each other, so it makes sense that they
don't all
develop in the same way (kidshealth.org, 2008). Sexual development can be
predicted as part of the human
development but not everyone is expected to have the same
pattern of changes or
the same pacing.
3 Reasons Why an Individual's Sex is
2001, p.32) Important in Lifelong Development: (Hurlock,
1) Eacl year children come
under increasing cultural pressures from parents, teachers,
peer group and society at large to
develop attitudes and behavior patterns that are
considered appropriate for members of their sex.
2) Learning experiences are determined by the individual's sex. In the home, at school,
and in play groups, children learn what is considered
their sex. appropriate for members of
3)
The attitude of parents and other significant family members towards individuals
because of their sex. Strong preferences for a child of a given sex have marked
influences on
parents' attitudes affecting relationship with the child.
1.1 Sigmund Frend's Psychosexual Stages of Development and the Concept of
Zone Erogenous
Freud believed that every child
goes through a sequence of developmental stages
and that the child's experiences during these stages
determine adult personality
characteristics. Freud believed that the adult personality is formed
by the end of the 5th year
of life. Each stage has an erogenous zone association with
uses the term fixation to describe what occurs
stimulation and pleasure. Freud
when a person does
from stage
not
progress normally
to but remains overly involved with a particular stage. That person will
stage
prefer to gratify her/his needs in simpler or more childlike ways than
in an adult mode that
would result in normal development (Limpingco& Tria, 1990,
p. 14)
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Psychosexual Erogenous Results
Fixations Conflicts
Stage Zone
Phallic Stage (3 Genital area Oedipus/ Elektra Heterosexualizing Boy will grow up
5years old) Complex interactions. seeking a woman like his
Castration Jealousy develops mother
Genital Stage Whole body Mating, Dating Sexual Instincts and Sublimate sexual energy
and Social Sexual Conflicts into emotional
(Puberty-onwards
Interaction reappear commitments to sports,
Death Instincts cheerleading, music,
reappears band, academics,
Sexual Instincts are politics, church, or other
repressed endeavors.
Hostility, rebelliousness
or juvenile delinquency.
Vows of celibacy,
attractions to mystical
philosophies, gangs,
religions or cults
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1.2 The Human Reproductive System.
One
of the many seemingly magical things about human reproduction is thatonly
one sperm
can ever penetrate an egg. Sex, however, IS not just for reproduction- not in
humans. That may be
its primary biological mandate, but 11 serves other purposes as well. I
helps strengthen relationships, encourages 3 man to stick around to care for his child, and
affects not only health but also well-being (Tsiaras, 2006).
Besides
the physical changes (voice. hair, size of larynx), his
changes. Unlike women varying monthly to create menstrual penis, also brain
cycles, the hormones in men's
brains are constantly active (Tsiaras, 2006). This may be
think about sex more than women©
the reason why men are said to
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The Sexual Response Cycle IS a model that describes the physiological responses that
place during sexual activity.
According to William Masters and Virginia Johnson, the cycle consists of four
phases:
1) Excitement (desire/arousal)
2) Plateau
3) Orgasm
4) Resolution
Aronaal stage
A subjective sense of sexual pleasurd
Resolution phee and physiological signs o sexual arousal
mates, perile tumesgance (increased 1I
tloadinto the penis),in females, vasocongestion
iblood poo'sin the povic preatteadingto vaginal
ubrication ana breeat tumescence (urct nippies)
Orgasm phase
In mates, ta 1s of the inevitability of ejacutation Platoou phace
toflowed by ejaculation, in femaics, contractions of the Binet ponod occum before orgasm,
walls of the lower thind of the vagina
our society. From their earliest years, children watch television shows and movies
that
to the fullest
insist that "sex appeal" is a personal quality that people need to develop
(focusas.com/SexualBehavior-Range.html, 2008). While adolescents and their parents
generally agree about many issues and aspects of life, they hold strikingly different views
on
sex. Parents, based on their perspective from greater experience, urge caution and restraint.
