CHAR DEV AND PERSONALITY GROOMING

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 TABLE OF CONTENTS

Ser Topic Page

1. Intro to Char 1-8

2. Fundamentals of Char 9-12

3. DMRs as bldg block of Char 13-19

4. Dimensions of Cheating 21-24

5. Conversational ettiquettes 25-28

6. Personality grooming and bldg 29-32

7. Mess Rules and Values 33-37

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INTRO TO CHAR
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QUESTIONNAIRE

1. Aim. To understand the word “Char” and discuss various positive and
negative char traits.
2. Pts of emphasis.
a. Origin of Char
b. Definitions of Char
c. Positive Char Traits
d. Neg Char Traits
3. Questionnaire. Be prep to discuss fol:-
a. Question 1. What do you mean by the word Char? Explain with
examples.
b. Question 2. What are Char traits?
c. Question 3. Enumerate and briefly explain positive char traits imperative
to be possessed?
d. Question 4. Enumerate and briefly explain neg char traits which one
should get rid of?
e. Question 5. Explain the concept of Magnanimity (Zarf)?
f. Question 6. Mention Char traits which one should endeavour to dev as
part of Char Dev framework?

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INTRO TO CHAR
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1. Aim. To understand the word “Char” and discuss various positive and
negative char traits.
2. Pts of emphasis.
a. Origin of Char
b. Definitions of Char
c. Positive Char Traits
d. Neg Char Traits
3. Question 1. What do you mean by the word Char? Also give its definition from
various sources/ perspectives.
4. Answer 1.
a. Origin of the Word. The word "character" is derived from the
Ancient Greek word "charaktêr", referring to a mk impressed upon a coin.
Later it came to mean a pt by which one thing was told apart from others.
b. Definitions of Char.
(1) “The way someone thinks, feels and behaves.”
– The Britannica

(2) “One of the attributes or features that make up and distinguish an

indl.” – Merriam-Webster Dictionary

(3) "A disposn to express behaviour in consistent patterns of funcs

across a rg of sits".

– Lawrence Pervin

(4) "Sum of one’s moral habits and disposns".

– Marie I. George

(5) “Moral char or char is an analysis of an indl’s steady moral

qualities. The concept of char can express a variety of attributes
incl the presence or lack of virtues such as empathy, courage,
fortitude, honesty, loyalty, or good behaviors or habits;
theseattributes are also a part of one's soft skills. Moral char
primarily refers to the colln of qualities that differentiate one indl
from another – although, on a cultural level, the gp of moral
behaviours to which a social gp adheres can be said to unite and
define it culturally as distinct from others.”

– Wikipedia

(6) Char of a pers is the aggregate of all of his positive and negative
char traits.”

–Time Lenders

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5. Question 2. What are Char traits?
6. Answer 2. Char traits are positive or neg moral, spiritual, mental and
emotional quals of a person by which he interacts with people and external sits; and
with himself and his internal states. For e.g, courage is a positive char trait by which a
person is able to stand up against threatening sits and overcome his internal fears.
Similarly, miserliness is a negative char trait by which a person is unwilling to spend
money and other resources where such expense is req and the absence of which
compromises his and other people’s interests.
7. Question 3. Enumerate and briefly explain positive char traits imperative to be
possessed?
8. Answer 3
Ser Trait Definition
a. Ambitious Having a strong desire for success or achievement
b. Courageous Possessing or displaying courage; able to face and
deal with danger or fear without flinching
c. Compassionate Feeling or showing sympathy and concern for
others
d. Conscientious Wishing to do one's work or duty well and
thoroughly
Considerate Careful not to inconvenience or harm others.
e. Courteous Polite, respectful, or considerate in manner.
f. Cautious Showing careful forethought
g. Cooperative Done with or working with others for a common
purpose or benefit
h. Calm Not agitated; without losing self-possession
i. Determined Characterized by great determination
j. Decisive The ability to make decisions quickly and
effectively.
k. Disciplined Showing a controlled form of behaviour or way of
working.
l. Empathetic Showing an ability to understand and share the
feelings of another.
m. Forgiving Ready and willing to forgive.
n. Frugal Sparing or economical as regards to money or
food.
o. Far-sighted Having or showing imagination or foresight.
p. Generous Showing a readiness to give more of something,
especially money, than is strictly necessary or
expected.
Soft and mild; not harsh or stern or severe
r. Honest Free of deceit; truthful and sincere

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s. Hardworking Characterized by hard work and perseverance

t. Helpful Providing assistance or serving a useful func
u. Hopeful Having or manifesting hope
v. Humorous Characterized by humour
w. forbearance It allows someone to con their anger, even if their
anger is justified. It allows you to, when you are
justifiably angry, con it and not manifest it.
x. Humble Modest; without excessive pride.
y. Devotion Intense love and dedication for something
z. Integrity The quality of being honest and having strong
moral principles.
aa. Loyal Giving or showing firm and constant sp or
allegiance to a person or institution
bb. Obedient Complying or willing to comply with an order or
request; submissive to another’s auth.
cc. Principled (Of a person or their behaviour) acting in
accordance with morality and showing recognition
of rt and wrong.
dd. Polite Showing regard for others in manners, speech,
behaviour, etc.

ff. Responsible Worthy of or requiring responsibility or trust; or held

accountable

gg. Respectful Feeling or showing deference and respect

hh. Trustworthy Worthy of trust or belief
ii. Tolerant Willingness to allow the existence of opinions or
behaviour that one does not necessarily agree with.

jj. Steadfastness Being mindful of Allah (SWT)

kk. Wise Mk by the ex of good judgment or common sense
in prac matters
ll. Magnanimity (Zarf) Generous / Forgiving

9. Question 4. Enumerate and briefly explain neg char traits which one should get
rid of his personality?
10. Answer 4.

Ser Trait Definition

a. Artificial (Of a person) insincere or affected.

b. Barbaric Savagely cruel.

c. Bossy Offensively self-assured or given to ex usually

unwarranted power

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d. Complacent Showing smug or uncritical satisfaction with oneself or

one's achievements.

e. Conceited Char of false pride; having an exaggerated sense of

self-importance

f. Cold Lacking affection or warmth of feeling; unemotional.

g. Cowardly Lacking courage.

h. Grumpy Annoyed and irritable

i. Gullible Naive and easily deceived or tricked

j. Insecure Uncertain or anxious about oneself; not confident

k. Ignorant Lacking knowledge or awareness in gen; uneducated

or unsophisticated; discourteous or rude

l. Intolerant Not tolerant of views, beliefs, or behaviour that differ

from one's own.

m. Jealous Showing extreme cupidity; painfully desirous of

another's advantages

n. Lazy Disinclined to work or exertion

o. Mischievous Causing or showing a fondness for causing trouble in a

playful way; causing or intended to cause harm or
trouble.

p. Narcissistic Excessive interest in or admiration of oneself and one's

physical appearance.

q. Procrastinating Delay or postpone action; put off doing something.

r. Proud Feeling self-respect or pleasure in something by which

you measure your self-worth; or being a reason for
pride

s. Reactive Acting in response to a sit rather than creating or con

it.

t. Sly Mk by skill in deception

u. Selfish Concerned chiefly or only with yourself and your

advantage to the exclusion of others

v. Timid Showing fear and lack of confidence; lacking

conviction or boldness or courage

w. Ungrateful Not feeling or showing gratitude.

