This document outlines a three step kink negotiation worksheet. Step one involves identifying one's kink role and experience level, what kink means to them, and why they want to engage in kink play. Step two details the specific activities one hopes to engage in or experiences, including roles, scenarios, types of contact, use of toys, marks or locations of marks. Step three outlines hard limits, including safewords, caution words, relevant health concerns or psychological triggers to avoid, and means to prevent STIs or pregnancy during sexual contact. The goal is open communication between partners to ensure a safe, consensual kink experience.
This document outlines a three step kink negotiation worksheet. Step one involves identifying one's kink role and experience level, what kink means to them, and why they want to engage in kink play. Step two details the specific activities one hopes to engage in or experiences, including roles, scenarios, types of contact, use of toys, marks or locations of marks. Step three outlines hard limits, including safewords, caution words, relevant health concerns or psychological triggers to avoid, and means to prevent STIs or pregnancy during sexual contact. The goal is open communication between partners to ensure a safe, consensual kink experience.
This document outlines a three step kink negotiation worksheet. Step one involves identifying one's kink role and experience level, what kink means to them, and why they want to engage in kink play. Step two details the specific activities one hopes to engage in or experiences, including roles, scenarios, types of contact, use of toys, marks or locations of marks. Step three outlines hard limits, including safewords, caution words, relevant health concerns or psychological triggers to avoid, and means to prevent STIs or pregnancy during sexual contact. The goal is open communication between partners to ensure a safe, consensual kink experience.
This document outlines a three step kink negotiation worksheet. Step one involves identifying one's kink role and experience level, what kink means to them, and why they want to engage in kink play. Step two details the specific activities one hopes to engage in or experiences, including roles, scenarios, types of contact, use of toys, marks or locations of marks. Step three outlines hard limits, including safewords, caution words, relevant health concerns or psychological triggers to avoid, and means to prevent STIs or pregnancy during sexual contact. The goal is open communication between partners to ensure a safe, consensual kink experience.
My kink role is______________ (Dominant, submissive, top, bottom, switch, slave, Master, pet, owner, girl/boy, Mommy/Daddy, vanilla…)
My level of kink experience is _______________
For me, kink is ________________
(a fantasy, a hobby, a fetish, an orientation, a community, an experiment, a lifestyle...)
I want to play because ________________
(I’m curious, I’m horny, I want catharsis, I want new experiences, I want to please my partner, I just do…)
When I play, I want to feel ____________________
(turned on, scared, safe, powerful, humiliated, sensual, in control, out of control, pushed to my limit, cared for...)
Step Two: What Will We Do?
The one thing I would most like to experience today is __________________
Do I want to engage in dominance/submission, physical play, or both? ___________
Do I want to act out a certain role or scenario? ______________
Do I want to feel/inflict pain? ______________
Do I want to engage in bondage? ____________ Do I want to use toys?____________ If yes, which ones?______________ Do I want to have sexual contact? _____________ If yes, what kind?_______________
Is it okay if I get/give marks? ______________ If yes, where? ________________
Do I want to play in public, with selected people present, or in private? ____________
Step Three: What Will We Not Do?
My safeword is “RED” or __________ (If I cannot speak, my nonverbal safe signal is ___________) If I use this word, it means play needs to stop RIGHT NOW. Whether I am a top or a bottom, I can use this word at any time for any reason. I will never use this word as a joke or threat. I will never debate or criticize my partner's use of this word.
My caution word is “YELLOW” or _____________
If I use this word, it means I am getting close to my limit, or I am having a problem. Play needs to pause RIGHT NOW until we both understand and have addressed the problem.