3x3x3 Planning
3x3x3 Planning
3x3x3 Planning
A 3X3 plan can include whatever skill set you want. Other ideas might include
ways to practice opposite action, thinking about options you have if you radically
accept, planning out a DEAR MAN, drawing out the Wise Mind or the Describing
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Emotions diagrams and analyzing your situation from a more logical point of view.
Try to practice a skill that you haven’t used before. You could journal, draw, write
a poem or story, listen to music (which can be a form of opposite action too),
bake cookies, design a sanctuary space, take a walk, drink some cold water or
have a hot cup of tea or coffee…the possibilities are endless.
The key idea here is to plan ahead. I’ve found that distress tolerance and coping
usually work best if there is something you can go to right away. Needing to think
about what to do while you’re in crisis is very difficult, and that the less you have
to do means that you’re more likely to be able to cope effectively. You have to
fully participate in doing these, too – a half-hearted effort likely won’t have the
effect you want. You need to fully throw yourself into doing these.
Another key element here is to make sure you take a full three minutes on any
one exercise. That’s the third “3” – 3 things, 3 times, for at least 3 minutes each.
This gives your mind and body enough time to ride the wave of emotion and
maximize your chances of being effective.
The next two page includes a planning sheet and a blank 3X3X3 grid for you to use
in planning. Before you jump into filling out the grid, consider ideas from each of
the 4 skill sets that you might find useful; when you have that, begin putting them
in place in your 3X3X3 plan.
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Plan Ideas: Come up with as many ideas as you can from each category. Feel free
to add more sheets if you need to.
Core Mindfulness:
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Distress Tolerance:
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Emotion Regulation:
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Interpersonal Effectiveness:
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3X3X3 Grid: Pick out ideas from three categories, and put them in each box. If you
think you’ll need it, print out or make a second grid for a second plan. Make sure
that you have what you need in order to carry out your plan. For example, if your
plan includes watching YouTube, make sure you have access to the internet
where you plan on watching.