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‫‪x.‬‬ ‫‪Vulnerable‬‬ ‫‪Exposed to the possibility of being attk or harmed,‬‬

‫‪either physically or emotionally.‬‬

‫‪11.‬‬ ‫?)‪Question 5. Explain the concept of Magnanimity (Zarf‬‬

‫‪12.‬‬ ‫‪Answer 5. Magnanimity (Zarf) is a combination of five char traits:-‬‬
‫‪a.‬‬ ‫‪Farsightedness‬‬
‫‪b.‬‬ ‫‪Courage‬‬
‫‪c.‬‬ ‫‪Generosity‬‬
‫‪d.‬‬ ‫‪Forgiving‬‬
‫‪e.‬‬ ‫‪Regarding‬‬
‫‪13.‬‬ ‫‪Poetic verses on Zarf‬‬

‫خسرو نے نظام الدین اولیاء سے پوچھا‬

‫کہ محبت میں مصیبت کیوں ہوتی ہے‬
‫ا کہ محبت میں مصیبت کیوں ہوتی ہے‬
‫نظام الدین اولیاء نے فرمایا‬
‫تاکہ ہر کم ظرف اس کا دعوی نہ کرے‬
‫انسان ہو اور ظرف نہ ہو‬
‫گویا کتاب ہو اور حرف نہ ہو‬
‫جو اعلی ظرف ہوتے ہیں ہمیشہ جھک کے ملتے ہیں‬
‫صراحی سرنگوں ہو کر بھرا کرتی ہے پیمانہ‬
‫کہہ رہا ہے شور دریا سے سمندر کا سکوت‬
‫جس کا جتنا ظرف ہے اتنا ہی وہ خاموش ہے‬
‫( ناطق لکھنوی)‬
‫یہ پہاڑوں کا ظرف ہے ورنہ‬
‫کون دیتا ہے دوسری آواز‬
‫ظرف رکھتے تو جان لیتے‬
‫چپ بھی ایک شکایت ہے‬
‫یہ تو ظرف ظرف کی بات ہے‬
‫کوئی سہہ گیا کوئی کہہ گیا‬
‫ظرف پیدا کر سمندر کی طرح‬
‫وسعتیں۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔خاموشیاں۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔گہرائیاں‬
‫نہیں تھا اپنا مزاج ایسا کہ ظرف کھو کر انا بچاتے‬
‫وگرنہ ایسے جواب دیتے کہ پھر نہ پیدا سوال ہوتے‬
‫موالنا رومی سے پوچھا گیا کہ کیا موت سے زیادہ بھی کوئی تکلیف دہ لمحہ ہے؟‬
‫کہا ہاں جب کوئی اعلی ظرف اپنی کسی مجبوری کے تحت کسی کم ظرف کے آگے ھاتھ پھیالئے‬

‫‪15.‬‬ ‫‪Question 6. Mention Char traits which one should endeavour to dev as part of‬‬
‫?‪Char dev framework‬‬
‫‪16.‬‬ ‫‪Answer 6. Fol are the traits one should inculcate as part of char dev‬‬
‫‪framework: -‬‬
‫‪a.‬‬ ‫‪Intent.‬‬ ‫‪Intent is the meaning behind what you do. It provides‬‬
‫‪a sense of purpose and helps to focus on what is most important. Intent‬‬

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can be simply summed up as having the mind, attention or will to
concentrate on something. Setting up an inent is the first step twds a
desired aim. It may be short term as well as long term. When an indl sets
up an intent, it allows to take control of things, resulting in a proactive
apch.
b. Prayer. Prayer is a special form of worship that is the second most
important pillar of Islam. It is obligatory and performed five times a day.
Holy Quran repeatedly enumerates the importance of prayer. It is offered
and done to show humility and submission to Allah. It helps to foster one
of its kind relationships with the Almighty, providing enduring strength and
self-belief.
c. Guidance from seniors. It is a protected relationship in which a more
knowledgeable or experienced person guides and nurtures the
professional development or growth of another. In Mil, there is an in built
mech where seniors/ more experienced guide their juniors. One should be
sensible enough to comprehend the given guidance and aslo be receptive.
The experience and wisdom of seniors can not be substituted and must be
given due credence.
d. Espirit de Corps. It is a feeling of loyalty and pride that is shared by
the members of a gp. It generates a special bond between a
particular gp of people which contributes manifold in achieving a
desired goal.
It is the common spirit existing in the members of a group and inspires
enthusiasm, devotion and strong regard for the honour of the gp.
e. Envmt. Since the earliest times, human have been sensitive to their
surroundings for survival, which means that we have innate awareness of
our envmt and seek out evmts with certain qual. Envmt is everything that
is around incl both living and non-living, which adapt themselves to their
surroundings. It is an amalgam of one’s habits & routine, social circle and
gen aptitude. It is an indl,s responsibility to create an envmt which is
enabling for growth and offers productivity.
f. Action. Taking concrete action is essential for transforming objs into
reality. It is the very harbinger for progress, fostering motivation,
overcoming obastacles and ultimately ldg to desired goals. With out
actions, Obj of any sort only remains a distant dream. The more
something is done, the easier it is to keep doing it, whether good or bad.
One can't succeed without doing anything. By maint the action, one sets
himself up for a greater chance of hitting the goals.
g. Introspection. The examination or obsn of one's own mental and
emotional processes. It is psychological process that involves looking
inward to examine one’s own thoughts, emotions, judgements and
perceptions. It is essentially the ability to look inwards to learn about
something within yourself by seeing it holistically to understand it, and
trying to grow as a result of that process.
h. Reading. Reading is defined as a cognitive process that involves
decoding symbols to arr at meaning. It is an active process of constructing

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meanings of words. Reading with a purpose helps the reader to direct info
twds a goal and focuses one’s attention.It is ihighly imperative because it
devs the mind and provides excessive knowledge and lessons for life. It
also helps to understand the world around better, keeping the mind active,
enhancing the creative ability, also helps improve vocabulary and dev
comm skills.

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FUNDAMENTALS OF CHAR
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QUESTIONNAIRE
1. Aim. To acquaint offrs with the essential aspects req to dev desired core
values, sound char with requisite competence.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Ideology, ultimate purpose, vision, and purpose of vision
b. Understanding the concept of core, char & competence
c. The Maturity Model
3. Questionnaire. Be prep to discuss fol:-
a. Question 1. Define the fol:
(1) Core
(2) Char
(3) Competence
(4) Ideology
(5) Vision
(6) Ultimate Purpose
(7) Purpose of vision
(8) Strategy
(9) Ultimate Vision
(10) Intermediate Vision
b. Question 2. How the fol are interconnected?
(1) Vision and Purpose of Vision
(2) Purpose of Vision and Ultimate Vision
(3) Ideology, Ultimate vision and Purpose of Vision
c. Question 3. Give a diagrammatic explanation of the maturity model. Also
explain how it segregates ldrs from followers and strugglers?