Adolescents, experiencing strong sexual desire for the first time and eager for all pleasures
and indulge (Tria, et al.,
life can offer, are frequently tempted to throw caution to the wind
with
2012). TV, movies, and music are not the only influences -- the Internet provides teens
seemingly unlimited access to information on sex as well as a steady supply of people
can remain
willing to talk about sex with them. Teens may feel safe because they
anonymous while looking for information on sex., Sexual predators know this and
manipulate young people into online relationships and, later, set up a time and place
to meet.
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Desire phase
Saxual urges occur in response
to saxual cues or fantasies
Arousal stage
Asubjective sense of sexual pleasure
Revolution phase and physiological signs of sexual arousal
Decreaan in arpunal cocurs a in males, penile tumescence (increased flow of
pats cularl in meni. vasocongestion
blood into the penis): in females,
(blaad pools i the pelvic area) leading to vaginal
lubrication and breast lumescence teract nipples)
Orpasm phase
In males, feelings of the inevitability of ejaculation. Plateau phase
followed by ejaculation, in females, contractions of the Brief paried occurs before orgasm
walls of the lowe: third of the vagina.
2. Human Sexuality
sexual intercourse.feelings,important
It IS an
Sexuality is much more than sexual feelings or
part of who a person
is and what she/he will become. It includes all the thoughts.
and being in love, as
and
behaviors associated with being female male, being attractive
or
well
as being in relationships that include sexual intimacy and sensual and sexual activity. It
also
includes enjoyment of the world as we know it through the five senses: taste, touch,
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2.2 The
Chemistry of Lust, Love and Attachment
There are physiological and psychological aspects in being
turned on, being in love and attached to
another person. The
chemistry of lust, love and attachment lies in
our brains, which is the
humans' most
important sex organ'" The unexplained mechanism
responsible for sexual attraction hes in the brain and not in the genital
areas.
Attraction. This phase is said to be one of the beautiful moments of life. This is the phase
when a person actually starts to feel the love. This is the amazing time when you are truly
love-struck and can think of little else. Scientists think that three main neurotransmitters are
involved in this stage; adrenaline,
dopamine and serotonin.
Attachment - is a bond helping the couple to take their relationship to advanced levels. It
instigates the feeling of bearing children and falling in love with them wholeheartedly.
Scientists think there might be two major hormones involved in this feeling of attachment;
oxytocin and vasopressin.
There are many "rules" about what men and women can/should do that have
nothing to do with the way their bodies are built or function. This aspect of sexuality IS
especially important for young adolescents to understand, since peer, parent, and cultural
pressures to be "masculine" or "feminine" increase during the adolescent years. Both young
men and young women need help sorting out how perceptions about gender roles affect
whether they feel encouraged or discouraged in their choices about relationships, leisure
activities, education, and career.
Gender bias means holding stereotyped opinions about people according to their
gender. Gender bias might include believing that women are less intelligent or less capable
than men that men suffer from "testosterone poisoning," that men cannot raise children
without the help of women, that women cannot be analytical, that men cannot be sensitive.
Many times, people hold fast to these stercotyped opinions without giving rational thought
to the subject of gender (advocatesforyouth.org, 2008).
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Whatis Sexual Orientation?
Sexual orientation
refers to an enduring pattern
of emotional, romantic, and/or
sexual attractions to men, women. or both sexes. Sexual orientation also refers to a person's
sense of identity and membership in
based on those attractions, related behaviors,
community of others who share those attractions.
How
do people know if they are lesbian. gay, or bisexual?
According to current scientific and understanding,
the core attractions
that form the basis for adult professional
sexual orientation typically emerge between middle
childhood
and early adolescence These attraction may
arise without any
patterns of emotional, romantic, and sexual
prior sexual experience. People can be celibate and still know their sexual
orientation -be it lesbian, gay, bisexual or heterosexual. Different lesbian, gay, and bisexual
people have very different
know experiences regarding their sexual orientation. Some people
that they are lesbian, gay, or bisexual for long time before they actually pursue
relationships with other people.
Some people engage in sexual activity (with
same-sex
and/or other sex
partners) before assigning a clear label to their sexual orientation. Prejudice
and discrimination make it
difficult for many people to come to terms with their sexual
orientation identities, so claiming a lesbian, gay, or bisexual identity may be a slow process.
(advocatesforyouth.org/publications/lpe/index.htm, 2008).