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FUNDAMENTALS OF CHAR
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1. Aim. To acquaint offrs with the essential aspects req to dev desired core
values, sound char with requisite competence.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Ideology, ultimate purpose, vision, and purpose of vision
b. Understanding the concept of core, char & competence
c. The Maturity Model
3. Question 1. Define the fol:-
a. Core
b. Char
c. Competence
d. Ideology
e. Vision
f. Ultimate Purpose
g. Purpose of vision
h. Strategy
i. Ultimate Vision
j. Intermediate Vision
4. Answer 1.
a. Core. Sum total of ideology, ultimate purpose, ultimate vision and
purpose of vision is core.
b. Ideology. Set of ideas, belief and culture of a particular group of
people.
c. Vision. Vision is the picture of the future that we want to see.
d. Ultimate Purpose. Why do we exist and why does our org exist?
e. Purpose of Vision. Why does the vision exist?
f. Strategy. A strategy is a gen plan or set of plans intended to achieve
something, especially over a long pd.
g. Ultimate Vision. A vision which is independent of time.
h. Intermediate Vision. A vision derived from the ultimate vision for a
particular instance of time.
5. Question 2. How the fol are interconnected?
a. Vision and Purpose of Vision
b. Purpose of Vision and Ultimate Purpose
c. Ideology, Ultimate vision and Purpose of Vision
6. Answer 2.
a. Vision and Purpose of Vision
(1) Vision “If one do not plan for something that he wants, chances are
that he’ll get something that he never wanted.” That means without
a dir, we are at risk! Without a clear vision, we don’t have a
direction! So, if a=>b=>c, then a=>c, which means, without a clear
vision, we are at a severe risk!”

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(2) Purpose of Vision. It is the foundation of vision and provides
justification of vision. Without a clear Purpose of vision, vision is at
risk.
b. Purpose of Vision and Ultimate Purpose
(1) Ultimate Purpose. Without a clear ultimate purpose, our purpose
of vision is at severe risk.
(2) Purpose of Vision. Without a clear purpose of vision, our vision is
at risk.
(3) Vision. Without a clear vision, we are at severe risk
c. Ideology, Ultimate vision and Purpose of Vision. Ideology ultimately leads
to vision as fol:-
Ideology
(Without an ideology, the ultimate purpose is at risk)

Ultimate Purpose
(Why do we exist?)

Purpose of Vision
(Why does the vision exist?)

Vision
(The futuristic Picture)

7. Question 3. Give a diagrammatic explanation of the maturity model. Also

explain how it segregate ldrs from followers and strugglers?

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8. Answer 3
a.

b. Amalgam of Core Values, Char traits and Competence defines a human

personality and act as benchmark for “Maturity” of an indl. Furthermore,
Core Values constitute 50%, Char traits 30 % and Knowledge &
competence 20% of human personality as per maturity model.
c. The level of of maturity in relation to age, distinguishes the Leaders,
Followers/ Mediocre and the failures as depicted below.

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DESCRETIONARY MENTAL ROUTINES (DMRs) AS BLDG BOCK OF CHAR
QUESTIONNAIRE

1. Aim. To acquaint students with the concept of DMRs, their types and dev
methodology as well as resultant impact on behavior, habits and char.
2. Pts of Emphasis
a. Multi-tasking and Multi processing
b. DMRs
c. Types of DMRs
d. Demonstration of behavior in relation to DMRs
e. Uniformity of DMRs
f. Dev of DMRs
3. Question 1 Differentiate between multi-tasking and multi-processing. Also
relate both at conscious as well as at Subconscious lvl?
4. Question 2 The Conscious mind can multi-task without multi-processing. Also
elucidate how is it possible with the help of multi-flexing and dev of DMRs?
5. Question 3 What are various types of DMRs. Also explain how do they act as
bldg block of an indls Char?
6. Question 4 Explain Char Continuum?
7. Question 5 Demonstrate how is behavior linked with DMRs?
8. Question 6 Explain the role of fol in formulation of one’s char?
a. Words
b. Thoughts
c. Habits
d. Char
9. Question 7 What does uniformity of DMR means? How does it accord habit the
status of char trait?
10. Question 8 How dev of DMR in one dimension also yields fruit in other
dimensions aswell?

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DESCRETIONARY MENTAL ROUTINES (DMRs)
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1. Aim. To discuss DMRs and its role as the bldg block of Char.
2. Scope. To acquaint students with the concept of DMRs, their types and dev
methodology as well as resultant impact on behavior, habits and char.
3. Pts of Emphasis
a. Multi-tasking and Multi processing
b. DMRs
c. Types of DMRs
d. Role of DMRs in Routine behavior
e. Uniformity of DMRs
f. Dev of DMR
4. Intro. Discretionary Mental Routines are cptr progms created by brain and
placed in the subconscious mind. These act as a trigger and every time they are
activated, runs auto without the conscious attention. There are various types of DMRs
ranging from those rcvd at birth to those dev due to thought process or receptive muscle
mov. These DMRs consciously and sub consciously forms the behavior, which over a
time turn into habits, and ultimately define one’s char.
5. Question 1 Differentiate between multi-tasking and multi-processing. Also
relate it at Conscious aswell as at Subconscious lvl?
6. Answer 1
a. Multitasking is what happens externally while doing multiple things at the same
time whereas multiprocessing is happening inside the brain.
b. Our brain op at two levels, the conscious level and the subconscious level. In
both cases multitasking can be done i.e. doing two or more than two things
simultaneously: for example subconsciously, the brain regulates breathing and
digests food at the same time. Consciously, we often drive and talk over the
phone.
c. The difference arises between multitasking and processing as multiprocessing
can take place at the subconscious level but not at conscious level as opposed
to multitasking. By multiprocessing, it is meant that we process info in real-time
simultaneously as if we have multiple microprocessors working on multiple
tasks at the same time. Our conscious mind can multitask but not multi-
process.

d. Diagrammatically this can be shown as fol:-

Multi-tasking Multi-processing

Subconscious
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7. Question 2 The Conscious mind can multi-task without multi-processing.

Elucidate how it is possible with the help of multi-flexing and dev of DMRs?
8. Answer 2 The Conscious mind can multi-task in fol ways:-
a. Multi-tasking through Multiplexing
(1) Multiplexing is used in cptr science where a microprocessor handles
different tasks by multiplexing. It divides its time into microseconds and
assigns them to different tasks. The earliest comm tech using elec
wires was the electric telegraph. Now since this div is in minuscule
intervals and the microprocessor speed is very high, the end-users
don’t feel the switching and it appears that the computer is handling all
the tasks simultaneously.

2 1
1 2

2 1

1 2
(2) An Example can be using mob phone while driving. A quick reflection
will result in the fol positives and neg of multitasking consciously
through multiplexing.
Positives Negatives
Saving of time Loss of Conc
- Loss of Quality

b. Multi-tasking through DMRs

(1) DMRs are like cptr progms which are created by the brain and placed in
the subconscious mind. Each DMR has a trigger which could be a
stimulus outside or within the body. Every time this trigger is activated,
the DMR runs auto without the intervention of the conscious mind thus

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freeing up the conscious mind for other work requiring conscious
attention.
(2) An example can be learning a vehicle with manual gears. Initially the
gears are changed by the driver while looking down. Subsequently the
brain dev the DMRs and gears are changed auto, by the dvr via feeling
the pull of the engine/ pitch of engine noise. Resultantly, the dvr is able
to better focus via conscious mind on another task for e.g navigating tfc
eff. The trigger for the DMRs for changing gears is the feel of the pull of
the engine which gets stronger as the revolution of the engine inc and
the change of the pitch of engine noise accordingly.
9. Question 3 What are various types of DMRs? Also explain how do they act as
bldg block of an indls Character?
10. Answer 3
a. DMRs are cat in three types
(1) Instinct DMRs. These are the DMRs that are preprogmd before birth.
Every indl is born with thousands of such DMRs. Example can be
crying, breathing, and smiling.
(2) Motor DMRs. These are the DMRs which are only formed when
there is repetitive muscle movement. Examples of Motor DMRs would
be changing tx of a car, typing, swimming, walking, running, playing
sports and writing.
(3) Thought DMRs. These are divided into Instant Thought DMRs and
Repetitive Thought DMRs.
(a) Instant Thought DMRs. These are formed instantaneously by
seeing someone just once. The image of the face is
instantaneously registered in the brain along with info such as the
setting where the sight happened or the event or even the name.
The trigger could be seeing that person again which will
immediately run the program—the Instant Thought DMR—sub-
consciously and the conscious mind will be alerted that this
person’s face appears familiar. Similarly, certain beliefs and
assumptions which are developed instantaneously would also fall
under Instant Thought DMRs.
(b) Repetitive Thought DMRs. These are built in the brain
without the help of any muscle movement but in order to be built
they require the mental process to be repeated. Examples of
Repetitive Thought DMRs would be arithmetic, learning
multiplication tables and dev certain mental aptitudes.
b. DMRs as Bldg Block of Char

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(1) Behavior. Our behavior is nothing but the combination of our conscious
thoughts plus all of the three types of DMRs. Behavior = Conscious
thought + Instinct DMRs + Motor DMRs + Thought DMRs.
(2) Habits. Habit is an acquired behavior pattern regularly fol, until it has
become almost involuntary. It is something that is done subconsciously
without conscious thought. For eg, offering seat to an elderly women on a
bus. The trigger is the sight of elderly women without a seat and the
DMRs are the act of offering his seat. Together it becomes a habit.
(3) Char. Char is the aggregate of habits and thoughts DMRs whether
repetitive or instant. The char traits possessed whether simple or complex
are exhibited at different pts in life subconsciously or involuntarily. The
bldg block for our habits and char are DMRs. If one want to dev the right
and correct habits and ultimately the right char, DMRs are req to be
focused upon. Likewise, rectification of incorrect habits and negative
character traits will also have to be started from the rectification of the
building blocks that is DMRs.
11. Question 4 Explain Character Continuum?
12. Answer 4
a. Every char trait has an opposite, and both lie on a continuum. A continuum is
defined as a set of things on a scale with a particular characteristic to different
degrees. A person's char is the net sum of the character scores of all of the
possible character Continuums.
b. An e.g of Courage Cowardice Continuum is as fol. On the right of zero we have
scale for courage, whereas left depicts the cowardice scale. Our char is a
combination of the degrees of all of our positive and Negative char traits. All of
our behaviors have a set of character traits operational behind them.

Cowardice Courage

-1 -2 -3 -4 -5 +1 +2 +3 +4 +5

13. Question 5 Demonstrate how is behavior linked with DMRs?

14. Answer 5 Behavior is combination of conscious thoughts and DMRs. Humans
dev numerous DMRs which are housed in the subconscious mind with their unique
internal and external triggers. This is why humans are able to demonstrate extremely
complex behavioral patterns and engage in complex activities like sports and arts.

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15. Example For e.g “A person feels thirsty and needs to drink water”. The indl will
carryout certain actions. It is simple process that uses no of DMRs along with conscious
thought. The actions viz a viz DMR used are described as fol :-
S.No Activity Type of DMR
a. The feeling of thirst due to low hydration Instinct
b. Identifying bottle of water/ Glass Conscious thought
c. Walking up to the Dispenser Motor
d. Get hold of Glass in right hand Motor
f. Press button with left hand to pour water Motor
g. Sit down Motor/ Repetitive
h. Take a look into the glass Motor/ Repetitive
i. Drink water using my right hand Motor/ Repetitive
j. Drinking the water in three sips Motor/ Repetitive
k. Identifying where to put back the glass Conscious
l. Putting back the glass/ disposing off Motor

16. Question 6 Explain the role of fol in formulation of one’s char?

17. Answer 6
a. Thoughts Thoughts are req to be watched. If they are correct, they should be
repeated/ cultivated, but incase not correct or are known to be harmful, they
should be avoided like arrogance and jealousy. As per research, majority
who commit suicide first think about it. Psychologists caution that when one
hears people indicating their desire to commit suicide, they should be taken
seriously.
b. Words When something is said repeatedly, repetitive thought and motor
DMRs are dev. It results in dev of multiple DMRs associated with triggers
and the likelihood of these words and thoughts slipping into action inc. If
these are negative DMRs then the person will have to remain on guard all
the time to ensure that they don’t translate into action. On the other hand, if
these are positive DMRs then dev them is beneficial. and when the person
would like to do a positive act, the DMRs will be there to assist him. It is at
times without conscious knowledge; the positive DMRs will be triggered.
c. Habits If an action is repeated over and over again, motor DMRs are dev.
Motor DMRs are nothing but habits, which can be good or bad. The
dictionary meaning of habit is “an acquired behavior pattern regularly
followed until it has become almost involuntary”. It is something that is
done subconsciously without conscious thought. For e.g someone has a
good habit of offering his seat to the elders. This means that whenever the
indl will see an elderly person, he would immediately offer his seat. The
decision happens without any conscious thought. The Indl doesn’t have to
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weigh the moral decision consciously or look at the pros and cons. The
trigger is the sight of an elder without a seat, and the DMRs are the act of
offering seat. With adequate repetition, this converted into his habit and is
now done involuntarily. Consider habitual liars who would just lie whether
there is some benefit or not as it has become a habit for them. Initially, they
would have lied consciously, but with repetition, this bad act converted into
a habit or a set of lying DMRs.
d. Char Char is the aggregate of habits and DMRs. Char defines an indl.
The char traits that we possess whether simple or complex are exhibited at
different pts in life subconsciously or involuntarily. If generosity is part of
someone’s char, then it will be exhibited without conscious thought and the
indl will be generous at all times when the proper trigger arrives or where
generosity is called for. Char may have negative traits which would be the
opposite of positive char traits like cowardice, miserliness, arrogance and
envy. The dictionary defines char as” the aggregate of features and traits
that form the indl nature of a person or thing” One must watch his char,
as it ultimately becomes the destiny.
18. Question 7 What does uniformity of DMR means? How does it accord habit the
status of char trait?
19. Answer 7
a.Uniformity of DMRs. The DMRs are uniform and consistent in nature. Once
a DMR is formed, it will run in various sits uniformly. It is because a DMR is
blind to sits as the only thing it can only see its unique trigger. Whenever
that particular trigger is present, it will run regardless. Humans interact with
themselves and others with the same brain indoctrinated with its set of
DMRs, the DMRs that are used with own self are the same DMRs used
for others. Since DMRs are the building blocks of
b.Our behavior and char traits that we shall exhibit in one sit are likely to be
same in other or to ourselves would be the same that we exhibit to others.
Fol are e.g of the uniformity of DMRs:-
(1) Traffic Signal A red traffic light is a triggered which sets into motion
the DMRs which allow the driver to stop the car. Now it is irrespective
of the fact where this red traffic light is encountered.
(2) Moral Courage A courageous person will not only face others with
courage but will also face himself with courage. It takes a lot of
courage to face ourselves when we discover that we are wrong and to
admit our shortcomings. Humans have known this fact for a long time.
It is therefore articulated through the concept of DMRs and their
uniformity.
c. Conditional DMRs There is an exception incase DMRs are exposed to
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conditional DMR. Conditional DMRs would then incorporate the exception
with the underlying triggers.
d.Habit as status of Char It is the uniformity of DMRs that accords habit the
status of char traits. Traits define who we are. Humans are not defined by
what they do consciously, rather by subconscious activities. For someone
to be defined as honest, a single act of honesty will not suffice rather a
long-term consistent pattern, the characteristic which comes only from
having a set of DMRs—of honesty will be needed. This is true for all char
traits, whether positive or negative.
20. Question 8 How dev of DMR in one dimension also yields fruit in other
dimensions aswell?
21. Answer 8 DMRs dev in one dimension, either the self or others, will reflect on
the other dimension aswell.
a.Example There are two mountain tops: one is 5000 meters high while the
other is only 500 meters high. While dev the phy ability to climb the 500 m
mountain, it is focused on inc ability to climb the 5000 m mountain, the
ability to climb 500m will increase auto as the resources to climb the
mountain are the same whether they are muscular strength, stamina or
stronger lungs. Similarly, the vice versa will also be true, if you inc the ability
to climb the 500m mountain, your ability to climb the 5000 m will also inc
your phy ability to climb the 5000m mountain. Now suppose that it is more
dangerous to climb the 5000m mountain. At this time, you are focusing on
only the phy ability and strength and not the part req developing the nerves
to manage this danger. Once this is developed then to focus on developing
the nerves by then taking on more dangerous mountain tops.
b. This is the logic behind first learning to fly planes on simulators. When we use
the simulators, we are developing our DMRs for flying in a non-risky
environment, and once this is done then we move on to flying the real
machines. The reason for giving the examples above is to state the utility of
the uniformity of DMRs: that they can be developed in one setting and then
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DIMENSIONS OF CHEATING
TD
QUESTIONNAIRE