Sexual intercourse
MISCONCEPTION AVING SEX
Sexual intercourse is one of the most
all reens are having sex
common behaviors among humans. Sexual
having sex makes you matured and an adult
intercourse is a behavior that may produce sexual O
pleasure that often culminates in orgasm in something is wrong with an older teen (17-
19) who is not having sex
females and in males. Sexual intercourse may
a girl can't get pregnant fishes
also result in pregnancy and/or STDs.
menstruating
In programs for youth, discussion of sexual
• a girl cant get pregnant ifntts her first time
intercourse is often limited to the bare mention of
o you are a virgin as long as you don'! have
male-female (penile-vaginal) intercourse. sexual intercourse -oral sex doesn't count
However, youth need accurate health information Oral sex is not sex
about sexual intercourse vaginal, oral, and anal.
Premarital Sex
FACTORS THAT ENCOURAGE HAVING
Is sexual activity practiced by people
who are unmarried. It can be any sexual relations
a person has prior to marriage. The alternative Having poorly educated parents
terms for premarital sex have been suggested, Unsupportive family relationships
People who have premarital sex are recommended by health professionals to take
precautions to protect themselves against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such
as HIV/AIDS. There is also a risk of an unplanned pregnancy in heterosexual relationships.
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Sexually Transmitted
Diseases/Infections
These are also known as Venereal Examples of
Diseases (VD).
They are passed through sexual
contact or genital
oral sex and anal
through vaginal intercourse, genital herpes
sex. The term STI evolved from chancroid
"venereal disease" genital warts
crabs (pubiclice)
disease",
to "sexually transmitted
then "sexually transmitted infection" hepatitis B
mollusoum contagiosum
scabies
which has a broader
range of meaning: that it can
Trichomoniasis(Trich)
syphilis
be passed without disease. (You don't have to be Human Papillomavirus (HPV)
ill
to infect others). Trichomoniasis (parasitic Infection)
Pulvic Infiammatory Disease (PID)
HIV/AIDS
HIV
is "Human Immunodeficiency Virus" This is retrovirus--genetic info @RNA
than DNA.
HIV is the virus that causes AIDS and it is preventable and manageable but not
curable. AIDS is "Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome". Since this is a syndrome, there
are several manifestations of the breakdown in body's immune system and have developed
in people who have been infected by HIV.
How do people get AIDS? AIDS is developed through:
1)
Bodily fluids (blood products transfusions, semen and vaginal fluids)
2) Intravenous (IV) Drug Abuse (sharing needles and use of unsterilized blades)
3) Sexual intercourse (unprotected vaginal, oral and anal sex)
HIV/AIDS Situationer:
In the
Philippines, here is the number of HIV/AIDS cases reported:
2000
case in every 3 days
2009 2 cases in each day
2010 5 cases in each day
2012 in every 3 hours (8 cases in each day)
2014 17
cases in each day
2015 22 cases in each day
Around the World, there are 448 million new infections of curable sexually transmitted
infections which occur yearly.
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observed in teen
births. Every day in developing countries, 20,000 girls under age 18 give
birth.
This amounts to 7.3 million births a year. And if all pregnancies are included, the
number of adolescent pregnancies is much higher.
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their side effects and know traditional methods of contraception in a culturally appropriate
and informative way. fadvocmerheyouth.org publications tpeindet.him. 300
birth
A concept linked to family planning is contraception, also known as control
or device used to prevent pregnancy. It 1s also defined
and fertility control. This is a method
1. Natural Birth Control employs natural control methods that people do to help
pregnancy are without the use of modern/artificial ways of
prevent an unintended
contraception. These require commitment when you make the decision, discipline and
self-control for it to be effective. These include abstinence, fertility awareness methods.
the rhythm, calendar or standard days method, outercourse and continued breastfeeding,
all
requiring discipline and responsibility which the Catholic Church approves.
2. Artificial Birth Control employs artificial control methods to help prevent
unintended
pregnancy use modem/contemporary measures such as contraceptive or
birth
control pills, diaphragm, male and female condoms, spermicide, cap,
today sponge, birth control patch, birth control shot, birth control implant, intrauterine
device (IUD), tubal
ligation/vasectomy, tubal implants and emergency contraception
pill.
Effectiveness
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