1. Aim. To familiarize offrs with the dimensions of cheating concept with a view to
foster a cmt for moral values, ethical excellence and essential traits expected.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Forms of Cheating/ Plagiarism
b. Importance of academic Integrity
c. Academic dishonesty and consequences
d. Expectation from an offr
3. Questionnaire. Be prep to discuss fol:-
a. Question 1. What all are the forms of cheating?
b. Question 2. What all are inc in academic dishonesty and what are its
consequences?
c. Question 3. What is plagiarism?
d. Question 4. What is academic integrity and what are its core values in
Pak Army?
e. Question 5. An offr never compromises on his integrity. In this regard
what all is expected from an offr to avoid cheating?

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DIMENSIONS OF CHEATING
TD
1. Aim. To familiarize offrs with the dimensions of cheating concept with a view to
foster a cmt for moral values, ethical excellence and essential traits expected out of a
gentleman.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Forms of Cheating/ Plagiarism
b. Importance of academic Integrity
c. Academic dishonesty and consequences
d. Expectation from an offr
3. Question 1. What all are the forms of cheating?
4. Answer 1
a. Copying answers on tests.
b. Using prohibited ref materials (such as notes / books) during exam.
c. Turning in papers that you have not written yourself or that you wrote for a
diff course.
d. Quoting material w/o marking it as quoted and without attributing it to its
source.
e. Knowingly attributing a quotation or other info to the wrong source.
f. Misrepresenting a med or family emergency or other pers ctgy in order to
delay a sch exam or to get extra time.
g. Pretending to have a disability you do not have (or exaggerating one you
do have) in order to gain an unwarranted adv unavailable to other
students.
h. Modifying graded material and then resubmitting it to "correct the error in
grading".
i. Describing research deceptively or research that never happened.
j. Submitting work on-line under the name of another person or allowing
another person to submit work on-line for you.
k. Sabotaging, misrepresenting or fabricating written work, sources,
research, or results as well as helping another student commit an act of
academic dishonesty or lying to protect a student who has cmt one.
5. Question 2. What all are incl in academic dishonesty and what are its
consequences?
6. Answer 2
a. Academic dishonesty includes “cheating,” “fraud,” and “plagiarism,” the
theft of ideas and other forms of intellectual property— whether they are
pub or not.
b. “All forms of academic dishonesty, including cheating, fabrication,
facilitating academic dishonesty and plagiarism are liable to discp action
incl suspension or expulsion”.
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c. Similarly, it can be stated that “cheating” and “any forms of academic
dishonesty” are indicators of “undesirable char” that can result into severe
consequences.
7. Question 3. What is plagiarism?
8. Answer 3. Plagiarism (The word is derived from Latin plagium, "kidnapping") is
the use of another writer’s words or ideas without ack the source and is a kin to theft.
a. In simple words plagiarism is the theft of intellectual property belonging to
another. This includes both the theft of unwritten ideas and concepts as
well as the theft of written texts, notes, coptr programs, designs, and/or
visual materials.
b. In many cases, the theft of intellectual property is intentional while in other
cases, the theft of intellectual property seems to be the result of ignorance
and could have been avoided if offrs have better understanding of
plagiarism.
9. Question 4. What is academic integrity and what are its core values in Pak
Army?
10. Answer 4
a. The idea of academic integrity embodies nothing less than a statement of
ethical principles to which all members of academia bind themselves. Any
statement of integrity—like any code of honour-embodies core values of
its group, society, or culture.
b. Likewise, academic culture inside Pak Army is rooted in many of the core
values like freedom of speech and other forms of personal expression,
freedom of conscience, an atmosphere of mutual trust, transparency,
honesty, originality, fairness and equity.
11. Question 5. An offr never compromises on his integrity in this regard what all
are expected from an offr to avoid cheating?
12. Answer 5
a. Offrs are expected to provide full and complete docus for work that is not
their own.
b. Fully ack your sources is basic honesty. If you do it, you never
compromise your integrity.
c. Anything you copy must be clearly indicated by quotation marks or a
statement noting the work is copied.
d. Never copy verbatim the graded academic work of another offr and submit
it, even documented as such.
e. When completing "IE," do your own work unless told by your instr.
f. When attempting / completing homework, you may receive help only from
a instr, course mate, other pub material, or personal course notes.
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h. If your instr gives you permission in writing to consult other persons or use
materials produced by other offrs, follow those dirs carefully, and still ack
these sources, as well as any other sources you use.
i. Before using previously submitted work, your instr should be consulted.
j. There are two types of plagiarism – both are cheating.
k. Transitive Sense. To steal and pass off (the ideas or words of another) as
one's own; use (another's production) without crediting the source.
l. Intransitive Sense. To comt literary theft; present as new and original an
idea or product derived from an existing source.
m. If you are confused or in doubt about whether something is auth. Do not
rely on other offr. Your best source for answering questions is your instr.
However, if the instr is unavailable, do the honourable thing and stay on
the safe side.
n. Unless specifically told otherwise in writing, graded work is always IE.
o. You should always do your own work and docu it. To plead, "I was
confused, or I wasn't sure whether it was OK...so I did it," is wrong.
p. Most academic cheating cases are the result of poor planning and waiting
until the last min to attempt an asg.
q. By waiting until the last min you are cutting off the only source of help you
can be certain will not result in an Honour code violation accusation: your
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CONVERSATIONAL ETIQUETTES
TD

QUESTIONNAIRE
1. Aim. To acquaint offrs with personal ethics and conversational etiquettes.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Gen Rules of Conversation.
b. Conversational Do’s and Dont’s.
c. Conversation etiquettes while addressing Lady Wives.
3. Questionnaire. Be prep to discuss fol:-
a. Question 1. What are the gen rules/ etiquettes of conversation?
b. Question 2. What are the rules observed while giving compliments?
c. Question 3. What are the rules observed for intro?
d. Question 4. What are the rules fol for addressing women?
e. Question 5. What are the conversational etiquettes which an offr must
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PERSONAL ETHICS AND
CONVERSATIONAL ETIQUETTES
TD

1. Aim. To acquaint offrs with personal ethics and conversational etiquettes.

2. Obj. At the end of the lesson offrs will have the knowledge of :-
a. Gen Rules of Conversation.
b. Conversational Do’s and Dont’s
c. Conversation etiquettes while addressing Lady
wives
3. Intro. The social life in Army demands high values and str of personal char.
Being an integral part of this institution, it is our utmost resp to carry ourselves in a
befitting manner. In the succeeding paras, we shall be discussing some imp personal
ethics and conversational etiquettes which are the hallmark of mil life.
4. Question 1. What are the gen rules/etiquettes of conversation?
5. Answer 1. Conversational Etiquettes. “Small minds discuss, people,
average minds discuss events, great minds discuss ideas, but the greatest minds act in
silence”. With that as the bkgr let us go on to the gen rules of conversation:-
a. Do not tell long stories. Some people love their own voice. Give others a
chance.
b. Age is a touchy subject – avoid discussing it. Do not discuss even a third
party’s age – the party with whom it is being discussed would arouse
speculation that his or hers would also be discussed in their absence.
c. Do not start stories / jokes all over again when a new comer enters the gp.
d. Think twice before discussing anything indiscreet or likely to cause pain to
any of the gp.
e. Do not discuss religion, race, ladies or creed.
f. Do no tell jokes etc which carry national prejudices.
g. Do not interrupt while others spk.
h. Be discreet and diplomatic while contradicting or correcting someone. Do
not say, “That’s not true” – it may lead to a quarrel.
i. Do not ask personal questions which may embarrass the person.
j. Do not be a gossiper.
k. Whilst conversing with women, army officers have a habit of using army
slang. It is impolite, particularly when in the army, some slangs used are
abusive.
l. Do not impress your audience with lengthy, uncommon words – be simple
in your vocabulary.
m. Do not gesticulate while spk.
n. When addsd a foreign lady, call her “Ma’am” or Mrs ________”. When
addressing a Pakistani lady, you could draw her attention with a polite
“Jee” or “Mrs Shad” or “Behen / Bhabi”.
o. When asking questions of a lady guest speaker she could be addsd as
“Madam” or simply “Dr Mazari”, “Dr Maleeha”, or even “Dr”, etc.
p. Above all, never be personal in your remarks and try to ridicule anyone.
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7. Answer 2. A sincere compliment can lift the spirit of a person entirely.
However, do observe the fol rules:-
a. When complimenting a woman, never say, “you are looking fantastic or
gorgeous or”. It is entirely correct to say. “The dress you are wearing is
wonderful”. This remark by itself would carry the other compliments
without any insinuation.
b. A damaging compliment is to say, “That’s a wonderful haircut, it makes
you look so much smarter”.
c. However, even when complimenting do not go on complimenting lest your
compliments become too common and you find yourself against a wall
when someone says, “Oh, you say that to everybody”.
d. Remember the greatest compliment you can pay anyone is when the
person is not present.
8. Criticism. Good, honest reasonable open-minded criticism is a sign of an alert
mind. It is downright dishonest to criticize an organisation or policies while spk in a
gathering. Opinions are acceptable. Will Durant says, “To speak ill of others is a
dishonest way of praising ourselves”. Amusingly caustic remarks at the cost of others
may appear humorous but can be dangerous. Be constructive while criticizing and not
destructive, but when it is towards an indl any criticism is well worth a sec thought.
9. Greeting. On being intro, the std response is, “How do you do”, not “Hi” or
“Hello”. Whilst intro your wife, in our cty and particularly to men, her name is never
mentioned. It is sufficient to say, “My wife”. Sentences like “My better half”, etc is not
correct.
10. Pet Names. Do not call any one by pet names in pub or gatherings. Do not spk
of other women or address other women by their pet names. Your friend’s wife is “Mrs
Akhtar” and not “Guddo”. Be discreet and remember formality whilst addressing or
talking of women is the golden rule.
11. Question 3. What are the rules observed for intro?
12. Answer 3
a. Intro a man to a woman. Remember use the first name of the person to
whom another is being intro. Example:-
(1) Mrs Farzand – Maj Hassan.
(2) Mrs Zahid, this is Col Naseer.
(3) “This is Brigadier Shahid”, spoken to the lady and then to him, “Mrs
Karim”.
(4) If extremely ceremonious, for intro to extremely high dignitaries,
“Mrs Naqvi, I have the honour to present Mr Khanzada".
(5) Avoid things like, “I want you to know__________”. “Meet the wife”,
“Meet the Mrs”. “Akhtar, you remember Baig”, etc.
b. Intro an adult to a much older one of the same sex.
c. Intro the jnr rank to the snr rank.
d. Family relationship may be mentioned if unknown to the person receiving
the intro. “Mrs Nafees my daughter Shazi”. But avoid things like, “Mrs
Salim this is Waheed Murad’s cousin, Maj Fazool”.
e. The person to whom the intro is made is the first to respond with, “How do
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f. Avoid clichés like, “charmed”, “delighted”, “fascinated”, etc.
g. When intro couples, simply say, “Col and Mrs Kayani – Maj and Mrs
Nauroz”.
h. A host intro all his guests to his wife.
13. Question 4. What are the rules fol for addressing women?
14. Answer 4. Addressing Women. You could say, “Mrs Nasir, I think
________” or “lady, you forgot your gloves”, but it is most embarrassing when a young
army officer, so much in the habit of addressing his seniors “Sir’ calls a senior officer’s
wife “Sir”. The lady in his question would be as horrified as you would be, if she were to
call you “Madam”. Do also remember that whereas with wives of colleagues the word
“Bhabi” or “Bahen” may be used, it appears a bit out of place with a senior officer’s wife
in particular the wife of a general officer, “Begum” or “Mrs ___________” are fairly apt.
Also, jnr wives may call wives of general officers “Aapa”.
15. Question 5. What are the conversational etiquettes which an offr must
remember at all times?
16. Answer 5
a. Do not shout on a table. Talk to the person on your left, rt or imed in front,
never four places away.
b. Do not use vulgar language.
c. Do not tell cheap, vulgar jokes in coy.
d. Whilst conversing, do not breathe into other people.
e. Do not whisper in coy of others.
f. In a gp when addressing an indl, avoid things like “Remember, what he
said this afternoon?” fol by a laugh. It could be embarrassing.

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PERSONALITY GROOMING AND PERSONALITY
BLDG
TD
QUESTIONNAIRE

1. Aim. To discuss the salient aspects of personality grooming and personality bldg
2. Pts of Emphasis
a. Dev the understanding of personal hygiene and maint good posture
b. Understanding how to maint good phy outlook
c. Understanding positive and negative body language
d. Dev the understanding of phy fitness
e. Intellectual outlook and its importance
3. Questionnaire. Discuss the fol:-
a. Question 1. What do you understand by Personal Hygiene?
b. Question 2. Describe the importance of good posture and how to
improve it?
c. Question 3. How can one work upon his phy appearance?
d. Question 4. Describe positive and neg body language?
e. Question 5. What all customs an indl needs to adopt to maint phy
fitness?
f. Question 6. How can one improve upon his intellectual outlook?

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PERSONALITY GROOMING AND
PERSONALITY BLDG
TD

1. Aim. To discuss the salient aspects of personality grooming and personality bldg.
2. Pts of Emphasis
a. Dev the understanding of personal hygiene and maint good posture
b. Understanding how to maint good phy outlook
c. Understanding positive and neg body language
d. Dev the understanding of phy fitness
e. Intellectual outlook and its importance
3. Question 1. What do you understand by Personal Hygiene?
4. Answer 1 Personal Hygiene. One of the most imp aspects of an indls
personality is his or her hygiene. This incls pers cleanliness, trimmed nails proper
haircut and neat dress. Brushing teeth twice a day, use of dental floss, gargles with
mouth wash or cardamom help us maint good oral health and fresh breath.

5. Question 2. Describe the importance of good posture and how to improve it?
6. Answer 2 Good Posture. The importance of good posture cannot be over
emphasized because posture has a direct bearing on both manners and personality. It
can be improved by fol:
a. Do not continue to look sideways at everything along the path and walk
humbly with even steps.
b. Do not walk arrogantly and proudly.
c. Do not stand on one leg or lean against the wall.
d. While talking to any one do not put your hands in pockets or look around.
e. Sit straight on a chair and do not lean or slouch.
f. While talking to snr offrs or elders sit straight, keep your hands in your lap
and do not play with your clothes or chair arms. Look towards the person
you are talking to, with your chin up.
7. Question 3. How can one work upon his phy appearance?
8. Answer 3 One can improve his phy appearance by fol
a. Hair. Keep hair well-trimmed and remember side burns are distasteful.
Do not bleach your hair. Grey hair may be dyed using good quality and
matching shade.Gaudy, multi coloured streaked hairs are not allowed.
Use of Henna for hair dying is also not allowed.
b. Moustaches. Avoid unnecessary non-mil styles of moustaches.
Keep moustaches well-trimmed and of upper lip length.
c. Beards. There is no restriction on keeping beard in Pak Army. However,
relevant instrs/ regs should be fol in true letter and spirit. Fancy style
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d. Shaving. Must be done daily. Before an evening dinner or reception, it
would improve your gen appearance if you shave again.
e. Nails. Keep them clean and cut to proper size. Do not file your nails when
in coy.
f. Wearing of rings, wrist bands and necklaces are not permissible in uniform
and look bad even in civvies; hence avoid it.
g. Sun glasses must be removed when talking to snrs or even tps. Eye
contact breeds confidence and affection.
h. Wearing of hats or caps during sports time must not be a fancy affair but a
necessity as a sun shield.
i. Moving around in sports gears should be distinguished by graceful gait.
9. Question 4. Describe positive and neg body language?
10. Answer 4
a. Positive Body Language. Subtle body language can make a big
diff in how you perceive someone. Positive body language makes a
person seem interested and engaged in conversation. Examples of
positive body language incl standing up straight, making eye contact with
peers and nodding occasionally to show attentiveness.
b. Negative Body Language. Likewise, people can make poor
impression on others by displaying negative body language. This incl
failing to make eye contact, slouching, crossing your arms or shifting
during conversation. Phy nervous ticks, such as cracking your knuckles or
picking at your nails, make you seem disinterested in the conversation.
Some phy behaviour, such as looking around or checking your watch
during conversations are downright rude.

11. Question 5. What all customs an indl needs to adopt as habits to maint phy
fitness?
12. Answer 5 Phy fitness and smart appearance is pers responsibility of an offr,
who shall also ensure the same for the subordinates. An overweight and un-smart offr
gives a bad first impression. Dev fol customs as habits:-
a. Maint and promote good health. Be conversant with the fundamental
principles of hygiene. Prevention is better than cure. Take precautions
against diseases, particularly contagious and infectious. A sound body
carries a sound mind, which is so essn for the efficient discharge of your
duties.
b. Ex daily for at least an hr. Non-Communicable Diseases like heart attk,
cancer, diabetes etc; be prevented by adopting healthy lifestyle (dietary
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c. Just a wng, your muscles will ache after a high intensity workout. It may
be irritating, but that means your body is changing for the better.
d. Be sure to stay hydrated, stretch and eat foods with a decent amount of
protein after each workout.
13. Question 6. How can one improve upon his intellectual outlook?
14. Answer 6
a. Regular Reading Habits and Library Culture. Reading inculcates
creativity, analytical ability, optimism and vision. Excessive use of internet
and social media has also contributed in the decline of reading habits and
has taken over books, newspapers and magazines. It has ultimately
summed up our lives within a single elec gadget distancing our server
from reading. Dev reading habits as it is the chief feature of learning and
enhances analytical thinking
b. Grip on Professional Matters. Equip yourself with Trg Manuals and
other Mil Rules and Regs and try to constantly improve your professional
knowledge.
c. Pers Efficiency.
(1) Do not lack initiative; we are not all born with it, but it can be
cultivated.
(2) Do not be afraid to make up your mind quickly and rightfully. This is
termed as "char'. Take charge.
(3) Do not use civilian terms for svc matters. Svc vocabulary is your
professional language.
(4) Do not, when given an order, explain the difficulties you will have in
carrying it out.
d. Keeping Abreast with Current Affairs. This is exp of every intelligent
and educated person. The best is to read a std newspaper daily and as
many of the mil periodicals as you can.
e. Comm Skills. Comm is mostly a two-way process. Being able to comm
effectively is perhaps the most imp of all mil skills for an offr. It enables
you to pass on orders effectively as well as understand what is being said
by the superiors.
f. Time Mgmt. Make sure you are engaging in activities that sp your goals,
both short and long term. Everything else is a potential time waster. Your
daily plan should revolve around working on tasks and activities that
directly relate to increase knowledge and growing your personality. Always
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MESS RULES AND VALUES
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QUESTIONNAIRE

1. Aim. To familiarize offrs with the purpose and value of mess and various fin
matters.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Importance of Messes
b. Mess rules and values
c. Mess Bills
3. Questionnaire. Be prep to discuss fol:-
a. Question 1. What is the purpose of having messes?
b. Question 2. What is the value of messes?
c. Question 3. What is the imp of messes and what should be your attitude
towards it?
d. Question 4. What are the norms of dealing with visitors at mess?
e. Question 5. What are the rules for smoking in messes?
f. Question 6. What are some of the old customs observed in messes?
g. Question 7. What are pts which must be taken into consd while
launching complaints?
h. Question 8. What are rules regarding mess bills, cheques, accts, receipts
and fin resp?

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1. Aim. To familiarize offrs with the purpose and value of mess and various fin
matters.
2. Pts of Emphasis.
a. Importance of Messes
b. Mess rules and values
c. Mess Bills
3. Question 1. What is the purpose of having messes?
4. Answer 1. The purpose of messes is to provide: -
a. Home for the dining members, both perm and temporary.
b. Focus for the social life of the other subscribing members.
c. Nucleus for a fd svc mess for the unit concerned.
5. Question 2. What is the value of messes?
6. Answer 2. Value of Messes. Offrs messes are not provided solely for the
convenience of offrs. They have a definite mil value, such as:-
a. They are an essential elm in the up-bringing of YOs in keeping them
under the eye of superior offrs and assisting them in the gen moulding of
their chars.
b. They play an imp part in the maint of Esprit-de-corps which is so vital in
any unit.
c. They provide you a ‘house’ within which a true homely life is estb and
which is so essential for the dev of comradeship without which one
cannot stand the strains of constant discp.
7. Question 3. What is the imp of messes and what should be your attitude
towards it?
8. Answer 3
a. Max respect should be given to the mess. A home, however is both a place
of respect and dignity. The mess is not only your home but the home of the
trophies and traditions of your Regts / Corps.
b. The mess is intended pri as the bachelor offr’s home. Consd the comfort of
other members and behave so as not to make the mess uncomfortable for
them.
c. The mess should not be regarded as a club and therefore, ladies should
not be allowed to dine in the mess except on guest nights held on special
occasions such as Eid and Dining out etc.
9. Question 4. What are the norms of dealing with visitors at mess?
10. Answer 4
a. Visitors come to the mess frequently, whether they are just visitors who
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are just touring offrs, see that they are looked after and made to feel at
home. When they come into the mess, offer them a soft drink or tea and
cigarettes.
b. Ladies are not supposed to sign visitor’s book. Remember particularly that
they are well looked after. Do not lve the func before they do. Periodically,
when there are a no of guests, indl offrs are detailed by the PMC to look
after each guest you must also help.
10. Question 5. What are the rules for smoking in messes?
11. Answer 5. Do not smoke in the dining room especially during informal dinner
ni as it is unpleasant for people who are still eating. Offrs can only smoke after the
toasts have been drunk and coffee is placed. On supper ni when everyone has finished
eating the snr offr may give permission to smoke but it is preferable to move to the ante-
room.
12. Question 6. What are some of the old customs obsr in messes?
13. Answer 6
a. Drawing a sword or a dagger or taking of fire arms, or uncased pistols or
revolvers is forbidden inside the mess bldgs.
b. Criticism of other members of the mess and topics on religion and politics
should be avoided.
c. One of the oldest tradition prohibits the discussing of ‘personal matters’ in
the mess. At times this may be unavoidable but limit such conversation to
the min.
d. Bets are for bidden at the mess table. Card games with stakes are not
permitted.
e. Jokes are not of place at the mess table.
f. Mags, newspapers or books should not be taken to the mess table at
dinner nor should these be read in any part of the mess during a mess
func.
g. If you have a dog or any other pet, ensure that it does not enter the mess.
This will often save a lot of fric with other members.
h. Do not visit the mess during working hrs unless you are on the sick list or
returning from or going on lve.
i. Never invite a guest to dine without first seeking the permission of the
PMC.
k. Head-gears will not be worn inside the mess.
l. If on any occasion you cannot comply with local orders on dress,
apologies to the mess president or the snr offr present. Such an
occurrence, should however be very rare.
m. An offr who enters the mess improperly dressed should be required to pay
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14. Question 7. What are pts which must be taken into consd while launching
complaints?
15. Answer 7
a. Treat the mess staff with consd. They have a very long day and we are all
bound to make mistakes some times. Do not worry them or speak to them,
unless you want anything. If they are properly trained, they know their job
and do it in silence, never make them uncomfortable in the presence of
guest by getting angry with them for making a mistake. Tell them quietly
afterwards. It is a bad thing to lose your temper with anyone who is inferior
to you, as, a gentleman is more often judged by his treatment of menials
than his attitude to his equals, if you do not get satisfaction, report the
matter to the mess secy by entering your complaint in the ‘Complaint
Book.
b. The mess secy is apt by the Comd to ensure that the mess is suitably
looked after and maint. Take your troubles to him but do not pester him
unduly. Remember he is just one of you who has been assigned a job for
which he gets no extra pay. It does not pay to be frivolous in the
“Suggestion Book” which is maint for your benefit; it only makes extra
work for the secy. Too many suggestions may entail the unenviable work
of Secy being thrust upon you.
16. Question 8. What are rules regarding mess bills, cheques, accts, receipts and
fin resp?
17. Answer 8
a. ARI 636 lays down that mess bills must be paid on or before the 15 th of
each month. Ensure that you are never late in paying your bills. Otherwise,
an explanation will be called by your CO and if the bill is not paid by the
end of the month a report will be made to the Bde Comd against you.
b. If for any reasons you cannot pay your mess bill inform the PMC well in adv
of the 15th of the month. On no acct take a risk of cheque being bounced
back by your bankers, if you are in doubt whether you have sufficient funds
to meet it. Remember that it is a serious offn if your cheque returns
dishonoured.
c. Mess maint expenses are the pte concern of the offrs concerned. Ours is a
poor cty and cannot afford the luxuries of the by-gone days. The mess
expenditures must therefore be ruthlessly cut down.
18. Cheques. Never write a cheque for more than you have got in your bank. A
dishonoured cheque is a disgrace and is a court martial offn. Never on any acct issue or
sign a blank cheque.
19. Accts. Keep pte accts and do not forget to fill in the ctr foils of your cheques.
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your acct bal sheet once a month, see that it agrees with your ctr foils and reg your exp
in order to live within your pay. If you find you are hard up, you should not hesitate to
consult your snrs who can very often give helpful advice, ‘save for the rainy days always
add to your personal accn. It will, in turn, help you.
20. Receipts. Always ack the receipt of money, no matter from whom it comes,
you are only covering yourself. Answer ltrs about money matters promptly and keep
your receipts.
21. Fin Resp. Remember that you are fin resp for public money, etc, entrusted
to your charge and are liable to make good any losses incurred due to your neglect.
22. Subscriptions and other Bills. Pay your mess bill, subscriptions and other
bills punctually.
23. Eco Living. Cut your coat according to your cloth and try to be as eco as
possible, but of course without impairing the std of living you are expected to maint. Do
not form the habit of smoking and if already used to it make efforts to reduce it or even
give it up if you can, rather than intensifying.

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